my gal friend wanted to do baby caring job in one company so please gimme some websites which providebetter informationCan u gimme some websites name related to baby caring and parenting?
parenting.com
child.comCan u gimme some websites name related to baby caring and parenting?
Here are a few I've found helpful!
www.pregnancy.org (general site, week-by-week guide and lots of reassurance, as well as a good community)
www.babycenter.com (I use the UK version, but apparently both are very good for general information and there's a week-by-week pregnancy guide!)
www.emmasdiary.co.uk (British-based site with the friendliest forums I've found!)
www.ivillage.com (click on the Pregnancy section, lots of information, videos and so on!)
Hope that helps - have fun! :)
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Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Have you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
I used to come here quite often when I was pregnant and it seemed that there were exponentially more trolls, abortion opinion questions and answers given to questions that were basically argumentative and crass then there are now.
Thank the Flying Spaghetti Monster they have seemed to go somewhere else.
Why do you think that this is the case?Have you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
Hmmm..... Maybe they've all blocked you ;-)
Or, maybe you're just choosing more carefully what you want to pay attention to, these days.
The internet will always have trolls %26amp; people who like to debate just for the fun of it. That's part of what makes it so much fun, sometimes :-pHave you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
I totally agree i used to always only see questions like am i pregnant... most likely from teens who are probably one day late on their period.
The questions seem to vary now
TRUE!
summer is here......
sun is out and so are they.
Thank the Flying Spaghetti Monster they have seemed to go somewhere else.
Why do you think that this is the case?Have you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
Hmmm..... Maybe they've all blocked you ;-)
Or, maybe you're just choosing more carefully what you want to pay attention to, these days.
The internet will always have trolls %26amp; people who like to debate just for the fun of it. That's part of what makes it so much fun, sometimes :-pHave you noticed that there are more mature users in the parenting section lately......?
I totally agree i used to always only see questions like am i pregnant... most likely from teens who are probably one day late on their period.
The questions seem to vary now
TRUE!
summer is here......
sun is out and so are they.
Is this reasonable? Good parenting? What do you think?
I have installed a parental controls programe on my 15 year old sons computers.
I have allowed him to use the computer for a maximum of 1 hour a day in TOTAL, inbetween the hours of 10am-9pm. That hour is a TOTAL of one hour over both computers, he cannot use one computer for an hour and then the other for a hour.
Is this reasonable? What is your opinion on this?
ThankyouIs this reasonable? Good parenting? What do you think?
I think there should be a 2 hour max.
60 minutes just isn't enough time for anyone on the net,Is this reasonable? Good parenting? What do you think?
I think it is perfectly reasonable. I also think it is a wonderful idea. Congrats to you as a parent for realizing that kids do not need to be ';plugged-in'; all the time. Your kid may be mad about it now, but in a few years when he is in college, he will realize the favor you did for him.
Just remember that you may have to adjust the controls for him for homework purposes. He may have to type a paper and that could take a little longer. Then again, this will also teach him time management skills. He will have to work on his papers over a couple days instead of waiting until the last minute.
Again, kudos to you for being a responsible parent!
i think a total of 3 hours is a wee bit more reasonable!
but thats just my oppinion,
im quite strict with my children, but they are only 6 and 4.
when my children reach teenage years, in high school, (as of now) i say i would give them 3 hours, including homework use!
but as i say my children are 6 and 4, and im sure my oppinion will change allot when i reach that point.
i would never take adviceabout what is fair in raising my 4 and 6 year old children from someone who has never had 4 and 6 year old children, so dont take my oppinion to heart!
if you ask this question again asking parents of teenage children you may get a more better idea of what other parents think!
hope this helps x
i'm a mom of 3 boys 16 ,9,and about to be 5 year old.
my 16 year old lives on the pute. so i certaintly think there should be restictions to a degree before he gets into it too much. but and hour a day? i think 2 hours is way better. kids love to communicate on the pute. if he feels too restricted there will be run abouts behind your back. i think after home work, chores and out side activitys are done then he should be given more free time to do what he wants.
strict restrictions are for kids who are likely to take advantage of your willingness to give him freedom. i was one of those lol.but if he's a pretty good kid reward him by giving him the respect of more then more freedom and see what he does with it. on the week ends he should have more time. just my opinion.
Ummm ..
I do think Computers are highly over used!
i think kids should be outside more....
internet is a huge part in our lives on the other hand so wouldn't want him feeling left out... i think giving a certain amount is good... maybe on special days he could do certain things to maybe gain an extra hakf hour at times...
Thou i bet he isnt amused with it lol i never was
but in the long run im glad my parents didnt let me online till all hours!
i got to know the ''real world''
Absolutely! I only allow an hour of computer time for my daughter. Kids need to be outside, reading, playing games...anything else but sitting in front of a computer or TV screen all day.
P.S. She doesn't like it much, either. I'm assuming your son is having a hissy fit about this?
It is reasonable. I think it's fine. He's not going to get so sucked into the internet using it every hour of the days, unlike me.
your the parent of course it reasonable
I think 2 hours is reasonable.One hour goes really quickly
If you were my Parent I would be borderline self-destructive.
give him at least three hours after he's done his homework, kids now a days can't live without computers
no that is not reasonable, im a 15 year old and we love computers!
Yeah, that is perfect.
No.
I have allowed him to use the computer for a maximum of 1 hour a day in TOTAL, inbetween the hours of 10am-9pm. That hour is a TOTAL of one hour over both computers, he cannot use one computer for an hour and then the other for a hour.
Is this reasonable? What is your opinion on this?
ThankyouIs this reasonable? Good parenting? What do you think?
I think there should be a 2 hour max.
60 minutes just isn't enough time for anyone on the net,Is this reasonable? Good parenting? What do you think?
I think it is perfectly reasonable. I also think it is a wonderful idea. Congrats to you as a parent for realizing that kids do not need to be ';plugged-in'; all the time. Your kid may be mad about it now, but in a few years when he is in college, he will realize the favor you did for him.
Just remember that you may have to adjust the controls for him for homework purposes. He may have to type a paper and that could take a little longer. Then again, this will also teach him time management skills. He will have to work on his papers over a couple days instead of waiting until the last minute.
Again, kudos to you for being a responsible parent!
i think a total of 3 hours is a wee bit more reasonable!
but thats just my oppinion,
im quite strict with my children, but they are only 6 and 4.
when my children reach teenage years, in high school, (as of now) i say i would give them 3 hours, including homework use!
but as i say my children are 6 and 4, and im sure my oppinion will change allot when i reach that point.
i would never take adviceabout what is fair in raising my 4 and 6 year old children from someone who has never had 4 and 6 year old children, so dont take my oppinion to heart!
if you ask this question again asking parents of teenage children you may get a more better idea of what other parents think!
hope this helps x
i'm a mom of 3 boys 16 ,9,and about to be 5 year old.
my 16 year old lives on the pute. so i certaintly think there should be restictions to a degree before he gets into it too much. but and hour a day? i think 2 hours is way better. kids love to communicate on the pute. if he feels too restricted there will be run abouts behind your back. i think after home work, chores and out side activitys are done then he should be given more free time to do what he wants.
strict restrictions are for kids who are likely to take advantage of your willingness to give him freedom. i was one of those lol.but if he's a pretty good kid reward him by giving him the respect of more then more freedom and see what he does with it. on the week ends he should have more time. just my opinion.
