';I am the result of bad parenting';, are you? Share your stories please.?

I don't want to hear words along the lines of ';you can still have a good life';





Bad parenting can really close-of many life options for their children. Bad parenting really do stuff up a child's psychology.';I am the result of bad parenting';, are you? Share your stories please.?
Im not, but my cousin is. Has never been disciplined in his life. He is 18 now. In the last 2 years he caught a suv on fire trying to 4-wheel in it, stolen his parents vehicles for joy rides, got in trouble for brandishing a bb gun, dropped out of school, had a preg scare with his gf, 4 wrecks and 2 speeding tickets. His moms idea of punishment is to yell, ground for 2 weeks but still let his best friend come over all weekend and sit in their room playing video games.





Well, last week he wrecked. It was the middle of the night, and he damaged property, not another car so he took off. Well the property owner had cameras and is pressing charges. His mom also just found that about a week ago her corporate credit card had been taken. She was doing her expense report and found all these charges that had been made around town for cigs and gas. He had the card for about a week. The bank is currently investigating and if they find it to be him, she has to press charges or she will loose her job. And I know once they are 18 you really cant control what they do, but when he wrecked he was driving on bald tires in the rain and his mom new the tires were bald. I am sorry, 18 or not, if that car is in my name and you are covered on my insurance that you have already jacked up, you are not driving that car on bald tires. I would have slashed them or something. Not here. She laughed and told him before he left to be careful.


Never been punished for a thing. Now he is likely going to loose his license perm, and between the hit and run and credit card, he may end up in jail.





Its mostly his fault. I mean, despite never being punished he knows its dangerous to drive on tires like that, and he knows that stealing that corp card could get her mom fired. Yet he did it anyways. And now he has to take responsibility. But he thinks its funny. He doesnt understand that this kind of legal trouble doesnt just go away with a slap on the wrist. He honestly doesnt think he is going to get legally punished. And ofcourse, his mom has hired a lawyer. She doesnt think the owners claim can stand up because she thinks they just identified the vehicle, not the tags (although, even if it was just the vehicle, it would be a good id, weird funky color and the bumper is missing) and she is trying to get him out of it. He seriously doesnt think the rules apply to him. He even told me that about a year ago. I was advising him against doing what he was about to do, something he wasnt allowed to do. He looked at me and said that he didnt care, its not like he was going to actually be in trouble anyways...





Sad sad sad sad';I am the result of bad parenting';, are you? Share your stories please.?
We can all use that excuse and blame our parents because our life is not going how we want it to and be VICTIMS. or we can choose and and make our life how we want it to be.


No education, then get some. Been badly treated, get over it and make a difference to someone elses life.


The POWER is with you, the responsibility for your life and your future is totally with you. Read, help those in worse situation than yourself, put the past in the past and learn from your parents mistakes. They are people too struggling with their life, doing the best they can with what they had.


There are many stories of people who have had terrible lives. no parents, country at war but they became like phoenix and rose from the ashes.


Blaming your parents or your situation is just a cop out. Look for all the wonderful things in your life and all the wonderful things your parents DID do for you, everyday is a new day and you are the creator of your day.
I had poor parenting. It can mess with you but really it is all about how you take it.





Each person handles things differently. And each ';abuse'; situation is different.





I do believe that you can have a good life. My life turned out great all the bad things that happened to be gave me a nice list of all the things I did not want in my life or my childs life.





I wont give all my details there is no need. My mother never wanted kids. My Father was in jail most of my childhood and I had many step dads most of which were on drugs or drank. Beat myself or my mother. My grandparents stepped in a took me and I stepped in and took my sister who is 9 yrs younger then me.
My mom and dad split when I was 1 yr old....which never bothered me, I grew up used to it, and now I am glad they arent together....


anyway my dad often admits to being a bad parent. I stayed summer and x-mas vacations with him, but he was always busy smoking pot with his friends, and playing music or video games, he often took me to my grandparents, which I loved.


My mom was also a partier, so I stayed with my grandma on that side as well.....which is great, she is one of the most wonderful people on this earth.


During an agument one day not too long ago my dad told me that I stood a chance to not be that great of a parent to my daughter because I didnt have the best parents and neither did he or my mom.


I am unsure if its true that its a trait passed down. I like to think not, of course I think I am a good parent. And the funny thing is, I didnt think they were bad parents either. Both a little selfish, but I was never abused by either of them as a child. Older now I do think I am emotionaly abused by my dad, but he doesnt see it that way.


