i was just wondering because i'm not so sure myself...Do you think Kate Gosselin from Jon and Kate Plus Eight has good parenting skills?
Probably good enough for 8 kids. I know more patient people, lol. And I know it's hard to teach little kids not to hit each other sometimes, but it seems like she just gives up making them not get violent with each other.
So I think for 8 kids, she's pretty good. But she'd probably be better if she was more patient.Do you think Kate Gosselin from Jon and Kate Plus Eight has good parenting skills?
I do. Just because she is quite the female dog. I have never seen 3-4 year old children behave that well. They are well mannered and have great personalities and behavioral skills just a tad bit over worked lol.
i think she is good with the kids but i dont know how her poor husband deals with tall the crap from her poor guy
yes. she does a wonderful job taking care of eight kids.
Friday, July 30, 2010
I am a recovering drug user and I need to take a parenting class which one is best?
goo for you that you got over your drug abuse....but ummm which drug was it and what town do you live inI am a recovering drug user and I need to take a parenting class which one is best?
I dont know which parenting class is best but I do know that you are or going to be a great parent, congratulations on quitting drugs!!!
I give you props for that!
I dont know which parenting class is best but I do know that you are or going to be a great parent, congratulations on quitting drugs!!!
I give you props for that!
Can u gimme some websites name related to baby caring and parenting?
my gal friend wanted to do baby caring job in one company so please gimme some websites which providebetter informationCan u gimme some websites name related to baby caring and parenting?
parenting.com
child.comCan u gimme some websites name related to baby caring and parenting?
Here are a few I've found helpful!
www.pregnancy.org (general site, week-by-week guide and lots of reassurance, as well as a good community)
www.babycenter.com (I use the UK version, but apparently both are very good for general information and there's a week-by-week pregnancy guide!)
www.emmasdiary.co.uk (British-based site with the friendliest forums I've found!)
www.ivillage.com (click on the Pregnancy section, lots of information, videos and so on!)
Hope that helps - have fun! :)
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parenting.com
child.comCan u gimme some websites name related to baby caring and parenting?
Here are a few I've found helpful!
www.pregnancy.org (general site, week-by-week guide and lots of reassurance, as well as a good community)
www.babycenter.com (I use the UK version, but apparently both are very good for general information and there's a week-by-week pregnancy guide!)
www.emmasdiary.co.uk (British-based site with the friendliest forums I've found!)
www.ivillage.com (click on the Pregnancy section, lots of information, videos and so on!)
Hope that helps - have fun! :)
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Have you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
I used to come here quite often when I was pregnant and it seemed that there were exponentially more trolls, abortion opinion questions and answers given to questions that were basically argumentative and crass then there are now.
Thank the Flying Spaghetti Monster they have seemed to go somewhere else.
Why do you think that this is the case?Have you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
Hmmm..... Maybe they've all blocked you ;-)
Or, maybe you're just choosing more carefully what you want to pay attention to, these days.
The internet will always have trolls %26amp; people who like to debate just for the fun of it. That's part of what makes it so much fun, sometimes :-pHave you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
I totally agree i used to always only see questions like am i pregnant... most likely from teens who are probably one day late on their period.
The questions seem to vary now
TRUE!
summer is here......
sun is out and so are they.lipcolor
Thank the Flying Spaghetti Monster they have seemed to go somewhere else.
Why do you think that this is the case?Have you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
Hmmm..... Maybe they've all blocked you ;-)
Or, maybe you're just choosing more carefully what you want to pay attention to, these days.
The internet will always have trolls %26amp; people who like to debate just for the fun of it. That's part of what makes it so much fun, sometimes :-pHave you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
I totally agree i used to always only see questions like am i pregnant... most likely from teens who are probably one day late on their period.
The questions seem to vary now
TRUE!
summer is here......
sun is out and so are they.
My new family parenting program with 2 seperate but related classes.Will it work?
I'm developing a family program using 2 separate but related family classes; 1. Parenting; and 2. Health and Wellness, (a MLM Co.) both are 1 hr. each. Classes meet once a week for 12 weeks %26amp; with family ';money'; and ';time management'; as important side issue(s) %26amp; topic(s). My business hours are 9am-9pm with 4 / three hr. session blocks of time during the day to accommodate most parents鈥?schedules. I am available 24/7/30 but my work week is Mo., Tu., Wed., %26amp; Thu., only. No classes will be provided by me during the 4th week of the month because of other related business issues that have to be attended to. The cost for both programs is $60.00 per mo. For 1or 2 individuals %26amp; $120.00 per mo. For families, a married couple, ';man %26amp; wife';, + 2 children. An after school ';Fun %26amp; Skills'; program with attached and attending parents is also included from 3-6pm daily. Parenting classes are free to parents who are building their family businesses. Also, once a month local camp outs are included.My new family parenting program with 2 separate but related classes.Will it work?
Will it work?
Probably not if you're writing your own marketing material.
For example, in one line you say ';I am available 24/7/30 ';, but in the very next line go on to say this isn't true at all.
This is one example (there are many in this post) of something in your writing that will make you seem unprofessional, unprepared, and lessen the confidence of potential clients, who will probably decide to go elsewhere.
Take the time to hire someone to help you with your writing and presentation. It will probably cost less than you think, and will certainly pay for itself in terms of increasing client-base.
Remember: With ANY business, image is everything.
Will it work?
Probably not if you're writing your own marketing material.
For example, in one line you say ';I am available 24/7/30 ';, but in the very next line go on to say this isn't true at all.
This is one example (there are many in this post) of something in your writing that will make you seem unprofessional, unprepared, and lessen the confidence of potential clients, who will probably decide to go elsewhere.
Take the time to hire someone to help you with your writing and presentation. It will probably cost less than you think, and will certainly pay for itself in terms of increasing client-base.
Remember: With ANY business, image is everything.
Why can't parenting be like the Partridge Family ?
I think what you're trying to figure out is why can't today's families get along, have morals, etc. A lot of it has to do with selfishness, immaturity, lack of a solid upbringing, and this desire to ';have it all'; at any cost......Why can't parenting be like the Partridge Family ?
If we could script our kids it would be really nice. But life is not scripted at all. It is more fun that way I think! :)Why can't parenting be like the Partridge Family ?
because life doesn't have a script, you never know what to expect. Enjoy it!!
because life is not alwas scripted like that. i wished i had june clever as a mom and i almost did
Because life isn't fiction? The actors who played in the Partridge Family all went through very different lifestyles (that goes for the Brady Bunch, too).
because you don't have five writers scripting life to make it all come out all right. Life is real, TV sitcoms are not. It would be nice if we could get a rewrite sometimes.
Yeah look how good Danny turned out....LOL
because thats not reality. I would love to own that bus though.
Because of sin.
Because life's problems can't be solved in 22 minutes plus commercials.
Because that was scripted maybe you could try it though tell me how it works.
because life is not TV
Buy all of your kids an instrument, and hope for the best.
Well, because the ';Partridge Family'; isn't any more 'real' than ';Leave It To Beaver'; or ';Father Knows Best';, or ';Andy Griffith'; . Those shows were written so that every major problem could be solves in 30 minutes or less, and the problems where NOT that bad...like when Beaver ordered an accordian, or when Opie shot a mother bird. TV then was a fantasy land where you did not have pregnancy, suicide, drug abuse, war, race issues or any other 'hot topic'. Geez, ';Gomer Pyle USMC'; was most popular during the HEIGHT of the Vietnam War but did ';Gomer'; ever mention it or get deployed? Nope.
In an IDEAL world with IDEAL kids and IDEAL parents, parenting COULD be like the PF. But it ain't real. Once we started using MTV to baby-sit our kids, expected our schools to 'teach morality' and looked the other way at drug abuse, well, we got what we got.
THANK GOD it's not in my case. I'd hate to be a single parent, raising five kids on my own, living out of motel rooms and a stupid school bus converted into a tour bus?
This is the real world where we have real problems. Thank God for that :)
If we could script our kids it would be really nice. But life is not scripted at all. It is more fun that way I think! :)Why can't parenting be like the Partridge Family ?
because life doesn't have a script, you never know what to expect. Enjoy it!!
because life is not alwas scripted like that. i wished i had june clever as a mom and i almost did
Because life isn't fiction? The actors who played in the Partridge Family all went through very different lifestyles (that goes for the Brady Bunch, too).
because you don't have five writers scripting life to make it all come out all right. Life is real, TV sitcoms are not. It would be nice if we could get a rewrite sometimes.
Yeah look how good Danny turned out....LOL
because thats not reality. I would love to own that bus though.
Because of sin.
Because life's problems can't be solved in 22 minutes plus commercials.
Because that was scripted maybe you could try it though tell me how it works.
because life is not TV
Buy all of your kids an instrument, and hope for the best.
Well, because the ';Partridge Family'; isn't any more 'real' than ';Leave It To Beaver'; or ';Father Knows Best';, or ';Andy Griffith'; . Those shows were written so that every major problem could be solves in 30 minutes or less, and the problems where NOT that bad...like when Beaver ordered an accordian, or when Opie shot a mother bird. TV then was a fantasy land where you did not have pregnancy, suicide, drug abuse, war, race issues or any other 'hot topic'. Geez, ';Gomer Pyle USMC'; was most popular during the HEIGHT of the Vietnam War but did ';Gomer'; ever mention it or get deployed? Nope.
In an IDEAL world with IDEAL kids and IDEAL parents, parenting COULD be like the PF. But it ain't real. Once we started using MTV to baby-sit our kids, expected our schools to 'teach morality' and looked the other way at drug abuse, well, we got what we got.
THANK GOD it's not in my case. I'd hate to be a single parent, raising five kids on my own, living out of motel rooms and a stupid school bus converted into a tour bus?
This is the real world where we have real problems. Thank God for that :)
Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
my partner and i are interested in creating a family and were wondering if anyone out there was aware of any resources we could access that would help us know our options?
anyone know of any self help books about how to raise kids in an all female environment/tips on how to manage discrimination etc? thanks :)Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
As i say to anyone a 'Book' can never teach you anything you will learn as you go on ..did you need a book to get you where you are today and are you happy with who you are ..If yes then why need a book ..be happy then the kids will be too !Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
Good for you. :)
Don't use books to go through life, though; just because they're published never means they're really any good. Use your own knowledge, wisdom and courage as a lesbian to help your kid grow up and make his own decision, and face the kind of discrimination he'll undoubtedly go through.
you dont need to go by the book..i wasnt in an ALL female environment.. my mother left my father when i was 13 and next thing i know.. her knew friend was actually her girlfriend..yea its hard in the beginning..especially with how people talk.. but i just brush it off.. NO MATTER WHAT people will say things to your kids its only normal..but you have to teach them not to care and to be proud..im proud..my mom got married in 2006 with her girlfriend..and i just had my first baby in 2007..and my son knows them as nanny and mamie.. i think it will be hard to explain to him.. but he will live with it..he will get used to it..
PROUUUD!! GAY PRIDE!!..
itll only teach her to accept other peoples lives and lifestyle..
anyone know of any self help books about how to raise kids in an all female environment/tips on how to manage discrimination etc? thanks :)Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
As i say to anyone a 'Book' can never teach you anything you will learn as you go on ..did you need a book to get you where you are today and are you happy with who you are ..If yes then why need a book ..be happy then the kids will be too !Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
Good for you. :)
Don't use books to go through life, though; just because they're published never means they're really any good. Use your own knowledge, wisdom and courage as a lesbian to help your kid grow up and make his own decision, and face the kind of discrimination he'll undoubtedly go through.
you dont need to go by the book..i wasnt in an ALL female environment.. my mother left my father when i was 13 and next thing i know.. her knew friend was actually her girlfriend..yea its hard in the beginning..especially with how people talk.. but i just brush it off.. NO MATTER WHAT people will say things to your kids its only normal..but you have to teach them not to care and to be proud..im proud..my mom got married in 2006 with her girlfriend..and i just had my first baby in 2007..and my son knows them as nanny and mamie.. i think it will be hard to explain to him.. but he will live with it..he will get used to it..
PROUUUD!! GAY PRIDE!!..
itll only teach her to accept other peoples lives and lifestyle..
If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
Also, what offenses would give you points on your parenting license?
';Sir, ma'am, you let your kids scream in the restaurant and wander around. Neither of you said anything to them while they ruined others' meals. I'm going to issue you both citations.';If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
In addition to what mommymooby said, I would simply add that parents be high school (or higher) graduates and demonstrate some basic skills in responsibility and respect toward others.If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
Criteria should be, to name a few:
1) An I.Q. higher than, say, 40
2) A job
3) An accurate sense of right and wrong
Points, shmoints. The ones who let their kids scream and yell and run around like animals in public places should be thrown in jail. The ones who let their kids smoke and drink and break other laws should be drawn and quartered!
Are you against smacking your children? (not violent abuse)
Because if so we will be seising these children from your pocession as they have a tendency to become vial little pr*cks who have no respect for anyone.
I think there should be a required test before anyone is allowed to have children. Focusing on the potential parent's IQ.
';Sir, ma'am, you let your kids scream in the restaurant and wander around. Neither of you said anything to them while they ruined others' meals. I'm going to issue you both citations.';If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
In addition to what mommymooby said, I would simply add that parents be high school (or higher) graduates and demonstrate some basic skills in responsibility and respect toward others.If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
Criteria should be, to name a few:
1) An I.Q. higher than, say, 40
2) A job
3) An accurate sense of right and wrong
Points, shmoints. The ones who let their kids scream and yell and run around like animals in public places should be thrown in jail. The ones who let their kids smoke and drink and break other laws should be drawn and quartered!
Are you against smacking your children? (not violent abuse)
Because if so we will be seising these children from your pocession as they have a tendency to become vial little pr*cks who have no respect for anyone.
I think there should be a required test before anyone is allowed to have children. Focusing on the potential parent's IQ.
I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
Well I think I could call myself very insightful, and I come from a different background than people I go to school with. But I've seen different parent-child relationahips and I think that a parent only has the power that the child gives them. Do you think that's true or am I just fooling myself?
I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
Maria, there are a whole bunch of factors that determine what kind of child you raise. The biggest one is are you practicing what you preach. One of the biggest learning tools kids use against grown up are, living the way you are holding judgment to them. A parent has to mean what they say and follow up with punishment and rewards.
Most parent get caught up in their emotion which can ruin their judgment and the child sees that and takes off with it. They learn what they think they can get away with and try to use it against their parents. If a child sees that the parents are fighting over how to discipline, then the kid will use that to get what they want.
You are not fooling yourself, most parents create the little monsters we have running around in stores or at the park. I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
I personally think that is nonsense and just describes bad parenting. It is a parents responsibility to instill a power balance in the parent-child relationship and if it is the child who controls that balance of power then you have a person with a limited logic controlling your life from the outset - you would end up with a child with destructive behaviours as they would not know how to control the power they exert over parents - children above anything crave nurturing which is why lack of discipline and guidance leads to tantrums, impatience and general poor behaviour (internal locus of control with limited logic ie. immature thought process).
That's my opinion anyway...
I think it behooves parents not to let their affection for their children overcome common sense. This leads to spoiled children.
All child behavior study proves that children do better if boundaries are set and they can feel confident in their parents strength. So parents who allow children to have the power aren't doing their kids any favors.
It should be the other way around. Child does not control the adult, although they be heard and compromise, parents should not let their kids ';control'; them. I say this as a teenager, who always talk back at my parents, but while it is important to let your child be heard, your experience is more than theirs and therefore should have the last word.
You are stronger then a child. The child will determin if you would like to keep things that way or if you want them to growup and become independent. Early independence and more responsibility will strenthen, at the same time put them in the most fragile state. If they respect you, you will influence them. If you force your influence they will likely rebel.
';I think that a parent only has the power that the child gives them';
Then you've clearly never experienced or witnessed child abuse.
I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
Maria, there are a whole bunch of factors that determine what kind of child you raise. The biggest one is are you practicing what you preach. One of the biggest learning tools kids use against grown up are, living the way you are holding judgment to them. A parent has to mean what they say and follow up with punishment and rewards.
Most parent get caught up in their emotion which can ruin their judgment and the child sees that and takes off with it. They learn what they think they can get away with and try to use it against their parents. If a child sees that the parents are fighting over how to discipline, then the kid will use that to get what they want.
You are not fooling yourself, most parents create the little monsters we have running around in stores or at the park. I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
I personally think that is nonsense and just describes bad parenting. It is a parents responsibility to instill a power balance in the parent-child relationship and if it is the child who controls that balance of power then you have a person with a limited logic controlling your life from the outset - you would end up with a child with destructive behaviours as they would not know how to control the power they exert over parents - children above anything crave nurturing which is why lack of discipline and guidance leads to tantrums, impatience and general poor behaviour (internal locus of control with limited logic ie. immature thought process).