Ummm ..
I do think Computers are highly over used!
i think kids should be outside more....
internet is a huge part in our lives on the other hand so wouldn't want him feeling left out... i think giving a certain amount is good... maybe on special days he could do certain things to maybe gain an extra hakf hour at times...
Thou i bet he isnt amused with it lol i never was
but in the long run im glad my parents didnt let me online till all hours!
i got to know the ''real world''
Absolutely! I only allow an hour of computer time for my daughter. Kids need to be outside, reading, playing games...anything else but sitting in front of a computer or TV screen all day.
P.S. She doesn't like it much, either. I'm assuming your son is having a hissy fit about this?
It is reasonable. I think it's fine. He's not going to get so sucked into the internet using it every hour of the days, unlike me.
your the parent of course it reasonable
I think 2 hours is reasonable.One hour goes really quickly
If you were my Parent I would be borderline self-destructive.
give him at least three hours after he's done his homework, kids now a days can't live without computers
no that is not reasonable, im a 15 year old and we love computers!
Yeah, that is perfect.
No.
My new family parenting program with 2 seperate but related classes.Will it work?
I鈥檓 developing a family program using 2 separate but related family classes; 1. Parenting; and 2. Health and Wellness, (a MLM Co.) both are 1 hr. each. Classes meet once a week for 12 weeks %26amp; with family ';money'; and ';time management'; as important side issue(s) %26amp; topic(s). My business hours are 9am-9pm with 4 / three hr. session blocks of time during the day to accommodate most parents鈥?schedules. I am available 24/7/30 but my work week is Mo., Tu., Wed., %26amp; Thu., only. No classes will be provided by me during the 4th week of the month because of other related business issues that have to be attended to. The cost for both programs is $60.00 per mo. for 1or 2 individuals %26amp; $120.00 per mo. for families, a married couple, ';man %26amp; wife';, + 2 children. An after school ';Fun %26amp; Skills'; program with attached and attending parents is also included from 3-6pm daily. Parenting classes are free to parents who are building their family businesses. Also, once a month local camp outs are included.My new family parenting program with 2 seperate but related classes.Will it work?
Will it work?
Probably not if you're writing your own marketing material.
For example, in one line you say ';I am available 24/7/30 ';, but in the very next line go on to say this isn't true at all.
This is one example (there are many in this post) of something in your writing that will make you seem unprofessional, unprepared, and lessen the confidence of potential clients, who will probably decide to go elsewhere.
Take the time to hire someone to help you with your writing and presentation. It will probably cost less than you think, and will certainly pay for itself in terms of increasing client-base.
Remember: With ANY business, image is everything.dermatologist
Will it work?
Probably not if you're writing your own marketing material.
For example, in one line you say ';I am available 24/7/30 ';, but in the very next line go on to say this isn't true at all.
This is one example (there are many in this post) of something in your writing that will make you seem unprofessional, unprepared, and lessen the confidence of potential clients, who will probably decide to go elsewhere.
Take the time to hire someone to help you with your writing and presentation. It will probably cost less than you think, and will certainly pay for itself in terms of increasing client-base.
Remember: With ANY business, image is everything.
Why can't parenting be like the Partridge Family ?
I think what you're trying to figure out is why can't today's families get along, have morals, etc. A lot of it has to do with selfishness, immaturity, lack of a solid upbringing, and this desire to ';have it all'; at any cost......Why can't parenting be like the Partridge Family ?
If we could script our kids it would be really nice. But life is not scripted at all. It is more fun that way I think! :)Why can't parenting be like the Partridge Family ?
because life doesn't have a script, you never know what to expect. Enjoy it!!
because life is not alwas scripted like that. i wished i had june clever as a mom and i almost did
Because life isn't fiction? The actors who played in the Partridge Family all went through very different lifestyles (that goes for the Brady Bunch, too).
because you don't have five writers scripting life to make it all come out all right. Life is real, TV sitcoms are not. It would be nice if we could get a rewrite sometimes.
Yeah look how good Danny turned out....LOL
because thats not reality. I would love to own that bus though.
Because of sin.
Because life's problems can't be solved in 22 minutes plus commercials.
Because that was scripted maybe you could try it though tell me how it works.
because life is not TV
Buy all of your kids an instrument, and hope for the best.
Well, because the ';Partridge Family'; isn't any more 'real' than ';Leave It To Beaver'; or ';Father Knows Best';, or ';Andy Griffith'; . Those shows were written so that every major problem could be solves in 30 minutes or less, and the problems where NOT that bad...like when Beaver ordered an accordian, or when Opie shot a mother bird. TV then was a fantasy land where you did not have pregnancy, suicide, drug abuse, war, race issues or any other 'hot topic'. Geez, ';Gomer Pyle USMC'; was most popular during the HEIGHT of the Vietnam War but did ';Gomer'; ever mention it or get deployed? Nope.
In an IDEAL world with IDEAL kids and IDEAL parents, parenting COULD be like the PF. But it ain't real. Once we started using MTV to baby-sit our kids, expected our schools to 'teach morality' and looked the other way at drug abuse, well, we got what we got.
THANK GOD it's not in my case. I'd hate to be a single parent, raising five kids on my own, living out of motel rooms and a stupid school bus converted into a tour bus?
This is the real world where we have real problems. Thank God for that :)
If we could script our kids it would be really nice. But life is not scripted at all. It is more fun that way I think! :)Why can't parenting be like the Partridge Family ?
because life doesn't have a script, you never know what to expect. Enjoy it!!
because life is not alwas scripted like that. i wished i had june clever as a mom and i almost did
Because life isn't fiction? The actors who played in the Partridge Family all went through very different lifestyles (that goes for the Brady Bunch, too).
because you don't have five writers scripting life to make it all come out all right. Life is real, TV sitcoms are not. It would be nice if we could get a rewrite sometimes.
Yeah look how good Danny turned out....LOL
because thats not reality. I would love to own that bus though.
Because of sin.
Because life's problems can't be solved in 22 minutes plus commercials.
Because that was scripted maybe you could try it though tell me how it works.
because life is not TV
Buy all of your kids an instrument, and hope for the best.
Well, because the ';Partridge Family'; isn't any more 'real' than ';Leave It To Beaver'; or ';Father Knows Best';, or ';Andy Griffith'; . Those shows were written so that every major problem could be solves in 30 minutes or less, and the problems where NOT that bad...like when Beaver ordered an accordian, or when Opie shot a mother bird. TV then was a fantasy land where you did not have pregnancy, suicide, drug abuse, war, race issues or any other 'hot topic'. Geez, ';Gomer Pyle USMC'; was most popular during the HEIGHT of the Vietnam War but did ';Gomer'; ever mention it or get deployed? Nope.
In an IDEAL world with IDEAL kids and IDEAL parents, parenting COULD be like the PF. But it ain't real. Once we started using MTV to baby-sit our kids, expected our schools to 'teach morality' and looked the other way at drug abuse, well, we got what we got.
