Alec Baldwin convo to his child:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8J0-ZatDH鈥?/a>
What do you think? Does this contact have an anger problem? Control problem? Problem with women?A contact of mine thought it was ';good parenting'; to call a 12 year old daughter a ';rude pig';?
Absolutely, it is wrong. Alec Baldwin sure does have some anger issues and needs to take some anger management classes. I remember when this hit the media and how this situation all resolved with his daughter.A contact of mine thought it was ';good parenting'; to call a 12 year old daughter a ';rude pig';?
Honestly... I think your contact should refrain from passing judgement either way.
It is a situation that has been brought about by a couple of parents who are trying to battle out their differences through their child.
A fairly common occurrence... but because of who the parents are, this case is getting a lot of publicity.
Neither parent is doing all what's best for their child and neither one is completely in the wrong either.
All in all, no matter how anyone feels about the situation, in the end it will be the daughter who has to decide which parent she feels was the better care-giver because it is her who has all the information, and her who experienced all the events.
He had a drinking problem, I have seen parents on alcohol call their kids a lot worse. I think he showed remarkable restraint, considering how the ';Child '; was acting. a twelve year old would not have acted like a three year old if he wasn't using all the best advice that the village had to offer, he should have spanked her (not Beat) when she was three and she would not be acting like a rude pig now.
It's definitely a ';politically incorrect'; parentology situation, and I just made up the word ';parentology'; as a new religion, will you join? but I digress...
But I wouldn't crucify the guy over it, because I mean, maybe he has that kind of ';crass'; relationship with his daughter as an ongoing game of theirs' to, well, you know...the family that insults together, stays together, that sort of thing, so let's not judge anybody too harshly here, and set the nation on fire with our way too much and way too misplaced concern for the chill dren, touche', Adios, That's Life Aloha, Thank you very much, and...
...and God Bless, Amen...
We don't know the context of the tirade, so it's pretty ignorant to judge him on it. What if his daughter took a crap on his floor and killed his pet dog, or something like that. In that case, ';rude pig'; would not be enough.
That whole episode with Baldwin was disgusting, but he was drunk and that says it all.
Should anyone agree with what happened they are either a drunk themselves, on drugs, or stupid.
Sorry, if this a friend of yours.
Considering some of the 12 year old children I know, that comment would be insulting to the pigs.
Sometime kids do act like rude pigs....
Sometimes it appropriate to tell them.
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Spend your thoughts on raising your own children.
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Focus on improving yourself and your life and how you spend your time and stop wasting it judging others.
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Oh no, now he's going to need six months of therapy. There's far worse, she'll be fine.
She should have picked up the phone that HE bought her. I'd have been upset too.
cool your mind there is no problem
i see nothing wrong with rude pig, there alot worse than that.
Friday, November 25, 2011
Are crime rates rising because of liberal parenting practices?
The rising crime rate can be attributed to a number of factors, 2 of which are a sense of entitlement, and a disregard for your fellow humans.
The sense of entitlement can come from indulgent parenting, the civil rights movement, wealth, welfare, the media, or anthing else that leads a person to belive they are entitled to something.
Disregard for your fellow human can also come from a variety of factors, chief of which is parenting. If children aren't taught the golden rule, as adults they have difficulty adjusting to a society in which they cannot do whatever they want to regardless of who it harms. This condition can also come from the media, which glorifies both entitlement and disregard for your fellows.
Liberal parenting has a hand in it. The reluctance to disipline children effectively gives them the impression that they can do as they please and suffer no consequence. Even at a young age liberal parenting has an adverse effect on the socialization of the child, which is manifested as misbehavior in public, destructive actions, disobedience, a sense of entitlement, and always has the result of embarrasing the parents in social situations.Are crime rates rising because of liberal parenting practices?
It's certainly not helping matters any. I know of far too many parents who think that by virtue of the fact that they live in a nice neighborhood that they don't have to worry about what their kids are doing and with whom. Meanwhile, they themselves are so busy pouring another drinking or popping another pill they're oblivious anyway!Are crime rates rising because of liberal parenting practices?
No. I think it's because we make a hundred new laws every fifteen minutes...I can't get out of bed without having broken some sort of law anymore.
There are actually thousands of people in jail because of ';thought'; crimes...and ole' Judge Wapner taught me that ';Words are not deeds!';
crime rates are going down
the liberal's doctrine of abortion is what has caused this
I think it could have a little to do with it. When a parent gives a child no bounderies, the child will often go as far as possible. In my opinion, one of the hardest things to do as a parent is to find the right balance of structure and freedom for your children.
Children are not being taught that there are consequences to their actions. Also, we live in an instant gratification society, ';I want it and I want it now';. Kids seem to think that they should get whatever they want, even if they have to take it from someone else, rather than work and save for it. It's all rather sad, isn't it?
No, liberal children aren't angry. It's the conservative children who have been forced to conform to ideas they don't believe in.
Yes...latch key children are crippling the United States.
No
I think so. When you take the fear of God out of things what is left to feel morally responsible about? I understand that all people believe in God differently and that some people don't believe in him at all but just look at the differences in crime rates since the crazy hippies started to ruin everything with ';free love'; and heroin.
Also, I think that as a result there is less respect for elders which also leads to more crime.
The sense of entitlement can come from indulgent parenting, the civil rights movement, wealth, welfare, the media, or anthing else that leads a person to belive they are entitled to something.
Disregard for your fellow human can also come from a variety of factors, chief of which is parenting. If children aren't taught the golden rule, as adults they have difficulty adjusting to a society in which they cannot do whatever they want to regardless of who it harms. This condition can also come from the media, which glorifies both entitlement and disregard for your fellows.
Liberal parenting has a hand in it. The reluctance to disipline children effectively gives them the impression that they can do as they please and suffer no consequence. Even at a young age liberal parenting has an adverse effect on the socialization of the child, which is manifested as misbehavior in public, destructive actions, disobedience, a sense of entitlement, and always has the result of embarrasing the parents in social situations.Are crime rates rising because of liberal parenting practices?
It's certainly not helping matters any. I know of far too many parents who think that by virtue of the fact that they live in a nice neighborhood that they don't have to worry about what their kids are doing and with whom. Meanwhile, they themselves are so busy pouring another drinking or popping another pill they're oblivious anyway!Are crime rates rising because of liberal parenting practices?
No. I think it's because we make a hundred new laws every fifteen minutes...I can't get out of bed without having broken some sort of law anymore.
There are actually thousands of people in jail because of ';thought'; crimes...and ole' Judge Wapner taught me that ';Words are not deeds!';
crime rates are going down
the liberal's doctrine of abortion is what has caused this
I think it could have a little to do with it. When a parent gives a child no bounderies, the child will often go as far as possible. In my opinion, one of the hardest things to do as a parent is to find the right balance of structure and freedom for your children.
Children are not being taught that there are consequences to their actions. Also, we live in an instant gratification society, ';I want it and I want it now';. Kids seem to think that they should get whatever they want, even if they have to take it from someone else, rather than work and save for it. It's all rather sad, isn't it?
No, liberal children aren't angry. It's the conservative children who have been forced to conform to ideas they don't believe in.
Yes...latch key children are crippling the United States.
No
I think so. When you take the fear of God out of things what is left to feel morally responsible about? I understand that all people believe in God differently and that some people don't believe in him at all but just look at the differences in crime rates since the crazy hippies started to ruin everything with ';free love'; and heroin.
Also, I think that as a result there is less respect for elders which also leads to more crime.
Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Dr. Spock didn't actually raise any children himself. His wife did. He more or less admitted shortly before his death that his advice was based on assumptions and not actual knowledge or practice.
Compare that with Dr. Sears who garnered most of his knowledge from not only his patients about what worked for them, but also he and his wife raising 8 kids. And he admits that right in the first pages of his books!
In general, pediatricians are not qualified to give parenting advice. They are medical doctors trained in injury and disease. They don't even have much knowledge about nutrition, yet they dispense it like they actually know something. My friend's daughter, a pediatrician, herself is very cautious about giving out parenting advice. Her children have mostly been raised by their grandmother because she and her husband are both doctors in their early careers.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
The best parenting advice comes from the parents who own the child, as no other 'expert' knows the child's mannerisms better than those who live with the child every day.
I like to read parenting books, magazines, stuff on-line, and asking friends and family for every kind of advice under the sun, but when it comes down to it, I take what I've learned from my team of experts and apply it in bits and pieces to my own child...then go from there.
You need to know what works best for your family.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Some of his advice is timeless, and some is outdated. They have updated versions of his original publications which are somewhat useful. As with all advice, you have to weed through it and find what is helpful to you and disregard what you don't agree with.
Ya the person who convinced the ';stupid'; majority that spanking was bad. I don't think that would be considered ';good parenting advice';. Take a look around now for evidence of what I'm talking about.
I think his advice about daily care is pretty good - feeding, toys, sleeping, etc. But as far as discipline and childrearing practices, he's quite a bit out of date.
some good some outdated
Compare that with Dr. Sears who garnered most of his knowledge from not only his patients about what worked for them, but also he and his wife raising 8 kids. And he admits that right in the first pages of his books!
In general, pediatricians are not qualified to give parenting advice. They are medical doctors trained in injury and disease. They don't even have much knowledge about nutrition, yet they dispense it like they actually know something. My friend's daughter, a pediatrician, herself is very cautious about giving out parenting advice. Her children have mostly been raised by their grandmother because she and her husband are both doctors in their early careers.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
The best parenting advice comes from the parents who own the child, as no other 'expert' knows the child's mannerisms better than those who live with the child every day.
I like to read parenting books, magazines, stuff on-line, and asking friends and family for every kind of advice under the sun, but when it comes down to it, I take what I've learned from my team of experts and apply it in bits and pieces to my own child...then go from there.
You need to know what works best for your family.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Some of his advice is timeless, and some is outdated. They have updated versions of his original publications which are somewhat useful. As with all advice, you have to weed through it and find what is helpful to you and disregard what you don't agree with.
Ya the person who convinced the ';stupid'; majority that spanking was bad. I don't think that would be considered ';good parenting advice';. Take a look around now for evidence of what I'm talking about.
I think his advice about daily care is pretty good - feeding, toys, sleeping, etc. But as far as discipline and childrearing practices, he's quite a bit out of date.
some good some outdated
Parenting questions please help?
I am having a hard time with my children. Mainly the 2 oldest who are 4 and 2. They don't listen and I need some ideas to get them to be good. If I spank them for being bad, its abuse. If I yell at them to keep them safe, its verbal abuse. If I let them do what ever they wanted, its neglect. I am in a bind. I have tried talking, and putting them in corners. I have also taken away tv time and the eldest tv. Any ideas?Parenting questions please help?
Children need structured time. Play time with them, dining time and instruction on how to act at table and then there's rest time with possibly a story. Maintain the schedule and only reward good behavior with hugs and kisses. Children get overtired then act out so naps are a must. Hope that helps.Parenting questions please help?
Spanking and yelling are not necessarily ';abuse';.
We don't spank for discipline in our family, but I know families who give their girls a little swat on the behind if they're being naughty. Notice, ';swat';. It's not hurting them until they're black and blue (that IS abuse). It's giving them a little ';ouch'; on their posterior.
Yelling at your kids is not always verbal abuse, either. If you swear at them and belittle them and call them names, then yes, it is abuse.
You need to calm down yourself first of all. What gets you the most aggravated about their behavior? Do you need to separate the 4 year old and the 2 year old if they get into mischief together? That's what I do when my two children misbehave together. One goes upstairs and the other stays downstairs.
You need to pick your battles. Otherwise, they're going to tune you out, if you yell at them for every little thing.
Have a three strikes and you're out plan.
Try time-outs. Find a quiet corner somewhere and put a chair there, or use a ';naughty step';. Somewhere where the children can go, when they have misbehaved.
Maybe you can have a family meeting and together write down good behaviors and bad behaviors and consequences for bad behaviors.
Also, remind them of safety issues, so you don't have to yell at them to remind them. Remember, sometimes if you yell, they will tune you out.
And I definitely agree with Stevie N regarding structured time.
Time outs work well with my 3 and 4 year old. They have to sit in time out for 1 minute for each year of their age. If they get up take them and sit them back down. Keep doing this until they stay there. Eventually, they will give up and stay in time out if you are consistent. Use a timer so they will know that they can get up when it goes off. With the 4 year old you could also try taking a favorite toy or video game. Let her know that she will not get it back until she listens to you and does as she is told. Always make sure you tell them what they are doing wrong. Discuss other options with them that they could have done that would be better.
Being a parent comes with Authority. you must discipline .who's in charge. kids need rules to follow. try a chart with prizes. don't give them anything let them earn rewards. get down to their level look them in their eyes tell them what they are doing wrong.don't yell at them. I don't recommend you spank them. time-out works. taking their favorite things away. It work for me. my son is 8 now I can give him a look and he knows what it mean. Patience, It will happen.
they always listen, so try talking less. say the things that are most important and really start listening to them. use the word NO less often and tuck your anger away cuz it doesn't benefit anyone in the family. turn the TV off and go outside more often.
Check out the Priceless Parenting online class - it provides wonderful ideas for setting firm yet loving limits with children without spanking or yelling.
Spanking isn't abuse and neither is yelling.
As long as you aren't hitting and making bruises its fine, and yelling all the time is too much.
put them in the corner and then put a gate up so they cant get out. or lock them in their room. you could give them no food until they say sorrydermatologist
Children need structured time. Play time with them, dining time and instruction on how to act at table and then there's rest time with possibly a story. Maintain the schedule and only reward good behavior with hugs and kisses. Children get overtired then act out so naps are a must. Hope that helps.Parenting questions please help?
Spanking and yelling are not necessarily ';abuse';.
We don't spank for discipline in our family, but I know families who give their girls a little swat on the behind if they're being naughty. Notice, ';swat';. It's not hurting them until they're black and blue (that IS abuse). It's giving them a little ';ouch'; on their posterior.
Yelling at your kids is not always verbal abuse, either. If you swear at them and belittle them and call them names, then yes, it is abuse.
You need to calm down yourself first of all. What gets you the most aggravated about their behavior? Do you need to separate the 4 year old and the 2 year old if they get into mischief together? That's what I do when my two children misbehave together. One goes upstairs and the other stays downstairs.
You need to pick your battles. Otherwise, they're going to tune you out, if you yell at them for every little thing.
Have a three strikes and you're out plan.
Try time-outs. Find a quiet corner somewhere and put a chair there, or use a ';naughty step';. Somewhere where the children can go, when they have misbehaved.
Maybe you can have a family meeting and together write down good behaviors and bad behaviors and consequences for bad behaviors.
Also, remind them of safety issues, so you don't have to yell at them to remind them. Remember, sometimes if you yell, they will tune you out.
And I definitely agree with Stevie N regarding structured time.
Time outs work well with my 3 and 4 year old. They have to sit in time out for 1 minute for each year of their age. If they get up take them and sit them back down. Keep doing this until they stay there. Eventually, they will give up and stay in time out if you are consistent. Use a timer so they will know that they can get up when it goes off. With the 4 year old you could also try taking a favorite toy or video game. Let her know that she will not get it back until she listens to you and does as she is told. Always make sure you tell them what they are doing wrong. Discuss other options with them that they could have done that would be better.
Being a parent comes with Authority. you must discipline .who's in charge. kids need rules to follow. try a chart with prizes. don't give them anything let them earn rewards. get down to their level look them in their eyes tell them what they are doing wrong.don't yell at them. I don't recommend you spank them. time-out works. taking their favorite things away. It work for me. my son is 8 now I can give him a look and he knows what it mean. Patience, It will happen.
they always listen, so try talking less. say the things that are most important and really start listening to them. use the word NO less often and tuck your anger away cuz it doesn't benefit anyone in the family. turn the TV off and go outside more often.
Check out the Priceless Parenting online class - it provides wonderful ideas for setting firm yet loving limits with children without spanking or yelling.
Spanking isn't abuse and neither is yelling.
As long as you aren't hitting and making bruises its fine, and yelling all the time is too much.
put them in the corner and then put a gate up so they cant get out. or lock them in their room. you could give them no food until they say sorry
Where can i find the indiana parenting time guidelines?
i am looking for the indiana parenting time guidelinesWhere can i find the indiana parenting time guidelines?
Kind of light on detail here. Depends on what you are trying to accomplish. If this is for shared custody, it should be included in court paperwork. You can check with Department of Children's Services also.
Kind of light on detail here. Depends on what you are trying to accomplish. If this is for shared custody, it should be included in court paperwork. You can check with Department of Children's Services also.
Where can I find a good parenting forum to do research in? Yahoo answers is nice, but...?
I think I can get better answers faster by posting in forums. What's a good one?Where can I find a good parenting forum to do research in? Yahoo answers is nice, but...?