That's my opinion anyway...
I think it behooves parents not to let their affection for their children overcome common sense. This leads to spoiled children.
All child behavior study proves that children do better if boundaries are set and they can feel confident in their parents strength. So parents who allow children to have the power aren't doing their kids any favors.
It should be the other way around. Child does not control the adult, although they be heard and compromise, parents should not let their kids ';control'; them. I say this as a teenager, who always talk back at my parents, but while it is important to let your child be heard, your experience is more than theirs and therefore should have the last word.
You are stronger then a child. The child will determin if you would like to keep things that way or if you want them to growup and become independent. Early independence and more responsibility will strenthen, at the same time put them in the most fragile state. If they respect you, you will influence them. If you force your influence they will likely rebel.
';I think that a parent only has the power that the child gives them';
Then you've clearly never experienced or witnessed child abuse.
If you could only give 1 piece of parenting advice what would it be?
for me it would be to teach small children to catch using a balloon it promotes hand eye coordination and it teaches them to keep their eye on the ';ball';If you could only give 1 piece of parenting advice what would it be?
Cherish every moment with your children..you never know when it will be your last..
(I know everyones giving funny answers but I wanted to be serious) lolIf you could only give 1 piece of parenting advice what would it be?
Let them know that you'll be there for them no matter what situation they are in, and while some things may dissapoint you at times, you'll never ask them to do it [life] on their own.
My mom was always open and honest with my sister and i, and we can tell her anything that happens and know that she will still be our mom at the end of the day, and she'll still be there for us, no matter what mess we get into. My dad's similar, but it's easier to talk to a mom haha.
I would never lie to her/him. I wouldn't give my child false hopes. In reality, no single person can change the world. But the thought they have and the way they voice those ideas would. I would tell them when I'm proud every time I truly am, not just making them feel better. I would tell them that no matter how much you cry, nothing will change and whatever happens to you the world would never stop for them. I would tell him/her that s/he's lucky just to have a family and above all else, I'd tell my child I love him/her every day of my life.
Respect and trust is a mutual thing. You have to give to get, and you have to get to give. It isn't a one way street, and you'll lose any credibility you have with them if you act like it is. You have to earn your child's respect just as much as they have to earn yours. You don't get it just by purely being a parent.
The best advise is...
LET THEM BE LITTLE!!!
They don't need to read before they're 8 months old.
They don't need to start school at 2.
They don't need be college bound at 5.
Let them be little kids. ENJOY EVERY SECOND
Hmm, not to spank their kids. There are other ways to discipline. Hitting is not the answer.
I think she meant Fags as in Cigs. They are called fags in the UK.
Think for yourself. Nothing is more important than your individuality. That doesnt mean that you can't take another person's advice however.
If I could only give 1 piece of parenting advice then I think it would be to (not use modern parenting techniques and to just use common sense)
Balloons, yeah.
Good idea.
Balloons and wrenches.
there is always someone in your life (or out there) that loves you and will be there for you through everything. don't give up
You can do anything.
Be patient and consistent and give praise when it's due and time out when it's needed.
Always ask yourself ';is it worth it?';
You should never teach your children how to talk.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Go with your gut feeling, cause it's usually right.
Never talk about someone else's kid.
Open your mind
If I could only give 1 (sigh) I'd probably merge it all and tell them to do what's best for THEIR child.
wait to have sex until your with someone you truly are in love with. That you trust with all your heart.
Being patient
teach them to stay away from drugs, fags and booze
RELAX!!!! Being a parent is supposed to be fun!
Try to remember what it's like to be little.
Look after your own.
Cherish every day you have with them...you never know what could happen.
DONT HIT THEM
i sing with my son and i feel like that creates a large bond between us and also it helps his voice:)
Tell your kids that they're actually robots so they learn quicker and their brains are more organized. Then one day when they're like 18 years old they'll just think ';Wait, I'm not a robot,'; and everything will be Ok.
don't be so conservative.
';get an abortion while you still can';lipcolor
Cherish every moment with your children..you never know when it will be your last..
(I know everyones giving funny answers but I wanted to be serious) lolIf you could only give 1 piece of parenting advice what would it be?
Let them know that you'll be there for them no matter what situation they are in, and while some things may dissapoint you at times, you'll never ask them to do it [life] on their own.
My mom was always open and honest with my sister and i, and we can tell her anything that happens and know that she will still be our mom at the end of the day, and she'll still be there for us, no matter what mess we get into. My dad's similar, but it's easier to talk to a mom haha.
I would never lie to her/him. I wouldn't give my child false hopes. In reality, no single person can change the world. But the thought they have and the way they voice those ideas would. I would tell them when I'm proud every time I truly am, not just making them feel better. I would tell them that no matter how much you cry, nothing will change and whatever happens to you the world would never stop for them. I would tell him/her that s/he's lucky just to have a family and above all else, I'd tell my child I love him/her every day of my life.
Respect and trust is a mutual thing. You have to give to get, and you have to get to give. It isn't a one way street, and you'll lose any credibility you have with them if you act like it is. You have to earn your child's respect just as much as they have to earn yours. You don't get it just by purely being a parent.
The best advise is...
LET THEM BE LITTLE!!!
They don't need to read before they're 8 months old.
They don't need to start school at 2.
They don't need be college bound at 5.
Let them be little kids. ENJOY EVERY SECOND
Hmm, not to spank their kids. There are other ways to discipline. Hitting is not the answer.
I think she meant Fags as in Cigs. They are called fags in the UK.
Think for yourself. Nothing is more important than your individuality. That doesnt mean that you can't take another person's advice however.
If I could only give 1 piece of parenting advice then I think it would be to (not use modern parenting techniques and to just use common sense)
Balloons, yeah.
Good idea.
Balloons and wrenches.
there is always someone in your life (or out there) that loves you and will be there for you through everything. don't give up
You can do anything.
Be patient and consistent and give praise when it's due and time out when it's needed.
Always ask yourself ';is it worth it?';
You should never teach your children how to talk.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Go with your gut feeling, cause it's usually right.
Never talk about someone else's kid.
Open your mind
If I could only give 1 (sigh) I'd probably merge it all and tell them to do what's best for THEIR child.
wait to have sex until your with someone you truly are in love with. That you trust with all your heart.
Being patient
teach them to stay away from drugs, fags and booze
RELAX!!!! Being a parent is supposed to be fun!
Try to remember what it's like to be little.
Look after your own.
Cherish every day you have with them...you never know what could happen.
DONT HIT THEM
i sing with my son and i feel like that creates a large bond between us and also it helps his voice:)
Tell your kids that they're actually robots so they learn quicker and their brains are more organized. Then one day when they're like 18 years old they'll just think ';Wait, I'm not a robot,'; and everything will be Ok.
don't be so conservative.
';get an abortion while you still can';
Can you give me some information on foster parenting in Pennsylvania?
Where should I look to get started? What kind of qualifications do you need to have? Any other advice, experiences, etc would be appreciated also.Can you give me some information on foster parenting in Pennsylvania?
http://www.friendshiphousepa.org/Service鈥?/a>
Check out this site...It should answer any questions that you may have and if they don't there is contact information to get what you need! Hope this helps!
http://www.friendshiphousepa.org/Service鈥?/a>
Check out this site...It should answer any questions that you may have and if they don't there is contact information to get what you need! Hope this helps!
Parenting tips for a mother with more than one child.?
I have 2 kids, my daughter who is 3 years old and my son who's 9 months old, I feel like I'm not as good a parent with my son, 2nd born, I'm not able to give him all the attention I did with my 1st born. Any tips? Websites? Books? Anything that can help? I feel like a failure with both of them, although I'm doing my best.Parenting tips for a mother with more than one child.?
RELAX, you simply can't give your second born the same kind of attention that you gave your first, it just isn't possible.
That's okay though, because you are doing your best to give him as much as you can.
For now, all you can do is include them in everything you do with each of them. He can sit on your lap and listen while you read to your three year old, that is just as beneficial as if you were reading just to him. He can be included in all the games that you play with her, just modify them to be suitable for tinies if you have to.
Get her involved in playing with and teaching him.
You don't have to give them Individual attention, or undivided attention, just love and care and time and togetherness...the rest takes care of itself.Parenting tips for a mother with more than one child.?
spend time with them together and have some alone time with each child. take turns going to each child. if you go to the same child all the time they will get jealous of one another. (give hugs,play games with them.) if you tell one of your kids i love you. tell the other one i love you. do the same for everything you do. involve both kids together.
You are not a bad mom. You just sometimes feel overwhelmed. I felt the same when I had my second one. My son had just turned 3yrs old when I had my second son. I felt as if I didn't give either one enough attention. Just be sure to always let the older one know that you love them very much and that you appreciate all the help they give you. It makes them feel loved and happy to be of help. When the baby sleeps take the time to play w/ the 3yr old. Read a book,color, or watch a favorite cartoon. I know that you want to finish that housework but it will get done, just not right away. That's fine b/c you want to bond w/ your children. When the baby is up include both of them in playing together. You can read to both of them, show them the pictures, talk about the colors in the book. Just try something that you can get both of them involved. Dont worry you are doing great and everything will work out.
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RELAX, you simply can't give your second born the same kind of attention that you gave your first, it just isn't possible.
That's okay though, because you are doing your best to give him as much as you can.
For now, all you can do is include them in everything you do with each of them. He can sit on your lap and listen while you read to your three year old, that is just as beneficial as if you were reading just to him. He can be included in all the games that you play with her, just modify them to be suitable for tinies if you have to.
Get her involved in playing with and teaching him.
You don't have to give them Individual attention, or undivided attention, just love and care and time and togetherness...the rest takes care of itself.Parenting tips for a mother with more than one child.?
spend time with them together and have some alone time with each child. take turns going to each child. if you go to the same child all the time they will get jealous of one another. (give hugs,play games with them.) if you tell one of your kids i love you. tell the other one i love you. do the same for everything you do. involve both kids together.
You are not a bad mom. You just sometimes feel overwhelmed. I felt the same when I had my second one. My son had just turned 3yrs old when I had my second son. I felt as if I didn't give either one enough attention. Just be sure to always let the older one know that you love them very much and that you appreciate all the help they give you. It makes them feel loved and happy to be of help. When the baby sleeps take the time to play w/ the 3yr old. Read a book,color, or watch a favorite cartoon. I know that you want to finish that housework but it will get done, just not right away. That's fine b/c you want to bond w/ your children. When the baby is up include both of them in playing together. You can read to both of them, show them the pictures, talk about the colors in the book. Just try something that you can get both of them involved. Dont worry you are doing great and everything will work out.
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When it comes to parenting is right to make choices by one parent only?
My husband and I had a heart to heart about our teenagers how to handle them. They enjoy the internet but he put a password on the PC so that we choose when they go online. But he won't give me the password to me is this right???When it comes to parenting is right to make choices by one parent only?
No, this is definitely not right.
Both parents must agree and work together or else you have a divided house and that never works.When it comes to parenting is right to make choices by one parent only?
No, unless you are swaying to the side of the children and allowing them things that you have both decided are not allowed to the children. The children need to hear one voice, so that if you said no they know that dad will say no too. Talk over with your husband. Good luck.
I dont think that it is right. He should trust you enough to let you in on the password. Then again, he might know you too well for instance, giving into them when he is not home and letting them get one by you. Just talk to your husband about how you feel concerning this matter.
In my opinion, no this is not right. You both should be parenting and you both should know the password. By him keeping it from you , he is parenting you also.
No, this is definitely not right.
Both parents must agree and work together or else you have a divided house and that never works.When it comes to parenting is right to make choices by one parent only?
No, unless you are swaying to the side of the children and allowing them things that you have both decided are not allowed to the children. The children need to hear one voice, so that if you said no they know that dad will say no too. Talk over with your husband. Good luck.
I dont think that it is right. He should trust you enough to let you in on the password. Then again, he might know you too well for instance, giving into them when he is not home and letting them get one by you. Just talk to your husband about how you feel concerning this matter.
In my opinion, no this is not right. You both should be parenting and you both should know the password. By him keeping it from you , he is parenting you also.
Parenting: How would you handle this?
I already know my answer--I just want to see what others would say. :-)
If you were on a crowded sidewalk/in a mall (for example) and your child wasn't watching where he/she was going and bumped into another person----What would be your reaction/What would you do?Parenting: How would you handle this?
Smile at the person, say sorry and tell my child to say ';excuse me.';Parenting: How would you handle this?
i would have the child apoligize then i would tell the child to be more careful
I think my first reaction will be to check if my child got hurt in any way . . . .and tend to that immediately
Therafter the apology and mannerisms, as most responses suggest
Say ';I'm sorry'; to the person your child bumped into, show a smile and take the child away.
Apologize or if your kid can talk have him or her apologize and keep a hand on your kid.
I would say to the person that was bumped into, ';Excuse him';. Then I would hold his hand and try to guide him through the crowd safely.
Have my child apologize to the person and inform my child that he/she needs to watch where they are going after we have walked away from the person that he/she bumped.
Depends on how old the child is- young I would ask the child to applogize and tell him/her to watch where they are going If the child is old enough to understand what they have done- then I would ask my child what do you say, then I would ask why were you not paying attention to where you were going- if child then stated I don't know -- I would take the child hand until they could refocus and state why they felt they didn't have to pay attention or until we left the mall.
tell your kid to pay more attention, stay by your side, apologize to the person he/she ran into
teach you kid to say sorry.
Depends on the age of the kiddo. If your talking a young kids (say 5 and under) you smile and apologize, take your baby by the hand and remind him/her that they have to watch out for other people.
6 to 10 - have them apologize and tell them to stay with you
10 and up - they should have it figured out.
Stuff happens - ya know? Most people take it very well, but every once in awhile you get a very difficult person - just diffuse and protect your baby from the mean old man (or lady)
:)
I would tell my child to say ';excuse me';.
i've had the problem happen in BOTH WAYS grown adults knocking into my young kids because they are pushing thru a mall. i've had my kid run intoa adult in both cases not much to be done. i've acually had a 2 year old pushed over by a abult at a 4th of july fireworks thing.
Apologize to the person, or if your child is old enough they can say sorry. And then tell him/her to pay attention
Depending on their age of course...if old enough I'd make sure they apologized or said excuse me. If still young, I'd apologize to them and then tell my child to 1) pay attention 2) if it happens to say excuse me (gentle teaching of course)
i would apologize to the person and tell my child to say excuse me.
laugh then tell the kid to watch where he/she is going.
I would have my child apologize to the person and ask them to watch more carefully so no one gets hurt
What did you do?
I wouldn't expect my child to say ';oops sorry'; so I would probably say it for them and then tell them (my child) to watch where they were going next time. But if they were older like maybe 8 or 9 I would probably make them say it because then they are old enough.
This happens to me ALL THE TIME! My oldest watches his feet when he walks, so he is constantly bumping into people. I make him stop and apologize or say ';excuse me'; to the other person. If it's a quick passing or if the person gives me ';a look';, I'll apologize. But if the person is rude to me or my son, I usually just walk on because if I say something it won't be nice!! :-)
tell them to say srry to the person yhey bumped into
I would just say, ';oh i'm so sorry, he just gets ';busy eyes'; when we are in places like this'; and tell the child he/she needs to start watching where he/she is going
I'd tell my child to watch where he/she was going, then tell him/her to say ';Excuse me!'; Then, I would make eye contact with the person, smile and say ';sorry'; or something similar.
Juat chill girl and sit back and take care of your man and oyur baby but bang
your man
If the child is old enough to be walking on his/her own, then, hopefully, you have instilled the polite response from them to whomever they bumped--';Excuse me';...However, if in tow, via hand-held, then I would say the ';Excuse me';, since I am actually the leader of the bond, %26amp; use the experience to show my child the proper etiquette for the situation.
I would tell the person I am sorry and call my child over, they are kids they never watch where they are going????
Reaction: oops, that was my fault for not paying attention to the child
What I would do: Apologize to the person for the unintentional bump
I would pull himout of the way gently and apologize to the person and excuse us. Then I'd explain to my child that he needs to pay attention to where he's going and that the next time he accidentally bumps into someone, he needs to say ';Excuse me'; or ';I'm sorry'; right away.
If you were on a crowded sidewalk/in a mall (for example) and your child wasn't watching where he/she was going and bumped into another person----What would be your reaction/What would you do?Parenting: How would you handle this?
Smile at the person, say sorry and tell my child to say ';excuse me.';Parenting: How would you handle this?
i would have the child apoligize then i would tell the child to be more careful
I think my first reaction will be to check if my child got hurt in any way . . . .and tend to that immediately
Therafter the apology and mannerisms, as most responses suggest
Say ';I'm sorry'; to the person your child bumped into, show a smile and take the child away.