THANK GOD it's not in my case. I'd hate to be a single parent, raising five kids on my own, living out of motel rooms and a stupid school bus converted into a tour bus?
This is the real world where we have real problems. Thank God for that :)
Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
my partner and i are interested in creating a family and were wondering if anyone out there was aware of any resources we could access that would help us know our options?
anyone know of any self help books about how to raise kids in an all female environment/tips on how to manage discrimination etc? thanks :)Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
As i say to anyone a 'Book' can never teach you anything you will learn as you go on ..did you need a book to get you where you are today and are you happy with who you are ..If yes then why need a book ..be happy then the kids will be too !Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
Good for you. :)
Don't use books to go through life, though; just because they're published never means they're really any good. Use your own knowledge, wisdom and courage as a lesbian to help your kid grow up and make his own decision, and face the kind of discrimination he'll undoubtedly go through.
you dont need to go by the book..i wasnt in an ALL female environment.. my mother left my father when i was 13 and next thing i know.. her knew friend was actually her girlfriend..yea its hard in the beginning..especially with how people talk.. but i just brush it off.. NO MATTER WHAT people will say things to your kids its only normal..but you have to teach them not to care and to be proud..im proud..my mom got married in 2006 with her girlfriend..and i just had my first baby in 2007..and my son knows them as nanny and mamie.. i think it will be hard to explain to him.. but he will live with it..he will get used to it..
PROUUUD!! GAY PRIDE!!..
itll only teach her to accept other peoples lives and lifestyle..
anyone know of any self help books about how to raise kids in an all female environment/tips on how to manage discrimination etc? thanks :)Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
As i say to anyone a 'Book' can never teach you anything you will learn as you go on ..did you need a book to get you where you are today and are you happy with who you are ..If yes then why need a book ..be happy then the kids will be too !Anyone know any good books on lesbian parenting/co-parenting?
Good for you. :)
Don't use books to go through life, though; just because they're published never means they're really any good. Use your own knowledge, wisdom and courage as a lesbian to help your kid grow up and make his own decision, and face the kind of discrimination he'll undoubtedly go through.
you dont need to go by the book..i wasnt in an ALL female environment.. my mother left my father when i was 13 and next thing i know.. her knew friend was actually her girlfriend..yea its hard in the beginning..especially with how people talk.. but i just brush it off.. NO MATTER WHAT people will say things to your kids its only normal..but you have to teach them not to care and to be proud..im proud..my mom got married in 2006 with her girlfriend..and i just had my first baby in 2007..and my son knows them as nanny and mamie.. i think it will be hard to explain to him.. but he will live with it..he will get used to it..
PROUUUD!! GAY PRIDE!!..
itll only teach her to accept other peoples lives and lifestyle..
If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
Also, what offenses would give you points on your parenting license?
';Sir, ma'am, you let your kids scream in the restaurant and wander around. Neither of you said anything to them while they ruined others' meals. I'm going to issue you both citations.';If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
In addition to what mommymooby said, I would simply add that parents be high school (or higher) graduates and demonstrate some basic skills in responsibility and respect toward others.If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
Criteria should be, to name a few:
1) An I.Q. higher than, say, 40
2) A job
3) An accurate sense of right and wrong
Points, shmoints. The ones who let their kids scream and yell and run around like animals in public places should be thrown in jail. The ones who let their kids smoke and drink and break other laws should be drawn and quartered!
Are you against smacking your children? (not violent abuse)
Because if so we will be seising these children from your pocession as they have a tendency to become vial little pr*cks who have no respect for anyone.
I think there should be a required test before anyone is allowed to have children. Focusing on the potential parent's IQ.
';Sir, ma'am, you let your kids scream in the restaurant and wander around. Neither of you said anything to them while they ruined others' meals. I'm going to issue you both citations.';If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
In addition to what mommymooby said, I would simply add that parents be high school (or higher) graduates and demonstrate some basic skills in responsibility and respect toward others.If your government was to require parents to have parenting licenses, what should the criteria be?
Criteria should be, to name a few:
1) An I.Q. higher than, say, 40
2) A job
3) An accurate sense of right and wrong
Points, shmoints. The ones who let their kids scream and yell and run around like animals in public places should be thrown in jail. The ones who let their kids smoke and drink and break other laws should be drawn and quartered!
Are you against smacking your children? (not violent abuse)
Because if so we will be seising these children from your pocession as they have a tendency to become vial little pr*cks who have no respect for anyone.
I think there should be a required test before anyone is allowed to have children. Focusing on the potential parent's IQ.
I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
Well I think I could call myself very insightful, and I come from a different background than people I go to school with. But I've seen different parent-child relationahips and I think that a parent only has the power that the child gives them. Do you think that's true or am I just fooling myself?
I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
Maria, there are a whole bunch of factors that determine what kind of child you raise. The biggest one is are you practicing what you preach. One of the biggest learning tools kids use against grown up are, living the way you are holding judgment to them. A parent has to mean what they say and follow up with punishment and rewards.
Most parent get caught up in their emotion which can ruin their judgment and the child sees that and takes off with it. They learn what they think they can get away with and try to use it against their parents. If a child sees that the parents are fighting over how to discipline, then the kid will use that to get what they want.
You are not fooling yourself, most parents create the little monsters we have running around in stores or at the park. I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
I personally think that is nonsense and just describes bad parenting. It is a parents responsibility to instill a power balance in the parent-child relationship and if it is the child who controls that balance of power then you have a person with a limited logic controlling your life from the outset - you would end up with a child with destructive behaviours as they would not know how to control the power they exert over parents - children above anything crave nurturing which is why lack of discipline and guidance leads to tantrums, impatience and general poor behaviour (internal locus of control with limited logic ie. immature thought process).
That's my opinion anyway...
I think it behooves parents not to let their affection for their children overcome common sense. This leads to spoiled children.
All child behavior study proves that children do better if boundaries are set and they can feel confident in their parents strength. So parents who allow children to have the power aren't doing their kids any favors.
It should be the other way around. Child does not control the adult, although they be heard and compromise, parents should not let their kids ';control'; them. I say this as a teenager, who always talk back at my parents, but while it is important to let your child be heard, your experience is more than theirs and therefore should have the last word.
You are stronger then a child. The child will determin if you would like to keep things that way or if you want them to growup and become independent. Early independence and more responsibility will strenthen, at the same time put them in the most fragile state. If they respect you, you will influence them. If you force your influence they will likely rebel.
';I think that a parent only has the power that the child gives them';
Then you've clearly never experienced or witnessed child abuse.
I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
Maria, there are a whole bunch of factors that determine what kind of child you raise. The biggest one is are you practicing what you preach. One of the biggest learning tools kids use against grown up are, living the way you are holding judgment to them. A parent has to mean what they say and follow up with punishment and rewards.
Most parent get caught up in their emotion which can ruin their judgment and the child sees that and takes off with it. They learn what they think they can get away with and try to use it against their parents. If a child sees that the parents are fighting over how to discipline, then the kid will use that to get what they want.