Personally, I like the forums at ivillage. They have forums on all kinds of topics and the ladies I meet there tend to be reasonably intelligent.Where can I find a good parenting forum to do research in? Yahoo answers is nice, but...?
go to www.babycenter.com
go www.google.com and search as much as you like for good forums
americanbaby.com love that site
Personally, I like the forums at ivillage. They have forums on all kinds of topics and the ladies I meet there tend to be reasonably intelligent.Where can I find a good parenting forum to do research in? Yahoo answers is nice, but...?
go to www.babycenter.com
go www.google.com and search as much as you like for good forums
americanbaby.com love that site
Does anyone know any free upcoming parenting workshops or classes in the San Jose, CA area?
Check with your local hospitals.. most of them offer classes. Most of the classes are free,, especially if you are going to deliver there.
*5 minutes later * Yep,,, I just looked,,, Good Smaratin Hospital has classes,, you might check them out. I will pasted the link below.Does anyone know any free upcoming parenting workshops or classes in the San Jose, CA area?
go to your local baies r us they always have and they are about evrything
*5 minutes later * Yep,,, I just looked,,, Good Smaratin Hospital has classes,, you might check them out. I will pasted the link below.Does anyone know any free upcoming parenting workshops or classes in the San Jose, CA area?
go to your local baies r us they always have and they are about evrything
';I am the result of bad parenting';, are you? Share your stories please.?
I don't want to hear words along the lines of ';you can still have a good life';
Bad parenting can really close-of many life options for their children. Bad parenting really do stuff up a child's psychology.';I am the result of bad parenting';, are you? Share your stories please.?
Im not, but my cousin is. Has never been disciplined in his life. He is 18 now. In the last 2 years he caught a suv on fire trying to 4-wheel in it, stolen his parents vehicles for joy rides, got in trouble for brandishing a bb gun, dropped out of school, had a preg scare with his gf, 4 wrecks and 2 speeding tickets. His moms idea of punishment is to yell, ground for 2 weeks but still let his best friend come over all weekend and sit in their room playing video games.
Well, last week he wrecked. It was the middle of the night, and he damaged property, not another car so he took off. Well the property owner had cameras and is pressing charges. His mom also just found that about a week ago her corporate credit card had been taken. She was doing her expense report and found all these charges that had been made around town for cigs and gas. He had the card for about a week. The bank is currently investigating and if they find it to be him, she has to press charges or she will loose her job. And I know once they are 18 you really cant control what they do, but when he wrecked he was driving on bald tires in the rain and his mom new the tires were bald. I am sorry, 18 or not, if that car is in my name and you are covered on my insurance that you have already jacked up, you are not driving that car on bald tires. I would have slashed them or something. Not here. She laughed and told him before he left to be careful.
Never been punished for a thing. Now he is likely going to loose his license perm, and between the hit and run and credit card, he may end up in jail.
Its mostly his fault. I mean, despite never being punished he knows its dangerous to drive on tires like that, and he knows that stealing that corp card could get her mom fired. Yet he did it anyways. And now he has to take responsibility. But he thinks its funny. He doesnt understand that this kind of legal trouble doesnt just go away with a slap on the wrist. He honestly doesnt think he is going to get legally punished. And ofcourse, his mom has hired a lawyer. She doesnt think the owners claim can stand up because she thinks they just identified the vehicle, not the tags (although, even if it was just the vehicle, it would be a good id, weird funky color and the bumper is missing) and she is trying to get him out of it. He seriously doesnt think the rules apply to him. He even told me that about a year ago. I was advising him against doing what he was about to do, something he wasnt allowed to do. He looked at me and said that he didnt care, its not like he was going to actually be in trouble anyways...
Sad sad sad sad';I am the result of bad parenting';, are you? Share your stories please.?
We can all use that excuse and blame our parents because our life is not going how we want it to and be VICTIMS. or we can choose and and make our life how we want it to be.
No education, then get some. Been badly treated, get over it and make a difference to someone elses life.
The POWER is with you, the responsibility for your life and your future is totally with you. Read, help those in worse situation than yourself, put the past in the past and learn from your parents mistakes. They are people too struggling with their life, doing the best they can with what they had.
There are many stories of people who have had terrible lives. no parents, country at war but they became like phoenix and rose from the ashes.
Blaming your parents or your situation is just a cop out. Look for all the wonderful things in your life and all the wonderful things your parents DID do for you, everyday is a new day and you are the creator of your day.
I had poor parenting. It can mess with you but really it is all about how you take it.
Each person handles things differently. And each ';abuse'; situation is different.
I do believe that you can have a good life. My life turned out great all the bad things that happened to be gave me a nice list of all the things I did not want in my life or my childs life.
I wont give all my details there is no need. My mother never wanted kids. My Father was in jail most of my childhood and I had many step dads most of which were on drugs or drank. Beat myself or my mother. My grandparents stepped in a took me and I stepped in and took my sister who is 9 yrs younger then me.
My mom and dad split when I was 1 yr old....which never bothered me, I grew up used to it, and now I am glad they arent together....
anyway my dad often admits to being a bad parent. I stayed summer and x-mas vacations with him, but he was always busy smoking pot with his friends, and playing music or video games, he often took me to my grandparents, which I loved.
My mom was also a partier, so I stayed with my grandma on that side as well.....which is great, she is one of the most wonderful people on this earth.
During an agument one day not too long ago my dad told me that I stood a chance to not be that great of a parent to my daughter because I didnt have the best parents and neither did he or my mom.
I am unsure if its true that its a trait passed down. I like to think not, of course I think I am a good parent. And the funny thing is, I didnt think they were bad parents either. Both a little selfish, but I was never abused by either of them as a child. Older now I do think I am emotionaly abused by my dad, but he doesnt see it that way.
Anyhow....I appreciate your question, it let me vent. :)
I wont go into all the terrible details. In short, I came from a terrible home. Both parents were very abusive, physically %26amp; verbally. My Dad was an alcoholic. My siblings %26amp; I were beat on a daily basis. We had to steal food many times because we weren't fed. I still to this day haven't been told by either parent ';I Love You';. They didn't hug us or show any affection.
The way I see it, you can either become it, or rise above it. I've chosen to rise above it.
Now that I'm a mother, I use my childhood as an example of everything my daughters childhood will not be. My parents mistakes makes it obvious to me what I should and should not do. My daughter is well cared for %26amp; knows without a doubt how much I love her -- I tell her countless times each day.
It's never easy to overcome that type of a childhood. And it's something you never forget. I guess all you can do is realize that it's not your fault that things were the way they were and do your best not to follow in their footsteps.
Best of luck to you.
yes my mum was the result of bad parenting,she was beaten as a child and still has the scars now!! shes turned it all around though and she doesnt have anything 2 do with my gramps
diane d......its not a cop out,its how it is!
she wasnt blaming any1 for anythin she was just asking a simple question!
Bad parenting does have affect on us. But as adults you have the freedom to overcome it and make life what you want it to be. IT'S CALLED FREE WILL. You have choices.
Just because it rained on your parade, doesn't mean you can't still dance with the clowns.
Bad parenting can really close-of many life options for their children. Bad parenting really do stuff up a child's psychology.';I am the result of bad parenting';, are you? Share your stories please.?
Im not, but my cousin is. Has never been disciplined in his life. He is 18 now. In the last 2 years he caught a suv on fire trying to 4-wheel in it, stolen his parents vehicles for joy rides, got in trouble for brandishing a bb gun, dropped out of school, had a preg scare with his gf, 4 wrecks and 2 speeding tickets. His moms idea of punishment is to yell, ground for 2 weeks but still let his best friend come over all weekend and sit in their room playing video games.
Well, last week he wrecked. It was the middle of the night, and he damaged property, not another car so he took off. Well the property owner had cameras and is pressing charges. His mom also just found that about a week ago her corporate credit card had been taken. She was doing her expense report and found all these charges that had been made around town for cigs and gas. He had the card for about a week. The bank is currently investigating and if they find it to be him, she has to press charges or she will loose her job. And I know once they are 18 you really cant control what they do, but when he wrecked he was driving on bald tires in the rain and his mom new the tires were bald. I am sorry, 18 or not, if that car is in my name and you are covered on my insurance that you have already jacked up, you are not driving that car on bald tires. I would have slashed them or something. Not here. She laughed and told him before he left to be careful.
Never been punished for a thing. Now he is likely going to loose his license perm, and between the hit and run and credit card, he may end up in jail.
Its mostly his fault. I mean, despite never being punished he knows its dangerous to drive on tires like that, and he knows that stealing that corp card could get her mom fired. Yet he did it anyways. And now he has to take responsibility. But he thinks its funny. He doesnt understand that this kind of legal trouble doesnt just go away with a slap on the wrist. He honestly doesnt think he is going to get legally punished. And ofcourse, his mom has hired a lawyer. She doesnt think the owners claim can stand up because she thinks they just identified the vehicle, not the tags (although, even if it was just the vehicle, it would be a good id, weird funky color and the bumper is missing) and she is trying to get him out of it. He seriously doesnt think the rules apply to him. He even told me that about a year ago. I was advising him against doing what he was about to do, something he wasnt allowed to do. He looked at me and said that he didnt care, its not like he was going to actually be in trouble anyways...
Sad sad sad sad';I am the result of bad parenting';, are you? Share your stories please.?
We can all use that excuse and blame our parents because our life is not going how we want it to and be VICTIMS. or we can choose and and make our life how we want it to be.
No education, then get some. Been badly treated, get over it and make a difference to someone elses life.
The POWER is with you, the responsibility for your life and your future is totally with you. Read, help those in worse situation than yourself, put the past in the past and learn from your parents mistakes. They are people too struggling with their life, doing the best they can with what they had.
There are many stories of people who have had terrible lives. no parents, country at war but they became like phoenix and rose from the ashes.
Blaming your parents or your situation is just a cop out. Look for all the wonderful things in your life and all the wonderful things your parents DID do for you, everyday is a new day and you are the creator of your day.
I had poor parenting. It can mess with you but really it is all about how you take it.
Each person handles things differently. And each ';abuse'; situation is different.
I do believe that you can have a good life. My life turned out great all the bad things that happened to be gave me a nice list of all the things I did not want in my life or my childs life.
I wont give all my details there is no need. My mother never wanted kids. My Father was in jail most of my childhood and I had many step dads most of which were on drugs or drank. Beat myself or my mother. My grandparents stepped in a took me and I stepped in and took my sister who is 9 yrs younger then me.
My mom and dad split when I was 1 yr old....which never bothered me, I grew up used to it, and now I am glad they arent together....
anyway my dad often admits to being a bad parent. I stayed summer and x-mas vacations with him, but he was always busy smoking pot with his friends, and playing music or video games, he often took me to my grandparents, which I loved.
My mom was also a partier, so I stayed with my grandma on that side as well.....which is great, she is one of the most wonderful people on this earth.
During an agument one day not too long ago my dad told me that I stood a chance to not be that great of a parent to my daughter because I didnt have the best parents and neither did he or my mom.
I am unsure if its true that its a trait passed down. I like to think not, of course I think I am a good parent. And the funny thing is, I didnt think they were bad parents either. Both a little selfish, but I was never abused by either of them as a child. Older now I do think I am emotionaly abused by my dad, but he doesnt see it that way.
Anyhow....I appreciate your question, it let me vent. :)
I wont go into all the terrible details. In short, I came from a terrible home. Both parents were very abusive, physically %26amp; verbally. My Dad was an alcoholic. My siblings %26amp; I were beat on a daily basis. We had to steal food many times because we weren't fed. I still to this day haven't been told by either parent ';I Love You';. They didn't hug us or show any affection.
The way I see it, you can either become it, or rise above it. I've chosen to rise above it.
Now that I'm a mother, I use my childhood as an example of everything my daughters childhood will not be. My parents mistakes makes it obvious to me what I should and should not do. My daughter is well cared for %26amp; knows without a doubt how much I love her -- I tell her countless times each day.
It's never easy to overcome that type of a childhood. And it's something you never forget. I guess all you can do is realize that it's not your fault that things were the way they were and do your best not to follow in their footsteps.
Best of luck to you.
yes my mum was the result of bad parenting,she was beaten as a child and still has the scars now!! shes turned it all around though and she doesnt have anything 2 do with my gramps
diane d......its not a cop out,its how it is!
she wasnt blaming any1 for anythin she was just asking a simple question!
Bad parenting does have affect on us. But as adults you have the freedom to overcome it and make life what you want it to be. IT'S CALLED FREE WILL. You have choices.
Just because it rained on your parade, doesn't mean you can't still dance with the clowns.
What's going on in the 'Parenting' category today?
it's kinda slow today. not the usual.
i'm waiting for someone to start a spark. lol!What's going on in the 'Parenting' category today?
Haha! I got a threatening email from a user! ClassicWhat's going on in the 'Parenting' category today?
nothing :[
Not sure yet. Just got online. I'm going to check it out now :)
i'm waiting for someone to start a spark. lol!What's going on in the 'Parenting' category today?
Haha! I got a threatening email from a user! ClassicWhat's going on in the 'Parenting' category today?
nothing :[
Not sure yet. Just got online. I'm going to check it out now :)
Need to find something on parenting to enable me to discipline my four year old son
my 4 year old son is getting really out of hand and not focused on one thing...dont know how to channelise his energy in one direction......pls helpNeed to find something on parenting to enable me to discipline my four year old son
Find something that he likes to do and build on that, and if he misbehaves then you remove him from his favorite thing and sometimes a good time out area is his room with no toys or anything else to do and he needs to stay in his room say for the first time 15 minutes then keep extending the time longer and longer. With my grandson I found that playing with Thomas the tank engine and with everything that goes with it he would stay busy for hours. good luckNeed to find something on parenting to enable me to discipline my four year old son
What have you tried with respect to disciplining him? With my son I tried time outs, redirection, talking out, and even spanking (which was a bad idea to begin with) to no avail. I finally learned that the best method for him was to remove a privilege or toy until he could tell me what he did wrong, why he did it and what he could do differently. My daughter on the other hand doesn't care about things but is affected by words, telling her that she ';hurt my feelings';, causes her to rethink her actions and usually apologize. Unfortunately parenting is not an exact science and every child is different, just remember to be patient and trust your instincts. Best of luck to you.
whatever you do don't take him to a doctor. chances will be they say he has ADD or autsim and will stuff him full of pills. He's 4, he's supposed to be crazy. Give him a lil' ni-quil before bed and he'll calm right on down.
My dad's belt worked wonders in disciplining me.
there is this book ON BECOMING CHILDWISE. I believe it will help a lot if you try to read it.
You need a time out areadermatologist
Find something that he likes to do and build on that, and if he misbehaves then you remove him from his favorite thing and sometimes a good time out area is his room with no toys or anything else to do and he needs to stay in his room say for the first time 15 minutes then keep extending the time longer and longer. With my grandson I found that playing with Thomas the tank engine and with everything that goes with it he would stay busy for hours. good luckNeed to find something on parenting to enable me to discipline my four year old son
What have you tried with respect to disciplining him? With my son I tried time outs, redirection, talking out, and even spanking (which was a bad idea to begin with) to no avail. I finally learned that the best method for him was to remove a privilege or toy until he could tell me what he did wrong, why he did it and what he could do differently. My daughter on the other hand doesn't care about things but is affected by words, telling her that she ';hurt my feelings';, causes her to rethink her actions and usually apologize. Unfortunately parenting is not an exact science and every child is different, just remember to be patient and trust your instincts. Best of luck to you.
whatever you do don't take him to a doctor. chances will be they say he has ADD or autsim and will stuff him full of pills. He's 4, he's supposed to be crazy. Give him a lil' ni-quil before bed and he'll calm right on down.
My dad's belt worked wonders in disciplining me.
there is this book ON BECOMING CHILDWISE. I believe it will help a lot if you try to read it.
You need a time out area
Are there gender differences in parenting styles?
lots of details and examples please i need this thoroughly explained for homeworkAre there gender differences in parenting styles?
my mom is black and she would say james im going to knock the black off my *** if i was bad.Are there gender differences in parenting styles?
yes the 10 commandment is the key, the laws of the land tries to disprove it
my mom is black and she would say james im going to knock the black off my *** if i was bad.Are there gender differences in parenting styles?
yes the 10 commandment is the key, the laws of the land tries to disprove it
Do you think it is reasonable a non-custodial parent have almost the entire summer break for parenting time?
if the child remains with the custodial parent during the school weeks(minus one weekday afternoon, 2pm - 7pm) and all the weekends and holidays through out the school year are split evenly between the two parents?Do you think it is reasonable a non-custodial parent have almost the entire summer break for parenting time?
Did she call you a ';chick';?? lol!
Not being in that situation myself... I would think that giving my child up for the entire summer would not work very well for me.
A week or two off and on / every other week *I* think would be sufficient ';sharing'; time.