Apologize or if your kid can talk have him or her apologize and keep a hand on your kid.
I would say to the person that was bumped into, ';Excuse him';. Then I would hold his hand and try to guide him through the crowd safely.
Have my child apologize to the person and inform my child that he/she needs to watch where they are going after we have walked away from the person that he/she bumped.
Depends on how old the child is- young I would ask the child to applogize and tell him/her to watch where they are going If the child is old enough to understand what they have done- then I would ask my child what do you say, then I would ask why were you not paying attention to where you were going- if child then stated I don't know -- I would take the child hand until they could refocus and state why they felt they didn't have to pay attention or until we left the mall.
tell your kid to pay more attention, stay by your side, apologize to the person he/she ran into
teach you kid to say sorry.
Depends on the age of the kiddo. If your talking a young kids (say 5 and under) you smile and apologize, take your baby by the hand and remind him/her that they have to watch out for other people.
6 to 10 - have them apologize and tell them to stay with you
10 and up - they should have it figured out.
Stuff happens - ya know? Most people take it very well, but every once in awhile you get a very difficult person - just diffuse and protect your baby from the mean old man (or lady)
:)
I would tell my child to say ';excuse me';.
i've had the problem happen in BOTH WAYS grown adults knocking into my young kids because they are pushing thru a mall. i've had my kid run intoa adult in both cases not much to be done. i've acually had a 2 year old pushed over by a abult at a 4th of july fireworks thing.
Apologize to the person, or if your child is old enough they can say sorry. And then tell him/her to pay attention
Depending on their age of course...if old enough I'd make sure they apologized or said excuse me. If still young, I'd apologize to them and then tell my child to 1) pay attention 2) if it happens to say excuse me (gentle teaching of course)
i would apologize to the person and tell my child to say excuse me.
laugh then tell the kid to watch where he/she is going.
I would have my child apologize to the person and ask them to watch more carefully so no one gets hurt
What did you do?
I wouldn't expect my child to say ';oops sorry'; so I would probably say it for them and then tell them (my child) to watch where they were going next time. But if they were older like maybe 8 or 9 I would probably make them say it because then they are old enough.
This happens to me ALL THE TIME! My oldest watches his feet when he walks, so he is constantly bumping into people. I make him stop and apologize or say ';excuse me'; to the other person. If it's a quick passing or if the person gives me ';a look';, I'll apologize. But if the person is rude to me or my son, I usually just walk on because if I say something it won't be nice!! :-)
tell them to say srry to the person yhey bumped into
I would just say, ';oh i'm so sorry, he just gets ';busy eyes'; when we are in places like this'; and tell the child he/she needs to start watching where he/she is going
I'd tell my child to watch where he/she was going, then tell him/her to say ';Excuse me!'; Then, I would make eye contact with the person, smile and say ';sorry'; or something similar.
Juat chill girl and sit back and take care of your man and oyur baby but bang
your man
If the child is old enough to be walking on his/her own, then, hopefully, you have instilled the polite response from them to whomever they bumped--';Excuse me';...However, if in tow, via hand-held, then I would say the ';Excuse me';, since I am actually the leader of the bond, %26amp; use the experience to show my child the proper etiquette for the situation.
I would tell the person I am sorry and call my child over, they are kids they never watch where they are going????
Reaction: oops, that was my fault for not paying attention to the child
What I would do: Apologize to the person for the unintentional bump
I would pull himout of the way gently and apologize to the person and excuse us. Then I'd explain to my child that he needs to pay attention to where he's going and that the next time he accidentally bumps into someone, he needs to say ';Excuse me'; or ';I'm sorry'; right away.
What the best magazine about pregnancy and parenting to subscribe with?
includes information about mom and childWhat the best magazine about pregnancy and parenting to subscribe with?
Pregancy is a great magazine Parenting, and Baby TalkWhat the best magazine about pregnancy and parenting to subscribe with?
Don't subcribe to a magtaine...you can get all the info you need online. Just google mom and baby and you should be able to come up with millions of hits.
Baby centre is a great one, I have used it for both my kids, I have a 5 year old and a 2 month old...try it...
Pregancy is a great magazine Parenting, and Baby TalkWhat the best magazine about pregnancy and parenting to subscribe with?
Don't subcribe to a magtaine...you can get all the info you need online. Just google mom and baby and you should be able to come up with millions of hits.
Baby centre is a great one, I have used it for both my kids, I have a 5 year old and a 2 month old...try it...
Fake baby - like you get in a parenting class?
Is there a place i can get or rent a fake baby to find out if me and my husband would be able to handle a baby before we try and get pregnant?Fake baby - like you get in a parenting class?
here is the website
http://www.realityworks.com/realcare/rea鈥?/a>
you can a get a girl or a boy and they cry just like real babies and need to be fedFake baby - like you get in a parenting class?
Those dolls only teach you to hate babies because the only thing the doll can do is scream and coo. They are too robotic. Nothing like a real baby, one that smells sweet and smiles at you, giggles when you play peekaboo, and is a little piece of you and your husband that you both fell in love with when you first saw its little face.
Maybe borrow someone else's baby for a day to get a better idea?
That's funny. I don't know, but they are nothing like a real baby. I personally think they should make little robot 2 year olds. That's what you really need to see if you're for. :)
Fake babies don't work.They can be annoying, but they are not realistic.
Babysit if you want to find out if he's cut out to be a dad or not.
the only thing i found for at home is the nintendo ds games. everything else is for schools
Maybe try out a babysitting job or two... That may or may not work, depeding on how much the child likes you.
Baby Think it Over-Look on e-bay.
idk?
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here is the website
http://www.realityworks.com/realcare/rea鈥?/a>
you can a get a girl or a boy and they cry just like real babies and need to be fedFake baby - like you get in a parenting class?
Those dolls only teach you to hate babies because the only thing the doll can do is scream and coo. They are too robotic. Nothing like a real baby, one that smells sweet and smiles at you, giggles when you play peekaboo, and is a little piece of you and your husband that you both fell in love with when you first saw its little face.
Maybe borrow someone else's baby for a day to get a better idea?
That's funny. I don't know, but they are nothing like a real baby. I personally think they should make little robot 2 year olds. That's what you really need to see if you're for. :)
Fake babies don't work.They can be annoying, but they are not realistic.
Babysit if you want to find out if he's cut out to be a dad or not.
the only thing i found for at home is the nintendo ds games. everything else is for schools
Maybe try out a babysitting job or two... That may or may not work, depeding on how much the child likes you.
Baby Think it Over-Look on e-bay.
idk?
Why are Canadian feminists against shared parenting?
I thought feminists were interested in equality.
http://www.nawl.ca/ns/en/index.htmlWhy are Canadian feminists against shared parenting?
';In fact, as long as women remain the primary caregivers of children,women’s equality is in the best interests of children, and law reform can and must simultaneously take into account and promote both the best interests of children and the equality interests of women. ';
This is the kind of obtuse logic that feminists use to justify discrimination against dads. When someone figures out what it means let me know. It will still be discrimination but feminists have only one interest, and it is not the best interest of children. It is economic entitlements. They agree they are weaker, less able to support themselves, less able to make their way in the world, less able to compete for pretty much anything, including jobs, than men, and, of course, they believe with the fervency of religious dogma men are the patriarchy with a colossal thumb over them.
It is absurd to think they could ever be equal under the circumstances without the nanny state acting as their new patriarch and protector. These feminists with a victim orientation are the current wave and are a very vocal minority. Real women do not subscribe to this form of crutchology but lawmakers and the MSM have bought into the victimology hook, line and sinker.Why are Canadian feminists against shared parenting?
I like equality and so do feminists. Don't you? Sounds like you're trying to make a very complicated issue into a simplistic good/bad question, how nice. Do you think all couples should have shared parenting too? Regardless of the fitness of the parents involved? Oh, that's right, this isn't about children, it's about the rights of men. Anti-fems don't really care about children, I guess, the interests of men are more important, then? As long as men have their rights, the children don't matter. Lovely. And here I thought women were suppose to be evaluated for their fitness too.
';been exposed to child abusing parents whom they should have been protected from instead.';- Miss Schlonkey
How easy it is to make statements like this while ignoring that even more children are left with abusive mothers. I wonder why abusive mother never get pointed out.
Shared parenting in more cases than not give these children time away from their abusers as well. So the fail point that a few children fall through the gaps and wind up spending time with an abusive parent is a very weak argument.
And feminists detest shared parenting because they believe the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. And they do not want to lose that power.
They make claims that fathers only want shared parenting to avoid paying child support which is also a moot point since the father would be financially responsible for the child while he has the child. But on the other hand if shared parenting is allowed then women lose access to child support from the father.
So really which parent is thinking about the kids and which is thinking about the money?
The fathers financial responsibility does not change with shared parenting it merely changes to whom the money goes to.
So now the abuse argument is shot down and the financial argument is in flames too. Then the only thing left is to decide if children do better with two active parents or if they do better with one parent with all of the authority and one who is merely a visitor.
Edit:Annie.
Without a comprehensive gender equality analysis and strategy, any legislation on custody and access will promote women’s continued inequality. It will not enable women to act in their own best interests or in
the best interests of their children in matters of custody and access; interests that are inextricably linked.
So in the current family law system where fathers cannot act in their own best interests or in the best interests of their children in matters of custody and access. Then you must support shared parenting since men are treated less than equal in this area of law and equality is necassary for every one to be best served.
Feminism was originally about equality, but the modern version is much more about giving women special rights. The real problem is that women are encouraged to make choices based on selfish wishes and needs, not the needs of their family or even children.
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';it's about the best interests of children';
We wish!
';On a BBC documentary shown in May 2009, Rosie Boycott (founder of the feminist magazine Spare Rib) admitted that she and other feminists had failed to think through the effect that feminism would have on children http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b00…
On the same documentary, child development expert Prof Jay Belsky discusses years of research evidence leading to the conclusion that childcare makes children more aggressive and disobedient in the short and longer term (Belsky et al, 2007)';.
Feminism has openly waged war against the traditional family and created huge numbers of broken homes and single-parent families in the process, so its crazy to say that it puts children first.
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Well said Chevalier. The fact is that in the US mothers beat their children more than fathers (34.6% Vs 26.8%) http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/pubs/…
This issue goes beyond equality... it's about the best interests of children and greater social implications. Opposition to the general imposition of shared custody arrangements at law is not confined to feminists. It is not only the NAWL (feminists) who take issue with and are criticising this Bill.
Shared custody rulings in Australia have not been widely succesful in meeting the interests of children who have had their domestic and schooling arrangements disrupted, have been exposed to heightened conflict and litigation between hostile parents and, in some unfortunate cases, been exposed to child abusing parents whom they should have been protected from instead.
The courts forcing shared custody arrangements on parents is not always the right solution. Sometimes it can work, and the courts should still be encouraged to pursue it if it's a viable and fair option. But each custudy case still needs to be judged on its individual circumstances for the best interests of the child to be properly considered.
You'll find on page 10 of the Canadian NAWL report which you directed us to, that this is pointed out:
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1. Legal presumptions in family law are not appropriate. Although the concept of general rules can seem appealing on first glance, in application, they don’t work and they are not fair. The best interests of children are significantly dependent on the unique circumstances of each child and her or his family. Appropriate decisions about custody and access can only be made by a careful examination of the facts in each individual case.
Furthermore, by 2009, we have had the opportunity to see how poorly presumptions in favour of shared parenting have worked in other jurisdictions. England, Australia and some American states have implemented such regimes, and the reports are not positive. Judges, lawyers, women’s advocates and families report that litigation has
increased, with families returning to court again and again because of confusion over the language of parental responsibility, parental conflict has increased and women have traded their economic rights to ensure appropriate custody outcomes.
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Canadian women are not against shared custody as long as their ex's actually take care of their children. Steven Harper$$$$ is a bit like Bush, he pretends to be transparent but he is in fact doing everything he can to make Canada less of a socialist country and more his own petty little empire.
Without a comprehensive gender equality analysis and strategy, any legislation on custody and access will promote women’s continued inequality. It will not enable women to act in their own best interests or in
the best interests of their children in matters of custody and access; interests that are inextricably linked.
In fact, as long as women remain the primary caregivers of children,women’s equality is in the best interests of children, and law reform can
and must simultaneously take into account and promote both the best interests of children and the equality interests of women.
The Divorce Act:
The current Divorce Act last saw significant reform in 1986. The provisions dealing with custody and access are flawed and long overdue for revision.
They present significant challenges and barriers to women with children,especially but not only those who are leaving abusive situations, including:
i. the absence of any spelldown criteria in applying the best interests of the child test;
ii. the maximum contact provision, often referred to as the “friendly parent rule,” contained in Section 16;
iii. the absence of any provisions specifically dealing with violence against women and children
iv. the ban on any consideration of past conduct, unless it can be proven to be directly relevant to the best interests of the children
The Reality of Mothers, Fathers, Children and Families in Canada: Much is made by those who favour equal parenting regimes of the changing role of fathers in Canadian families and of stay at home dads who spend at least as much time with the children as do the mums. Thoseof us who work for women’s equality know such men and hope for continued and meaningful movement towards increased equality for family and home responsibilities between the sexes.
However, law reform must reflect and acknowledge reality and not individual exceptions or hopes for future change. Family law reform must take account of the fact that women continue to hold most of the
responsibility for child rearing and general household management and tasks in most Canadian families, both before and after separation. It must promote women’s equality within the family and in society at large.
“A woman with children is always a mother, whether in the work force or at home with her children. The presence of children affects women’s lives
differently from the way it affects most men, in terms of both her life choices and her life chances.”In the vast majority of cases, women continue to be the primary caregivers for children and do most of the housework.
According to data gathered in
the 2005 General Social Survey, women spend 4.3 hours per day compared to men’s 2.5 on unpaid housework and child care. This at a time when more and more women, especially those with young children are employed outside the home: by 2004, 65% of women with children under the age of 3 were working, a figure which is more than double the employment rate for women in this category just 30 years before.
Women miss more time from work because of family responsibilities: in an average week in 2004, 5% of women and only 2% of men missed work
time due to family responsibilities. Overall that year, women missed 10 days of work and men just 1.5 to take care of family responsibilities.
The inequality and disadvantaging of women in the labour market (women continue to earn just 73 cents for every dollar earned by men), in tandem
with the heavy load of unpaid housework and caring for children and other family members, places women in a situation of social and economic inequality compared with their husbands, and increases their dependency.
The economic dependency of women in turn exacerbates their vulnerability to the power and control that may be exercised by a spouse after divorce, and their vulnerability to the volatility and violence exhibited
by former spouses.
Women’s economic vulnerability only increases after separation. Women who are single parents of children under 18 years of age live below the poverty line at a rate more than double that for single parent fathers: 47% compared to 20%11.Before considering Bill C-422, it is important to look at the reality of custody and access determinations under existing legislation. In 44% of custody cases that go to court, the outcome is an order for joint custody,which is more than double the number from the mid1990s and four times the figure when compared to the late 1980s. The rate at which women are awarded sole custody in cases that go to court has fallen from more than 70% to just 44% from the late 1980s to 2003.
In other words, even without legislation spelling out a mandatory shared parenting, courts are making such determinations in nearly half the cases that come before them.
I'm not Canadian and I don't really describe myself as a feminist except that I believe in rights for weaker minorities. I believe women are not equal to men, therefore I do not believe in equality. I think that a couple where both parents have heavy serious jobs is not good. One person should take primary responsibility for child raising. It usually works better.
You are very naive if you thought that.
Feminism has always been lesbian-driven, and as you know, some lesbians hate and resent men, so it is in Feminism's best interest to keep children away from men in order to indoctrinate them into their brave, new world of lesbian supremacy.
They are against an automatic granting of a shared status. They want each case to be viewed independently. In many cases its a great thing in others its the worst thing for the child.
We don't want those evil males to have any power.
Men having joint custody means they get to have a say on how their children are brought up. We can't have that!
Men just need to pay up and shut up.
';Equality'; for women only, even if it means at the expense of others. Equality for men is obviously a threat to feminists..
Its simple.
Feminists have lost sight of what is really important.
Not to mention they really are one big contradiction after another.
Now that feminists have equality, they want to be the man. It's sad...so sad...
Because feminists are confused at what the word means.
Happens when they leave the kitchen. (Kidding)
Well said Julz.
http://www.nawl.ca/ns/en/index.htmlWhy are Canadian feminists against shared parenting?