You are not fooling yourself, most parents create the little monsters we have running around in stores or at the park. I kind of have my personal philosophy about parenting...?
I personally think that is nonsense and just describes bad parenting. It is a parents responsibility to instill a power balance in the parent-child relationship and if it is the child who controls that balance of power then you have a person with a limited logic controlling your life from the outset - you would end up with a child with destructive behaviours as they would not know how to control the power they exert over parents - children above anything crave nurturing which is why lack of discipline and guidance leads to tantrums, impatience and general poor behaviour (internal locus of control with limited logic ie. immature thought process).
That's my opinion anyway...
I think it behooves parents not to let their affection for their children overcome common sense. This leads to spoiled children.
All child behavior study proves that children do better if boundaries are set and they can feel confident in their parents strength. So parents who allow children to have the power aren't doing their kids any favors.
It should be the other way around. Child does not control the adult, although they be heard and compromise, parents should not let their kids ';control'; them. I say this as a teenager, who always talk back at my parents, but while it is important to let your child be heard, your experience is more than theirs and therefore should have the last word.
You are stronger then a child. The child will determin if you would like to keep things that way or if you want them to growup and become independent. Early independence and more responsibility will strenthen, at the same time put them in the most fragile state. If they respect you, you will influence them. If you force your influence they will likely rebel.
';I think that a parent only has the power that the child gives them';
Then you've clearly never experienced or witnessed child abuse.
If you could only give 1 piece of parenting advice what would it be?
for me it would be to teach small children to catch using a balloon it promotes hand eye coordination and it teaches them to keep their eye on the ';ball';If you could only give 1 piece of parenting advice what would it be?
Cherish every moment with your children..you never know when it will be your last..
(I know everyones giving funny answers but I wanted to be serious) lolIf you could only give 1 piece of parenting advice what would it be?
Let them know that you'll be there for them no matter what situation they are in, and while some things may dissapoint you at times, you'll never ask them to do it [life] on their own.
My mom was always open and honest with my sister and i, and we can tell her anything that happens and know that she will still be our mom at the end of the day, and she'll still be there for us, no matter what mess we get into. My dad's similar, but it's easier to talk to a mom haha.
I would never lie to her/him. I wouldn't give my child false hopes. In reality, no single person can change the world. But the thought they have and the way they voice those ideas would. I would tell them when I'm proud every time I truly am, not just making them feel better. I would tell them that no matter how much you cry, nothing will change and whatever happens to you the world would never stop for them. I would tell him/her that s/he's lucky just to have a family and above all else, I'd tell my child I love him/her every day of my life.
Respect and trust is a mutual thing. You have to give to get, and you have to get to give. It isn't a one way street, and you'll lose any credibility you have with them if you act like it is. You have to earn your child's respect just as much as they have to earn yours. You don't get it just by purely being a parent.
The best advise is...
LET THEM BE LITTLE!!!
They don't need to read before they're 8 months old.
They don't need to start school at 2.
They don't need be college bound at 5.
Let them be little kids. ENJOY EVERY SECOND
Hmm, not to spank their kids. There are other ways to discipline. Hitting is not the answer.
I think she meant Fags as in Cigs. They are called fags in the UK.
Think for yourself. Nothing is more important than your individuality. That doesnt mean that you can't take another person's advice however.
If I could only give 1 piece of parenting advice then I think it would be to (not use modern parenting techniques and to just use common sense)
Balloons, yeah.
Good idea.
Balloons and wrenches.
there is always someone in your life (or out there) that loves you and will be there for you through everything. don't give up
You can do anything.
Be patient and consistent and give praise when it's due and time out when it's needed.
Always ask yourself ';is it worth it?';
You should never teach your children how to talk.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Go with your gut feeling, cause it's usually right.
Never talk about someone else's kid.
Open your mind
If I could only give 1 (sigh) I'd probably merge it all and tell them to do what's best for THEIR child.
wait to have sex until your with someone you truly are in love with. That you trust with all your heart.
Being patient
teach them to stay away from drugs, fags and booze
RELAX!!!! Being a parent is supposed to be fun!
Try to remember what it's like to be little.
Look after your own.
Cherish every day you have with them...you never know what could happen.
DONT HIT THEM
i sing with my son and i feel like that creates a large bond between us and also it helps his voice:)
Tell your kids that they're actually robots so they learn quicker and their brains are more organized. Then one day when they're like 18 years old they'll just think ';Wait, I'm not a robot,'; and everything will be Ok.
don't be so conservative.
';get an abortion while you still can';
Cherish every moment with your children..you never know when it will be your last..
(I know everyones giving funny answers but I wanted to be serious) lolIf you could only give 1 piece of parenting advice what would it be?
Let them know that you'll be there for them no matter what situation they are in, and while some things may dissapoint you at times, you'll never ask them to do it [life] on their own.
My mom was always open and honest with my sister and i, and we can tell her anything that happens and know that she will still be our mom at the end of the day, and she'll still be there for us, no matter what mess we get into. My dad's similar, but it's easier to talk to a mom haha.
I would never lie to her/him. I wouldn't give my child false hopes. In reality, no single person can change the world. But the thought they have and the way they voice those ideas would. I would tell them when I'm proud every time I truly am, not just making them feel better. I would tell them that no matter how much you cry, nothing will change and whatever happens to you the world would never stop for them. I would tell him/her that s/he's lucky just to have a family and above all else, I'd tell my child I love him/her every day of my life.
Respect and trust is a mutual thing. You have to give to get, and you have to get to give. It isn't a one way street, and you'll lose any credibility you have with them if you act like it is. You have to earn your child's respect just as much as they have to earn yours. You don't get it just by purely being a parent.
The best advise is...
LET THEM BE LITTLE!!!
They don't need to read before they're 8 months old.
They don't need to start school at 2.
They don't need be college bound at 5.
Let them be little kids. ENJOY EVERY SECOND
Hmm, not to spank their kids. There are other ways to discipline. Hitting is not the answer.
I think she meant Fags as in Cigs. They are called fags in the UK.
Think for yourself. Nothing is more important than your individuality. That doesnt mean that you can't take another person's advice however.
If I could only give 1 piece of parenting advice then I think it would be to (not use modern parenting techniques and to just use common sense)
Balloons, yeah.
Good idea.
Balloons and wrenches.
there is always someone in your life (or out there) that loves you and will be there for you through everything. don't give up
You can do anything.
Be patient and consistent and give praise when it's due and time out when it's needed.
Always ask yourself ';is it worth it?';
You should never teach your children how to talk.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Go with your gut feeling, cause it's usually right.
Never talk about someone else's kid.
Open your mind
If I could only give 1 (sigh) I'd probably merge it all and tell them to do what's best for THEIR child.
wait to have sex until your with someone you truly are in love with. That you trust with all your heart.
Being patient
teach them to stay away from drugs, fags and booze
RELAX!!!! Being a parent is supposed to be fun!
Try to remember what it's like to be little.
Look after your own.
Cherish every day you have with them...you never know what could happen.