Unless the child asks to go ';spend the summer with ______';. Then they should get a say in it, once they're older, say teenagers.Do you think it is reasonable a non-custodial parent have almost the entire summer break for parenting time?
Thats not called non-custodial, it's called shared custody. One parent who has them most of the time during school time, then the other parent gets them most of the time during summer time. Thats what courts are starting to do, You are both the parents that's how it should be.
You chicks all crack me up, you have kids with these guys, and they are perfectly fine to have a kid with, but then when you break up, then all of a sudden hes no good and you can't trust him with your kid. He's still the dad, he has rights, as long as he's not endangering the kid, you are the one being unreasonable.
Turn it around so you can really see it.
You get to see your child every other week-end and every other holiday. You see your child one night a week for a few hours.
How fair is it? Think about your children and their need to bond. Stop being so selfish. You'd be scramblimg up every minute you could to see your children, right? RIGHT?
here that is called noncustodial parent we do not do joint custody.i think that is unreasonable take it back to court if you cannot trust him and try to have it modified
Well if you want to see the parent and you don't see them a lot then it sounds perfectly fine to me.
Did she call you a ';chick';?? lol!
Not being in that situation myself... I would think that giving my child up for the entire summer would not work very well for me.
A week or two off and on / every other week *I* think would be sufficient ';sharing'; time.
Unless the child asks to go ';spend the summer with ______';. Then they should get a say in it, once they're older, say teenagers.Do you think it is reasonable a non-custodial parent have almost the entire summer break for parenting time?
Thats not called non-custodial, it's called shared custody. One parent who has them most of the time during school time, then the other parent gets them most of the time during summer time. Thats what courts are starting to do, You are both the parents that's how it should be.
You chicks all crack me up, you have kids with these guys, and they are perfectly fine to have a kid with, but then when you break up, then all of a sudden hes no good and you can't trust him with your kid. He's still the dad, he has rights, as long as he's not endangering the kid, you are the one being unreasonable.
Turn it around so you can really see it.
You get to see your child every other week-end and every other holiday. You see your child one night a week for a few hours.
How fair is it? Think about your children and their need to bond. Stop being so selfish. You'd be scramblimg up every minute you could to see your children, right? RIGHT?
here that is called noncustodial parent we do not do joint custody.i think that is unreasonable take it back to court if you cannot trust him and try to have it modified
Well if you want to see the parent and you don't see them a lot then it sounds perfectly fine to me.
What colors should I use in the design of a baby/parenting website???
i am designing a baby website, and I need to know what are the best colors that could be used for this...any help greatly appreciated.....What colors should I use in the design of a baby/parenting website???
Being a new mommy I think that soft yellow is a very neutral color that works and is pleasing to the eye. Or use baby yellow, blue, pink, lavendar. Any of those soft colors will make a mommy feel warm inside for the baby colors. If your pages are going towards children older than toddlers then you should use primary colors such as red, blue, yellow, etc.What colors should I use in the design of a baby/parenting website???
I think rainbow
I think baby blue and bright red and light yellow would make it stand out but look awesome.
pink and blue and yellow
Maybe a light pink, light blue, and pastel yellow. Those are all pretty, and still won't kill the eyes.
I agree with stormy and as blue represents a boy and pink a girl it seems quite fitting,as long as they are not too bright, keep them mellow.Good Luck!
soft colors like baby blue, soft pink, soft minty green, lilac, white, etc..
Being a new mommy I think that soft yellow is a very neutral color that works and is pleasing to the eye. Or use baby yellow, blue, pink, lavendar. Any of those soft colors will make a mommy feel warm inside for the baby colors. If your pages are going towards children older than toddlers then you should use primary colors such as red, blue, yellow, etc.What colors should I use in the design of a baby/parenting website???
I think rainbow
I think baby blue and bright red and light yellow would make it stand out but look awesome.
pink and blue and yellow
Maybe a light pink, light blue, and pastel yellow. Those are all pretty, and still won't kill the eyes.
I agree with stormy and as blue represents a boy and pink a girl it seems quite fitting,as long as they are not too bright, keep them mellow.Good Luck!
soft colors like baby blue, soft pink, soft minty green, lilac, white, etc..
Any tips on single parenting anybody? I am about to be a single mom of 2 girls ages 3 and 1.5?
Oh my, I am pretty much an expert on single parenting lol. I have twin almost 4 year old sons and an almost 5 month old son. It is not easy, but it's certainly not impossible. The main things: try to maintain a good relationship with the father, but DON'T hesitate to get child support. You need it for your children, and the father should have some responsibility. Make sure you take some time for yourself sometimes, whether the girls are with their father, or a family member. Just make sure you get a break sometimes. You will feel better, and trust me, your kids will appreciate it because you will be alot happier lol. Depending on your situation, there is financial help out there if you need it. I think alot of women are too proud to accept help, but just remind yourself that it is for your daughters, not you. Try to get into a good routine, it's hard cooking, cleaning, bathing, putting kids to bed all on your own, but if you get into a good routine it goes soooo much more smoothly. I always try to take my shower in the morning before my kids get up. That way I don't have to worry about the house being torn apart during those 15 minutes lol. Really, don't worry. It's certainly not an ideal situation, but it will be ok. The fact that you actually took the time to ask this question shows that you want to do your best to be a good parent, and really, that's the most important thing. I'm sorry for your situation, and good luck.Any tips on single parenting anybody? I am about to be a single mom of 2 girls ages 3 and 1.5?
keep the father's involved as much as you can and as much as they want to. They need a dad in their life.
I'm a step-mother of two children and one child's mother did her best to push my husband out of the child's life and he called 3 of her BF's daddy...Now he's confused about men who he calls dad and then walk out of his life, it's not right. Other than that, keep a good support system up with your family and the paternal family, you don't have to consider yourself a single parent, you are a parent who happens to not be with the children's father.Any tips on single parenting anybody? I am about to be a single mom of 2 girls ages 3 and 1.5?
it needs a lot of organisation. It has some good points actually...If the children grow up in a peaceful home without any fighting it is best for them than seeing abuse and fights everyday.But you have to be a very very patient mother. Never get angry with your kids in spite of becoming stressed, tired and angry....that is the key....have balance. You can enroll them to a daycare or have someone from your family to look after them 2-3 days a week so that you have some time for rest, good sleep, exercise and organising your daily life activities including cleaning, washing, cooking and shopping....you need to have good time management skills and good parenting skills. Then you will be fine
Get help from the dad and get child support, have friends help you if you need it/
keep the father's involved as much as you can and as much as they want to. They need a dad in their life.
I'm a step-mother of two children and one child's mother did her best to push my husband out of the child's life and he called 3 of her BF's daddy...Now he's confused about men who he calls dad and then walk out of his life, it's not right. Other than that, keep a good support system up with your family and the paternal family, you don't have to consider yourself a single parent, you are a parent who happens to not be with the children's father.Any tips on single parenting anybody? I am about to be a single mom of 2 girls ages 3 and 1.5?
it needs a lot of organisation. It has some good points actually...If the children grow up in a peaceful home without any fighting it is best for them than seeing abuse and fights everyday.But you have to be a very very patient mother. Never get angry with your kids in spite of becoming stressed, tired and angry....that is the key....have balance. You can enroll them to a daycare or have someone from your family to look after them 2-3 days a week so that you have some time for rest, good sleep, exercise and organising your daily life activities including cleaning, washing, cooking and shopping....you need to have good time management skills and good parenting skills. Then you will be fine
Get help from the dad and get child support, have friends help you if you need it/
Some magazines for parenting preschoolers?
what are some good magazines for parenting preschoolers...with activities, advice, and things like that?Some magazines for parenting preschoolers?
Young ChildrenSome magazines for parenting preschoolers?
Family Fun magazine is great. It has craft activities, outdoor activities, theme activities, cooking, age appropriate vacations and parent tips. They might have a web site.
Parent magazine is always filled with good ideas.
http://www.parents.com/
Young ChildrenSome magazines for parenting preschoolers?
Family Fun magazine is great. It has craft activities, outdoor activities, theme activities, cooking, age appropriate vacations and parent tips. They might have a web site.
Parent magazine is always filled with good ideas.
http://www.parents.com/
I need a good real estate blog that also features parenting/education and lifestyle type of stuff, know any?
Yes, I know of one. It has a lot of real estate and an equal amount of education and lifestyle but you'll find a lot more than just this. There is all kinds of topics and subjects on this one blog. I fact, I use it for everyday use so I am sure you'll find it interesting. It is called, World Wide Info Source -- http://talesofmagic.com/WordPressdermatologist
Should the parenting section be renamed ';Complete Dysfunction';?
Is it just me, or does anyone else hope that Y!A isn't an accurate representation of American parenthood?Should the parenting section be renamed ';Complete Dysfunction';?
LOL.
Some time frames are worse than others.
Usually after 1 p.m. Eastern Standard Time, kids get home from school, and convince their parents that they need to do their homework over the internet, and voila, the parenting section becomes their playground !Should the parenting section be renamed ';Complete Dysfunction';?
But it is a true representation of American parenthood. Look around at the schools when you pick up your kids. Listen to what your teens actually tell you about their friends and family's. Go to Walmart, target, or any of the big chains and look around and watch. You can see in real life all the crap that goes on here.The sad thing is, we al joke about a lot of this stuff. The trolls put ridiculous questions or scenarios on here. But a lot of that stuff is real life for some.
*sigh* I agree. But sometimes the dysfunction is actually FUN! Other times... not so much.
Just the parenting section? :p
No school teaches anyone how to be a good parent. No government agency issues a parenting license.
This is Y!A. You must at all times, keep an open mind. Not everything is a true representation of what ';American parenthood'; is all about.
AYE!
I second the motion!
lol, at times it really should!
LOL.
Some time frames are worse than others.
Usually after 1 p.m. Eastern Standard Time, kids get home from school, and convince their parents that they need to do their homework over the internet, and voila, the parenting section becomes their playground !Should the parenting section be renamed ';Complete Dysfunction';?
But it is a true representation of American parenthood. Look around at the schools when you pick up your kids. Listen to what your teens actually tell you about their friends and family's. Go to Walmart, target, or any of the big chains and look around and watch. You can see in real life all the crap that goes on here.The sad thing is, we al joke about a lot of this stuff. The trolls put ridiculous questions or scenarios on here. But a lot of that stuff is real life for some.
*sigh* I agree. But sometimes the dysfunction is actually FUN! Other times... not so much.
Just the parenting section? :p
No school teaches anyone how to be a good parent. No government agency issues a parenting license.
This is Y!A. You must at all times, keep an open mind. Not everything is a true representation of what ';American parenthood'; is all about.
AYE!
I second the motion!
lol, at times it really should!
Is my parenting a little off the hook?
i have 5 kids i spank them when they do bad (except for the infant who is 3 weeks old of course) im a biologist but 15 years ago i was a con(prisoner) im hardcore im not a soft-type dad when the baby cries i pick him up for a minute then put him down if my 13 yr old has a problem with whatever i relate to him my past bad days....if my 3 yr old daughter wants her dad i tell her to go to your mom your brother's watching tv with me when the baby cries and i realize he ****ed his diaper i dont say aww look at my baby you made a doo-doo i say honey the baby pooped! and when im off the mood i practically drink lots of wine and when my kids approach i say get ,outta here im drinking after that i sleep in the bed and my wife looks at me with tear-brimmed eyes and i say -you got me into this then i fall asleep other times im a good dad i pick the baby up and talk to him about motorcycles or i would pick the clothes for my kids thats all the good i do would you recommend tips for parenting?Is my parenting a little off the hook?
Stop what you are doing now! You should be a positive role in your children's lives. Your kids didn't ask for you so get over that whole` poor me I'm stuck`. Do you know what you are doing to your kids? You are telling them that they don't deserve your love. Soon your 13 yr. old will start acting out to get your attention. Your 3 yr. old daugther will soon grow up and look to other men for the love that she didn't from you. My dad drank to get away from my brother and I. Now my brother drinks like my dad. He's had 3 D.U.I.'s. I started having sex at 13. Do you want your children to make the same mistakes you did? Don't you want them to have the world? Or do you resent yourself for the decisions you have made? You gave these kids a life. They deserve better than you are giving them. For your wife, she is giving more than you will ever realize to this life you have with her. She is a single parent taking care of 6 children. If you want to leave, than leave. The only contribution i can see you making is financial. If that is all you feel you need to contribute, go and let her find someone who wants her and those kids. Don't let your children grow up to hate you. If you continue the way you call ';parenting';, this will be the case.Is my parenting a little off the hook?
Id say, put the wine down, and go get some parenting. There are classes out there, being a teacher, you should know that. DUH
You need help
Good lord. Why do you people answer this as if it is a real question? The guy is full of BS. This is so made up.
you need to be greatful 5kidsmom is still with you. she probably should have left when you were only 1kidsdad. your children need your love, not your abuse. same goes for your wife. there are so many people out there that can't have kids and would give anything in the world just to have 1, but you have 5 and dont appreciate how special that truly is. take a look at what your life would be without your wife and children, and that should get you on the right track. i think your first step should be to quit drinking. you and your family will notice a big change just from that alone.
Looks like your wife made some bad decisions in her life
Just know those kids aren't going to be little forever. Try enjoying it while it lasts.
KIDS are special people. They all have little souls and all are different and special. Kids know from an early age when you are bad too them. You dont even have to speak words they can just pick it up.
Kids do not need spanking, ever. It is abuse and you can lose the kids to the STATE. You need to find a better way to dicipline them like time out or positive reinforcement.
Just because you had a bad life and were in prison does not mean you should destine your kids to that style of life and that is what hitting teaches them. They can grow to abuse themselves or have anger problems or emotional problems.
Your kids watch you and use you as an EXAMPLE. What kind of example are you giving them?
Is your drinking ruining your life and also the life of your wife and kids? If so get help, stop drinking, take parenting classes, and make your home a special place for your family. It should be a place that all family members look forward to being. Right now I think it is far from it.
My dad molested me for 8 years and when he did that he was trying to be nice, and when he wasn't he was a total a$$hole to me. You have a lot to handle with 5 kids and you need to spend individual time with them all. You both should have known what you were getting yourselves into. 13 yr old and a 3 wk old? You guys are probably way too old to be having babies pop out. Can't go back now. Well, no more babies, it's just overpopulation, and more costly. You need not think about the money this is costing you, you should be thinking about your childhood and how bad it was. Don't you want your children to have the best childhood ever? Life is not a bowl of cherries, but still make life fun. The older kids are neglected, and you need to take them out to have mom time and dad time.get a babysitter for the younger crowd.
cut back on wine and alcohol. you can do stuff when you are drunk that you will regret later
You pick up the baby who is 3 weeks old and talk to him about motorcycles? You only mention 3 kids above. What do you do with the other 2. Hard core xcon now biologist. Come on now.If you are on the up and up Yes I would have to say your parenting is off the hook , disconnected and wrong number.
The first thing you say is you spank your kids when they do bad. WHY. Does someone 4 times your size spank you when you do bad? If you are a biologist you should have some knowledge about the human body and know that a childs brain is not in their butts but in their heads and the only way to get a child to really understand whats right and whats wrong is to teach them and not hit them. Hitting a child only teaches the child that thier parent is unable to control thier frustrations in life and snap. I would love for every parent who believes that a child has to be spanked when they do something wrong to get spanked by someone 3 times thier size everytime they so something wrong.
I hope this is another stupid joke on yahoo Q%26amp;A, if not, you are probably close to the worst dad ever. Try growing up, and caring about someone other than yourself.
Obviously if your asking you are concerned about your parenting and know that your not doing everything right. It sounds like you have alot of good in you but you could probably spend more time and treat your kids better than you do. Why would you send your 3 year old to your wife when she wants you? Drinking in front of your kids is only setting an example that drinking and ignoring everyone is acceptable. Why spank your kids? Your teaching them when your angry violence solves the problem all your doing is teaching them to fear you. If your wife is teary eyed then shes' not happy. you should try to work on your relationship with your kids and wife and you would probably be a happier guy
Actually it kinda sounds like my house, except there is only 3 kids here. If you do your best then it will work out. Make sure you tell them you love them, often.
Dude wtf is wrong with you.... I hope your kids pull a menendez brothers on you someday
Dude, your abusive to both your wife and your kids....
this sounds like a horrible situation, sounds also like a wife desperate to fix the situation, wrote this.
both of you need to have a routine, sounds like Dad has given up and he is being very irresponsible, takes two to make a child,
he is still there which is good, he hasn't left. he needs to realise how much his kids need him and rely on is opinions as a way to view themselves. if he doesnt start building a healthy self asteem in his children by validating their ideas and spending time with them, then his daughters are going to grow up and make bad choices when it comes to men, and his sons will be confused and look for love in all the wrong places.