';In fact, as long as women remain the primary caregivers of children,women’s equality is in the best interests of children, and law reform can and must simultaneously take into account and promote both the best interests of children and the equality interests of women. ';
This is the kind of obtuse logic that feminists use to justify discrimination against dads. When someone figures out what it means let me know. It will still be discrimination but feminists have only one interest, and it is not the best interest of children. It is economic entitlements. They agree they are weaker, less able to support themselves, less able to make their way in the world, less able to compete for pretty much anything, including jobs, than men, and, of course, they believe with the fervency of religious dogma men are the patriarchy with a colossal thumb over them.
It is absurd to think they could ever be equal under the circumstances without the nanny state acting as their new patriarch and protector. These feminists with a victim orientation are the current wave and are a very vocal minority. Real women do not subscribe to this form of crutchology but lawmakers and the MSM have bought into the victimology hook, line and sinker.Why are Canadian feminists against shared parenting?
I like equality and so do feminists. Don't you? Sounds like you're trying to make a very complicated issue into a simplistic good/bad question, how nice. Do you think all couples should have shared parenting too? Regardless of the fitness of the parents involved? Oh, that's right, this isn't about children, it's about the rights of men. Anti-fems don't really care about children, I guess, the interests of men are more important, then? As long as men have their rights, the children don't matter. Lovely. And here I thought women were suppose to be evaluated for their fitness too.
';been exposed to child abusing parents whom they should have been protected from instead.';- Miss Schlonkey
How easy it is to make statements like this while ignoring that even more children are left with abusive mothers. I wonder why abusive mother never get pointed out.
Shared parenting in more cases than not give these children time away from their abusers as well. So the fail point that a few children fall through the gaps and wind up spending time with an abusive parent is a very weak argument.
And feminists detest shared parenting because they believe the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. And they do not want to lose that power.
They make claims that fathers only want shared parenting to avoid paying child support which is also a moot point since the father would be financially responsible for the child while he has the child. But on the other hand if shared parenting is allowed then women lose access to child support from the father.
So really which parent is thinking about the kids and which is thinking about the money?
The fathers financial responsibility does not change with shared parenting it merely changes to whom the money goes to.
So now the abuse argument is shot down and the financial argument is in flames too. Then the only thing left is to decide if children do better with two active parents or if they do better with one parent with all of the authority and one who is merely a visitor.
Edit:Annie.
Without a comprehensive gender equality analysis and strategy, any legislation on custody and access will promote women’s continued inequality. It will not enable women to act in their own best interests or in
the best interests of their children in matters of custody and access; interests that are inextricably linked.
So in the current family law system where fathers cannot act in their own best interests or in the best interests of their children in matters of custody and access. Then you must support shared parenting since men are treated less than equal in this area of law and equality is necassary for every one to be best served.
Feminism was originally about equality, but the modern version is much more about giving women special rights. The real problem is that women are encouraged to make choices based on selfish wishes and needs, not the needs of their family or even children.
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';it's about the best interests of children';
We wish!
';On a BBC documentary shown in May 2009, Rosie Boycott (founder of the feminist magazine Spare Rib) admitted that she and other feminists had failed to think through the effect that feminism would have on children http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b00…
On the same documentary, child development expert Prof Jay Belsky discusses years of research evidence leading to the conclusion that childcare makes children more aggressive and disobedient in the short and longer term (Belsky et al, 2007)';.
Feminism has openly waged war against the traditional family and created huge numbers of broken homes and single-parent families in the process, so its crazy to say that it puts children first.
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Well said Chevalier. The fact is that in the US mothers beat their children more than fathers (34.6% Vs 26.8%) http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/pubs/…
This issue goes beyond equality... it's about the best interests of children and greater social implications. Opposition to the general imposition of shared custody arrangements at law is not confined to feminists. It is not only the NAWL (feminists) who take issue with and are criticising this Bill.
Shared custody rulings in Australia have not been widely succesful in meeting the interests of children who have had their domestic and schooling arrangements disrupted, have been exposed to heightened conflict and litigation between hostile parents and, in some unfortunate cases, been exposed to child abusing parents whom they should have been protected from instead.
The courts forcing shared custody arrangements on parents is not always the right solution. Sometimes it can work, and the courts should still be encouraged to pursue it if it's a viable and fair option. But each custudy case still needs to be judged on its individual circumstances for the best interests of the child to be properly considered.
You'll find on page 10 of the Canadian NAWL report which you directed us to, that this is pointed out:
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1. Legal presumptions in family law are not appropriate. Although the concept of general rules can seem appealing on first glance, in application, they don’t work and they are not fair. The best interests of children are significantly dependent on the unique circumstances of each child and her or his family. Appropriate decisions about custody and access can only be made by a careful examination of the facts in each individual case.
Furthermore, by 2009, we have had the opportunity to see how poorly presumptions in favour of shared parenting have worked in other jurisdictions. England, Australia and some American states have implemented such regimes, and the reports are not positive. Judges, lawyers, women’s advocates and families report that litigation has
increased, with families returning to court again and again because of confusion over the language of parental responsibility, parental conflict has increased and women have traded their economic rights to ensure appropriate custody outcomes.
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Canadian women are not against shared custody as long as their ex's actually take care of their children. Steven Harper$$$$ is a bit like Bush, he pretends to be transparent but he is in fact doing everything he can to make Canada less of a socialist country and more his own petty little empire.
Without a comprehensive gender equality analysis and strategy, any legislation on custody and access will promote women’s continued inequality. It will not enable women to act in their own best interests or in
the best interests of their children in matters of custody and access; interests that are inextricably linked.
In fact, as long as women remain the primary caregivers of children,women’s equality is in the best interests of children, and law reform can
and must simultaneously take into account and promote both the best interests of children and the equality interests of women.
The Divorce Act:
The current Divorce Act last saw significant reform in 1986. The provisions dealing with custody and access are flawed and long overdue for revision.
They present significant challenges and barriers to women with children,especially but not only those who are leaving abusive situations, including:
i. the absence of any spelldown criteria in applying the best interests of the child test;
ii. the maximum contact provision, often referred to as the “friendly parent rule,” contained in Section 16;
iii. the absence of any provisions specifically dealing with violence against women and children
iv. the ban on any consideration of past conduct, unless it can be proven to be directly relevant to the best interests of the children
The Reality of Mothers, Fathers, Children and Families in Canada: Much is made by those who favour equal parenting regimes of the changing role of fathers in Canadian families and of stay at home dads who spend at least as much time with the children as do the mums. Thoseof us who work for women’s equality know such men and hope for continued and meaningful movement towards increased equality for family and home responsibilities between the sexes.
However, law reform must reflect and acknowledge reality and not individual exceptions or hopes for future change. Family law reform must take account of the fact that women continue to hold most of the
responsibility for child rearing and general household management and tasks in most Canadian families, both before and after separation. It must promote women’s equality within the family and in society at large.
“A woman with children is always a mother, whether in the work force or at home with her children. The presence of children affects women’s lives
differently from the way it affects most men, in terms of both her life choices and her life chances.”In the vast majority of cases, women continue to be the primary caregivers for children and do most of the housework.
According to data gathered in
the 2005 General Social Survey, women spend 4.3 hours per day compared to men’s 2.5 on unpaid housework and child care. This at a time when more and more women, especially those with young children are employed outside the home: by 2004, 65% of women with children under the age of 3 were working, a figure which is more than double the employment rate for women in this category just 30 years before.
Women miss more time from work because of family responsibilities: in an average week in 2004, 5% of women and only 2% of men missed work
time due to family responsibilities. Overall that year, women missed 10 days of work and men just 1.5 to take care of family responsibilities.
The inequality and disadvantaging of women in the labour market (women continue to earn just 73 cents for every dollar earned by men), in tandem
with the heavy load of unpaid housework and caring for children and other family members, places women in a situation of social and economic inequality compared with their husbands, and increases their dependency.
The economic dependency of women in turn exacerbates their vulnerability to the power and control that may be exercised by a spouse after divorce, and their vulnerability to the volatility and violence exhibited
by former spouses.
Women’s economic vulnerability only increases after separation. Women who are single parents of children under 18 years of age live below the poverty line at a rate more than double that for single parent fathers: 47% compared to 20%11.Before considering Bill C-422, it is important to look at the reality of custody and access determinations under existing legislation. In 44% of custody cases that go to court, the outcome is an order for joint custody,which is more than double the number from the mid1990s and four times the figure when compared to the late 1980s. The rate at which women are awarded sole custody in cases that go to court has fallen from more than 70% to just 44% from the late 1980s to 2003.
In other words, even without legislation spelling out a mandatory shared parenting, courts are making such determinations in nearly half the cases that come before them.
I'm not Canadian and I don't really describe myself as a feminist except that I believe in rights for weaker minorities. I believe women are not equal to men, therefore I do not believe in equality. I think that a couple where both parents have heavy serious jobs is not good. One person should take primary responsibility for child raising. It usually works better.
You are very naive if you thought that.
Feminism has always been lesbian-driven, and as you know, some lesbians hate and resent men, so it is in Feminism's best interest to keep children away from men in order to indoctrinate them into their brave, new world of lesbian supremacy.
They are against an automatic granting of a shared status. They want each case to be viewed independently. In many cases its a great thing in others its the worst thing for the child.
We don't want those evil males to have any power.
Men having joint custody means they get to have a say on how their children are brought up. We can't have that!
Men just need to pay up and shut up.
';Equality'; for women only, even if it means at the expense of others. Equality for men is obviously a threat to feminists..
Its simple.
Feminists have lost sight of what is really important.
Not to mention they really are one big contradiction after another.
Now that feminists have equality, they want to be the man. It's sad...so sad...
Because feminists are confused at what the word means.
Happens when they leave the kitchen. (Kidding)
Well said Julz.
If YA hadn't been invented, who would you most likely be arguing about parenting styles with?
My 8 other personalities.If YA hadn't been invented, who would you most likely be arguing about parenting styles with?
I don't argue, I couldn't care less if people don't like my opinion, they don't have to raise my kids and vice versa. I always think its a riot when topics get heated on here, I like to give my opinion, and I get thumbs down sometimes but whatever I don't take offense. I also don't give thumbs down to every person I don't agree with because everyone has a right to their opinion, doesn't mean it needs to change my life or get my panties in a bunch! :)If YA hadn't been invented, who would you most likely be arguing about parenting styles with?
don't normally argue over parenting, But if i had to pick who I would likely argue with, it would be my Mom...LOL
She knows I am a terrific mother and raised 4 boys who are now all grown and gone. She would allow my boys to have anything they wanted, that was our only tiff.
The MIL, although to be honest I would talk to her volunterly about parenting, but she sure does take delight in telling me her views and of course mine are wrong.
I don't really argue with anyone about their parenting styles... everyone is different. I give my opinions if asked.
No one really. It's funny, hardly any of my opinions ever surfaced because that's not what my friends/family talk about.
No one. I don't discuss parenting differences with friends or family.
My friends outside of Y!A. But we wouldn't be arguing, we would be discussing.
probably the peopel i do now - just over at wiki answers probably
I don't argue, I couldn't care less if people don't like my opinion, they don't have to raise my kids and vice versa. I always think its a riot when topics get heated on here, I like to give my opinion, and I get thumbs down sometimes but whatever I don't take offense. I also don't give thumbs down to every person I don't agree with because everyone has a right to their opinion, doesn't mean it needs to change my life or get my panties in a bunch! :)If YA hadn't been invented, who would you most likely be arguing about parenting styles with?
don't normally argue over parenting, But if i had to pick who I would likely argue with, it would be my Mom...LOL
She knows I am a terrific mother and raised 4 boys who are now all grown and gone. She would allow my boys to have anything they wanted, that was our only tiff.
The MIL, although to be honest I would talk to her volunterly about parenting, but she sure does take delight in telling me her views and of course mine are wrong.
I don't really argue with anyone about their parenting styles... everyone is different. I give my opinions if asked.
No one really. It's funny, hardly any of my opinions ever surfaced because that's not what my friends/family talk about.
No one. I don't discuss parenting differences with friends or family.
My friends outside of Y!A. But we wouldn't be arguing, we would be discussing.
probably the peopel i do now - just over at wiki answers probably
';Parenting';?
Will people STOP using this barbarism!
PARENTHOOD, PARENTAL %26amp; FOSTERING are more than adequate!';Parenting';?
One raises or rears children, one does not ';parent'; them. May we also start removing some of the other nouns that popular culture is trying to turn into verbs?';Parenting';?
'parenting' is in the dictionary. Why do you consider the use of this word to be barbarism? I don't understand.
I thought it meant you didn't pay more than the guy next door.
Heh. We've been verbing nouns for a long time.
I save my ire for 'utilize' or 'employ' when they could just use... 'use'!!!
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par·ent·ing /ˈpɛərəntɪŋ, ˈpær-/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[pair-uhn-ting, par-] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. the rearing of children: The schedule allows her very little time for parenting.
2. the methods, techniques, etc., used or required in the rearing of children: a course in parenting.
3. the state of being a parent; parenthood.
–adjective
4. of or concerned with the rearing of children: good parenting skills.
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[Origin: 1955–60; parent + -ing1]
—Usage note Parenting has come to be favored over parenthood, rearing, and bringing up in sociological and educational literature and in popular writing.
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American Heritage Dictionary - Cite This Source par·ent (pâr'ənt, pār'-) Pronunciation Key
n.
One who begets, gives birth to, or nurtures and raises a child; a father or mother.
An ancestor; a progenitor.
An organism that produces or generates offspring.
A guardian; a protector.
A parent company.
A source or cause; an origin: Despair is the parent of rebellion.
v. par·ent·ed, par·ent·ing, par·ents
v. tr.
To act as a parent to; raise and nurture: ';A genitor who does not parent the child is not its parent'; (Ashley Montagu).
To cause to come into existence; originate.
v. intr.
To act as a parent.
[Middle English, from Old French, from Latin parēns, parent-, from past active participle of parere, to give birth; see perə-1 in Indo-European roots.]
par'ent·hood' n.
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n. The rearing of a child or children, especially the care, love, and guidance given by a parent.
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Main Entry: par·ent·ing
Pronunciation: 'par-%26amp;nt-i[ng], 'per-
Function: noun
: the raising of a child by its parents
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OK cos u scared me !
Only kidding pretentious words like that annoy me too.I bet they come from the media.
PARENTHOOD, PARENTAL %26amp; FOSTERING are more than adequate!';Parenting';?
One raises or rears children, one does not ';parent'; them. May we also start removing some of the other nouns that popular culture is trying to turn into verbs?';Parenting';?
'parenting' is in the dictionary. Why do you consider the use of this word to be barbarism? I don't understand.
I thought it meant you didn't pay more than the guy next door.
Heh. We've been verbing nouns for a long time.
I save my ire for 'utilize' or 'employ' when they could just use... 'use'!!!
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par·ent·ing /ˈpɛərəntɪŋ, ˈpær-/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[pair-uhn-ting, par-] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. the rearing of children: The schedule allows her very little time for parenting.
2. the methods, techniques, etc., used or required in the rearing of children: a course in parenting.
3. the state of being a parent; parenthood.
–adjective
4. of or concerned with the rearing of children: good parenting skills.
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[Origin: 1955–60; parent + -ing1]
—Usage note Parenting has come to be favored over parenthood, rearing, and bringing up in sociological and educational literature and in popular writing.
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American Heritage Dictionary - Cite This Source par·ent (pâr'ənt, pār'-) Pronunciation Key
n.
One who begets, gives birth to, or nurtures and raises a child; a father or mother.
An ancestor; a progenitor.
An organism that produces or generates offspring.
A guardian; a protector.
A parent company.
A source or cause; an origin: Despair is the parent of rebellion.
v. par·ent·ed, par·ent·ing, par·ents
v. tr.
To act as a parent to; raise and nurture: ';A genitor who does not parent the child is not its parent'; (Ashley Montagu).
To cause to come into existence; originate.
v. intr.
To act as a parent.
[Middle English, from Old French, from Latin parēns, parent-, from past active participle of parere, to give birth; see perə-1 in Indo-European roots.]
par'ent·hood' n.
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American Heritage Dictionary - Cite This Source par·ent·ing (pâr'ən-tĭng, pār'-) Pronunciation Key
n. The rearing of a child or children, especially the care, love, and guidance given by a parent.
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Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary - Cite This Source
Main Entry: par·ent·ing
Pronunciation: 'par-%26amp;nt-i[ng], 'per-
Function: noun
: the raising of a child by its parents
Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary, © 2002 Merriam-Webster, Inc.
OK cos u scared me !
Only kidding pretentious words like that annoy me too.I bet they come from the media.
Does anyone knows a good book or DVD about parenting toddlers?