DONT HIT THEM
i sing with my son and i feel like that creates a large bond between us and also it helps his voice:)
Tell your kids that they're actually robots so they learn quicker and their brains are more organized. Then one day when they're like 18 years old they'll just think ';Wait, I'm not a robot,'; and everything will be Ok.
don't be so conservative.
';get an abortion while you still can';
What would be the best title for a parenting book by Lynne Spears?
Mother of Britney and newly-pregnant 16 year old Jamie Lynn...
Looking for creativity here!What would be the best title for a parenting book by Lynne Spears?
';Opps, one of my daughters did it again'; She should promote this book on the Jerry Springer Show.What would be the best title for a parenting book by Lynne Spears?
the cheek of it.
The Best Ways to Raise a Dysfunctional Family while Making a Profit.
I pimped out my daughters and you can, too!
My Life As A Spears Mom... A Cautionary Tale
';IF I was a bad parent, this is now I did it';
';My daughters are always screwing around';
';Danger: Hazardous Waste';
';A bald daughter, a pregnant teen, her boyfriend commiting statutory rape, and a gold digging son-in-law later...';
';The Ultimate Parenting Guide: A collaboration between Nicole Riche and Lynne Spears.';
If she collaborates with O. J. Simpson it could be:
';Bringing Up %26amp; Taking Out The Trash';
Keep your kids out of Hollywood
watch kids make money for me but mess up their lives!!
101 reasons why you shouldnt listen to your sisters advice
edit;;
oh sorry i thought you meant a parenting book for jamie lynn
ermmm
how about ';make your daughters the best whores they can be';
or ';so you've screwed up your eldest? well heres how to mess up the other one';
';whores. and how i rasied them';
';easy daughters = easy money';
god im ona roll
How to raise grandkids...
Trashy 101: How to Make Sure Your Daughters AREN'T Losers by Doing the Opposite of What I Diddermatologist
Looking for creativity here!What would be the best title for a parenting book by Lynne Spears?
';Opps, one of my daughters did it again'; She should promote this book on the Jerry Springer Show.What would be the best title for a parenting book by Lynne Spears?
the cheek of it.
Report Abuse
The Best Ways to Raise a Dysfunctional Family while Making a Profit.
I pimped out my daughters and you can, too!
My Life As A Spears Mom... A Cautionary Tale
';IF I was a bad parent, this is now I did it';
';My daughters are always screwing around';
';Danger: Hazardous Waste';
';A bald daughter, a pregnant teen, her boyfriend commiting statutory rape, and a gold digging son-in-law later...';
';The Ultimate Parenting Guide: A collaboration between Nicole Riche and Lynne Spears.';
If she collaborates with O. J. Simpson it could be:
';Bringing Up %26amp; Taking Out The Trash';
Keep your kids out of Hollywood
watch kids make money for me but mess up their lives!!
101 reasons why you shouldnt listen to your sisters advice
edit;;
oh sorry i thought you meant a parenting book for jamie lynn
ermmm
how about ';make your daughters the best whores they can be';
or ';so you've screwed up your eldest? well heres how to mess up the other one';
';whores. and how i rasied them';
';easy daughters = easy money';
god im ona roll
How to raise grandkids...
Trashy 101: How to Make Sure Your Daughters AREN'T Losers by Doing the Opposite of What I Did
When parenting an adopted child (and your own children), is it ok to spoil them or to treat them (read on)?
When parenting an adopted child (and your own children), is it ok to spoil them or to treat them like your own, meaning, they don't get the special treatment in siblings fight (i.e. not always right), they get the same tv hours...etc...?
I mostly talking about adopted kids who had a difficult childhood prior to being adopted.When parenting an adopted child (and your own children), is it ok to spoil them or to treat them (read on)?
If a child had a difficult or traumatic childhood, you should be more understanding to their needs if they become upset or scared. Sit there and comfort them. Reassure them that the bad times are over. ... That rule is regardless of if they are adopted or your own.
t.v hours and who is right or wrong in a fight shouldn't depend on if the kid is adopted either. If you catch the kids in a fight - they should both be told how they should of handled the disagreement then punished. And you should try to help them both understand the other one's point of view.
True, the adopted kid may have had a harder life before coming into your home. And yes - it would be nice if you could even things up on behalf of the world. But it isn't fair to be hard on your own children simply because they aren't adopted.When parenting an adopted child (and your own children), is it ok to spoil them or to treat them (read on)?
Adopted kids should be treated like any other kid - just like normal. This may be difficult to start with but will work in the end.
There will be issues that arise that will need to be managed; specifically behavoural issues related to the adoption - you need to be understanding but firm. And no, they shouldn't be spoilt - they will get used to it and any other children will resent it.
They're part of the household or they are not; they are no more or less important than anybody else.
Have you ever watched the dog whisperer on TV? much of what he preaches applies to humans. We are animals too. Live in the now. If they went through something tough don't treat them differently because of it. Let them know that is over and now we are moving forward. It is best to treat them as your own to be a fair and compassionate person.
am, dont spoil them, be normal with them, punish when bold, reward when good. do u want them to grow up believing that they are different/superior even more different than they already will feel? obviously be kind to them but they still need discipline and they need to knw they cant have everything they want!and siblings will resent them if they get treated better/different.
treat them the same as you would your bio children in every way. because the child is your child now, and your bio child might feel slighted if the adopted child gets away with everything. it goes both ways. my parents always gave us equal treatment.
They should get the same treatment as your other kids becasue if you dont your other kids will start to hate the adoptive kid
I mostly talking about adopted kids who had a difficult childhood prior to being adopted.When parenting an adopted child (and your own children), is it ok to spoil them or to treat them (read on)?
If a child had a difficult or traumatic childhood, you should be more understanding to their needs if they become upset or scared. Sit there and comfort them. Reassure them that the bad times are over. ... That rule is regardless of if they are adopted or your own.
t.v hours and who is right or wrong in a fight shouldn't depend on if the kid is adopted either. If you catch the kids in a fight - they should both be told how they should of handled the disagreement then punished. And you should try to help them both understand the other one's point of view.
True, the adopted kid may have had a harder life before coming into your home. And yes - it would be nice if you could even things up on behalf of the world. But it isn't fair to be hard on your own children simply because they aren't adopted.When parenting an adopted child (and your own children), is it ok to spoil them or to treat them (read on)?
Adopted kids should be treated like any other kid - just like normal. This may be difficult to start with but will work in the end.
There will be issues that arise that will need to be managed; specifically behavoural issues related to the adoption - you need to be understanding but firm. And no, they shouldn't be spoilt - they will get used to it and any other children will resent it.
They're part of the household or they are not; they are no more or less important than anybody else.
Have you ever watched the dog whisperer on TV? much of what he preaches applies to humans. We are animals too. Live in the now. If they went through something tough don't treat them differently because of it. Let them know that is over and now we are moving forward. It is best to treat them as your own to be a fair and compassionate person.
am, dont spoil them, be normal with them, punish when bold, reward when good. do u want them to grow up believing that they are different/superior even more different than they already will feel? obviously be kind to them but they still need discipline and they need to knw they cant have everything they want!and siblings will resent them if they get treated better/different.
treat them the same as you would your bio children in every way. because the child is your child now, and your bio child might feel slighted if the adopted child gets away with everything. it goes both ways. my parents always gave us equal treatment.