Dear Dad
you need to balance your lifestyle - do fun things with your children before its to late and they want nothing to do with you.
kids are the best humans on the planet, they are usually naturally good, but you can turn them into spiteful and damaged adults if you dont do the work now. and as for your wife, someone loved you enough to marry you, YOU, someone chose you over everyone else in this world, to be the father for her children. You should respect and admire her, she went through the morning sickness, the mood swings, the weight, the labor, to give you children and you say 'you got me into this' ??
you are in it together, and you need to remember what made you want to marry your wife, chances are she is still the girl you married, but the situations you weree in when you met have changed, but thats okay, you need to adapt and find the good in it, and you will realise, the more you help out, the more your wife will be the girl you once knew..
she is probably so stressed out and pushed beyond her limits, you don't even know half of the stuff she gets done, cos its invisible things, like clean washing or sending thank you cards, or calling your mother.. etc.
you can do it, you can change so much that you admire the upstanding man you can be, and I am sure your family will be all there to support you as you cut down on alcohol and start to be there as a dad and husband, thats what they want the most, I am sure they will help you. you are obviously suffering emotionally and have shut off to the kids and your wife, and used alcohol as a vice to escape the situation, but unless you face it head on it will never go away - it will get worse.
its a mountain but it will seem so small in a year when you are sitting round the table with your family laughing and sharing food, or watching a DVD together.
your wife needs to express whats upsetting her, and you need to be able to express what you are finding tough.
fix it all up mister, cos nothing is more comforting than having a family that you can come home to that is warm and supportive and cares about you more than anyone else out there in the world.
and nothing is more cold than being alone without your grown up kids calling on your birthday
everyone meet my husband yes ppl i chose him from all my suitors...he needs to change and understand things up straight i am raising 5 kids and one of them is a baby who needs more love than anyone else to my husband:
honey,get off your butt and love your family
I just got out about 4 months ago after 5 years myself and one thing I can tell you if you want your life to straighten out is this, you have tried to change on your own you see that you are not being the man that you know that you should be it's time for something new if you love your family. Give God the chance to do what he has promised you he can. HE CAN MAKE YOU INTO THE NEW CREATION a man that will please and serve the Creator and not the created things of the world.
And your question is? Are you a bad dad? In whole not completely. For the most part? YES! Do your thing on your time, when the kids are in bed or at a friends house or at school. I'm not saying you have to be all cute with them all the time but interact with your children more than sitting on the couch watching tv or telling them to get you a beer. Taking them to the park one time in a year doesn't count. Damn, no wonder your wife wants to cry. You made these kids together so get with the program and raise them together. grrrrr.
Well you don't sound to bad to me but you should try to sofen up a bit you have daughter ya got to be sweet and soft with them sometimes and you can always invite your daughter to watch tv with you and her brother instead of saying go to your mom I'm watching tv with your brother try to find something you all can do togeather as a family something they will like like when I was littler we had quite time we all was quite we either took a nap,read,drew or watched tv but no one spoke not a word then we had family nights we'd watch a movie togeather and put a blanket down on the floor set there and eat while watching the movie or we'd play board games togeather and talked about things anything your not a bad dad ( trust me I know bad dads I have one ) LoL but I would also stop the drinking when your kids are there wait till there spending the night with a friend or family member or set a day with your wife that you can go out to a hotel or something.
I think your behavior is abusive and you are slowly destroying your family. However, you must care and know that your actions are not the best course. Otherwise you would not be asking for advice. Please lay off the alcohol, if you need help, go to AA. Try finding a local Daddy's group. It's group that usually meets weekly where fathers can go to learn different approaches to parenting. Definitely take your children to the park more often and try to be more involved with their school experience. Talking to the baby is great! Do more of that. Try not to spank. The message that sends to the child is that they are bad, not that their actions were bad.
But don't just focus on being a better dad. You need to try to be a better husband. Help your wife more. Instead of informing her that the baby needs changed, do it. Help with the dishes. Take the kids one evening a week so she can have a break.
I know that I am saying a lot here and that it might be overwhelming. Don't try to change everything all at once. New habits take time to form. Change one thing at time and give yourself several weeks to get used to your new way of doing things. And above all else, remember your children will follow your example. They learn from your actions, not your words. What are you teaching your children? Is this the lesson you want them to be learning?
Good luck and I hope everything will work out for you and your family.
everybodys not perfect..you just need to go to a specialist like i did on my postpartum depression as a mom..it really helps..
Stop what you are doing now! You should be a positive role in your children's lives. Your kids didn't ask for you so get over that whole` poor me I'm stuck`. Do you know what you are doing to your kids? You are telling them that they don't deserve your love. Soon your 13 yr. old will start acting out to get your attention. Your 3 yr. old daugther will soon grow up and look to other men for the love that she didn't from you. My dad drank to get away from my brother and I. Now my brother drinks like my dad. He's had 3 D.U.I.'s. I started having sex at 13. Do you want your children to make the same mistakes you did? Don't you want them to have the world? Or do you resent yourself for the decisions you have made? You gave these kids a life. They deserve better than you are giving them. For your wife, she is giving more than you will ever realize to this life you have with her. She is a single parent taking care of 6 children. If you want to leave, than leave. The only contribution i can see you making is financial. If that is all you feel you need to contribute, go and let her find someone who wants her and those kids. Don't let your children grow up to hate you. If you continue the way you call ';parenting';, this will be the case.Is my parenting a little off the hook?
Id say, put the wine down, and go get some parenting. There are classes out there, being a teacher, you should know that. DUH
You need help
Good lord. Why do you people answer this as if it is a real question? The guy is full of BS. This is so made up.
you need to be greatful 5kidsmom is still with you. she probably should have left when you were only 1kidsdad. your children need your love, not your abuse. same goes for your wife. there are so many people out there that can't have kids and would give anything in the world just to have 1, but you have 5 and dont appreciate how special that truly is. take a look at what your life would be without your wife and children, and that should get you on the right track. i think your first step should be to quit drinking. you and your family will notice a big change just from that alone.
Looks like your wife made some bad decisions in her life
Just know those kids aren't going to be little forever. Try enjoying it while it lasts.
KIDS are special people. They all have little souls and all are different and special. Kids know from an early age when you are bad too them. You dont even have to speak words they can just pick it up.
Kids do not need spanking, ever. It is abuse and you can lose the kids to the STATE. You need to find a better way to dicipline them like time out or positive reinforcement.
Just because you had a bad life and were in prison does not mean you should destine your kids to that style of life and that is what hitting teaches them. They can grow to abuse themselves or have anger problems or emotional problems.
Your kids watch you and use you as an EXAMPLE. What kind of example are you giving them?
Is your drinking ruining your life and also the life of your wife and kids? If so get help, stop drinking, take parenting classes, and make your home a special place for your family. It should be a place that all family members look forward to being. Right now I think it is far from it.
My dad molested me for 8 years and when he did that he was trying to be nice, and when he wasn't he was a total a$$hole to me. You have a lot to handle with 5 kids and you need to spend individual time with them all. You both should have known what you were getting yourselves into. 13 yr old and a 3 wk old? You guys are probably way too old to be having babies pop out. Can't go back now. Well, no more babies, it's just overpopulation, and more costly. You need not think about the money this is costing you, you should be thinking about your childhood and how bad it was. Don't you want your children to have the best childhood ever? Life is not a bowl of cherries, but still make life fun. The older kids are neglected, and you need to take them out to have mom time and dad time.get a babysitter for the younger crowd.
cut back on wine and alcohol. you can do stuff when you are drunk that you will regret later
You pick up the baby who is 3 weeks old and talk to him about motorcycles? You only mention 3 kids above. What do you do with the other 2. Hard core xcon now biologist. Come on now.If you are on the up and up Yes I would have to say your parenting is off the hook , disconnected and wrong number.
The first thing you say is you spank your kids when they do bad. WHY. Does someone 4 times your size spank you when you do bad? If you are a biologist you should have some knowledge about the human body and know that a childs brain is not in their butts but in their heads and the only way to get a child to really understand whats right and whats wrong is to teach them and not hit them. Hitting a child only teaches the child that thier parent is unable to control thier frustrations in life and snap. I would love for every parent who believes that a child has to be spanked when they do something wrong to get spanked by someone 3 times thier size everytime they so something wrong.
I hope this is another stupid joke on yahoo Q%26amp;A, if not, you are probably close to the worst dad ever. Try growing up, and caring about someone other than yourself.
Obviously if your asking you are concerned about your parenting and know that your not doing everything right. It sounds like you have alot of good in you but you could probably spend more time and treat your kids better than you do. Why would you send your 3 year old to your wife when she wants you? Drinking in front of your kids is only setting an example that drinking and ignoring everyone is acceptable. Why spank your kids? Your teaching them when your angry violence solves the problem all your doing is teaching them to fear you. If your wife is teary eyed then shes' not happy. you should try to work on your relationship with your kids and wife and you would probably be a happier guy
Actually it kinda sounds like my house, except there is only 3 kids here. If you do your best then it will work out. Make sure you tell them you love them, often.
Dude wtf is wrong with you.... I hope your kids pull a menendez brothers on you someday
Dude, your abusive to both your wife and your kids....
this sounds like a horrible situation, sounds also like a wife desperate to fix the situation, wrote this.
both of you need to have a routine, sounds like Dad has given up and he is being very irresponsible, takes two to make a child,
he is still there which is good, he hasn't left. he needs to realise how much his kids need him and rely on is opinions as a way to view themselves. if he doesnt start building a healthy self asteem in his children by validating their ideas and spending time with them, then his daughters are going to grow up and make bad choices when it comes to men, and his sons will be confused and look for love in all the wrong places.
Dear Dad
you need to balance your lifestyle - do fun things with your children before its to late and they want nothing to do with you.
kids are the best humans on the planet, they are usually naturally good, but you can turn them into spiteful and damaged adults if you dont do the work now. and as for your wife, someone loved you enough to marry you, YOU, someone chose you over everyone else in this world, to be the father for her children. You should respect and admire her, she went through the morning sickness, the mood swings, the weight, the labor, to give you children and you say 'you got me into this' ??
you are in it together, and you need to remember what made you want to marry your wife, chances are she is still the girl you married, but the situations you weree in when you met have changed, but thats okay, you need to adapt and find the good in it, and you will realise, the more you help out, the more your wife will be the girl you once knew..
she is probably so stressed out and pushed beyond her limits, you don't even know half of the stuff she gets done, cos its invisible things, like clean washing or sending thank you cards, or calling your mother.. etc.
you can do it, you can change so much that you admire the upstanding man you can be, and I am sure your family will be all there to support you as you cut down on alcohol and start to be there as a dad and husband, thats what they want the most, I am sure they will help you. you are obviously suffering emotionally and have shut off to the kids and your wife, and used alcohol as a vice to escape the situation, but unless you face it head on it will never go away - it will get worse.
its a mountain but it will seem so small in a year when you are sitting round the table with your family laughing and sharing food, or watching a DVD together.
your wife needs to express whats upsetting her, and you need to be able to express what you are finding tough.
fix it all up mister, cos nothing is more comforting than having a family that you can come home to that is warm and supportive and cares about you more than anyone else out there in the world.
and nothing is more cold than being alone without your grown up kids calling on your birthday
everyone meet my husband yes ppl i chose him from all my suitors...he needs to change and understand things up straight i am raising 5 kids and one of them is a baby who needs more love than anyone else to my husband:
honey,get off your butt and love your family
I just got out about 4 months ago after 5 years myself and one thing I can tell you if you want your life to straighten out is this, you have tried to change on your own you see that you are not being the man that you know that you should be it's time for something new if you love your family. Give God the chance to do what he has promised you he can. HE CAN MAKE YOU INTO THE NEW CREATION a man that will please and serve the Creator and not the created things of the world.
And your question is? Are you a bad dad? In whole not completely. For the most part? YES! Do your thing on your time, when the kids are in bed or at a friends house or at school. I'm not saying you have to be all cute with them all the time but interact with your children more than sitting on the couch watching tv or telling them to get you a beer. Taking them to the park one time in a year doesn't count. Damn, no wonder your wife wants to cry. You made these kids together so get with the program and raise them together. grrrrr.
Well you don't sound to bad to me but you should try to sofen up a bit you have daughter ya got to be sweet and soft with them sometimes and you can always invite your daughter to watch tv with you and her brother instead of saying go to your mom I'm watching tv with your brother try to find something you all can do togeather as a family something they will like like when I was littler we had quite time we all was quite we either took a nap,read,drew or watched tv but no one spoke not a word then we had family nights we'd watch a movie togeather and put a blanket down on the floor set there and eat while watching the movie or we'd play board games togeather and talked about things anything your not a bad dad ( trust me I know bad dads I have one ) LoL but I would also stop the drinking when your kids are there wait till there spending the night with a friend or family member or set a day with your wife that you can go out to a hotel or something.
I think your behavior is abusive and you are slowly destroying your family. However, you must care and know that your actions are not the best course. Otherwise you would not be asking for advice. Please lay off the alcohol, if you need help, go to AA. Try finding a local Daddy's group. It's group that usually meets weekly where fathers can go to learn different approaches to parenting. Definitely take your children to the park more often and try to be more involved with their school experience. Talking to the baby is great! Do more of that. Try not to spank. The message that sends to the child is that they are bad, not that their actions were bad.
But don't just focus on being a better dad. You need to try to be a better husband. Help your wife more. Instead of informing her that the baby needs changed, do it. Help with the dishes. Take the kids one evening a week so she can have a break.
I know that I am saying a lot here and that it might be overwhelming. Don't try to change everything all at once. New habits take time to form. Change one thing at time and give yourself several weeks to get used to your new way of doing things. And above all else, remember your children will follow your example. They learn from your actions, not your words. What are you teaching your children? Is this the lesson you want them to be learning?
Good luck and I hope everything will work out for you and your family.
everybodys not perfect..you just need to go to a specialist like i did on my postpartum depression as a mom..it really helps..
Am I missing something?? Where is the joy in parenting?
I love my kids with all of my heart and am proud of them but where is the joy? I spend my days pleading with them to clean their rooms, be respectful to ME!! eat their vegies, go and play, stop fighting, stop yelling, pick up after themselves etc. Have I gone wrong somewhere or are other parents in the same boat?? These parents who say that being a parent is the most wonderful experience they could imagine, are they serious? They need to give me some pointers.Am I missing something?? Where is the joy in parenting?
I only have a 2 1/2 year old and sometimes I feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown.
Here's some advice from one of my aunties... unfortunately mine's a bit young to use these on, and I hope I wont have to (but I probably will!)
Close their bedroom doors. Tell them if they want to wallow in a pigsty, not to come crying to you when they can't find anything.
Tell them if they don't eat their veggies they will get malnutrition, scurvy, and other horrible diseases. Bring out pictures for them to look at.
And after that........ send them to a babysitter and have a day/night out for yourself.... get your hair and nails done, go to dinner with friends! Re-charge your batteries and do something for yourself for a change. Being a mother is the most important job you will ever have... but remember, you are not only a mother. You are a woman, a human being, you are a separate entity, not part of the furniture, and you need to look after YOU too!Am I missing something?? Where is the joy in parenting?
The joy comes when your 2 year old brings you a flower on his own and says, ';I love you Mumma!';
Other than small things like that and unconditional love I couldn't say.
Most days are exactly what you are describing. And I've only got one that can walk and talk! The other is just a baby.
But there is usually one moment in the day that is special and just brings it all down to the basics for me. There's usually something that my oldest does that is nice or considerate or just plain cute that makes my day.
Set up a routine for your family. When my daughter gets home from school, we sit down and play a board game. Then it's time for her to clean her room. She knows that the faster she gets that done, the more time she has to play before dinner. After dinner is more playtime for her, and then bathtime. Reading after bathtime is something that we both enjoy. If you have more than one child, schedule one bathing while you read or play with another.
Routines are great because it lets the child know that after playtime with mom, you go and clean your room. When mine knows that clean-up time is coming, she takes it much better and since she knows that after clean-up time there is playtime for her, she is more willing to do it without a fight.
Reminding her to pickup after herself in the living room is a constant thing, but I throw or give away everything that is in the living room after she goes to school. She's lost enough toys, shoes, and clothes to know that this is going to happen, so every morning I give her an extra 10 minutes to pick up (I still have to remind her), and most everything is picked up before she leaves.
Sunday is our family day. We get up and go to church, but there are limited chores. Just picking up in the living room for her, cooking an easy dinner for me, and taking out the trash for Dad. Other than that we are ';free'; to do the things that we love. There's usually a long walk or a board game for us as a family, and for my daughter...lots of playing with friends, on the computer, or just being loose. It's a break for all of us, and we really enjoy the time that we spend together (or apart!)