I don't know about a DVD, but a great book is ';What to Expect the Toddler Years';, by the same folks who wrote What to Expect When Your Expecting. The ISBN is 0-89480-994-6. The authors are Eisenberg, Murkoff, and Hathaway
If the parenting board had existed when you were a teenager (before having kids)?
would you have used it, and if so, what for?If the parenting board had existed when you were a teenager (before having kids)?
and if I had a computer instead of a typewriter?? =)
I probably wouldn't of used it. I was too busy outside doing stuff. I literally got off the bus, dropped my bag off at my grandmothers ';Hi gramma . . Bye gramma';, and off across the field I would go to hang out with all the kids in my community. We all met up in a field and spent late afternoon/evening being outside hiking, bike riding, exploring, and usually ended up walking home in the moonlight. Wouldn't of had time for it even if I was able to access it. There were far more entertaining things out there to do. Oh how I miss that lifestyle.If the parenting board had existed when you were a teenager (before having kids)?
Whenever I see a person on the parenting board who is not a parent, I always wonder what it is that draws them here. I have actually been meaning to post a question to those said users to get there input. There use to be three regulars who claimed not to be parents, but I actually haven't seen them in a while.
Anyway, back to your question. Since I am no longer a teenager, and since I did not use Yahoo as a teenager (and yes, it was here when I was a teenager), I guess the answer is no.
In my teen years I would have definitely used this site for trolling on weeknights when there is nothing to do. I would have been a good, funny troll though. Not a rude, mean and offensive one.
I might have thrown in a few chemistry questions too. I took a lot of college prep courses and had my face in the books a lot. Also, boy questions, make-up/hair tips and music questions would have been a part of my Y!A experience.
Ah, the ';complicated'; life of a teenager!
No..when I was a teenager I was more entertained with being out of the house. Maybe if I were to ';discover'; y!a as a teenager, the celebrity section would have grabbed my attention. The parenting board would have been the furthest thing from my mind at those times. I was a kid and could have care less about babies, honestly.
I don't think so... I had so many other interests at that time. On the other hand, maybe I would've used it to try to understand ';my'; parents. The problem is, even though I didn't like it, I did understand. So, I'm back to... ';I don't think so';. Was that as clear as mud?
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Nope, but we did not have internet.
I would loved to have found this site when I was pregnant with any one of my children though. It would have been great to be able to share experiences with others that were going through the same thing.
I would have probably asked a lot of ';am I pregnate'; questions because I was a teenager having sex. LOL! If I was a day late, I was worried about it even though I was on birth control.
Hmm. I might have read some of the peoples stuff, especially dads having kids and if they were happy, but other than that nah.
No, when I was a teen I always outside. If I hadn't stumbled across it and developed a slight attachment for it I wouldn't use it now.
Oh I would have stayed in fashion and beauty. I could just see myself now.
*If I wore a pair of black shoes.. could I pull off a brown belt if my shoes had goldish brown straps? Or would that be a fashion no no?';
i would not have used the parenting board. i wouldnt want to hang out with a bunch of parents. parents are like old and stuff. gosh
Noo, i was way to involved with other things as a teenager to be on here, heck...we didn't even have a computer until was like 34!
Since I am a 16 month old bunny I am technically a teenager by bunny standards!
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Seriously Doubt It!
No, probably not. I don't think i would even know it existed.
I would like to say no, but I probably would have and I probably would have been a troll. One of the ones we know and hate now. Sad, isn't it?
Yes. I am always looking for new tips and advice.
Yes, I don't have any children and I have been using it for months. Although as of yesterday my nephew is living with me and my bf.
No, I probably wouldn't have. I was a busy teen and if I wasn't doing something, I was talking on the phone or reading.
nope. What good would it be i dont want to hear a bunch of old people tell me im wrong.
and if I had a computer instead of a typewriter?? =)
I probably wouldn't of used it. I was too busy outside doing stuff. I literally got off the bus, dropped my bag off at my grandmothers ';Hi gramma . . Bye gramma';, and off across the field I would go to hang out with all the kids in my community. We all met up in a field and spent late afternoon/evening being outside hiking, bike riding, exploring, and usually ended up walking home in the moonlight. Wouldn't of had time for it even if I was able to access it. There were far more entertaining things out there to do. Oh how I miss that lifestyle.If the parenting board had existed when you were a teenager (before having kids)?
Whenever I see a person on the parenting board who is not a parent, I always wonder what it is that draws them here. I have actually been meaning to post a question to those said users to get there input. There use to be three regulars who claimed not to be parents, but I actually haven't seen them in a while.
Anyway, back to your question. Since I am no longer a teenager, and since I did not use Yahoo as a teenager (and yes, it was here when I was a teenager), I guess the answer is no.
In my teen years I would have definitely used this site for trolling on weeknights when there is nothing to do. I would have been a good, funny troll though. Not a rude, mean and offensive one.
I might have thrown in a few chemistry questions too. I took a lot of college prep courses and had my face in the books a lot. Also, boy questions, make-up/hair tips and music questions would have been a part of my Y!A experience.
Ah, the ';complicated'; life of a teenager!
No..when I was a teenager I was more entertained with being out of the house. Maybe if I were to ';discover'; y!a as a teenager, the celebrity section would have grabbed my attention. The parenting board would have been the furthest thing from my mind at those times. I was a kid and could have care less about babies, honestly.
I don't think so... I had so many other interests at that time. On the other hand, maybe I would've used it to try to understand ';my'; parents. The problem is, even though I didn't like it, I did understand. So, I'm back to... ';I don't think so';. Was that as clear as mud?
:0)
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Nope, but we did not have internet.
I would loved to have found this site when I was pregnant with any one of my children though. It would have been great to be able to share experiences with others that were going through the same thing.
I would have probably asked a lot of ';am I pregnate'; questions because I was a teenager having sex. LOL! If I was a day late, I was worried about it even though I was on birth control.
Hmm. I might have read some of the peoples stuff, especially dads having kids and if they were happy, but other than that nah.
No, when I was a teen I always outside. If I hadn't stumbled across it and developed a slight attachment for it I wouldn't use it now.
Oh I would have stayed in fashion and beauty. I could just see myself now.
*If I wore a pair of black shoes.. could I pull off a brown belt if my shoes had goldish brown straps? Or would that be a fashion no no?';
i would not have used the parenting board. i wouldnt want to hang out with a bunch of parents. parents are like old and stuff. gosh
Noo, i was way to involved with other things as a teenager to be on here, heck...we didn't even have a computer until was like 34!
Since I am a 16 month old bunny I am technically a teenager by bunny standards!
(..__/)
(='.'=)
(';)_(';)
Seriously Doubt It!
No, probably not. I don't think i would even know it existed.
I would like to say no, but I probably would have and I probably would have been a troll. One of the ones we know and hate now. Sad, isn't it?
Yes. I am always looking for new tips and advice.
Yes, I don't have any children and I have been using it for months. Although as of yesterday my nephew is living with me and my bf.
No, I probably wouldn't have. I was a busy teen and if I wasn't doing something, I was talking on the phone or reading.
nope. What good would it be i dont want to hear a bunch of old people tell me im wrong.
Shouldn't it be a requirement to take parenting classes before having children?
Nope, the government should not interfere with those things.Shouldn't it be a requirement to take parenting classes before having children?
YES! It should!!!Shouldn't it be a requirement to take parenting classes before having children?
yes for some people
No
yes
I so agree with you. Alot of kids pay the price for horrible parenting styles like spanking, screaming, overindulging, failing to give them structure and babying them. This is partly why there is so much violence today. We definitely educated ourselves before we had kids. I bought the Parents magazine for years to prepare and studied early childhood development. It has payed off and my children are happy, fun, confident and loved. Good question.
absolutely!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It normally is, but when I got pregnant with my first I never went... I grew up around babies... I have 3 sisters and the second to the oldest had her first baby when I was 11 or 12... After that babies was being born one after another from all 3 sisters...I helped take care of all of them... When you count all of them together there was 7 babies all around me that I had to take care of... So I already knew what I was getting myself into... If your new with babies you should really check in on taking classes... Now you count all the grand babies my mother and father has you will get a total of 12... Yeah, we have a big family... I have 2 brothers that haven't even had kids yet... If you feel more comfortable with taking classes then you should.... Where I'm from they suggest that you should take them....
It would be nice but who would pay for it? Not everyone has extra cash to pay for a parenting class. Also no one wants to pay MORE taxes for a community funded class.
we don't get an instruction manual from the hospital do we ... and most classes can't and don't teach you basic instinct...your learning daily along with your child what is a perfect class method may not work for your child.
I think so, with some people. I took two years of child care. I wasn't PREFECTLY prepaired but I was close. I asked my fiance most of the questions who has two boys with a previous marrage and my friends answered a lot of questions too. I didn't turn to my mom, I didn't like how she raise me so I at least know what NOT to do!
Yes because kids are having kids so early and dont even know how to take care of a child
Yes i think it would be a good idea as it may reduce the numbers of child abuse and such things because then young people won't just been thrown in the deep end like they are now!
It really should because some people raise their kids/kid the wrong way and I think that it would be a good essential for parents too.
I feel that we should have never been given the free will to procreate. To me it is a privilege that not all people deserve. Just watch the local news...you'll see why I feel this way.
Many schools are now requiring students to take a look a parenthood before (hopefully) it happens to them. The students are given a doll that has be pre-programmed with typical baby behaviors and as a couple the students deal with day to day life with a ';baby';. So far most of the classes are eye-openers for the kids.
Parents need to become more involved, churches and other family members, too. American families have become smaller, and the chance to take care of a younger sibling are becoming fewer. Families move more often, so the community in which they are raised is lost.
We have all grown further apart. I don't think the government should become involved in raising our children. We all need to become more involved with our own children. Used to be grandparents could step in with child care to help young couples take a breather in child rearing. It takes two to earn a living now a days. But the extended family is disappearing.
I do believe life classes in high school are very beneficial for young people.
I do not think it should be a mandatory thing, but it is not a bad idea. Especially for those who have never spent time with children. I myself took several babysitting classes as a teen and watched kids in the summer and on weekends all the time. My mother also ran a daycare so I had lots of experience with children.
Absolutely, but boy would that be difficult to enforce.
Yes it should expecially for guys because it is hard for them to adjust to a baby and girls have been carrying them for 9 months.
Sounds like a great idea. But what if the classes forced someone else's values on you as a parent?
Yes it should. Parenting is a tough, tough job with NO PAY!! You do get rewards in your children's faces though.
yup. Cuz then maybe teenagers will stop throwing their kids in trashcans or tying them to radiators or leaving them for dead cuz they are starving while they out having sex or going to clubs. At the same token, the classes help anybody to maintain a healthy relationship between parent and child. Im grown and i had 3 kids before i took a parenting class and it helped me. They teach you how to deal with everything, including your own anger management and situations that arise with every child. They are very helpful. I had no patience with my kids, thats why i took one. It was best for me and ended up being best for them.
Yes!!! it might reduce the number of stupid parents that are out there.
YES! It should!!!Shouldn't it be a requirement to take parenting classes before having children?
yes for some people
No
yes
I so agree with you. Alot of kids pay the price for horrible parenting styles like spanking, screaming, overindulging, failing to give them structure and babying them. This is partly why there is so much violence today. We definitely educated ourselves before we had kids. I bought the Parents magazine for years to prepare and studied early childhood development. It has payed off and my children are happy, fun, confident and loved. Good question.
absolutely!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It normally is, but when I got pregnant with my first I never went... I grew up around babies... I have 3 sisters and the second to the oldest had her first baby when I was 11 or 12... After that babies was being born one after another from all 3 sisters...I helped take care of all of them... When you count all of them together there was 7 babies all around me that I had to take care of... So I already knew what I was getting myself into... If your new with babies you should really check in on taking classes... Now you count all the grand babies my mother and father has you will get a total of 12... Yeah, we have a big family... I have 2 brothers that haven't even had kids yet... If you feel more comfortable with taking classes then you should.... Where I'm from they suggest that you should take them....
It would be nice but who would pay for it? Not everyone has extra cash to pay for a parenting class. Also no one wants to pay MORE taxes for a community funded class.
we don't get an instruction manual from the hospital do we ... and most classes can't and don't teach you basic instinct...your learning daily along with your child what is a perfect class method may not work for your child.
I think so, with some people. I took two years of child care. I wasn't PREFECTLY prepaired but I was close. I asked my fiance most of the questions who has two boys with a previous marrage and my friends answered a lot of questions too. I didn't turn to my mom, I didn't like how she raise me so I at least know what NOT to do!
Yes because kids are having kids so early and dont even know how to take care of a child
Yes i think it would be a good idea as it may reduce the numbers of child abuse and such things because then young people won't just been thrown in the deep end like they are now!
It really should because some people raise their kids/kid the wrong way and I think that it would be a good essential for parents too.
I feel that we should have never been given the free will to procreate. To me it is a privilege that not all people deserve. Just watch the local news...you'll see why I feel this way.
Many schools are now requiring students to take a look a parenthood before (hopefully) it happens to them. The students are given a doll that has be pre-programmed with typical baby behaviors and as a couple the students deal with day to day life with a ';baby';. So far most of the classes are eye-openers for the kids.
Parents need to become more involved, churches and other family members, too. American families have become smaller, and the chance to take care of a younger sibling are becoming fewer. Families move more often, so the community in which they are raised is lost.
We have all grown further apart. I don't think the government should become involved in raising our children. We all need to become more involved with our own children. Used to be grandparents could step in with child care to help young couples take a breather in child rearing. It takes two to earn a living now a days. But the extended family is disappearing.
I do believe life classes in high school are very beneficial for young people.
I do not think it should be a mandatory thing, but it is not a bad idea. Especially for those who have never spent time with children. I myself took several babysitting classes as a teen and watched kids in the summer and on weekends all the time. My mother also ran a daycare so I had lots of experience with children.
Absolutely, but boy would that be difficult to enforce.
Yes it should expecially for guys because it is hard for them to adjust to a baby and girls have been carrying them for 9 months.
Sounds like a great idea. But what if the classes forced someone else's values on you as a parent?
Yes it should. Parenting is a tough, tough job with NO PAY!! You do get rewards in your children's faces though.
yup. Cuz then maybe teenagers will stop throwing their kids in trashcans or tying them to radiators or leaving them for dead cuz they are starving while they out having sex or going to clubs. At the same token, the classes help anybody to maintain a healthy relationship between parent and child. Im grown and i had 3 kids before i took a parenting class and it helped me. They teach you how to deal with everything, including your own anger management and situations that arise with every child. They are very helpful. I had no patience with my kids, thats why i took one. It was best for me and ended up being best for them.
Yes!!! it might reduce the number of stupid parents that are out there.
Good parenting skills or not?
I am sending my daughter to a hardcore ghetto preschool.
We live in the suburbs, but we will drive to the city everyday.
She is small for her age, blonde, and white.
We just want to toughen her up a little bit for her later years.
I think it's an awesome idea. If she gets hurt, she can learn to
';rub some dirt in it';. Whaddya think?Good parenting skills or not?
Its a good idea. i grew up in the city but when i was 10 we moved to the country and it was a great experiance to live a ';tougher'; country life and i guess the ghetto is the next best thing.Good parenting skills or not?
These types of questions seem wasteful and offensive.
While you want to let your child learn to fend for themselves and to learn to be independant this doesnt really make sense.
';hard core, ghetto preschool' seems like something a parent, or anyone, would use as a descriptive term.
Edit::
by the way, checking my answer as negative further shows that you are wasteful.
Please keep in mind the legibility of this question. It would seem unthinkable to deliberately put your child in danger or risk when you know the conditions.
Please be mature.
Wow !!
I'd love to see you in a hardcore preschool !!
I hope you are kidding.
We live in the suburbs, but we will drive to the city everyday.
She is small for her age, blonde, and white.
We just want to toughen her up a little bit for her later years.
I think it's an awesome idea. If she gets hurt, she can learn to
';rub some dirt in it';. Whaddya think?Good parenting skills or not?
Its a good idea. i grew up in the city but when i was 10 we moved to the country and it was a great experiance to live a ';tougher'; country life and i guess the ghetto is the next best thing.Good parenting skills or not?
These types of questions seem wasteful and offensive.
While you want to let your child learn to fend for themselves and to learn to be independant this doesnt really make sense.
';hard core, ghetto preschool' seems like something a parent, or anyone, would use as a descriptive term.
Edit::
by the way, checking my answer as negative further shows that you are wasteful.
Please keep in mind the legibility of this question. It would seem unthinkable to deliberately put your child in danger or risk when you know the conditions.
Please be mature.
Wow !!
I'd love to see you in a hardcore preschool !!
I hope you are kidding.
Should parenting classes be compulsory?
so many of the problems in our society, whether it be anti-social behaviour, basic bad manners and lack of respect, or mre serious crimes can usually be traced down to a poor upbringing. then these children breed and hence no idea to instill values in their kids.