They should get the same treatment as your other kids becasue if you dont your other kids will start to hate the adoptive kid
Would you like to join the best parenting forum on the net?
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This forum is for men and women of any age
This is just a taste of what we have to offer. There is much much more including an arcade where you can compete for the highest score.if your interested heres the link
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ITS A RUBBISH SITE THEY ARE ALL SILLY AND TO COME ON HERE AND ANNOY PEOPLE WITH THE SAME RUBBISH IS JUST PATHETIC
GET A LIFE AND SHOVE YOUR SITE !Would you like to join the best parenting forum on the net?
no,but thanks
sorry but no
I already am. its called Babycenter.co.uk :)
Nope
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No, but thanks for the points
Not with a name like that......
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no thank you
We have many boards including
Chit Chat
Gobby Grannies
baby Loss
domestic violence
paranormal
Getting to know you
Debates
A rant section to get it of your chest.
TTC
Pregnancy
Babies
Older children
This forum is for men and women of any age
This is just a taste of what we have to offer. There is much much more including an arcade where you can compete for the highest score.if your interested heres the link
http://naughtynutters.smfforfree2.com/index.phpWould you like to join the best parenting forum on the net?
ITS A RUBBISH SITE THEY ARE ALL SILLY AND TO COME ON HERE AND ANNOY PEOPLE WITH THE SAME RUBBISH IS JUST PATHETIC
GET A LIFE AND SHOVE YOUR SITE !Would you like to join the best parenting forum on the net?
no,but thanks
sorry but no
I already am. its called Babycenter.co.uk :)
Nope
no thanks
No, but thanks for the points
Not with a name like that......
Cx
bring it on
cool u again
no thank you
Parenting and toddler's self esteem question?
I have an almost three year old who's a typical toddler. He has a trouble listening to his mom and dad. We are trying to fix this problem.
Is it wrong for his dad to say to him ';You have a listeing problem';, ';What's your problem';?
Will this hurt his self esteem?Parenting and toddler's self esteem question?
i dont know that it will hurt his self esteem, it will probably hurt his feelings a bit.... with my daughter (she's 2 1/2) if i tell her to do something and she doesnt or she ignores me... i just ask ';what did i tell you to do?'; until she tells me exactly what i told her to do... then she does it.
i think once they vocalize what is expected of them, they know they can no longer ignore you or pretend as if they didnt hear you... now they HAVE to listenParenting and toddler's self esteem question?
A child of almost 3 needs simple but direct statements. He certainly would NOT understand ';What's your problem?'; or ';You have a listening problem?'; Are you kidding me? Of course he's not going to understand those statements.
Be direct and to the point AND be patient, ';Sam, pick up your toys now';, ';Sam, it's time for your nap';.
Children his age may not understand more than a 2 step direction so don't say, ';Sam, it's time for you to clean up your toys, find your blanket and put away your puzzle.';
I totally agree with Hazelandgreg regarding the respect aspect. You should definitely say ';please'; to your son to ask him to do something and then say '; thank you'; to him after he's completed the task.
Yes it will hurt his self esteem.
When a toddler is behaving badly, you need to encourage the good behaviour and ignore the bad, unless it is harmful to his or herself or others.
I am not surprised he has trouble listening if you talk to him like that; I wouldn't listen to it either.
I agree with the first answer; be precise. ';Pick up your toys, please.'; Talk to him with respect.
It isn't the end of the world, but a much better approach would be to tell him that he needs to listen and take corrective action (whatever your philosophy on that might be) if he fails to listen. Telling a 3 year old he has a listening problem isn't going to cause him to try to be a better person.
yes diffidently yes ..
Barnes n nobles have great books on parenting and child /infant self esteem..
id think it great to start reading as there toddlers so u wont put them in another direction.. i wish i had read those books when my kids where younger but even now at 8 yrs they help tremendously
it will probably not TRAUMATIZE him but it might hurt his feelings a little. you could try to set a good example and have him be the ';daddy'; in a game and you listen to him (reasonably). just a thought
could say that he doesn't listen but not that he has a problem, cos your saying theirs something wrong with him. it will hurt his self esteem
Is it wrong for his dad to say to him ';You have a listeing problem';, ';What's your problem';?
Will this hurt his self esteem?Parenting and toddler's self esteem question?
i dont know that it will hurt his self esteem, it will probably hurt his feelings a bit.... with my daughter (she's 2 1/2) if i tell her to do something and she doesnt or she ignores me... i just ask ';what did i tell you to do?'; until she tells me exactly what i told her to do... then she does it.
i think once they vocalize what is expected of them, they know they can no longer ignore you or pretend as if they didnt hear you... now they HAVE to listenParenting and toddler's self esteem question?
A child of almost 3 needs simple but direct statements. He certainly would NOT understand ';What's your problem?'; or ';You have a listening problem?'; Are you kidding me? Of course he's not going to understand those statements.
Be direct and to the point AND be patient, ';Sam, pick up your toys now';, ';Sam, it's time for your nap';.
Children his age may not understand more than a 2 step direction so don't say, ';Sam, it's time for you to clean up your toys, find your blanket and put away your puzzle.';
I totally agree with Hazelandgreg regarding the respect aspect. You should definitely say ';please'; to your son to ask him to do something and then say '; thank you'; to him after he's completed the task.
Yes it will hurt his self esteem.
When a toddler is behaving badly, you need to encourage the good behaviour and ignore the bad, unless it is harmful to his or herself or others.
I am not surprised he has trouble listening if you talk to him like that; I wouldn't listen to it either.
I agree with the first answer; be precise. ';Pick up your toys, please.'; Talk to him with respect.
It isn't the end of the world, but a much better approach would be to tell him that he needs to listen and take corrective action (whatever your philosophy on that might be) if he fails to listen. Telling a 3 year old he has a listening problem isn't going to cause him to try to be a better person.
yes diffidently yes ..
Barnes n nobles have great books on parenting and child /infant self esteem..
id think it great to start reading as there toddlers so u wont put them in another direction.. i wish i had read those books when my kids where younger but even now at 8 yrs they help tremendously
it will probably not TRAUMATIZE him but it might hurt his feelings a little. you could try to set a good example and have him be the ';daddy'; in a game and you listen to him (reasonably). just a thought
could say that he doesn't listen but not that he has a problem, cos your saying theirs something wrong with him. it will hurt his self esteem
Why do in-laws criticize on one parenting?
Why do in-laws criticize behind ones back on the way you bring your kids up when they stuffed up in a major way themselves?Why do in-laws criticize on one parenting?
Because they don't know how to mind their own business!Why do in-laws criticize on one parenting?
if your in-laws are criticizing you behind your back, then who's the idiot that's telling you what they said? your spouse? who then? whoever it is, tell him/her you dont want to hear it anymore and that he/she shouldnt be volunteering to be the messenger of bad news. let that person know that some things are better left unsaid and that you dont need to hear everything bad everybody says about you. unless of course you are abusing your kids. then you do need to be hearing it from someone, anyone.