Anyhow....I appreciate your question, it let me vent. :)
I wont go into all the terrible details. In short, I came from a terrible home. Both parents were very abusive, physically %26amp; verbally. My Dad was an alcoholic. My siblings %26amp; I were beat on a daily basis. We had to steal food many times because we weren't fed. I still to this day haven't been told by either parent ';I Love You';. They didn't hug us or show any affection.


The way I see it, you can either become it, or rise above it. I've chosen to rise above it.


Now that I'm a mother, I use my childhood as an example of everything my daughters childhood will not be. My parents mistakes makes it obvious to me what I should and should not do. My daughter is well cared for %26amp; knows without a doubt how much I love her -- I tell her countless times each day.





It's never easy to overcome that type of a childhood. And it's something you never forget. I guess all you can do is realize that it's not your fault that things were the way they were and do your best not to follow in their footsteps.


Best of luck to you.
yes my mum was the result of bad parenting,she was beaten as a child and still has the scars now!! shes turned it all around though and she doesnt have anything 2 do with my gramps





diane d......its not a cop out,its how it is!


she wasnt blaming any1 for anythin she was just asking a simple question!
Bad parenting does have affect on us. But as adults you have the freedom to overcome it and make life what you want it to be. IT'S CALLED FREE WILL. You have choices.


Just because it rained on your parade, doesn't mean you can't still dance with the clowns.

What's going on in the 'Parenting' category today?

it's kinda slow today. not the usual.


i'm waiting for someone to start a spark. lol!What's going on in the 'Parenting' category today?
Haha! I got a threatening email from a user! ClassicWhat's going on in the 'Parenting' category today?
nothing :[
Not sure yet. Just got online. I'm going to check it out now :)

Need to find something on parenting to enable me to discipline my four year old son

my 4 year old son is getting really out of hand and not focused on one thing...dont know how to channelise his energy in one direction......pls helpNeed to find something on parenting to enable me to discipline my four year old son
Find something that he likes to do and build on that, and if he misbehaves then you remove him from his favorite thing and sometimes a good time out area is his room with no toys or anything else to do and he needs to stay in his room say for the first time 15 minutes then keep extending the time longer and longer. With my grandson I found that playing with Thomas the tank engine and with everything that goes with it he would stay busy for hours. good luckNeed to find something on parenting to enable me to discipline my four year old son
What have you tried with respect to disciplining him? With my son I tried time outs, redirection, talking out, and even spanking (which was a bad idea to begin with) to no avail. I finally learned that the best method for him was to remove a privilege or toy until he could tell me what he did wrong, why he did it and what he could do differently. My daughter on the other hand doesn't care about things but is affected by words, telling her that she ';hurt my feelings';, causes her to rethink her actions and usually apologize. Unfortunately parenting is not an exact science and every child is different, just remember to be patient and trust your instincts. Best of luck to you.
whatever you do don't take him to a doctor. chances will be they say he has ADD or autsim and will stuff him full of pills. He's 4, he's supposed to be crazy. Give him a lil' ni-quil before bed and he'll calm right on down.
My dad's belt worked wonders in disciplining me.
there is this book ON BECOMING CHILDWISE. I believe it will help a lot if you try to read it.
You need a time out area

dermatologist

Are there gender differences in parenting styles?

lots of details and examples please i need this thoroughly explained for homeworkAre there gender differences in parenting styles?
my mom is black and she would say james im going to knock the black off my *** if i was bad.Are there gender differences in parenting styles?
yes the 10 commandment is the key, the laws of the land tries to disprove it

Do you think it is reasonable a non-custodial parent have almost the entire summer break for parenting time?

if the child remains with the custodial parent during the school weeks(minus one weekday afternoon, 2pm - 7pm) and all the weekends and holidays through out the school year are split evenly between the two parents?Do you think it is reasonable a non-custodial parent have almost the entire summer break for parenting time?
Did she call you a ';chick';?? lol!





Not being in that situation myself... I would think that giving my child up for the entire summer would not work very well for me.





A week or two off and on / every other week *I* think would be sufficient ';sharing'; time.