If parenting classes were compulsory every five years to help parents raise children and deal with issues of development that occur within childhood and adolescence, then i am sure this could help society as a whole. and this is for all parents, not just ';bad'; ones!
The incentive to attend? - no child benefit if you don't!
your thoughts please!Should parenting classes be compulsory?
Yes, yes, yes!!!!!Should parenting classes be compulsory?
Absolutely and if you don't pass, the child has to be supervised at all times until you do! And I wouldn't take away the childs benifits, they did nothing wrong. I just feel so bad for half the children being born out there...
You should have to take a test and get a license after so many hours experience before you can even conceive, but unfortunately, that is not enforceable in any sense.
Absolutely an idea that should have been adopted sixty years ago! Start when they're 13!
Only for those who want children.
If parenting classes were compulsory every five years to help parents raise children and deal with issues of development that occur within childhood and adolescence, then i am sure this could help society as a whole. and this is for all parents, not just ';bad'; ones!
The incentive to attend? - no child benefit if you don't!
your thoughts please!Should parenting classes be compulsory?
Yes, yes, yes!!!!!Should parenting classes be compulsory?
Absolutely and if you don't pass, the child has to be supervised at all times until you do! And I wouldn't take away the childs benifits, they did nothing wrong. I just feel so bad for half the children being born out there...
You should have to take a test and get a license after so many hours experience before you can even conceive, but unfortunately, that is not enforceable in any sense.
Absolutely an idea that should have been adopted sixty years ago! Start when they're 13!
Only for those who want children.
Hi - which are the most popular baby/parenting-related blogs that a mom with a newborn baby could read ?
Cafemom.comHi - which are the most popular baby/parenting-related blogs that a mom with a newborn baby could read ?
You can always look at mine. ;)
It's fairly new, and it's not exclusively about parenting, but I have links to other mom-written blogs on the side. My blog is:
http://www.ivechangedmynametomommy.blogs鈥?/a>
If you are looking for more of an informational website type thing try www.babycenter.com or www.parenting.com.
You can always look at mine. ;)
It's fairly new, and it's not exclusively about parenting, but I have links to other mom-written blogs on the side. My blog is:
http://www.ivechangedmynametomommy.blogs鈥?/a>
If you are looking for more of an informational website type thing try www.babycenter.com or www.parenting.com.
Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
because I just got told to take my happy azz back to the babysitting section, or wherever I came from. That's an insult, right?
PQ: Is babysitting and parenting the same thing? (News to me, lol)Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
News to me, too.
I am more interested in the fact that you have a happy azz !!!!
How is this accomplished?because I want a happy azz!
ETA:
did you notice that I changed my name ?
If I speak it, it makes it so !
yeay, a club !!!!
Mom to Boy + 1 ! ~~~we should follow her and thumb her up over in football !!!Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
babysitting and parenting are cousins..lol
but seriously how does one get a happy azz? do you eat fairys and rainbows and drink tons of giggle juice or something.. because I want one..lol
Dont listen to the haters Nina... theres always gonna be someone somewhere whos not happy unless attempting to make everyone else miserable
I am gone for a week and still have this dam TC Badge =(
Anyways yes that is a insult LOL Sounds like a school yard insult though LOL.
And babysitting and parenting are no where near the same thing. At least i do not think so.
ETA
LMAO Judo And Nina LOL
LOL Why not judo lets go LOL
Yes, parenting is just glorified babysitting. Lol, but those lucky babysitters get to go home!
lol... last time I checked it was called 'Parenting' and I would be insulted by that.
PQ: I don't think so.
Yay, that's when you know you're doing a good job over there in the Football section!
Where you talking about Bret again? I do have to say you have some knowledge of the game.
im just sitting back admiring yours and judos happy azzes. they are mighty sweet from my view
There isn't even a babysitting section on here... shows what they know.
PQ: NO... not the same thing!
lol...you crack me up. They apparently didn't like what you told them. :D
Parenting, cant you read or are you just a dumb babysitter
PQ: Is babysitting and parenting the same thing? (News to me, lol)Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
News to me, too.
I am more interested in the fact that you have a happy azz !!!!
How is this accomplished?because I want a happy azz!
ETA:
did you notice that I changed my name ?
If I speak it, it makes it so !
yeay, a club !!!!
Mom to Boy + 1 ! ~~~we should follow her and thumb her up over in football !!!Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
babysitting and parenting are cousins..lol
but seriously how does one get a happy azz? do you eat fairys and rainbows and drink tons of giggle juice or something.. because I want one..lol
Dont listen to the haters Nina... theres always gonna be someone somewhere whos not happy unless attempting to make everyone else miserable
I am gone for a week and still have this dam TC Badge =(
Anyways yes that is a insult LOL Sounds like a school yard insult though LOL.
And babysitting and parenting are no where near the same thing. At least i do not think so.
ETA
LMAO Judo And Nina LOL
LOL Why not judo lets go LOL
Yes, parenting is just glorified babysitting. Lol, but those lucky babysitters get to go home!
lol... last time I checked it was called 'Parenting' and I would be insulted by that.
PQ: I don't think so.
Yay, that's when you know you're doing a good job over there in the Football section!
Where you talking about Bret again? I do have to say you have some knowledge of the game.
im just sitting back admiring yours and judos happy azzes. they are mighty sweet from my view
There isn't even a babysitting section on here... shows what they know.
PQ: NO... not the same thing!
lol...you crack me up. They apparently didn't like what you told them. :D
Parenting, cant you read or are you just a dumb babysitter
Parenting Help! I need some advice! 10 points for a good answer?
My 16 year old kid has behaved horribly ever since i got divorsed. He got expelled for running into the girls bathroom and then punching a girl. He and his Girlfriend were caught skinny dipping. What should i do?Parenting Help! I need some advice! 10 points for a good answer?
Talk to him. Spend time with him. You need to help him deal with his anger.Parenting Help! I need some advice! 10 points for a good answer?
he very angry child. Separation or divorce or any major changes in a child life can set off an imbalance. Maybe seek counseling for him so that he can talk it out. The dirty mag, is not an aggressive action, and you should focus on the safety issues first. Add to the separation of his parents and and teen hormone changes.
You have your hands full.
But counseling would be best do to the safety issues you are faced with him.
The fact that he punched someone, especially since it was a female, he needs to be in counseling and be thankful that he didn't get in legal trouble. Sometimes 16 is old enough to be considered an adult in matters like this. He needs counseling for sure because he's acting out.
If he punched a girl i would defiantly get him in to some counseling. he is lucky he is not in juvenile or jail. You need to get him help or he will be another statistic in prison for being a woman beater!
See my video on listening: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGnsxRtdK鈥?/a>
Listening is the #1 parenting skill; humour is the #1 coping skill
Good luck.
P.S. Good for you for not mentioning the Playboy.
Buy him a stained up ';wife-beater';, a 12 pack, and a pack of rolling papers. It might not fix his behavior, but at least he'd be more comfortable.
Take out a belt . Take away everything and spend time with him . Like going to a diner an talking about the situitions
Give him chocolate and tell him he is a good kid.
Talk to him. Spend time with him. You need to help him deal with his anger.Parenting Help! I need some advice! 10 points for a good answer?
he very angry child. Separation or divorce or any major changes in a child life can set off an imbalance. Maybe seek counseling for him so that he can talk it out. The dirty mag, is not an aggressive action, and you should focus on the safety issues first. Add to the separation of his parents and and teen hormone changes.
You have your hands full.
But counseling would be best do to the safety issues you are faced with him.
The fact that he punched someone, especially since it was a female, he needs to be in counseling and be thankful that he didn't get in legal trouble. Sometimes 16 is old enough to be considered an adult in matters like this. He needs counseling for sure because he's acting out.
If he punched a girl i would defiantly get him in to some counseling. he is lucky he is not in juvenile or jail. You need to get him help or he will be another statistic in prison for being a woman beater!
See my video on listening: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGnsxRtdK鈥?/a>
Listening is the #1 parenting skill; humour is the #1 coping skill
Good luck.
P.S. Good for you for not mentioning the Playboy.
Buy him a stained up ';wife-beater';, a 12 pack, and a pack of rolling papers. It might not fix his behavior, but at least he'd be more comfortable.
Take out a belt . Take away everything and spend time with him . Like going to a diner an talking about the situitions
Give him chocolate and tell him he is a good kid.
Please Help me find information about Child-rearing (parenting) in Brazil!!?
I cant seem to find anything good!!! Please help me find a website with information about childrearing in Brazil!!Please Help me find information about Child-rearing (parenting) in Brazil!!?
You're right. When you search ';childrearing in brazil';, nothing really comes up.
But when I tried ';parenting in Brazil'; in the Yahoo search engine, I was able to find a lot more than the childrearing search.
Here is one article:
http://www.boloji.com/wfs2/wfs236.htm
And here are a couple more links...
http://www.nelrc.org/changeagent/pdf/iss鈥?/a>
http://www.nelrc.org/changeagent/pdf/iss鈥?/a>
(read the article on page 42: ';Parenting in Brazil and the U.S. by Carmelinda Silva)
http://homeport.tcs.tulane.edu/~rouxbee/鈥?/a>
Hope this helps!
You're right. When you search ';childrearing in brazil';, nothing really comes up.
But when I tried ';parenting in Brazil'; in the Yahoo search engine, I was able to find a lot more than the childrearing search.
Here is one article:
http://www.boloji.com/wfs2/wfs236.htm
And here are a couple more links...
http://www.nelrc.org/changeagent/pdf/iss鈥?/a>
http://www.nelrc.org/changeagent/pdf/iss鈥?/a>
(read the article on page 42: ';Parenting in Brazil and the U.S. by Carmelinda Silva)
http://homeport.tcs.tulane.edu/~rouxbee/鈥?/a>
Hope this helps!
Can anyone tell me what the single parenting income is like in australia?
i have a 7 month old girl and a baby on the way...Can anyone tell me what the single parenting income is like in australia?
I will look it up now and update in a minute.
Ok - for 2 children, single, no income at all and paying rent of $200 per week (I just did it for this amount as my friend pays this).... it would be:
$539.70 Family Assistance (this includes $127 rent)
$537.70 Income Support Payment
You get one payment one week and then the other the following week and so on and so on.
You would also be entitled to a Concession Card which gives you discounts on utilities, car registration, public transport, and gives you access to free bulk billed medical care and $5.00 prescriptions from the chemist.Can anyone tell me what the single parenting income is like in australia?
Are you asking what Centrelinks Single Parent Pension is like? This is hard to say as it depends on the childrens father and how much maintenance you get and do you have a job? I have 1 child and my ex pays minimum maintenance (at least he is supposed to) which is a pittyful $27.50 per month and I get the pension which is about $400 or something like that and then I get tax A and tax B so I have around $670 a fortnight but Centrelink will means test you to work out how much you get.
it depends
it is around $550 a fortnight and family assistance is about $400pf. That is before rent assistance. As your kids are under 5 it is actually more as the amount drops when they turn 5. Go to Centrelink and have a chat to them
I am going on what I get but I am on disability (you get a little less) and get part A and B and I get no money from any father
Roughly $145.00 per child + rent assistance for example if you pay $200.00 per week it is around $80-$120 a fortnight.It really does depend on how many children what rent you pay and if you are working or not then they work out a family allowance.This is just an estimation it is a very low income
uh it depends on the job
Same as in Japan
idk im real sorry i hope you forgive me for not knowing :(
what like the nations average income, or the welfare office payouts?lipcolor
I will look it up now and update in a minute.
Ok - for 2 children, single, no income at all and paying rent of $200 per week (I just did it for this amount as my friend pays this).... it would be:
$539.70 Family Assistance (this includes $127 rent)
$537.70 Income Support Payment
You get one payment one week and then the other the following week and so on and so on.
You would also be entitled to a Concession Card which gives you discounts on utilities, car registration, public transport, and gives you access to free bulk billed medical care and $5.00 prescriptions from the chemist.Can anyone tell me what the single parenting income is like in australia?
Are you asking what Centrelinks Single Parent Pension is like? This is hard to say as it depends on the childrens father and how much maintenance you get and do you have a job? I have 1 child and my ex pays minimum maintenance (at least he is supposed to) which is a pittyful $27.50 per month and I get the pension which is about $400 or something like that and then I get tax A and tax B so I have around $670 a fortnight but Centrelink will means test you to work out how much you get.
it depends
it is around $550 a fortnight and family assistance is about $400pf. That is before rent assistance. As your kids are under 5 it is actually more as the amount drops when they turn 5. Go to Centrelink and have a chat to them
I am going on what I get but I am on disability (you get a little less) and get part A and B and I get no money from any father
Roughly $145.00 per child + rent assistance for example if you pay $200.00 per week it is around $80-$120 a fortnight.It really does depend on how many children what rent you pay and if you are working or not then they work out a family allowance.This is just an estimation it is a very low income
uh it depends on the job
Same as in Japan
idk im real sorry i hope you forgive me for not knowing :(
what like the nations average income, or the welfare office payouts?
I asked this last night in the parenting section but had no answers. are there any good books that are?
pretty much available at any library for first time moms? that are about what to expect in th last trimester, when you bring your child home from the hospital for the first month or so, those types of things. please give me some titles that I call to see if they have. thank you in advanceI asked this last night in the parenting section but had no answers. are there any good books that are?
The ';What to Expect......'; Books are ok, but I didn't really like them all that much. I like Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care, it's an older one, but it makes sense. It's more of a child rearing book then a pregnancy book, but it's the only book that I actually keep in my living room, I refer to it all the time.
For pregnancy I loved ';Husband-Coached Childbirth'; by Dr. Robert Bradley. I was planning on using the Bradley Method for childbirth.
I also LOVED ';From The Hips'; by Rebecca Odes and Ceridwen Morris. It gave real life advice and stories, uses simple language and things that I could easily envision. For example, I can't visualize that the baby is '; about 30 centimeters'; but I can visualize that the baby is ';about the size of a bottle of shampoo';. It speaks frankly about the birth and pain relief (including c-sections) and gives real life advice for recovery. That was by far my favorite pregnancy book.I asked this last night in the parenting section but had no answers. are there any good books that are?
From Here to Maternity: Confessions of a first time mother by Carol Weston.
I found it at my library and it was very good. It described her experience with pregnancy, birth, and bringing the baby home. I loved it. It made me even more excited to go through this experience. I HIGHLY recommend it.
Not sure if it is available in the library, however I got the ';Pregnancy Bible'; from Barnes and Nobles. If you go on Amazon books you could probably find used for really cheap. I am at work so not sure of author but its a fairly popular one and has the last 5 or so chapters dedicated to 3rd trimester and beyond. Hope this helps!
they have what to expect the first year. its basically from the time you bring your baby home till he/she is about 1 years old. my mother in law has that book and i was reading it and it gives you soooooo much info. i have the what to expect when your expecting and its so in detail... its the best book.
';What to Expect When You're Expecting';
';What to Expect The First Year';
';Your Baby's First Year';
Those were my 3 favorite books while I was pregnant and after I had my son. They had A LOT of useful information and answered a lot of my questions.
Good luck, hope this helps! :)
I had one from my local library that was by far my favorite pregnancy book. I don't remember the authors (two females,) but the title is ';From the Hips.';
Starts pre-pregnancy and goes all the way up to early childhood. Good luck!
what to expect when youre expecting thats a pregnancy bible seriously it has everything as you go month by month and after too i toally recommend that for u
what to expect when you are expecting...goes through everything including after care. They even have what to expect first year, etc.
What to expect the 1st year is good.
I always recommend What to Expect When You Are Expecting. It is an excellent book and I love it.
The ';What to Expect......'; Books are ok, but I didn't really like them all that much. I like Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care, it's an older one, but it makes sense. It's more of a child rearing book then a pregnancy book, but it's the only book that I actually keep in my living room, I refer to it all the time.
For pregnancy I loved ';Husband-Coached Childbirth'; by Dr. Robert Bradley. I was planning on using the Bradley Method for childbirth.
I also LOVED ';From The Hips'; by Rebecca Odes and Ceridwen Morris. It gave real life advice and stories, uses simple language and things that I could easily envision. For example, I can't visualize that the baby is '; about 30 centimeters'; but I can visualize that the baby is ';about the size of a bottle of shampoo';. It speaks frankly about the birth and pain relief (including c-sections) and gives real life advice for recovery. That was by far my favorite pregnancy book.I asked this last night in the parenting section but had no answers. are there any good books that are?
From Here to Maternity: Confessions of a first time mother by Carol Weston.
I found it at my library and it was very good. It described her experience with pregnancy, birth, and bringing the baby home. I loved it. It made me even more excited to go through this experience. I HIGHLY recommend it.