So, my advice is...set up a routine, and make sure you schedule some time as a family, some one on one time with each child during the week, and some time just to be ';free.';
Hang in there and keep up the good work!
the joy is in your child telling you thank you for being there, that they love you and they consider you the best mom or dad in the world. where a 5 year old will tell his friends that dad is the favorite super hero. where your daughter says that she is a princess cause her mommy is a queen. when your 25 yr old daughter tells her mother that she was a great mother and learned all the best things from her.
the joy is in hearing happy mothers day from your kids when the bring you underdone pancakes for breakfast and burned toast because they wanted to do something special for you. a son saying thanks dad for all that you have taught me. i wouldn't be where i am if it weren't for you.
the joy is a necklace made out of macaroni or those little handprints you just can't seem to clean off the walls cause your little baby won't be little for long....i could go on for hours....kids are just great. it's awesome to see things from their point of view. it makes you start to believe in all those things you thought you had grown out of....
Each parent has their own parenting style, you will find yours. What works for one may not work for another, just enjoy the kids now they will soon grow up and away.
Thank you for being the best you can be. you are awesome.
You are not alone.... I look back on what I could have done better, my kids say ';Dad you did just fine'; enjoy your rare personalities of your children.
lol good one.
Hon you're just going through the normal trials of being a parent. I think when they say '; the Joys of Parenting'; they mean those special moments that you have with your Kids . Like when one of them curls up next to you, and out of the blue says '; I love you Mommy'; , or the School Play you watched your child in. That kind of thing . Parenting isn't all joyfull, believe me . It's' getting to those special moments with your Kids that's joyful. So the next time you feel like pulling your hair out count to ten and remember those times . Believe me It helps.
You are missing your lack of discipline.I was the same way with my three.Actually only my two oldest.We started taking away their privileges.My youngest listens to us.Be Blessed!
Parents who compain about parenting are obviously parents who have not had to bury one of thier children. Stop complaining and be thankful everyday you still have them.
The joy my dear is hearing them say I love you, cuddling up on the couch with a book or for a movie. Hearing them giggle while they are playing. Overhearing their conversations and being in awe of their innocence. Watching their faces when they experience something new and wonderful. Watching them all grown up start a family of their own. Listening to the stories of what they thought they got away with growing up. I could go on forever, take a minute step back and enjoy. No one ever grew up to be an axe murderer because they had a dirty room and didn't eat their vegetables. Also finding out that they actually do respect you and did notice all the things you have done for them over the years.
Hang in there and be kind but firm. It gets better if you don't give up. If you don't already have some responsible adult friends with kids, find some. It helps to talk to others in the same situation.
I have 2 daughters, 3 and 1. It's HARD! To parent well, it's more work for the parents. I find the parenting part to be without joy as well. I enjoy the friendship and love with my girls, but the discipline sucks. Let me know if you find a good trick. I think most parents are muddling through, just like us.
first you shouldn't have to plead with them for anything be more firm with them so they behave themselves, if they start acting like proper children, then maybe you can enjoy more of the time with them...although at times all kids will fight or have a food they just dont like or even grip about their room but not all the time. now think the times they come home with a good grade, or they beat the video game there are so many little things you can find joy in all of those things that no one else would and why, because thats your child, you created that child like no one else could. and they love YOU. so when you are going thur the hard times and you will, dont forget all the good ones too.
the joy is already their you get to see your beautiful kids grow up.the should bring you joy no matter what they do or say.
I only have a 2 1/2 year old and sometimes I feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown.
Here's some advice from one of my aunties... unfortunately mine's a bit young to use these on, and I hope I wont have to (but I probably will!)
Close their bedroom doors. Tell them if they want to wallow in a pigsty, not to come crying to you when they can't find anything.
Tell them if they don't eat their veggies they will get malnutrition, scurvy, and other horrible diseases. Bring out pictures for them to look at.
And after that........ send them to a babysitter and have a day/night out for yourself.... get your hair and nails done, go to dinner with friends! Re-charge your batteries and do something for yourself for a change. Being a mother is the most important job you will ever have... but remember, you are not only a mother. You are a woman, a human being, you are a separate entity, not part of the furniture, and you need to look after YOU too!Am I missing something?? Where is the joy in parenting?
The joy comes when your 2 year old brings you a flower on his own and says, ';I love you Mumma!';
Other than small things like that and unconditional love I couldn't say.
Most days are exactly what you are describing. And I've only got one that can walk and talk! The other is just a baby.
But there is usually one moment in the day that is special and just brings it all down to the basics for me. There's usually something that my oldest does that is nice or considerate or just plain cute that makes my day.
Set up a routine for your family. When my daughter gets home from school, we sit down and play a board game. Then it's time for her to clean her room. She knows that the faster she gets that done, the more time she has to play before dinner. After dinner is more playtime for her, and then bathtime. Reading after bathtime is something that we both enjoy. If you have more than one child, schedule one bathing while you read or play with another.
Routines are great because it lets the child know that after playtime with mom, you go and clean your room. When mine knows that clean-up time is coming, she takes it much better and since she knows that after clean-up time there is playtime for her, she is more willing to do it without a fight.
Reminding her to pickup after herself in the living room is a constant thing, but I throw or give away everything that is in the living room after she goes to school. She's lost enough toys, shoes, and clothes to know that this is going to happen, so every morning I give her an extra 10 minutes to pick up (I still have to remind her), and most everything is picked up before she leaves.
Sunday is our family day. We get up and go to church, but there are limited chores. Just picking up in the living room for her, cooking an easy dinner for me, and taking out the trash for Dad. Other than that we are ';free'; to do the things that we love. There's usually a long walk or a board game for us as a family, and for my daughter...lots of playing with friends, on the computer, or just being loose. It's a break for all of us, and we really enjoy the time that we spend together (or apart!)
So, my advice is...set up a routine, and make sure you schedule some time as a family, some one on one time with each child during the week, and some time just to be ';free.';
Hang in there and keep up the good work!
the joy is in your child telling you thank you for being there, that they love you and they consider you the best mom or dad in the world. where a 5 year old will tell his friends that dad is the favorite super hero. where your daughter says that she is a princess cause her mommy is a queen. when your 25 yr old daughter tells her mother that she was a great mother and learned all the best things from her.
the joy is in hearing happy mothers day from your kids when the bring you underdone pancakes for breakfast and burned toast because they wanted to do something special for you. a son saying thanks dad for all that you have taught me. i wouldn't be where i am if it weren't for you.
the joy is a necklace made out of macaroni or those little handprints you just can't seem to clean off the walls cause your little baby won't be little for long....i could go on for hours....kids are just great. it's awesome to see things from their point of view. it makes you start to believe in all those things you thought you had grown out of....
Each parent has their own parenting style, you will find yours. What works for one may not work for another, just enjoy the kids now they will soon grow up and away.
Thank you for being the best you can be. you are awesome.
You are not alone.... I look back on what I could have done better, my kids say ';Dad you did just fine'; enjoy your rare personalities of your children.
lol good one.
Hon you're just going through the normal trials of being a parent. I think when they say '; the Joys of Parenting'; they mean those special moments that you have with your Kids . Like when one of them curls up next to you, and out of the blue says '; I love you Mommy'; , or the School Play you watched your child in. That kind of thing . Parenting isn't all joyfull, believe me . It's' getting to those special moments with your Kids that's joyful. So the next time you feel like pulling your hair out count to ten and remember those times . Believe me It helps.
You are missing your lack of discipline.I was the same way with my three.Actually only my two oldest.We started taking away their privileges.My youngest listens to us.Be Blessed!
Parents who compain about parenting are obviously parents who have not had to bury one of thier children. Stop complaining and be thankful everyday you still have them.
The joy my dear is hearing them say I love you, cuddling up on the couch with a book or for a movie. Hearing them giggle while they are playing. Overhearing their conversations and being in awe of their innocence. Watching their faces when they experience something new and wonderful. Watching them all grown up start a family of their own. Listening to the stories of what they thought they got away with growing up. I could go on forever, take a minute step back and enjoy. No one ever grew up to be an axe murderer because they had a dirty room and didn't eat their vegetables. Also finding out that they actually do respect you and did notice all the things you have done for them over the years.
Hang in there and be kind but firm. It gets better if you don't give up. If you don't already have some responsible adult friends with kids, find some. It helps to talk to others in the same situation.
I have 2 daughters, 3 and 1. It's HARD! To parent well, it's more work for the parents. I find the parenting part to be without joy as well. I enjoy the friendship and love with my girls, but the discipline sucks. Let me know if you find a good trick. I think most parents are muddling through, just like us.
first you shouldn't have to plead with them for anything be more firm with them so they behave themselves, if they start acting like proper children, then maybe you can enjoy more of the time with them...although at times all kids will fight or have a food they just dont like or even grip about their room but not all the time. now think the times they come home with a good grade, or they beat the video game there are so many little things you can find joy in all of those things that no one else would and why, because thats your child, you created that child like no one else could. and they love YOU. so when you are going thur the hard times and you will, dont forget all the good ones too.
the joy is already their you get to see your beautiful kids grow up.the should bring you joy no matter what they do or say.
Pls help me revise my hypothesis.If level of income is related to responsible parenting, then older couple ?
f level of income is related to responsible parenting, then older couple will tend to be more responsible as they are supposed to have higher incomes
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Am I missing something?? Where is the joy in parenting?
I love my kids with all of my heart and am proud of them but where is the joy? I spend my days pleading with them to clean their rooms, be respectful to ME!! eat their vegies, go and play, stop fighting, stop yelling, pick up after themselves etc. Have I gone wrong somewhere or are other parents in the same boat?? These parents who say that being a parent is the most wonderful experience they could imagine, are they serious? They need to give me some pointers.Am I missing something?? Where is the joy in parenting?
I only have a 2 1/2 year old and sometimes I feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown.
Here's some advice from one of my aunties... unfortunately mine's a bit young to use these on, and I hope I wont have to (but I probably will!)
Close their bedroom doors. Tell them if they want to wallow in a pigsty, not to come crying to you when they can't find anything.
Tell them if they don't eat their veggies they will get malnutrition, scurvy, and other horrible diseases. Bring out pictures for them to look at.
And after that........ send them to a babysitter and have a day/night out for yourself.... get your hair and nails done, go to dinner with friends! Re-charge your batteries and do something for yourself for a change. Being a mother is the most important job you will ever have... but remember, you are not only a mother. You are a woman, a human being, you are a separate entity, not part of the furniture, and you need to look after YOU too!Am I missing something?? Where is the joy in parenting?
The joy comes when your 2 year old brings you a flower on his own and says, ';I love you Mumma!';
Other than small things like that and unconditional love I couldn't say.
Most days are exactly what you are describing. And I've only got one that can walk and talk! The other is just a baby.
But there is usually one moment in the day that is special and just brings it all down to the basics for me. There's usually something that my oldest does that is nice or considerate or just plain cute that makes my day.
Set up a routine for your family. When my daughter gets home from school, we sit down and play a board game. Then it's time for her to clean her room. She knows that the faster she gets that done, the more time she has to play before dinner. After dinner is more playtime for her, and then bathtime. Reading after bathtime is something that we both enjoy. If you have more than one child, schedule one bathing while you read or play with another.
Routines are great because it lets the child know that after playtime with mom, you go and clean your room. When mine knows that clean-up time is coming, she takes it much better and since she knows that after clean-up time there is playtime for her, she is more willing to do it without a fight.
Reminding her to pickup after herself in the living room is a constant thing, but I throw or give away everything that is in the living room after she goes to school. She's lost enough toys, shoes, and clothes to know that this is going to happen, so every morning I give her an extra 10 minutes to pick up (I still have to remind her), and most everything is picked up before she leaves.
Sunday is our family day. We get up and go to church, but there are limited chores. Just picking up in the living room for her, cooking an easy dinner for me, and taking out the trash for Dad. Other than that we are ';free'; to do the things that we love. There's usually a long walk or a board game for us as a family, and for my daughter...lots of playing with friends, on the computer, or just being loose. It's a break for all of us, and we really enjoy the time that we spend together (or apart!)
So, my advice is...set up a routine, and make sure you schedule some time as a family, some one on one time with each child during the week, and some time just to be ';free.';
Hang in there and keep up the good work!
the joy is in your child telling you thank you for being there, that they love you and they consider you the best mom or dad in the world. where a 5 year old will tell his friends that dad is the favorite super hero. where your daughter says that she is a princess cause her mommy is a queen. when your 25 yr old daughter tells her mother that she was a great mother and learned all the best things from her.
the joy is in hearing happy mothers day from your kids when the bring you underdone pancakes for breakfast and burned toast because they wanted to do something special for you. a son saying thanks dad for all that you have taught me. i wouldn't be where i am if it weren't for you.
the joy is a necklace made out of macaroni or those little handprints you just can't seem to clean off the walls cause your little baby won't be little for long....i could go on for hours....kids are just great. it's awesome to see things from their point of view. it makes you start to believe in all those things you thought you had grown out of....
Each parent has their own parenting style, you will find yours. What works for one may not work for another, just enjoy the kids now they will soon grow up and away.
Thank you for being the best you can be. you are awesome.
You are not alone.... I look back on what I could have done better, my kids say ';Dad you did just fine'; enjoy your rare personalities of your children.
lol good one.
Hon you're just going through the normal trials of being a parent. I think when they say '; the Joys of Parenting'; they mean those special moments that you have with your Kids . Like when one of them curls up next to you, and out of the blue says '; I love you Mommy'; , or the School Play you watched your child in. That kind of thing . Parenting isn't all joyfull, believe me . It's' getting to those special moments with your Kids that's joyful. So the next time you feel like pulling your hair out count to ten and remember those times . Believe me It helps.
You are missing your lack of discipline.I was the same way with my three.Actually only my two oldest.We started taking away their privileges.My youngest listens to us.Be Blessed!
Parents who compain about parenting are obviously parents who have not had to bury one of thier children. Stop complaining and be thankful everyday you still have them.
The joy my dear is hearing them say I love you, cuddling up on the couch with a book or for a movie. Hearing them giggle while they are playing. Overhearing their conversations and being in awe of their innocence. Watching their faces when they experience something new and wonderful. Watching them all grown up start a family of their own. Listening to the stories of what they thought they got away with growing up. I could go on forever, take a minute step back and enjoy. No one ever grew up to be an axe murderer because they had a dirty room and didn't eat their vegetables. Also finding out that they actually do respect you and did notice all the things you have done for them over the years.
Hang in there and be kind but firm. It gets better if you don't give up. If you don't already have some responsible adult friends with kids, find some. It helps to talk to others in the same situation.
I have 2 daughters, 3 and 1. It's HARD! To parent well, it's more work for the parents. I find the parenting part to be without joy as well. I enjoy the friendship and love with my girls, but the discipline sucks. Let me know if you find a good trick. I think most parents are muddling through, just like us.
first you shouldn't have to plead with them for anything be more firm with them so they behave themselves, if they start acting like proper children, then maybe you can enjoy more of the time with them...although at times all kids will fight or have a food they just dont like or even grip about their room but not all the time. now think the times they come home with a good grade, or they beat the video game there are so many little things you can find joy in all of those things that no one else would and why, because thats your child, you created that child like no one else could. and they love YOU. so when you are going thur the hard times and you will, dont forget all the good ones too.
the joy is already their you get to see your beautiful kids grow up.the should bring you joy no matter what they do or say.dermatologist
I only have a 2 1/2 year old and sometimes I feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown.
Here's some advice from one of my aunties... unfortunately mine's a bit young to use these on, and I hope I wont have to (but I probably will!)
Close their bedroom doors. Tell them if they want to wallow in a pigsty, not to come crying to you when they can't find anything.
Tell them if they don't eat their veggies they will get malnutrition, scurvy, and other horrible diseases. Bring out pictures for them to look at.
And after that........ send them to a babysitter and have a day/night out for yourself.... get your hair and nails done, go to dinner with friends! Re-charge your batteries and do something for yourself for a change. Being a mother is the most important job you will ever have... but remember, you are not only a mother. You are a woman, a human being, you are a separate entity, not part of the furniture, and you need to look after YOU too!Am I missing something?? Where is the joy in parenting?
The joy comes when your 2 year old brings you a flower on his own and says, ';I love you Mumma!';
Other than small things like that and unconditional love I couldn't say.
Most days are exactly what you are describing. And I've only got one that can walk and talk! The other is just a baby.
But there is usually one moment in the day that is special and just brings it all down to the basics for me. There's usually something that my oldest does that is nice or considerate or just plain cute that makes my day.
Set up a routine for your family. When my daughter gets home from school, we sit down and play a board game. Then it's time for her to clean her room. She knows that the faster she gets that done, the more time she has to play before dinner. After dinner is more playtime for her, and then bathtime. Reading after bathtime is something that we both enjoy. If you have more than one child, schedule one bathing while you read or play with another.
Routines are great because it lets the child know that after playtime with mom, you go and clean your room. When mine knows that clean-up time is coming, she takes it much better and since she knows that after clean-up time there is playtime for her, she is more willing to do it without a fight.