Unless the child asks to go ';spend the summer with ______';. Then they should get a say in it, once they're older, say teenagers.Do you think it is reasonable a non-custodial parent have almost the entire summer break for parenting time?
Thats not called non-custodial, it's called shared custody. One parent who has them most of the time during school time, then the other parent gets them most of the time during summer time. Thats what courts are starting to do, You are both the parents that's how it should be.


You chicks all crack me up, you have kids with these guys, and they are perfectly fine to have a kid with, but then when you break up, then all of a sudden hes no good and you can't trust him with your kid. He's still the dad, he has rights, as long as he's not endangering the kid, you are the one being unreasonable.
Turn it around so you can really see it.





You get to see your child every other week-end and every other holiday. You see your child one night a week for a few hours.





How fair is it? Think about your children and their need to bond. Stop being so selfish. You'd be scramblimg up every minute you could to see your children, right? RIGHT?
here that is called noncustodial parent we do not do joint custody.i think that is unreasonable take it back to court if you cannot trust him and try to have it modified
Well if you want to see the parent and you don't see them a lot then it sounds perfectly fine to me.

What colors should I use in the design of a baby/parenting website???

i am designing a baby website, and I need to know what are the best colors that could be used for this...any help greatly appreciated.....What colors should I use in the design of a baby/parenting website???
Being a new mommy I think that soft yellow is a very neutral color that works and is pleasing to the eye. Or use baby yellow, blue, pink, lavendar. Any of those soft colors will make a mommy feel warm inside for the baby colors. If your pages are going towards children older than toddlers then you should use primary colors such as red, blue, yellow, etc.What colors should I use in the design of a baby/parenting website???
I think rainbow
I think baby blue and bright red and light yellow would make it stand out but look awesome.
pink and blue and yellow
Maybe a light pink, light blue, and pastel yellow. Those are all pretty, and still won't kill the eyes.
I agree with stormy and as blue represents a boy and pink a girl it seems quite fitting,as long as they are not too bright, keep them mellow.Good Luck!
soft colors like baby blue, soft pink, soft minty green, lilac, white, etc..

Any tips on single parenting anybody? I am about to be a single mom of 2 girls ages 3 and 1.5?

Oh my, I am pretty much an expert on single parenting lol. I have twin almost 4 year old sons and an almost 5 month old son. It is not easy, but it's certainly not impossible. The main things: try to maintain a good relationship with the father, but DON'T hesitate to get child support. You need it for your children, and the father should have some responsibility. Make sure you take some time for yourself sometimes, whether the girls are with their father, or a family member. Just make sure you get a break sometimes. You will feel better, and trust me, your kids will appreciate it because you will be alot happier lol. Depending on your situation, there is financial help out there if you need it. I think alot of women are too proud to accept help, but just remind yourself that it is for your daughters, not you. Try to get into a good routine, it's hard cooking, cleaning, bathing, putting kids to bed all on your own, but if you get into a good routine it goes soooo much more smoothly. I always try to take my shower in the morning before my kids get up. That way I don't have to worry about the house being torn apart during those 15 minutes lol. Really, don't worry. It's certainly not an ideal situation, but it will be ok. The fact that you actually took the time to ask this question shows that you want to do your best to be a good parent, and really, that's the most important thing. I'm sorry for your situation, and good luck.Any tips on single parenting anybody? I am about to be a single mom of 2 girls ages 3 and 1.5?
keep the father's involved as much as you can and as much as they want to. They need a dad in their life.


I'm a step-mother of two children and one child's mother did her best to push my husband out of the child's life and he called 3 of her BF's daddy...Now he's confused about men who he calls dad and then walk out of his life, it's not right. Other than that, keep a good support system up with your family and the paternal family, you don't have to consider yourself a single parent, you are a parent who happens to not be with the children's father.Any tips on single parenting anybody? I am about to be a single mom of 2 girls ages 3 and 1.5?
it needs a lot of organisation. It has some good points actually...If the children grow up in a peaceful home without any fighting it is best for them than seeing abuse and fights everyday.But you have to be a very very patient mother. Never get angry with your kids in spite of becoming stressed, tired and angry....that is the key....have balance. You can enroll them to a daycare or have someone from your family to look after them 2-3 days a week so that you have some time for rest, good sleep, exercise and organising your daily life activities including cleaning, washing, cooking and shopping....you need to have good time management skills and good parenting skills. Then you will be fine
Get help from the dad and get child support, have friends help you if you need it/