They think they know all. I don't have any kids yet, but I already do not get a long with my mother in law...luckily we live 1.5 hours away and have been for 3 years now. Not once have they cam e to visit. I feel bad for my husband b/c he misses his family, he's 1 of 9 plus 15 neices and nephews, but I am glad b/c when we finally have our children I don't have to put up with their comments!
i suppose they have nothing more to do than criticize.
also if they made mistakes, it makes them feel better to pick on someone else. try not to worry about it. just do the best you can do.
Because they don't know how to mind their own business!Why do in-laws criticize on one parenting?
if your in-laws are criticizing you behind your back, then who's the idiot that's telling you what they said? your spouse? who then? whoever it is, tell him/her you dont want to hear it anymore and that he/she shouldnt be volunteering to be the messenger of bad news. let that person know that some things are better left unsaid and that you dont need to hear everything bad everybody says about you. unless of course you are abusing your kids. then you do need to be hearing it from someone, anyone.
They think they know all. I don't have any kids yet, but I already do not get a long with my mother in law...luckily we live 1.5 hours away and have been for 3 years now. Not once have they cam e to visit. I feel bad for my husband b/c he misses his family, he's 1 of 9 plus 15 neices and nephews, but I am glad b/c when we finally have our children I don't have to put up with their comments!
i suppose they have nothing more to do than criticize.
also if they made mistakes, it makes them feel better to pick on someone else. try not to worry about it. just do the best you can do.
My son needs to make a safe, homemade toy for an infant or toddler for parenting class, any suggestions?
1.Take an empty clear plastic water bottle. Fill it 4/5 with light Karo Syrup, the rest of the way with water. Put in some shiny or interesting things such as glitter, small beads, tiny animal figures or anything that will fit through the opening. Either hot glue or duct tape the cap back on. Shake. This makes sort of a snow globe, but the things float down slowly. You can roll it back and forth with the child or they can shake it. I've seen a group of toddlers play with these for half an hour.
2. Take those colorful plastic Easter eggs, put some rice, beans, or bells inside. Hot glue them shut . Use them as rattles or musical instruments.My son needs to make a safe, homemade toy for an infant or toddler for parenting class, any suggestions?
Take (about) a 5 x 5 cube of foam. Using small fabric squares of varying colors and textures, help your son seam the fabric together to cover the cube. Each side should be a different color or colorful pattern, and have varying textures.My son needs to make a safe, homemade toy for an infant or toddler for parenting class, any suggestions?
take a small bottle of water (1pint) or Eclipse gum BigePak or any other container (anything that CANNOT fit through a toilet paper roll core=the size of a baby throat) and put some buttons, dry beans, gravel in it, and voila you have a rattle. Super-glue the cap for safety..
With my son we got and old vitamin bottle (one of the bigger ones) filled it with rice or beans and glued the lid on with a glue gun.He still has in 2 years later!
Take an empty clear pop bottle and put water in it. Place small floating toys and glitter in the bottle. Seal this shut with hot glue.
2. Take those colorful plastic Easter eggs, put some rice, beans, or bells inside. Hot glue them shut . Use them as rattles or musical instruments.My son needs to make a safe, homemade toy for an infant or toddler for parenting class, any suggestions?
Take (about) a 5 x 5 cube of foam. Using small fabric squares of varying colors and textures, help your son seam the fabric together to cover the cube. Each side should be a different color or colorful pattern, and have varying textures.My son needs to make a safe, homemade toy for an infant or toddler for parenting class, any suggestions?
take a small bottle of water (1pint) or Eclipse gum BigePak or any other container (anything that CANNOT fit through a toilet paper roll core=the size of a baby throat) and put some buttons, dry beans, gravel in it, and voila you have a rattle. Super-glue the cap for safety..
With my son we got and old vitamin bottle (one of the bigger ones) filled it with rice or beans and glued the lid on with a glue gun.He still has in 2 years later!
Take an empty clear pop bottle and put water in it. Place small floating toys and glitter in the bottle. Seal this shut with hot glue.
Is it normal for me to have parenting urges at this age?
I'm currently 18, almost 19, and graduating here in a couple of days. I've got a great boyfriend that I'm goin' to spend the rest of my life with and everything's set for me, except for my financial situation. I know that I'm not financially off as my boyfriend (I'm in Ohio and he's in New York), but I feel that he shouldn't be the only one who supports children with money. I feel that I have to get a job, with an education aswell. I don't want them to grow up in ignorance or anything of that sort. I've still yet to go to college (my boyfriend is helping me pay for), open up a bank account, get a job, learn to drive, and save back money. We were planning on gettin' married in maybe a year or two and that I'm going to move in with him in a year. I know I'm not ready, but yet I still continue to have these strong urges. I don't know what has triggered them. It's wierd. I've had these urges before, but they weren't as bad. What's causing them? Advice greatly needed. Thanks!Is it normal for me to have parenting urges at this age?
Its hormones and you're lucky you can recognize it as an urge and not a need. The time will eventually be right for now and this is certainly not your time as you have other goals and they are practical and will certainly make life better for you, your mate and your future children. Your hormones are pushing you to act faster let's that instead of letting that throw you off course you continue to make these decisions on an intellectual level.Is it normal for me to have parenting urges at this age?
dont do it just yet you have to learn all those things you mentioned first. Who know when you learn to drive you might want to be a rally driver of something!, regarding your boyfriend nothing is forever so dont place too much of yourself in him, all your eggs in one basket so to speak!
It's perfectly normal. You are most likely having hormonal changes that affect your thoughts and feelings and urges.
This urge may go away for a while, then come back later--hopefully when your education, work, and financial stability are in place enabling you to support a child in all respects.
Acknowledge the urges and appreciate them for what they are. Don't let them spook you, as you can put your brain in over-ride mode to get some real life practical matters out of the way..get a job, open a bank account, save....
Hey well I'm about to turn 18. I also have those type of urges, I guess its because we are about to graduate, and we are really seeing life, and like we have boyfriends, feelings come to us. I also have those feelings but i dont want kids yet, because im so young. Just wait until the time is right, trust you'll be glad you did!! Take Care
Are you saying that your not ready to move in with your boyfriend or have kids with him cause if your having second thoughts about having kids with him at 18 almost 19, then you should wait, but people have kids at all different ages so it's normal to have parenting urges but it's up to you if you want to have kids right now and you should tell your boyfriend how you feel if your having doubts
I think so, I am anyway. I feel tha same way you do. But do what my mom always told me to do. Go to college, get your education, get married, get a job, then have kids!dermatologist
Its hormones and you're lucky you can recognize it as an urge and not a need. The time will eventually be right for now and this is certainly not your time as you have other goals and they are practical and will certainly make life better for you, your mate and your future children. Your hormones are pushing you to act faster let's that instead of letting that throw you off course you continue to make these decisions on an intellectual level.Is it normal for me to have parenting urges at this age?
dont do it just yet you have to learn all those things you mentioned first. Who know when you learn to drive you might want to be a rally driver of something!, regarding your boyfriend nothing is forever so dont place too much of yourself in him, all your eggs in one basket so to speak!