Reminding her to pickup after herself in the living room is a constant thing, but I throw or give away everything that is in the living room after she goes to school. She's lost enough toys, shoes, and clothes to know that this is going to happen, so every morning I give her an extra 10 minutes to pick up (I still have to remind her), and most everything is picked up before she leaves.
Sunday is our family day. We get up and go to church, but there are limited chores. Just picking up in the living room for her, cooking an easy dinner for me, and taking out the trash for Dad. Other than that we are ';free'; to do the things that we love. There's usually a long walk or a board game for us as a family, and for my daughter...lots of playing with friends, on the computer, or just being loose. It's a break for all of us, and we really enjoy the time that we spend together (or apart!)
So, my advice is...set up a routine, and make sure you schedule some time as a family, some one on one time with each child during the week, and some time just to be ';free.';
Hang in there and keep up the good work!
the joy is in your child telling you thank you for being there, that they love you and they consider you the best mom or dad in the world. where a 5 year old will tell his friends that dad is the favorite super hero. where your daughter says that she is a princess cause her mommy is a queen. when your 25 yr old daughter tells her mother that she was a great mother and learned all the best things from her.
the joy is in hearing happy mothers day from your kids when the bring you underdone pancakes for breakfast and burned toast because they wanted to do something special for you. a son saying thanks dad for all that you have taught me. i wouldn't be where i am if it weren't for you.
the joy is a necklace made out of macaroni or those little handprints you just can't seem to clean off the walls cause your little baby won't be little for long....i could go on for hours....kids are just great. it's awesome to see things from their point of view. it makes you start to believe in all those things you thought you had grown out of....
Each parent has their own parenting style, you will find yours. What works for one may not work for another, just enjoy the kids now they will soon grow up and away.
Thank you for being the best you can be. you are awesome.
You are not alone.... I look back on what I could have done better, my kids say ';Dad you did just fine'; enjoy your rare personalities of your children.
lol good one.
Hon you're just going through the normal trials of being a parent. I think when they say '; the Joys of Parenting'; they mean those special moments that you have with your Kids . Like when one of them curls up next to you, and out of the blue says '; I love you Mommy'; , or the School Play you watched your child in. That kind of thing . Parenting isn't all joyfull, believe me . It's' getting to those special moments with your Kids that's joyful. So the next time you feel like pulling your hair out count to ten and remember those times . Believe me It helps.
You are missing your lack of discipline.I was the same way with my three.Actually only my two oldest.We started taking away their privileges.My youngest listens to us.Be Blessed!
Parents who compain about parenting are obviously parents who have not had to bury one of thier children. Stop complaining and be thankful everyday you still have them.
The joy my dear is hearing them say I love you, cuddling up on the couch with a book or for a movie. Hearing them giggle while they are playing. Overhearing their conversations and being in awe of their innocence. Watching their faces when they experience something new and wonderful. Watching them all grown up start a family of their own. Listening to the stories of what they thought they got away with growing up. I could go on forever, take a minute step back and enjoy. No one ever grew up to be an axe murderer because they had a dirty room and didn't eat their vegetables. Also finding out that they actually do respect you and did notice all the things you have done for them over the years.
Hang in there and be kind but firm. It gets better if you don't give up. If you don't already have some responsible adult friends with kids, find some. It helps to talk to others in the same situation.
I have 2 daughters, 3 and 1. It's HARD! To parent well, it's more work for the parents. I find the parenting part to be without joy as well. I enjoy the friendship and love with my girls, but the discipline sucks. Let me know if you find a good trick. I think most parents are muddling through, just like us.
first you shouldn't have to plead with them for anything be more firm with them so they behave themselves, if they start acting like proper children, then maybe you can enjoy more of the time with them...although at times all kids will fight or have a food they just dont like or even grip about their room but not all the time. now think the times they come home with a good grade, or they beat the video game there are so many little things you can find joy in all of those things that no one else would and why, because thats your child, you created that child like no one else could. and they love YOU. so when you are going thur the hard times and you will, dont forget all the good ones too.
the joy is already their you get to see your beautiful kids grow up.the should bring you joy no matter what they do or say.
What do you like best about the Y!A parenting section (as opposed to other sections)?
I like that there are no ';Am I pregnant?'; Q's.
Whoops...no, wait...nevermind.What do you like best about the Y!A parenting section (as opposed to other sections)?
LOL am i pregnant, I always say yes to them. This is honestly the most helpful section for me. I bug everyone with my variety of questions in this section, I ask my health ones in here, my relationship ones, my food ones lol, everything. I like the Surfing section, martial arts, and food and drink as well jsut to get away from the debates. And when I'm feeling REALLY immature i go to Polls and Surveys.What do you like best about the Y!A parenting section (as opposed to other sections)?
i like the civility, intellectual edge, originality of the questions, and general tone of respect.
rofl. okay, parenting just happens to be a general topic that interests me. i venture over to religion sometimes because that's an interesting topic to me, too, but those guys are even ruder than the people here, if you can imagine such a thing. and while i'm also interested in politics, the politics section is a pitiful mud wrestling pit.
I like how there are real parents on here that can actually give you advice from experience, except for the occasional troll. And the ';Am I pregnant'; questions usually aren't asked to much on here haha. I also like that moms have respect towards one another and can show that they do care about children, even if they don't know them!
I like our little community and that there's always a familiar looking avatar staring back at you.
On a serious note though, I speak to some fantastic mums, it's just little things, I answered a question where I said the last name of my Fiance, and one lady remembered it and said it in an answer to one of my questions, it just shows that people on here do take notice of what you say if you know what I mean.
I have been a member of many forums, and have never felt so welcomed by any section - I love it!
That I can actually answer the questions and/or (try to) help someone who's going through something I had gone through.
I venture over to the Mathematics section at times (stats is my thing) to see what's going on at times, but I gotta tell you, no one gets in heated discussions there. Pretty boring.
Here in the Parenting section ( for the most part) mothers have real concerns %26amp; issues. Also there is a wonderful support group of those willing to help with these problems and issues. We are our own lil community, with our own set of friends to help each other through the perils of parenting.
I like the fact that it is mostly parents on here which means they have a HEART. A lot of people in other sections (especially the PETS sections) are absolutely HEARTLESS to others feelings. But it seems that after having children people learn compassion towards others.
EDIT: just me - I agree that the dog section people are crazy! lol
i'm a SAHM so right now being a parent is my life.
i also like the polls section, those are always fun,
marriage and divorce people are actually the nicest so far as i can tell,
the dog people are crazy....
parenting is my favorite though mainly bc parenting is my life.
I get to read very, VERY heated debates on different parenting methods...it's very entertaining :)
I also venture over to the Books and Authors section because I'm a book worm like that...and I'm also a photographer so I'm always in the photography section.
Because your here of course.
My contacts are mostly here.... :)
Whoops...no, wait...nevermind.What do you like best about the Y!A parenting section (as opposed to other sections)?
LOL am i pregnant, I always say yes to them. This is honestly the most helpful section for me. I bug everyone with my variety of questions in this section, I ask my health ones in here, my relationship ones, my food ones lol, everything. I like the Surfing section, martial arts, and food and drink as well jsut to get away from the debates. And when I'm feeling REALLY immature i go to Polls and Surveys.What do you like best about the Y!A parenting section (as opposed to other sections)?
i like the civility, intellectual edge, originality of the questions, and general tone of respect.
rofl. okay, parenting just happens to be a general topic that interests me. i venture over to religion sometimes because that's an interesting topic to me, too, but those guys are even ruder than the people here, if you can imagine such a thing. and while i'm also interested in politics, the politics section is a pitiful mud wrestling pit.
I like how there are real parents on here that can actually give you advice from experience, except for the occasional troll. And the ';Am I pregnant'; questions usually aren't asked to much on here haha. I also like that moms have respect towards one another and can show that they do care about children, even if they don't know them!
I like our little community and that there's always a familiar looking avatar staring back at you.
On a serious note though, I speak to some fantastic mums, it's just little things, I answered a question where I said the last name of my Fiance, and one lady remembered it and said it in an answer to one of my questions, it just shows that people on here do take notice of what you say if you know what I mean.
I have been a member of many forums, and have never felt so welcomed by any section - I love it!
That I can actually answer the questions and/or (try to) help someone who's going through something I had gone through.
I venture over to the Mathematics section at times (stats is my thing) to see what's going on at times, but I gotta tell you, no one gets in heated discussions there. Pretty boring.
Here in the Parenting section ( for the most part) mothers have real concerns %26amp; issues. Also there is a wonderful support group of those willing to help with these problems and issues. We are our own lil community, with our own set of friends to help each other through the perils of parenting.
I like the fact that it is mostly parents on here which means they have a HEART. A lot of people in other sections (especially the PETS sections) are absolutely HEARTLESS to others feelings. But it seems that after having children people learn compassion towards others.
EDIT: just me - I agree that the dog section people are crazy! lol
i'm a SAHM so right now being a parent is my life.
i also like the polls section, those are always fun,
marriage and divorce people are actually the nicest so far as i can tell,
the dog people are crazy....
parenting is my favorite though mainly bc parenting is my life.
I get to read very, VERY heated debates on different parenting methods...it's very entertaining :)
I also venture over to the Books and Authors section because I'm a book worm like that...and I'm also a photographer so I'm always in the photography section.
Because your here of course.
My contacts are mostly here.... :)
Is parenting easier or harder than you though it would be?
I knew it would be difficult. But there are times when I say ';I REALLY never expected this!';
Some parts are easier than I first thought and other parts are harder than I originally believed. But I adjust and find ways to make it work and learn along the way.
Hopefully the teen years are not the kind of battle I experienced growing up. I was a very strong willed teenager...... am I doomed to have strong willed teens too? :)
Good thing God is there and can give me peace of mind and guidance. I don't know what I'd do without Him (seriously).Is parenting easier or harder than you though it would be?
both. the routine, day-to-day parts of it were harder than i expected before having kids, but has become easier than i feared in that first year or two of seeing what i had gotten myself into.
but the overall experience of it is harder, not in terms of the packing of lunchboxes and fixing of booboos and finding of lost socks, but in terms of taking responsibility for another person's existence.Is parenting easier or harder than you though it would be?
As far as bonding with them, taking care of their basic needs, being actively involved in their schooling I think it's easier.
When I think ahead (which I rarely do) about the teenage years and their adulthood when I'll have lost any control I have been able to keep I think it will be much harder. I think a lot of people think about parenting and imagine babies, toddlers, little league baseball whatever. Once a parent always a parent. I'm always going to have to make decisions based on my kids choices in life. Even when they're adults. That will be much more difficult for me I think.
So much harder. No one can prepare you for how enmeshed in another person's life you become. I mean, I love my parents and husband and other people, and I care about what happens in their lives. But ultimately they are all adults and can take care of themselves. When you have a child, you are responsible for every. little. detail. of their lives. With babies, you are the one one who makes sure they eat and poop and if they have a tummy ache or need a bath..... As your kids get older, you are responsible for teaching them character development, how to be responsible citizens of the world, who to trust and how to know when not to trust someone. You make sure their health and educational needs are met. You hope that you have raised them in such a way that they are able to go out in the world and lead happy, productive lives.
I think being a parents is more work than anyone can imagine without actually doing it.
Neither; it has it's good days and bad ones. Right now we're going through the transition from diapers to potty training and it's pretty tough (especially when your child pees right in front of the toilet and then says mommy i peed lol). I'm just getting used to the idea of having two, so juggling them is pretty okay. So far I've had about 2 tough days but it won't break me. I'll just say parenting is rewarding adventure.
So much easier. I read a lot of books that had women saying how they were always tired and never got to sleep and they lost themselves and never took a break. They never got help and felt overwhelmed. I was afraid that was motherhood. It was inevitable. Lol. It's really pretty cake. Sure it has it's problems but all in all it's pretty easy to do if you just flow and don't force. If I forced my son to eat solids at six months and forced him to sleep in his crib and obsessed about his development all the time sure it would be hard. I'm very laid back and it's not hard to be a parent if you pay attention to your child and your instincts. As he gets older I'm sure there will be new challenges but I don't see it suddenly becoming a really hard thing just to be his mom.
A little of both if that makes sense. I definitely wasn't prepared for the endless amounts of vomit and poop. The only experience I had with a baby was my niece, and she was a child who rarely ever got sick. I think I saw her throw up like once. My daughter has severe reflux and asthma, and I think she's thrown up closer to a million times! My niece is just about as 'normal'; and you can get, and my daughter is far from that...she has alot of health issues and developmental issues. As for it being easier, I really feared I wouldn't feel like a mom, and I wouldn't be a very good one. But I was definitely wrong!
for me they were given to me, no one at a time. i went from none to 7 at once in 6 months. now that we have adopted 4 i have to say its harder than i thought. trying to keep them healthy, safe, teaching them about life, discipline, loving them so much, worrying all the time, i can go on and on. and this is forever. BUT i would never trade it for the world.
About the same with me, sometimes easier sometimes harder, depending on what kind of day we are all having honestly!
I've been helping to raise kids since i was about 11 years old though, so I kind of had a big taste of it before I was even a parent!
well it depends, I have a child with autism wihch I never dreamt Id have a child with needs, it has been harder at times with him on so many levels but compared to my daughter getting ready to turn 4 hes a breeze and she doesnt have autism,lol
I'd say easier, so far, but my son is only 8 1/2 months old. Not that it doesn't have its challenges, but I knew nothing about babies when I had him and everything felt and came very naturally.
it was so easy - before i had kids. i never even imagined some of the stuff that i do now. (my toilet question) so much easier in my mind than in practice.
Depends on the day...Today I'd say yes but yesterday I'd have said no... it also depends on the time of day as well...
Both :-)
It's definitely more interesting %26amp; fascinating than I thought it would be.
It is the hardest thing I have ever done but in the same token: It is the most rewarding thing I ever done as well.
Easier. I thought it would be so difficult, but I love it and things seem to be going smoothly so far.
Well my baby is only 7 months and so far it has been easier but I have a feeling it will soon be harder.
About the same.
though I never thought Id be taking care of my brothers as well as my own.
In some respects it is harder than I though,but hey what doesn't kill you makes you stronger right...
Easier It just sorta happens.
Some days it's easy some days it's hard. It all depends on what day you catch me on:)
About the same it is not hard until they start talking back.
I never really thought the whole thing through prior hand.:)
Some parts are easier than I first thought and other parts are harder than I originally believed. But I adjust and find ways to make it work and learn along the way.
Hopefully the teen years are not the kind of battle I experienced growing up. I was a very strong willed teenager...... am I doomed to have strong willed teens too? :)
Good thing God is there and can give me peace of mind and guidance. I don't know what I'd do without Him (seriously).Is parenting easier or harder than you though it would be?
both. the routine, day-to-day parts of it were harder than i expected before having kids, but has become easier than i feared in that first year or two of seeing what i had gotten myself into.
but the overall experience of it is harder, not in terms of the packing of lunchboxes and fixing of booboos and finding of lost socks, but in terms of taking responsibility for another person's existence.Is parenting easier or harder than you though it would be?
As far as bonding with them, taking care of their basic needs, being actively involved in their schooling I think it's easier.
When I think ahead (which I rarely do) about the teenage years and their adulthood when I'll have lost any control I have been able to keep I think it will be much harder. I think a lot of people think about parenting and imagine babies, toddlers, little league baseball whatever. Once a parent always a parent. I'm always going to have to make decisions based on my kids choices in life. Even when they're adults. That will be much more difficult for me I think.
So much harder. No one can prepare you for how enmeshed in another person's life you become. I mean, I love my parents and husband and other people, and I care about what happens in their lives. But ultimately they are all adults and can take care of themselves. When you have a child, you are responsible for every. little. detail. of their lives. With babies, you are the one one who makes sure they eat and poop and if they have a tummy ache or need a bath..... As your kids get older, you are responsible for teaching them character development, how to be responsible citizens of the world, who to trust and how to know when not to trust someone. You make sure their health and educational needs are met. You hope that you have raised them in such a way that they are able to go out in the world and lead happy, productive lives.
I think being a parents is more work than anyone can imagine without actually doing it.
Neither; it has it's good days and bad ones. Right now we're going through the transition from diapers to potty training and it's pretty tough (especially when your child pees right in front of the toilet and then says mommy i peed lol). I'm just getting used to the idea of having two, so juggling them is pretty okay. So far I've had about 2 tough days but it won't break me. I'll just say parenting is rewarding adventure.
So much easier. I read a lot of books that had women saying how they were always tired and never got to sleep and they lost themselves and never took a break. They never got help and felt overwhelmed. I was afraid that was motherhood. It was inevitable. Lol. It's really pretty cake. Sure it has it's problems but all in all it's pretty easy to do if you just flow and don't force. If I forced my son to eat solids at six months and forced him to sleep in his crib and obsessed about his development all the time sure it would be hard. I'm very laid back and it's not hard to be a parent if you pay attention to your child and your instincts. As he gets older I'm sure there will be new challenges but I don't see it suddenly becoming a really hard thing just to be his mom.