Not sure if it is available in the library, however I got the ';Pregnancy Bible'; from Barnes and Nobles. If you go on Amazon books you could probably find used for really cheap. I am at work so not sure of author but its a fairly popular one and has the last 5 or so chapters dedicated to 3rd trimester and beyond. Hope this helps!
they have what to expect the first year. its basically from the time you bring your baby home till he/she is about 1 years old. my mother in law has that book and i was reading it and it gives you soooooo much info. i have the what to expect when your expecting and its so in detail... its the best book.
';What to Expect When You're Expecting';
';What to Expect The First Year';
';Your Baby's First Year';
Those were my 3 favorite books while I was pregnant and after I had my son. They had A LOT of useful information and answered a lot of my questions.
Good luck, hope this helps! :)
I had one from my local library that was by far my favorite pregnancy book. I don't remember the authors (two females,) but the title is ';From the Hips.';
Starts pre-pregnancy and goes all the way up to early childhood. Good luck!
what to expect when youre expecting thats a pregnancy bible seriously it has everything as you go month by month and after too i toally recommend that for u
what to expect when you are expecting...goes through everything including after care. They even have what to expect first year, etc.
What to expect the 1st year is good.
I always recommend What to Expect When You Are Expecting. It is an excellent book and I love it.
When you are a parent what type of parenting style would you use,authoritative or authoritarian and why?
Authoritative for sure
';Authoritative parents believe in developing a close and nurturing relationship with their children while also upholding and maintaining a reasonably high level of expectations and rules or guidelines. While the most difficult to accomplish, an authoritative parenting style is the healthiest and most well-balanced style in which to raise children.
Authoritative parents develop clear and fair behavioral guidelines for their children. These guidelines are age appropriate and flexible, taking into consideration special circumstances, personality styles and changes that might occur. In other words, they are clear and consistent, but not rigid. The Authoritative parent is a good listener and respects that her relationship with her child is a two-way relationship. She may even encourage her children to make a good argument for her to consider before making a final decision on a heated topic. Arbitrary rules have no place in the authoritative household. But in an authoritative household, the parents will always make the final call. The authoritative parent leads by example, realizing that she is a role-model to her children. But the authoritative parent also acknowledges that no one is perfect, least of all himself or his children and is willing to openly apologize when a situation requires it.
The authoritative parent and his children have a warm, friendly, mutually respectful relationship. Even when there are disagreements, they occur in a respectful way. The child in an authoritative household knows she is loved even when she has upset her parents.
The authoritative parent encourages a child's growing sense of autonomy by slowly increasing the freedoms allowed to the child based on the child's maturity, responsibility and trustworthiness. An authoritative parent's goal is to prepare children to live fully autonomous lives upon adulthood.
As a result of the love and mutual respect shown in an authoritative household, the number of conflicts will be minimal. Punishments will be rare. When they are required, punishment will consist mainly of natural and logical consequences. ';
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When you are a parent what type of parenting style would you use,authoritative or authoritarian and why?
Authoritarian. It provides structure with specific discipline and high expectations for the kids but it usually done in more of a loving setting and kids from these type of parents usually have high self esteem and are also high achievers. When you are a parent what type of parenting style would you use,authoritative or authoritarian and why?
i use firm but fair with my kids. they arent scared of me but they do know not to misbehave otherwise they will be discaplined. and once we've sorted out the issue i dont go on about it, no point in making them feel bad for the rest of the day, (it did me no favours when i was a child)!
A mixture of both.
';Authoritative parents believe in developing a close and nurturing relationship with their children while also upholding and maintaining a reasonably high level of expectations and rules or guidelines. While the most difficult to accomplish, an authoritative parenting style is the healthiest and most well-balanced style in which to raise children.
Authoritative parents develop clear and fair behavioral guidelines for their children. These guidelines are age appropriate and flexible, taking into consideration special circumstances, personality styles and changes that might occur. In other words, they are clear and consistent, but not rigid. The Authoritative parent is a good listener and respects that her relationship with her child is a two-way relationship. She may even encourage her children to make a good argument for her to consider before making a final decision on a heated topic. Arbitrary rules have no place in the authoritative household. But in an authoritative household, the parents will always make the final call. The authoritative parent leads by example, realizing that she is a role-model to her children. But the authoritative parent also acknowledges that no one is perfect, least of all himself or his children and is willing to openly apologize when a situation requires it.
The authoritative parent and his children have a warm, friendly, mutually respectful relationship. Even when there are disagreements, they occur in a respectful way. The child in an authoritative household knows she is loved even when she has upset her parents.
The authoritative parent encourages a child's growing sense of autonomy by slowly increasing the freedoms allowed to the child based on the child's maturity, responsibility and trustworthiness. An authoritative parent's goal is to prepare children to live fully autonomous lives upon adulthood.
As a result of the love and mutual respect shown in an authoritative household, the number of conflicts will be minimal. Punishments will be rare. When they are required, punishment will consist mainly of natural and logical consequences. ';
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When you are a parent what type of parenting style would you use,authoritative or authoritarian and why?
Authoritarian. It provides structure with specific discipline and high expectations for the kids but it usually done in more of a loving setting and kids from these type of parents usually have high self esteem and are also high achievers. When you are a parent what type of parenting style would you use,authoritative or authoritarian and why?
i use firm but fair with my kids. they arent scared of me but they do know not to misbehave otherwise they will be discaplined. and once we've sorted out the issue i dont go on about it, no point in making them feel bad for the rest of the day, (it did me no favours when i was a child)!
A mixture of both.
Has anybody been on the webster stratton parenting course?
Hi,I did the course middle of last year and found it fantastic and very worthwhile.It was great to get together with other parents that are in the same situation-NO JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE,it was fab:)Has anybody been on the webster stratton parenting course?
yes it was fantastic. really friendly people great instructor and gave some excellent ways of coping with and dealing with your child's behaviour
yes it was fantastic. really friendly people great instructor and gave some excellent ways of coping with and dealing with your child's behaviour
';YA is a serious question and answer parenting site'; --agree or disagree?
i've read this line quite a few times yesterday and today, and i wanna know your juicy personal opinions on it.
ready..set...go!';YA is a serious question and answer parenting site'; --agree or disagree?
Yea because I always come here to ask life and death questions, seek serious medical advice, and to rely on some people that have the IQ of a chipmunk.';YA is a serious question and answer parenting site'; --agree or disagree?
I agree and disagree.
YA is not just a parenting site, YA is for all different subjects. I do agree that if people really need help, people should give serious, helpful answers. If they do not know the answer or cannot give decent advice to one of those serious questions, I don't think people should answer.
At other times, though, YA is also fun. We can laugh, talk with friends, and have a good old time trolling those who can't seem to get the forks out of their bums. I don't take YA seriously a lot, but I do try to help those who really need advice. Sometimes it's easier to ask strangers for advice than it is family or friends.
Disagree---
Yahoo is what people make it. If people want some wound tight sight to ask their serious questions on then I am sorry you aren't going to find that here. There is nothing wrong with getting serious once in a while, but honestly how much faith does anyone put in an online forum for parenting advice from complete strangers?
I take everything that is said and done on here with a grain of salt. I have fun and can be serious too but I certainly don't think that it should be stone cold dead serious.
Personally, I love answering the trolls questions, I enjoy asking random questions and I think its funny to read the sarcastic answers.
If you are CONSTANTLY coming on the internet for parenting advice from complete strangers and taking it THAT seriously... you really need to get a life ;)
very serious indeed. These are parents who have questions and we should only have questions about our little ones. i find it quite ridiculous that people play games. this is not a parenting question niether but i will not report it just so i can see who takes parenting and questions and answers seriously.
sometimes. i'm all for the silly questions (not the irritating ones) but i'd leave if there weren't also some good serious ones to balance them out. honestly, the only questions i don't tend to read are the ones the site was probably meant for ... mundane, non-controversial q%26amp;as about the basics of parenting.....
LMAO.....let's see how long this question actually stays up.
Okay let's be honest, sometimes we do ask serious questions and most of us are mature enough to know when a serious answer is required. However I refuse to believe that Y!A is completely devoid of a sense of humor. People who take themselves and life too seriously are boring. Plain and simple.
Having said that, I still wanna know how my ';Up The Nose With A Garden Hose?'; question about nasal extractions violated the hallowed ';Community Guidelines';?!
It can be. Is it always? No. Unfortunately, there are a lot of yahoos (no pun intended) who just fool around on here. There are REAL legit people who use the site as intended though. I enjoy asking and answering questions in a more serious manner. I mean, if someone has a question, even if I think its stupid, why shouldn't I answer it as seriously and as helpful as possible? I try. I really do try.
Sometimes its fun, sometimes serious, sometimes I absolutely hate it!!
I have had serious and helpful advice and also rubbish advice or critism on the same questions.
Then sometimes if I ask a joke question, most people will play along and some will send me hate mail.
It's not a *parenting* site, but it is a question site.
The thing is, as time goes by and we users get to know each other and become friends or enemies, more and more chat questions pop up.
No, this is a ';reassurance'; site. When I ask a question and someone responds ';oh my child did the same thing!'; then I think ';okay, so my boy is normal';. If there is a serious issue- see a doctor (or IM Best Momma).
It should be, I wish it was, but it is the internet and we can't get rid of the people who want to make a joke out of it.
Its a mix of both, I think of it this way if you took everything in life as a parent seriously you would have a heart attack by the time your child is one month old!! LOL
Clearly it is not.
Some questions are serious and some are for fun and some are just people intentionally being annoying.
disagree, I feel that while it was intended for that and some use it as such there are also too many 'trolls' and others who use it to push their beliefs on others
Disagree!!
I still do not get WHY so called Parents come on here, where you have no idea who the fu*k you are asking Q to and ask serious Questions......
Is Best Momma serious?? WTF??
It can be serious sometimes depends what mood some of the Yahooers are in at the time !
Absolutely...just like religion and spirituality.
LMAO! Dis..a..gree!
It's pure entertainment.
im gonna let you all guess my opinion.
ready..set...go!';YA is a serious question and answer parenting site'; --agree or disagree?
Yea because I always come here to ask life and death questions, seek serious medical advice, and to rely on some people that have the IQ of a chipmunk.';YA is a serious question and answer parenting site'; --agree or disagree?
I agree and disagree.
YA is not just a parenting site, YA is for all different subjects. I do agree that if people really need help, people should give serious, helpful answers. If they do not know the answer or cannot give decent advice to one of those serious questions, I don't think people should answer.
At other times, though, YA is also fun. We can laugh, talk with friends, and have a good old time trolling those who can't seem to get the forks out of their bums. I don't take YA seriously a lot, but I do try to help those who really need advice. Sometimes it's easier to ask strangers for advice than it is family or friends.
Disagree---
Yahoo is what people make it. If people want some wound tight sight to ask their serious questions on then I am sorry you aren't going to find that here. There is nothing wrong with getting serious once in a while, but honestly how much faith does anyone put in an online forum for parenting advice from complete strangers?
I take everything that is said and done on here with a grain of salt. I have fun and can be serious too but I certainly don't think that it should be stone cold dead serious.
Personally, I love answering the trolls questions, I enjoy asking random questions and I think its funny to read the sarcastic answers.
If you are CONSTANTLY coming on the internet for parenting advice from complete strangers and taking it THAT seriously... you really need to get a life ;)
very serious indeed. These are parents who have questions and we should only have questions about our little ones. i find it quite ridiculous that people play games. this is not a parenting question niether but i will not report it just so i can see who takes parenting and questions and answers seriously.
sometimes. i'm all for the silly questions (not the irritating ones) but i'd leave if there weren't also some good serious ones to balance them out. honestly, the only questions i don't tend to read are the ones the site was probably meant for ... mundane, non-controversial q%26amp;as about the basics of parenting.....
LMAO.....let's see how long this question actually stays up.
Okay let's be honest, sometimes we do ask serious questions and most of us are mature enough to know when a serious answer is required. However I refuse to believe that Y!A is completely devoid of a sense of humor. People who take themselves and life too seriously are boring. Plain and simple.
Having said that, I still wanna know how my ';Up The Nose With A Garden Hose?'; question about nasal extractions violated the hallowed ';Community Guidelines';?!
It can be. Is it always? No. Unfortunately, there are a lot of yahoos (no pun intended) who just fool around on here. There are REAL legit people who use the site as intended though. I enjoy asking and answering questions in a more serious manner. I mean, if someone has a question, even if I think its stupid, why shouldn't I answer it as seriously and as helpful as possible? I try. I really do try.
Sometimes its fun, sometimes serious, sometimes I absolutely hate it!!
I have had serious and helpful advice and also rubbish advice or critism on the same questions.
Then sometimes if I ask a joke question, most people will play along and some will send me hate mail.
It's not a *parenting* site, but it is a question site.
The thing is, as time goes by and we users get to know each other and become friends or enemies, more and more chat questions pop up.
No, this is a ';reassurance'; site. When I ask a question and someone responds ';oh my child did the same thing!'; then I think ';okay, so my boy is normal';. If there is a serious issue- see a doctor (or IM Best Momma).
It should be, I wish it was, but it is the internet and we can't get rid of the people who want to make a joke out of it.
Its a mix of both, I think of it this way if you took everything in life as a parent seriously you would have a heart attack by the time your child is one month old!! LOL
Clearly it is not.
Some questions are serious and some are for fun and some are just people intentionally being annoying.
disagree, I feel that while it was intended for that and some use it as such there are also too many 'trolls' and others who use it to push their beliefs on others
Disagree!!
I still do not get WHY so called Parents come on here, where you have no idea who the fu*k you are asking Q to and ask serious Questions......
Is Best Momma serious?? WTF??
It can be serious sometimes depends what mood some of the Yahooers are in at the time !
Absolutely...just like religion and spirituality.
LMAO! Dis..a..gree!
It's pure entertainment.
im gonna let you all guess my opinion.
Hi do yous go to your parenting classes Before your baby's born?
I never got to go to any of them,I was worried about knowing how to breath when i went in to labour,But i found it all came naturally to me.So 4 kids on i don't feel there essential Hi do yous go to your parenting classes Before your baby's born?
hahaah my were booked in and started on my 38th week I made a point to the midwives that tis was no good as the last one was 3 weeks after my due date even if I was late I wouldn't make it any way I intended on going to the first two but my baby was born 37+6 so no I didn't go .. many people recommended it but I didn't think I missed out.
I was not unrealistic about what to expect or scared but I few girls I worked with due around the same time panicked alot so it helped them these are also the same sort of women that called the midwife or doctor regarding every hiccup heheh I have always been a little more relaxed. I think videos of others giving birth is pointless it would put me off and its too late to turn back now heheh
I never even got a tour of the hospital as I was not told were I was going to be going until I rung up in labour . Hi do yous go to your parenting classes Before your baby's born?
i think i would definately liek to go when i fainally concieve, i think it would be nice to meet other expectant familes also (in th uk they are called anenatal classes)
i know when my auntie went to hers the couples were told to lie back, close their eyes and concentrate on their breathing, which they did and my auntie and hubby fell alseep!! they woke up 2 every 1 peering over them hahaha. xxx
I wasn't going to go, but my mother insisted that me and my husband attend the one day class. We did, I found it very informational and I'm glad we went, because we got a tour of the rooms and I felt more comfortable with getting medications if I needed them.
I went to the first one and was bored the whole way through, so I didn't bother with anymore. And I managed to give birth to a healthy baby girl. When I have another baby, I won't bother with them again.
i agree with u, they are a waste of time, and waste of nhs money, the money should be used towards neonatal i think! you find ur own comfort zone in labour x
all i done was pregnancy yoga %26amp; a breastfeeding course, so got some useful tips, but i feel most of parenting is based on your own Intuition!! 鈾? 鈾? 鈾? 鈾?br>
I never went to any, I went with the flow and read loads of advice on Yahoo! Answers.
I don't feel their necessary as we are made to give birth so it most probably comes naturally to us.
hahaah my were booked in and started on my 38th week I made a point to the midwives that tis was no good as the last one was 3 weeks after my due date even if I was late I wouldn't make it any way I intended on going to the first two but my baby was born 37+6 so no I didn't go .. many people recommended it but I didn't think I missed out.
I was not unrealistic about what to expect or scared but I few girls I worked with due around the same time panicked alot so it helped them these are also the same sort of women that called the midwife or doctor regarding every hiccup heheh I have always been a little more relaxed. I think videos of others giving birth is pointless it would put me off and its too late to turn back now heheh
I never even got a tour of the hospital as I was not told were I was going to be going until I rung up in labour . Hi do yous go to your parenting classes Before your baby's born?
i think i would definately liek to go when i fainally concieve, i think it would be nice to meet other expectant familes also (in th uk they are called anenatal classes)
i know when my auntie went to hers the couples were told to lie back, close their eyes and concentrate on their breathing, which they did and my auntie and hubby fell alseep!! they woke up 2 every 1 peering over them hahaha. xxx
I wasn't going to go, but my mother insisted that me and my husband attend the one day class. We did, I found it very informational and I'm glad we went, because we got a tour of the rooms and I felt more comfortable with getting medications if I needed them.
I went to the first one and was bored the whole way through, so I didn't bother with anymore. And I managed to give birth to a healthy baby girl. When I have another baby, I won't bother with them again.
i agree with u, they are a waste of time, and waste of nhs money, the money should be used towards neonatal i think! you find ur own comfort zone in labour x
all i done was pregnancy yoga %26amp; a breastfeeding course, so got some useful tips, but i feel most of parenting is based on your own Intuition!! 鈾? 鈾? 鈾? 鈾?br>
I never went to any, I went with the flow and read loads of advice on Yahoo! Answers.
I don't feel their necessary as we are made to give birth so it most probably comes naturally to us.
POLL: Dependant care expenses with shared parenting?
If you have a 50/50 shared parenting agreement, generally both parents split the cost of day care. However, only one parent can claim the child as a dependant. Is there anyway for the parent who is not claiming the child to write off their half of the dependant care expenses?POLL: Dependant care expenses with shared parenting?
* calls Tom Daschle* ....... even he says no...POLL: Dependant care expenses with shared parenting?
With 50% custody, the children, in theory, do not spend more nights with either parent. Therefore, neither parent could claim the daycare expenses w/o coming to a mutual agreement. In which case, the agreement should include taking turns claiming it and not just 1/2 but the full amount.
No. Only the custodial parent (the parent with whom the child spends more nights) is allowed to take the dependent care credit.
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Don't think so.
I've heard of parents in this situation claiming the dependent for alternating years.
I paid out the schlong on this one for years, if they haven't changed the laws, no you can't/lipcolor
* calls Tom Daschle* ....... even he says no...POLL: Dependant care expenses with shared parenting?
With 50% custody, the children, in theory, do not spend more nights with either parent. Therefore, neither parent could claim the daycare expenses w/o coming to a mutual agreement. In which case, the agreement should include taking turns claiming it and not just 1/2 but the full amount.
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No. Only the custodial parent (the parent with whom the child spends more nights) is allowed to take the dependent care credit.
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Don't think so.
I've heard of parents in this situation claiming the dependent for alternating years.
I paid out the schlong on this one for years, if they haven't changed the laws, no you can't/
Is giving a 7 year old kid laughing gas for a dental appointment good parenting (link inside)?
Or are you like me that finds this the funniest thing EVAR!?
Can you say nas/whip its?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=txqiwrbYG鈥?/a>Is giving a 7 year old kid laughing gas for a dental appointment good parenting (link inside)?
Wheaty!!!
Do you actually think you would be a better parent, if you wouldn't let your child have laughing gas for a dental appointment?? Even laughing gas doesn't help !! It surely doesn't make me laugh...and I may get a head rush for about 50 seconds...but don't you think maybe a little demerol would do the trick even better??
The truth is...I ask to be put to sleep...because I don't like the torture of even opening up the door to the dentist office!! Yes, I surly can say
nas/whip its!!! Be an extra good parent, and make sure going to the dentist isn't a tramatic experience, and possibly the dentist will have some laughing gas for you!! LOL
Love you Wheaty~~ xoxo agoodgirl_msjIs giving a 7 year old kid laughing gas for a dental appointment good parenting (link inside)?
The sad thing is they put it on youtube thinking it was funny! the parents need help!
Can you say nas/whip its?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=txqiwrbYG鈥?/a>Is giving a 7 year old kid laughing gas for a dental appointment good parenting (link inside)?
Wheaty!!!
Do you actually think you would be a better parent, if you wouldn't let your child have laughing gas for a dental appointment?? Even laughing gas doesn't help !! It surely doesn't make me laugh...and I may get a head rush for about 50 seconds...but don't you think maybe a little demerol would do the trick even better??
The truth is...I ask to be put to sleep...because I don't like the torture of even opening up the door to the dentist office!! Yes, I surly can say
nas/whip its!!! Be an extra good parent, and make sure going to the dentist isn't a tramatic experience, and possibly the dentist will have some laughing gas for you!! LOL
Love you Wheaty~~ xoxo agoodgirl_msjIs giving a 7 year old kid laughing gas for a dental appointment good parenting (link inside)?
The sad thing is they put it on youtube thinking it was funny! the parents need help!
Is it good parenting if you say ';you live in my house under my rules';?
Shouldn't parents just say ';I'm your Mom/Dad so you have to listen to me cause I know more'; or ';I'm older and more experienced than you';.Is it good parenting if you say ';you live in my house under my rules';?
Actually neither is really a good parent.
Explaining why the rules are there and consistently enforcing them.Is it good parenting if you say ';you live in my house under my rules';?
Since I am head of household I do set rules which for every member to obey. As long as they reasonable (do not walk in street shoes on carpet, clean after yourself, if you delayed - call etc) nothing wrong if I remind someone who forget about them. Do that because I am (older, a dad/mother etc) is not exactly good. Better explanation needed ASAP. Say call home if you late not because I am dad, but because someone at home may be worried
Edit: Why do you have to escalate situation to this point? You live in the house, you know the rules. If you do not understand, politely ask for explanation when emotions cool off
Edit: To Naomi: You live the house and go where???
If at all possible parents should provide a logical explanation, such as you can't jump on the bed as you may get hurt, you must be quiet in stores so you don't annoy other people, and you must be home by whatever time because the city curfew law demands it. Any reason that is simply a form of ';because I said so.'; should be used when it is not possible to give a logical explanation.
I do not think so. I think that you have to communicate with your kids. Things are not as simple as do it, I know best. It is unreasonable and frustrating to the kids. I will listen to their side but I still make the rules. Sometimes it does need to be looked at from their point of view.
yup Parents should say';I'm your Mom/Dad so you have to listen to me cause I know more'; or ';I'm older and more experienced than you';. because if my mom said ';you live in my house under my rules would'; I would have left the house!!!
yes..u should! i think kids nowadays too spoilt that they lack of respect to their parents..and talk about kids right. i dont believe in kids right. kids should always listent o their parents.
Yes, you absolutely right!..that's what good parenting does.
definitely your doing your joband doing it for the better. In a way they need to know who's ';boss';
sure
that's what they should do
Actually neither is really a good parent.
Explaining why the rules are there and consistently enforcing them.Is it good parenting if you say ';you live in my house under my rules';?
Since I am head of household I do set rules which for every member to obey. As long as they reasonable (do not walk in street shoes on carpet, clean after yourself, if you delayed - call etc) nothing wrong if I remind someone who forget about them. Do that because I am (older, a dad/mother etc) is not exactly good. Better explanation needed ASAP. Say call home if you late not because I am dad, but because someone at home may be worried
Edit: Why do you have to escalate situation to this point? You live in the house, you know the rules. If you do not understand, politely ask for explanation when emotions cool off
Edit: To Naomi: You live the house and go where???
If at all possible parents should provide a logical explanation, such as you can't jump on the bed as you may get hurt, you must be quiet in stores so you don't annoy other people, and you must be home by whatever time because the city curfew law demands it. Any reason that is simply a form of ';because I said so.'; should be used when it is not possible to give a logical explanation.
I do not think so. I think that you have to communicate with your kids. Things are not as simple as do it, I know best. It is unreasonable and frustrating to the kids. I will listen to their side but I still make the rules. Sometimes it does need to be looked at from their point of view.
yup Parents should say';I'm your Mom/Dad so you have to listen to me cause I know more'; or ';I'm older and more experienced than you';. because if my mom said ';you live in my house under my rules would'; I would have left the house!!!
yes..u should! i think kids nowadays too spoilt that they lack of respect to their parents..and talk about kids right. i dont believe in kids right. kids should always listent o their parents.
Yes, you absolutely right!..that's what good parenting does.
definitely your doing your joband doing it for the better. In a way they need to know who's ';boss';
sure
that's what they should do
What is attachment parenting?
and what are the benefits?What is attachment parenting?
Hi Sweetie!
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not every attachment parenting skill is the same though.
I do everything but sleep in the same bed and I quit breast feeding and use disposable diapers, Lol. I still dont CIO and I wear my baby. mix it to fit your family.What is attachment parenting?
Attachment parenting, a phrase coined by pediatrician William Sears,[1] is a parenting philosophy based on the principles of the attachment theory in developmental psychology. According to attachment theory, a strong emotional bond with parents during childhood, also known as a secure attachment, is a precursor of secure, empathic relationships in adulthood. Failure to form this early childhood parental bond will ostensibly give rise to reactive attachment disorder, the symptoms of which are defined differently by Attachment Parenting International[2] and the DSM-IV definition.[citation needed]
Many proponents of attachment parenting as conceived by Sears seek to distance themselves from the attachment parenting that is sometimes used as an adjunct to attachment therapy[3]. However, the term ';attachment parenting'; itself is increasingly co-opted by proponents of controversial techniques conventionally associated with attachment therapy such as Nancy Thomas [4], whose AP methods differ from those of William Sears.
The parent/child bond is a critical foundation for a parent's and child's developing relationship. The quality of this attachment affects a parent's ability to comfort a child and for the child to be comforted by the parent, to discipline, to nurture, etc. For various reasons, new parents sometimes have trouble ';bonding'; or ';attaching'; with a young child. When that happens, attachment parenting is appropriate to help the bonding to occur and to develop.
The first time I asked the question I googled it and found out that most of the things suggested I did anyways already:
Breastfeeding, not letting my child cry herself into sleep, which requires sometimes co-sleeping and child wearing, making my own baby food, cloth diapering. A lot of these options I chose simply because they were cheaper or more practical than the alternative.
I didn't manage elimination communication, that is sensing ahead of time, when baby has a bowel movement coming and holding baby over the toilet in time. However, that's not an essential part of attachment parenting.
Gentle discipline and homeschooling are not much of an issue yet, since my daughter is just 10 months old.I'm planning on the first one, but haven't made up my mind on the second one yet.
So to me it seems Attachment Parenting is pretty much normal, loving parenting with a fancy name attached to it.
Attachment parenting is a way of letting your child be attached to you not a new concept, although there are varying degrees of it.
Some include but aren't limited to:
Cloth diapering, baby wearing, breast feeding, gentle discipline, co-sleeping, non circumcising, non vaccinating, preservative free organic diets, home schooling.
There are some great attachment parenting groups on cafemom if you have more questions.
Socially the children are aloud to develop at their own pace and their own needs are met more, a baby that is left in its crib to cry its self to sleep does not gain trust from its parents but feels alone and neglected, in return causing trauma and developmental delays (just as an example) nourishing your childs strengths and helping them through their weaknesses with love and care is what god had in mind for us mothers.
Attachment parents usually breastfeed, co sleep, baby wear, sometimes use cloth diapers or teach sign language to their babies. Their babies are usually ';attached'; to them most of the time. Not usually in a stroller or baby chair.
There are definately benefits for mom and baby. I find that when I'm wearing my twin 4 month old boys they are happier and so am I because I can get more things done. My 3 year old son seemed more secure with the AP lifestyle.
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T13030鈥?/a>
i never heard of it either, but check this out
I know one thing there cut baby';s take care of then and love them from the heart nothing more
read Dr. Sear's ';The Baby Book';
baby siiting 30$ a year.
Hi Sweetie!
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/t13030鈥?/a>
not every attachment parenting skill is the same though.
I do everything but sleep in the same bed and I quit breast feeding and use disposable diapers, Lol. I still dont CIO and I wear my baby. mix it to fit your family.What is attachment parenting?
Attachment parenting, a phrase coined by pediatrician William Sears,[1] is a parenting philosophy based on the principles of the attachment theory in developmental psychology. According to attachment theory, a strong emotional bond with parents during childhood, also known as a secure attachment, is a precursor of secure, empathic relationships in adulthood. Failure to form this early childhood parental bond will ostensibly give rise to reactive attachment disorder, the symptoms of which are defined differently by Attachment Parenting International[2] and the DSM-IV definition.[citation needed]
Many proponents of attachment parenting as conceived by Sears seek to distance themselves from the attachment parenting that is sometimes used as an adjunct to attachment therapy[3]. However, the term ';attachment parenting'; itself is increasingly co-opted by proponents of controversial techniques conventionally associated with attachment therapy such as Nancy Thomas [4], whose AP methods differ from those of William Sears.
The parent/child bond is a critical foundation for a parent's and child's developing relationship. The quality of this attachment affects a parent's ability to comfort a child and for the child to be comforted by the parent, to discipline, to nurture, etc. For various reasons, new parents sometimes have trouble ';bonding'; or ';attaching'; with a young child. When that happens, attachment parenting is appropriate to help the bonding to occur and to develop.
The first time I asked the question I googled it and found out that most of the things suggested I did anyways already:
Breastfeeding, not letting my child cry herself into sleep, which requires sometimes co-sleeping and child wearing, making my own baby food, cloth diapering. A lot of these options I chose simply because they were cheaper or more practical than the alternative.
I didn't manage elimination communication, that is sensing ahead of time, when baby has a bowel movement coming and holding baby over the toilet in time. However, that's not an essential part of attachment parenting.
Gentle discipline and homeschooling are not much of an issue yet, since my daughter is just 10 months old.I'm planning on the first one, but haven't made up my mind on the second one yet.
So to me it seems Attachment Parenting is pretty much normal, loving parenting with a fancy name attached to it.
Attachment parenting is a way of letting your child be attached to you not a new concept, although there are varying degrees of it.
Some include but aren't limited to:
Cloth diapering, baby wearing, breast feeding, gentle discipline, co-sleeping, non circumcising, non vaccinating, preservative free organic diets, home schooling.
There are some great attachment parenting groups on cafemom if you have more questions.
Socially the children are aloud to develop at their own pace and their own needs are met more, a baby that is left in its crib to cry its self to sleep does not gain trust from its parents but feels alone and neglected, in return causing trauma and developmental delays (just as an example) nourishing your childs strengths and helping them through their weaknesses with love and care is what god had in mind for us mothers.
Attachment parents usually breastfeed, co sleep, baby wear, sometimes use cloth diapers or teach sign language to their babies. Their babies are usually ';attached'; to them most of the time. Not usually in a stroller or baby chair.
There are definately benefits for mom and baby. I find that when I'm wearing my twin 4 month old boys they are happier and so am I because I can get more things done. My 3 year old son seemed more secure with the AP lifestyle.
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T13030鈥?/a>
i never heard of it either, but check this out
I know one thing there cut baby';s take care of then and love them from the heart nothing more
read Dr. Sear's ';The Baby Book';
baby siiting 30$ a year.
What are your opinions about marriage, legal separation and sinlgle parenting?
Marriage is great if both people are ready and willing to be married. Some people think they are, but then they cheat and lie etc. They should just grow up and admit that they don't want to be married.
Single parenting is both hard and easier. It's hard because you have to do everything. But it's easier because you get to make all the decisions and discipline.What are your opinions about marriage, legal separation and sinlgle parenting?
single parenting can be very difficultWhat are your opinions about marriage, legal separation and sinlgle parenting?
Marriage is a good route to go, I don't agree with all this everyone should just be young and sleep around and worry about getting married when they are 40 or never get married at all. I think thats asking for chaos. Marriage is the best route for a person who wants a family (under the right circumstances of course).
Legal separation...is crap (its like a way to extend time before divorce). Divorce is getting abused. I understand situations call for divorce, but dang people need to stop getting married so fast, I think we have like a 60% divorce rate now. What ever happened to trying to work things out?
Single parenting - Sucks! If you don't have a good support system of family to help you out it kind of leaves you stuck. Though I think it is very possible to do, and to do right if someone really trys at it.
Single parenting is both hard and easier. It's hard because you have to do everything. But it's easier because you get to make all the decisions and discipline.What are your opinions about marriage, legal separation and sinlgle parenting?
single parenting can be very difficultWhat are your opinions about marriage, legal separation and sinlgle parenting?
Marriage is a good route to go, I don't agree with all this everyone should just be young and sleep around and worry about getting married when they are 40 or never get married at all. I think thats asking for chaos. Marriage is the best route for a person who wants a family (under the right circumstances of course).
Legal separation...is crap (its like a way to extend time before divorce). Divorce is getting abused. I understand situations call for divorce, but dang people need to stop getting married so fast, I think we have like a 60% divorce rate now. What ever happened to trying to work things out?
Single parenting - Sucks! If you don't have a good support system of family to help you out it kind of leaves you stuck. Though I think it is very possible to do, and to do right if someone really trys at it.
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