A little of both if that makes sense. I definitely wasn't prepared for the endless amounts of vomit and poop. The only experience I had with a baby was my niece, and she was a child who rarely ever got sick. I think I saw her throw up like once. My daughter has severe reflux and asthma, and I think she's thrown up closer to a million times! My niece is just about as 'normal'; and you can get, and my daughter is far from that...she has alot of health issues and developmental issues. As for it being easier, I really feared I wouldn't feel like a mom, and I wouldn't be a very good one. But I was definitely wrong!
for me they were given to me, no one at a time. i went from none to 7 at once in 6 months. now that we have adopted 4 i have to say its harder than i thought. trying to keep them healthy, safe, teaching them about life, discipline, loving them so much, worrying all the time, i can go on and on. and this is forever. BUT i would never trade it for the world.
About the same with me, sometimes easier sometimes harder, depending on what kind of day we are all having honestly!
I've been helping to raise kids since i was about 11 years old though, so I kind of had a big taste of it before I was even a parent!
well it depends, I have a child with autism wihch I never dreamt Id have a child with needs, it has been harder at times with him on so many levels but compared to my daughter getting ready to turn 4 hes a breeze and she doesnt have autism,lol
I'd say easier, so far, but my son is only 8 1/2 months old. Not that it doesn't have its challenges, but I knew nothing about babies when I had him and everything felt and came very naturally.
it was so easy - before i had kids. i never even imagined some of the stuff that i do now. (my toilet question) so much easier in my mind than in practice.
Depends on the day...Today I'd say yes but yesterday I'd have said no... it also depends on the time of day as well...
Both :-)
It's definitely more interesting %26amp; fascinating than I thought it would be.
It is the hardest thing I have ever done but in the same token: It is the most rewarding thing I ever done as well.
Easier. I thought it would be so difficult, but I love it and things seem to be going smoothly so far.
Well my baby is only 7 months and so far it has been easier but I have a feeling it will soon be harder.
About the same.
though I never thought Id be taking care of my brothers as well as my own.
In some respects it is harder than I though,but hey what doesn't kill you makes you stronger right...
Easier It just sorta happens.
Some days it's easy some days it's hard. It all depends on what day you catch me on:)
About the same it is not hard until they start talking back.
I never really thought the whole thing through prior hand.:)
What does ';DH'; stand for in the ';parenting&pregnancy'; section?
';Dumb Husband..'; lmao! i'm just kidden! it stands for ';dear or darling husband';.. haha .What does ';DH'; stand for in the ';parenting%26amp;pregnancy'; section?
Darling HusbandWhat does ';DH'; stand for in the ';parenting%26amp;pregnancy'; section?
Darling Husband
Dear Husband
Darling HusbandWhat does ';DH'; stand for in the ';parenting%26amp;pregnancy'; section?
Darling Husband
Dear Husband
Does anyone know some movies that show parenting ?
Here's a nice blend of good, bad and chaotic parenting:
3 Men and a Baby (1987)
Big Daddy (1999)
Cheaper by the Dozen (2003)
Click (2006)
The Family Man (2000)
Hook (1991)
Liar Liar (1997)
Little Miss Sunshine (2006)
Mrs. Doubtfire (1993)
The Nanny Diaries (2007)
Parenthood (1989)
Enjoy!Does anyone know some movies that show parenting ?
Parenthood
DadDoes anyone know some movies that show parenting ?
Big Daddy
: D
not a great example of GOOD parenting
3 Men and a Baby (1987)
Big Daddy (1999)
Cheaper by the Dozen (2003)
Click (2006)
The Family Man (2000)
Hook (1991)
Liar Liar (1997)
Little Miss Sunshine (2006)
Mrs. Doubtfire (1993)
The Nanny Diaries (2007)
Parenthood (1989)
Enjoy!Does anyone know some movies that show parenting ?
Parenthood
DadDoes anyone know some movies that show parenting ?
Big Daddy
: D
not a great example of GOOD parenting
Is it me or is my friend parenting skills low?
I have a friend who talks to her kids about her personal life. It could be about anything and she talks to them about it. Especially her love life. I think that she should talk to adults about that and not tell her kids her personal business. I never said anything to her. My parents never did that to me and I would not do that to my children. Is it me or is this just wrong?Is it me or is my friend parenting skills low?
It is wrong. How will her children respect her and trust that she's the one who can do anything?
We all thought that about our parents when we were young. No matter what, they'd know the right thing to do ...they'd see that we were safe. I think your friend is depriving those kids of that security.
I guess the one good thing she's doing is serving as a bad influence! lol She's convinced you not to copy her behaviors.
You don't mention the ages of her kids, but if they're still pretty young maybe you could exert a little normalcy in their lives and go over once in a while to read to them or take them out for a DQ. It stands to reason that they might be missing some plain old little kid time.
Thanks for considering these children. When you get to Heaven you'll have an extra star in your crown.Is it me or is my friend parenting skills low?
Why would you think at all this is wrong? Not only is she communicating with her kids, she also lets them understand her as a person, and because she is sharing so much with them, I am pretty sure that they will share much more with her. Above all, her kids will love her for trusting them.
So perhaps you need to rethink your outlook on all this. Because kids aren't those ';little precious'; things you always think of them as.
its not wrong , but its not right .
i suggest talking to this friend , and telling her .
and telling her , if she needs to talk about those things .
you are there .
goodluck , i hope this helped =]dermatologist
It is wrong. How will her children respect her and trust that she's the one who can do anything?
We all thought that about our parents when we were young. No matter what, they'd know the right thing to do ...they'd see that we were safe. I think your friend is depriving those kids of that security.
I guess the one good thing she's doing is serving as a bad influence! lol She's convinced you not to copy her behaviors.
You don't mention the ages of her kids, but if they're still pretty young maybe you could exert a little normalcy in their lives and go over once in a while to read to them or take them out for a DQ. It stands to reason that they might be missing some plain old little kid time.
Thanks for considering these children. When you get to Heaven you'll have an extra star in your crown.Is it me or is my friend parenting skills low?
Why would you think at all this is wrong? Not only is she communicating with her kids, she also lets them understand her as a person, and because she is sharing so much with them, I am pretty sure that they will share much more with her. Above all, her kids will love her for trusting them.
So perhaps you need to rethink your outlook on all this. Because kids aren't those ';little precious'; things you always think of them as.
its not wrong , but its not right .
i suggest talking to this friend , and telling her .
and telling her , if she needs to talk about those things .
you are there .
goodluck , i hope this helped =]
How do you think pregnancy and parenting changed over the past years?
like comparing from 50 years ago to nowHow do you think pregnancy and parenting changed over the past years?
many undisciplined rebellious children having children. THe child parents have no self discipline and are still very self serving so are unable to discipline their children properly or spend time with their children. I see more and more , (especially working in a retail store) rather than the parents having control over the children, the children are demanding, bratty, undisciplined and the parents are not confident, do not hold their ground and scramble and struggle to appease and entertain their children while getting frustrated and showing no authority. I am afraid of the coming generation. I don't expect any parents to be perfect but I do expect the parents to be parents- authoritative and in control and the children to be children- submissive and obedient.
Parents should be training their children but these days it is the other way around!
Unfortunately, we have brilliant leaders, teachers and adults telling htese kids it is okay for them to have sex and do what they please and now we have hundreds, DAILY on YA! freaking out because they can't handle the physical and emotional consequences of the act they want to have the right to.How do you think pregnancy and parenting changed over the past years?
Technology has help ease and sooth pregnancy while with raising kids how many of have said '; I will never be like my parents!'; I know that I was raised calling my parents friends Mr. %26amp; Mrs. but my kids call my freinds by thier first names. Yet they still know when to address someone with respect and use the proper aknowledgement.
I think people view differently whats important in a baby's life. 50 years ago, the woman waited till she found a good man, got married, settled down, bought a house and had kids.
In 2006, more women are skipping those steps and just having kids first. Maybe some feel that being in a good long term relationship doesn't matter, but for the baby I think having a good father always matters.
ps. great question
Pregnancy used to be considered something like a disease. Now it is easier.
Parents could punish their kids (I did not say beating!!) without fearing jail - or threats of. Kids had respect 50 yrs ago, no longer.
parents let thier kids get away with anything these days, kids are having kids.
The technology has improved so much over the past years. My baby was premature by 3 months, thanks to the up to date technology he has been able to survive, 50 years ago he wouldn't have had a chance. Also scans of your baby are available now, this wasn't the case 10-15 years ago. Parenting seems a lot more laid back now. Also cesareans are now available but I don't understand why some people opt for these as they hurt more----however my labour time was only 25 minutes so I can't really comment on labour pain.
I have read some of the opinions here and let me say that women from the beginning of time have been known to ';loose it'; with their children. There has always been some type of abuse. Maybe more so back then. Not as much resources as there is now. U couldnt just dump your kid in the trash can like u can now. We as a society have become somewhat lazy. Not saying everyone is but lets face it........we have our moments to put our hand in the cookiejar and take the ';cookie'; ie......take advantage.
people like parents are abusing their children? and just so much terrible mess.
we have more support now I think then what they use to and different technology so our pregnancies will go smoother!
there is more technology now compared to 50 years ago but there is also more diseases now. Parenting had to be easier then because most women didn't work so there was more time for parenting. Take yourself for example, how were you raised and how much trouble was there for you to get into. now we deal with the worry of our kids getting shot at school. Everything is so fast pace now that parents don't connect with thier child as good as they should. how many parents actually know thier kid like what thier favorite food is or color? for example, i have a friend that has a 3 year old daughter and relys so much on daycare that she can't tell you anything about her child like her favorite program or movie,etc. And discipline, everyone is so worried about thier neighbor calling CPS, thier is no discipline. kids these days do what ever they want. I watch these middle school students walk past my house everyday around the same time, they threaten eachother with weapons. And not to mention they have absolutely no respect for adults or authority. When I was a child and attempted to talk back or disrespect someone, my mom would smack me. She didn't care who was watching. So 50 years ago atleast kids were raised right.
many undisciplined rebellious children having children. THe child parents have no self discipline and are still very self serving so are unable to discipline their children properly or spend time with their children. I see more and more , (especially working in a retail store) rather than the parents having control over the children, the children are demanding, bratty, undisciplined and the parents are not confident, do not hold their ground and scramble and struggle to appease and entertain their children while getting frustrated and showing no authority. I am afraid of the coming generation. I don't expect any parents to be perfect but I do expect the parents to be parents- authoritative and in control and the children to be children- submissive and obedient.
Parents should be training their children but these days it is the other way around!
Unfortunately, we have brilliant leaders, teachers and adults telling htese kids it is okay for them to have sex and do what they please and now we have hundreds, DAILY on YA! freaking out because they can't handle the physical and emotional consequences of the act they want to have the right to.How do you think pregnancy and parenting changed over the past years?
Technology has help ease and sooth pregnancy while with raising kids how many of have said '; I will never be like my parents!'; I know that I was raised calling my parents friends Mr. %26amp; Mrs. but my kids call my freinds by thier first names. Yet they still know when to address someone with respect and use the proper aknowledgement.
I think people view differently whats important in a baby's life. 50 years ago, the woman waited till she found a good man, got married, settled down, bought a house and had kids.
In 2006, more women are skipping those steps and just having kids first. Maybe some feel that being in a good long term relationship doesn't matter, but for the baby I think having a good father always matters.
ps. great question
Pregnancy used to be considered something like a disease. Now it is easier.
Parents could punish their kids (I did not say beating!!) without fearing jail - or threats of. Kids had respect 50 yrs ago, no longer.
parents let thier kids get away with anything these days, kids are having kids.
The technology has improved so much over the past years. My baby was premature by 3 months, thanks to the up to date technology he has been able to survive, 50 years ago he wouldn't have had a chance. Also scans of your baby are available now, this wasn't the case 10-15 years ago. Parenting seems a lot more laid back now. Also cesareans are now available but I don't understand why some people opt for these as they hurt more----however my labour time was only 25 minutes so I can't really comment on labour pain.
I have read some of the opinions here and let me say that women from the beginning of time have been known to ';loose it'; with their children. There has always been some type of abuse. Maybe more so back then. Not as much resources as there is now. U couldnt just dump your kid in the trash can like u can now. We as a society have become somewhat lazy. Not saying everyone is but lets face it........we have our moments to put our hand in the cookiejar and take the ';cookie'; ie......take advantage.
people like parents are abusing their children? and just so much terrible mess.
we have more support now I think then what they use to and different technology so our pregnancies will go smoother!
there is more technology now compared to 50 years ago but there is also more diseases now. Parenting had to be easier then because most women didn't work so there was more time for parenting. Take yourself for example, how were you raised and how much trouble was there for you to get into. now we deal with the worry of our kids getting shot at school. Everything is so fast pace now that parents don't connect with thier child as good as they should. how many parents actually know thier kid like what thier favorite food is or color? for example, i have a friend that has a 3 year old daughter and relys so much on daycare that she can't tell you anything about her child like her favorite program or movie,etc. And discipline, everyone is so worried about thier neighbor calling CPS, thier is no discipline. kids these days do what ever they want. I watch these middle school students walk past my house everyday around the same time, they threaten eachother with weapons. And not to mention they have absolutely no respect for adults or authority. When I was a child and attempted to talk back or disrespect someone, my mom would smack me. She didn't care who was watching. So 50 years ago atleast kids were raised right.
Do you need help with pregnancy parenting tcc support ?
this is a new site that has been set up by a group of mothers and fathers who want to keep in touch and meet new friends.
We have many boards including
Chit Chat
Getting to know you
Debates
A rant section to get it of your chest.
TTC
Pregnancy
Babies
Older children
This is just a taste of what we have to offer. There is much much more including an arcade where you can compete for the highest score. so what you waiting for its all free too here is the link www.naughtynutters.comDo you need help with pregnancy parenting tcc support ?
Went to the web site, frankly there is no signs on the site that says what it is at all. I would advise that no one consider just signing up for such a site with NO information on it at all. It does not even say who or what it is for.
My guess would be a nut site, a site for people with peanut allergies???
There are many legit support sites out there that are very clear about who and what they do. I would also suggest that anyone who is TTC consider getting a 'Family Planning Coach' or 'Fertility Coach'.Do you need help with pregnancy parenting tcc support ?
You can get all of that on the same forum you are using to spam.
We have many boards including
Chit Chat
Getting to know you
Debates
A rant section to get it of your chest.
TTC
Pregnancy
Babies
Older children
This is just a taste of what we have to offer. There is much much more including an arcade where you can compete for the highest score. so what you waiting for its all free too here is the link www.naughtynutters.comDo you need help with pregnancy parenting tcc support ?
Went to the web site, frankly there is no signs on the site that says what it is at all. I would advise that no one consider just signing up for such a site with NO information on it at all. It does not even say who or what it is for.
My guess would be a nut site, a site for people with peanut allergies???
There are many legit support sites out there that are very clear about who and what they do. I would also suggest that anyone who is TTC consider getting a 'Family Planning Coach' or 'Fertility Coach'.Do you need help with pregnancy parenting tcc support ?
You can get all of that on the same forum you are using to spam.
I love my parents and everything, but they are not very good at parenting...how can I respect and appreciate?
them if they are so lacking. I would love to be able to.I love my parents and everything, but they are not very good at parenting...how can I respect and appreciate?
Tiffany,
It is very difficult to answer your question. But, that you would even ask such a question seems to show you have some maturity and patience. My guess is that you are a teenager who is somewhat frustrated with your parents behavior.
If your parents are not very good at parenting because they are abusive or neglectful you may need to seek out another adult whom you can trust to let them know what the trouble is. If your parents are abusive and neglectful, they need help and you need help. And, if you do love them as you say you do, then you must do what you can to find that help.
If you think your parents are not very good at parenting because you don't think they truly understand you and your needs, or are overly protective with their rules for you, then learning to respect and appreciate your parents may require you to learn to see the world through their eyes. This may be difficult because part of the reason you may not see eye to eye is that you have not had the same experiences as your parents, and there is really no way for you to gain those experiences without simply living life longer.
I know teenagers roll their eyes whenever parents and other adults talk about having more experience. But, really, how can your argue with the facts? It is a fact your parents have lived probably two to three times as long as you have. Why shouldn't they have more experience. The fact is that you have lived two to three times as long as a toddler. Don't you have more experience and know more about life than a toddler?
If it is a fact that your parents have considerably more experience than their children, then why are children usually so reluctant to accept and appreciate that experience? Generally, it is because children have a natural urge to make their own decisions and this desire increases as they mature. This urge to take responsibility for our lives is good and natural. It is what helps us to become functioning adults. The problem is that taking responsibility for our lives also means taking full responsibility for our actions. And, as a youth, you may not really be prepared to realize all of the consequences for your choices in life. And, it would not be in your best interest to allow you to get into situations where the consequences of a poor choice have to be suffered.
So, if these are your circumstances and concerns and you want to learn to respect and appreciate your parents, try being a litte more patient. Continue to accept their rules. Try asking them to explain why they make the choices they do for you and for themselves. Don't do this in a defiant way. Repeat back to them in your own words what they have explained, to be sure you understand. I think if you do this two things will happen. First, you will begin to see your parents through different eyes that will make it easier for you to respect and appreciate them. And, second, I think your parents will begin to see you through different eyes. They will see a mature and thoughtful young person who is trying to learn from them and this will increase their trust in you which will give them confidence to let you make more or your own decisions.
Or, maybe this is a whole lot of hoo-haa that has nothing to do with what you were asking. Whatever the case may be, I enjoyed thinking about your question and hope you have success in dealing with your concerns.I love my parents and everything, but they are not very good at parenting...how can I respect and appreciate?
how do you know there not good parents. are you a parent. my kids probably think i a bad parent too. but i don't care because i am not so to be there friend i have to be the adult.
I guess i don't really get what your getting at. Lacking? Where? Do you get a roof over your head? Food in your tummy? Cloths on your back? Do you get an education? Do they give you love? Care? Whats the problem. If its because they don't buy you designer jeans, a pink ipod and cell phone to match, then that is not a problem that they have. If those are the reasons you don't respect them or appreciate them then well little girl, that i really sad.
But if its isnt those reason's then i'm sorry for being harsh about that.
As long as they are giving you what you need and not always what you want, you should respect and appreciate them. They are the only parents you have and one day, they won't always be there for you.
Now if they are drunks and druggies, not saying that they are, then somehow you need to help them.
Good luck and i hope that this is of some help to you.
Well first of all you should have been more specific. In what ways, in your opinion, are they bad parents. The answer really depends. Do they beat you or are they just really strict...perhaps they are to lenient?
If you are able to notice that the parenting skills are lacking than at least maybe you know right from wrong and are able to do good without the higher guidance of your parents.
Unless they beat you or neglect you just be the kid and let the parents do their job. You can appreciate it with the knowledge you have no idea how to be a parent.
YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR ALL THE GOOD THINGS ABOUT THEM AND WHATEVER THEY ARE NOT GOOD WITH YOU SHOULD MABEY HELP THEM . LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU THINK THEY ARE MAKING YOU FEEL LIKE THEY COULD DO A LITTLE BETTER WITH SOME THINGS THAT THEY ARE NOT GOOD WITH.
First, keep telling them you love them. Then, tell them that since you love them so much, you want them to change (or at least consider it). Then say something about you wanting to change yourself, if necessary.
No matter what, keep reminding them that the reason you are saying this is because you love them so much (and trust them) and want to live a happy life with them while you're both young.
Sounds wishy-washy (I know), but you may be able to get it to work.
I don't know how old you are sweetheart but, I'm sure if you're in high school you don't have much longer to go. Just suck it up and get ready to graduate. My parents thought they were the best and they weren't...they ALWAYS argued and FOUGHT in front of my brother and I. Now they wonder why I don't want my kids over at their house when they are arguing all of the time. I grew up scared and I didn't want my kids to. So when you have a family of your own...you will know a little better of what not and what to do.
I know how you are feeling. I love my mum but have absolutely no respect for her... she sucked at parenting and I had one hell of a stuffed up childhood. I am making things right with my own kids now though, I swore I would never raise my kids how I was raised and I am doing my best to make sure they don't experience anything that I did when I was younger. They are healthy, well rounded and great kids and this is my payback for my childhood.
Tiffany,
It is very difficult to answer your question. But, that you would even ask such a question seems to show you have some maturity and patience. My guess is that you are a teenager who is somewhat frustrated with your parents behavior.
If your parents are not very good at parenting because they are abusive or neglectful you may need to seek out another adult whom you can trust to let them know what the trouble is. If your parents are abusive and neglectful, they need help and you need help. And, if you do love them as you say you do, then you must do what you can to find that help.
If you think your parents are not very good at parenting because you don't think they truly understand you and your needs, or are overly protective with their rules for you, then learning to respect and appreciate your parents may require you to learn to see the world through their eyes. This may be difficult because part of the reason you may not see eye to eye is that you have not had the same experiences as your parents, and there is really no way for you to gain those experiences without simply living life longer.
I know teenagers roll their eyes whenever parents and other adults talk about having more experience. But, really, how can your argue with the facts? It is a fact your parents have lived probably two to three times as long as you have. Why shouldn't they have more experience. The fact is that you have lived two to three times as long as a toddler. Don't you have more experience and know more about life than a toddler?
If it is a fact that your parents have considerably more experience than their children, then why are children usually so reluctant to accept and appreciate that experience? Generally, it is because children have a natural urge to make their own decisions and this desire increases as they mature. This urge to take responsibility for our lives is good and natural. It is what helps us to become functioning adults. The problem is that taking responsibility for our lives also means taking full responsibility for our actions. And, as a youth, you may not really be prepared to realize all of the consequences for your choices in life. And, it would not be in your best interest to allow you to get into situations where the consequences of a poor choice have to be suffered.
So, if these are your circumstances and concerns and you want to learn to respect and appreciate your parents, try being a litte more patient. Continue to accept their rules. Try asking them to explain why they make the choices they do for you and for themselves. Don't do this in a defiant way. Repeat back to them in your own words what they have explained, to be sure you understand. I think if you do this two things will happen. First, you will begin to see your parents through different eyes that will make it easier for you to respect and appreciate them. And, second, I think your parents will begin to see you through different eyes. They will see a mature and thoughtful young person who is trying to learn from them and this will increase their trust in you which will give them confidence to let you make more or your own decisions.
Or, maybe this is a whole lot of hoo-haa that has nothing to do with what you were asking. Whatever the case may be, I enjoyed thinking about your question and hope you have success in dealing with your concerns.I love my parents and everything, but they are not very good at parenting...how can I respect and appreciate?
how do you know there not good parents. are you a parent. my kids probably think i a bad parent too. but i don't care because i am not so to be there friend i have to be the adult.
I guess i don't really get what your getting at. Lacking? Where? Do you get a roof over your head? Food in your tummy? Cloths on your back? Do you get an education? Do they give you love? Care? Whats the problem. If its because they don't buy you designer jeans, a pink ipod and cell phone to match, then that is not a problem that they have. If those are the reasons you don't respect them or appreciate them then well little girl, that i really sad.
But if its isnt those reason's then i'm sorry for being harsh about that.
As long as they are giving you what you need and not always what you want, you should respect and appreciate them. They are the only parents you have and one day, they won't always be there for you.
Now if they are drunks and druggies, not saying that they are, then somehow you need to help them.
Good luck and i hope that this is of some help to you.
Well first of all you should have been more specific. In what ways, in your opinion, are they bad parents. The answer really depends. Do they beat you or are they just really strict...perhaps they are to lenient?
If you are able to notice that the parenting skills are lacking than at least maybe you know right from wrong and are able to do good without the higher guidance of your parents.
Unless they beat you or neglect you just be the kid and let the parents do their job. You can appreciate it with the knowledge you have no idea how to be a parent.
YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR ALL THE GOOD THINGS ABOUT THEM AND WHATEVER THEY ARE NOT GOOD WITH YOU SHOULD MABEY HELP THEM . LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU THINK THEY ARE MAKING YOU FEEL LIKE THEY COULD DO A LITTLE BETTER WITH SOME THINGS THAT THEY ARE NOT GOOD WITH.
First, keep telling them you love them. Then, tell them that since you love them so much, you want them to change (or at least consider it). Then say something about you wanting to change yourself, if necessary.
No matter what, keep reminding them that the reason you are saying this is because you love them so much (and trust them) and want to live a happy life with them while you're both young.
Sounds wishy-washy (I know), but you may be able to get it to work.
I don't know how old you are sweetheart but, I'm sure if you're in high school you don't have much longer to go. Just suck it up and get ready to graduate. My parents thought they were the best and they weren't...they ALWAYS argued and FOUGHT in front of my brother and I. Now they wonder why I don't want my kids over at their house when they are arguing all of the time. I grew up scared and I didn't want my kids to. So when you have a family of your own...you will know a little better of what not and what to do.
I know how you are feeling. I love my mum but have absolutely no respect for her... she sucked at parenting and I had one hell of a stuffed up childhood. I am making things right with my own kids now though, I swore I would never raise my kids how I was raised and I am doing my best to make sure they don't experience anything that I did when I was younger. They are healthy, well rounded and great kids and this is my payback for my childhood.
Hello would you please give me websites for my research paper, ';effects of bad parenting to child's behavior';?
these are my sub problems
1. what are the factors affecting parenting style?
2. what are the behavioral effect of bad parenting to a child?
3. what are the social effect of bad parenting to child's behavior?Hello would you please give me websites for my research paper, ';effects of bad parenting to child's behavior';?
http://health.usnews.com/articles/health鈥?/a>
http://www.123helpme.com/preview.asp?id=鈥?/a>
http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,59鈥?/a>
you can also go to your schools website, and click on their library, then click on internet recourses and it will guide you to respective research and documents valid for writing a research paper. Do you have any knowledge about sociology, can you answer my question?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Hello would you please give me websites for my research paper, ';effects of bad parenting to child's behavior';?
Google is my best friends :D try it
1. what are the factors affecting parenting style?
2. what are the behavioral effect of bad parenting to a child?
3. what are the social effect of bad parenting to child's behavior?Hello would you please give me websites for my research paper, ';effects of bad parenting to child's behavior';?
http://health.usnews.com/articles/health鈥?/a>
http://www.123helpme.com/preview.asp?id=鈥?/a>
http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,59鈥?/a>
you can also go to your schools website, and click on their library, then click on internet recourses and it will guide you to respective research and documents valid for writing a research paper. Do you have any knowledge about sociology, can you answer my question?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Hello would you please give me websites for my research paper, ';effects of bad parenting to child's behavior';?
Google is my best friends :D try it
Anyone know of any good pregnancy/parenting forums?
babycenter.com
parentsplace.com
askdrsears.comAnyone know of any good pregnancy/parenting forums?
When I was pregnant I really enjoyed babycenter.com. It also tells you what is happening with the baby every week and has all kinds of extras that a lot of other sites don't have.Anyone know of any good pregnancy/parenting forums?
well i'm canadian so these are some sites babycenter.ca or us is .com , todaysparent.ca, are good sites
I use www.babycrowd.com and made a blog its great seeing what other mommies to be are going though you can search blogs by due dates so you can find a buddy to share your pregnancy with I think its great everyone is really nice and supportive... www.babycrowd.com/jr to look straight though the blogs before you join yourself.
parent magizene check it out
www.babyworld.co.uk - it puts you into an antenatal club with other women due in the same month as you, plus the rest of the site has forums on anything you can think of. It's great and I still have a small group of good friends who I am in regular contact with that I met on there 7 years ago!
www.surrogatemothers.co.uk
www.proudpariting.co.uk
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motherandbaby.com its great
emmas diary is great i used it with both pregnancies and the women are usually quite friendly
pregnancyweekly.com is the best site for pregnant women!! you should definately check it out! they send you updates each week also telling you how far along you are, what you should be feeling this week, and questions and advice!!
thinkbaby. com
its really good!
have just found it myself, are you pregnant?
if so congrats!!!
x
babycenter.com, mamasunited.com
www.thenest.com. Go to the talk link and go to the Babies on the Brain board. Lots f good info there! Good Luck!!
mumsntots.proboards100.com
parentsplace.com
askdrsears.comAnyone know of any good pregnancy/parenting forums?
When I was pregnant I really enjoyed babycenter.com. It also tells you what is happening with the baby every week and has all kinds of extras that a lot of other sites don't have.Anyone know of any good pregnancy/parenting forums?
well i'm canadian so these are some sites babycenter.ca or us is .com , todaysparent.ca, are good sites
I use www.babycrowd.com and made a blog its great seeing what other mommies to be are going though you can search blogs by due dates so you can find a buddy to share your pregnancy with I think its great everyone is really nice and supportive... www.babycrowd.com/jr to look straight though the blogs before you join yourself.
parent magizene check it out
www.babyworld.co.uk - it puts you into an antenatal club with other women due in the same month as you, plus the rest of the site has forums on anything you can think of. It's great and I still have a small group of good friends who I am in regular contact with that I met on there 7 years ago!
www.surrogatemothers.co.uk
www.proudpariting.co.uk
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- www.babycenter.com
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motherandbaby.com its great
emmas diary is great i used it with both pregnancies and the women are usually quite friendly
pregnancyweekly.com is the best site for pregnant women!! you should definately check it out! they send you updates each week also telling you how far along you are, what you should be feeling this week, and questions and advice!!
thinkbaby. com
its really good!
have just found it myself, are you pregnant?
if so congrats!!!
x
babycenter.com, mamasunited.com
www.thenest.com. Go to the talk link and go to the Babies on the Brain board. Lots f good info there! Good Luck!!
mumsntots.proboards100.com
Which is best treatment for parenting?
Hi
To get a child very fast, which of the following treatment is best,
allopathy
siddha
ayurvedha
unani
Please clarify!Which is best treatment for parenting?
Ayurveda is the best treatment
Ayurveda is preferred more n more as it is ancient plus trustworthy plus perfect.dermatologist
To get a child very fast, which of the following treatment is best,
allopathy
siddha
ayurvedha
unani
Please clarify!Which is best treatment for parenting?
Ayurveda is the best treatment
Ayurveda is preferred more n more as it is ancient plus trustworthy plus perfect.
Where can i take a parenting class?
lol this is my second pregnancy and i dont really need this class ...but i think they are fun and something that me and my hubby could do together. any ideas about how to get into one? how much they cost? when should i start going (at how many weeks)?? thanks so muchWhere can i take a parenting class?
It depends a lot on what kind of birth experience you want to have. If you plan on doing things more medically, then a class at the hospital would be fine. There is also, Lamaze, Bradley, and Hypnobirthing classes. The latter of the three most emphasizes a natural and almost pain free birth. If you are interested in that, I would do some research into it. It's a way to have your baby will little or no discomfort at all, and while completely relaxed. It's also really good for bonding with your husband.
It seems like classes in general run from $50-250. You can take it as early in the pregnancy as you want. So I would pick the child birth method you want, then do a google search for your area and that method to find a local teacher/practitioner. Also check with the hospital and/or the city parks and rec.Where can i take a parenting class?
the hospital that you plan on delivering in will most likely have a parenting class. I went to my hospital and took a Lamaze class and noticed they had a whole list of different classes that you can take. Most of the classes run between $50-150, depending on the length of the class.
I am not sure when you should begin a parenting class but I know for the Lamaze the recommended before you hit 32 weeks to start the class.
I took them at the hospital I had my son at.They offered them to every pregnant woman there. You could check at your local hospital. They also do them at high schools for soon to be parents or already parents %26amp; students at the school.
Ask the hospital where your giving birth or your obgyn, They can give you a referral. My hospital Im going to give birth offers programs there and usually cost around 100$ per pair.
You normally sign up for them through the hospital that you're going to. Typically insurance covers them. If not they aren't very expensive at all. $20.00-$60.00. Sign up at any time during your pregnancy.
It depends a lot on what kind of birth experience you want to have. If you plan on doing things more medically, then a class at the hospital would be fine. There is also, Lamaze, Bradley, and Hypnobirthing classes. The latter of the three most emphasizes a natural and almost pain free birth. If you are interested in that, I would do some research into it. It's a way to have your baby will little or no discomfort at all, and while completely relaxed. It's also really good for bonding with your husband.
It seems like classes in general run from $50-250. You can take it as early in the pregnancy as you want. So I would pick the child birth method you want, then do a google search for your area and that method to find a local teacher/practitioner. Also check with the hospital and/or the city parks and rec.Where can i take a parenting class?
the hospital that you plan on delivering in will most likely have a parenting class. I went to my hospital and took a Lamaze class and noticed they had a whole list of different classes that you can take. Most of the classes run between $50-150, depending on the length of the class.
I am not sure when you should begin a parenting class but I know for the Lamaze the recommended before you hit 32 weeks to start the class.
I took them at the hospital I had my son at.They offered them to every pregnant woman there. You could check at your local hospital. They also do them at high schools for soon to be parents or already parents %26amp; students at the school.
Ask the hospital where your giving birth or your obgyn, They can give you a referral. My hospital Im going to give birth offers programs there and usually cost around 100$ per pair.
You normally sign up for them through the hospital that you're going to. Typically insurance covers them. If not they aren't very expensive at all. $20.00-$60.00. Sign up at any time during your pregnancy.
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