It's perfectly normal. You are most likely having hormonal changes that affect your thoughts and feelings and urges.
This urge may go away for a while, then come back later--hopefully when your education, work, and financial stability are in place enabling you to support a child in all respects.
Acknowledge the urges and appreciate them for what they are. Don't let them spook you, as you can put your brain in over-ride mode to get some real life practical matters out of the way..get a job, open a bank account, save....
Hey well I'm about to turn 18. I also have those type of urges, I guess its because we are about to graduate, and we are really seeing life, and like we have boyfriends, feelings come to us. I also have those feelings but i dont want kids yet, because im so young. Just wait until the time is right, trust you'll be glad you did!! Take Care
Are you saying that your not ready to move in with your boyfriend or have kids with him cause if your having second thoughts about having kids with him at 18 almost 19, then you should wait, but people have kids at all different ages so it's normal to have parenting urges but it's up to you if you want to have kids right now and you should tell your boyfriend how you feel if your having doubts
I think so, I am anyway. I feel tha same way you do. But do what my mom always told me to do. Go to college, get your education, get married, get a job, then have kids!
How do you find parenting in Canada (U.S.A) compared to the parenting in the country of your origin?
how do you feel about how American or Canadian children are raised?
- this question is for immigrantsHow do you find parenting in Canada (U.S.A) compared to the parenting in the country of your origin?
the same - i have the same parents as i did in korea than i did here in ny lol
but seriously i think it's a lot more relaxed here in general but i do have some friends whose parents are beyonnnd strict
so i would say that it depends but the typical parents i know are more relaxed than mineHow do you find parenting in Canada (U.S.A) compared to the parenting in the country of your origin?
I think kids raised here lack discipline... big time.... i hear little kids swearing at there parents as if its normal... many are also overweight.... parents also dont emphasize on studying as much... and dont give them some sense of direction in life...
- this question is for immigrantsHow do you find parenting in Canada (U.S.A) compared to the parenting in the country of your origin?
the same - i have the same parents as i did in korea than i did here in ny lol
but seriously i think it's a lot more relaxed here in general but i do have some friends whose parents are beyonnnd strict
so i would say that it depends but the typical parents i know are more relaxed than mineHow do you find parenting in Canada (U.S.A) compared to the parenting in the country of your origin?
I think kids raised here lack discipline... big time.... i hear little kids swearing at there parents as if its normal... many are also overweight.... parents also dont emphasize on studying as much... and dont give them some sense of direction in life...
Who has attacked a parent on Parenting lately?
It is kinda fun lol. Or asked a stupid question just to see their even stupider answerWho has attacked a parent on Parenting lately?
I was in the grocery the other day and someones kid was running up and down the isles and taking stuff and putting it in other peoples baskets, when i found his mother i asked her if she believed in spanking, cause i dont, but i would gladly beat her kid for her.Who has attacked a parent on Parenting lately?
Yes this woman was in a parking lot and she threw skittles on the ground an made her child eat them. I bitched her out and people were staring.
Ummm my parents are dead so NO.
um not me
sounds like a good idea
I was in the grocery the other day and someones kid was running up and down the isles and taking stuff and putting it in other peoples baskets, when i found his mother i asked her if she believed in spanking, cause i dont, but i would gladly beat her kid for her.Who has attacked a parent on Parenting lately?
Yes this woman was in a parking lot and she threw skittles on the ground an made her child eat them. I bitched her out and people were staring.
Ummm my parents are dead so NO.
um not me
sounds like a good idea
Does anyone know what website I could go to to get free DVDs on parenting skills for kids of all ages?
Your local library should have parenting DVDs available. for you to borrow for free.
http://www.totalvid.com/Parenting-Instru鈥?/a>
Has some virtual dvds that they let you ';borrow'; as well.Does anyone know what website I could go to to get free DVDs on parenting skills for kids of all ages?
I would call your local hospital or parenting program ( here in Oregon its called Birth to Three). It seems nothing on the web is free. :) Good Luck!Does anyone know what website I could go to to get free DVDs on parenting skills for kids of all ages?
Do a search for Love and Logic, they are great.
http://www.totalvid.com/Parenting-Instru鈥?/a>
Has some virtual dvds that they let you ';borrow'; as well.Does anyone know what website I could go to to get free DVDs on parenting skills for kids of all ages?
I would call your local hospital or parenting program ( here in Oregon its called Birth to Three). It seems nothing on the web is free. :) Good Luck!Does anyone know what website I could go to to get free DVDs on parenting skills for kids of all ages?
Do a search for Love and Logic, they are great.
Where can i find information on parenting in Italy???
i tried google, ask, dogpile, all the search engines but i cant find any...it has to be on how italian people raise their kids..ex. they breastfeed of bottle, etc....Where can i find information on parenting in Italy???
Try Encarta.com or Wikipedia.com
Try Encarta.com or Wikipedia.com
Temperature during pregnancy? First time parenting tips?
What is the normal temp during pregnancy is it usually higher or lower than normal--any first time parenting tips would be appreciated!Temperature during pregnancy? First time parenting tips?
I don't know what is exactly ';normal'; because I think it would depend on the person. I charted my basal body temperature when ttc. I know that your temp does rise about 0.5 degrees when you ovulate and generally stays elevated if you become pregnant - at least until around the end of your first trimester. It's due to the progesterone your body produces when you are pregnant. Some women also experience hot flashes and night sweats. I have noticed with both pregnancies, I am hotter than normal but I haven't taken my temp.
As for advice, breastfeed your baby - or at least try. There is more research that proves the benefits of breast milk - even if you can only do it for a few months. Learn to let some things go so you can make the most out of every moment with your kids. The world is not going to end if you let the dinner dishes wait until the next morning. Keep a journal. I was good about taking tons of pictures, but I wish I had kept a little journal handy to write down cute little things that my baby had done. I can still recall a lot of them and I'm trying to write many of them down now, but it would've been much easier to jot them down at the time.Temperature during pregnancy? First time parenting tips?
Your basal body temp is usually a few fractions of a degree to a full degree higher when pregnant.
As for tips, hmmm, the list could get super long. #1 sleep as much as you can now, lol. Other than that, most of the stuff you need to know will come to you. Take pics and video! The first year is a blur! Best of luck.
My temperature has remained the same. But Its different with everyone. My sisters temperature was higher than normal.
This same question was asked a few days back.
Try http://www.geocities.com/rubymeera
It depends on the person. Like for me it was higher than normal. But then you could be like me now get cold really easily.... Parenting is hard at first then gets earlier as it goes on
i'm 32 weeks and my temp. has been lower.
not drastic .. just like 97.2.
good luck! God bless!
I don't know what is exactly ';normal'; because I think it would depend on the person. I charted my basal body temperature when ttc. I know that your temp does rise about 0.5 degrees when you ovulate and generally stays elevated if you become pregnant - at least until around the end of your first trimester. It's due to the progesterone your body produces when you are pregnant. Some women also experience hot flashes and night sweats. I have noticed with both pregnancies, I am hotter than normal but I haven't taken my temp.
As for advice, breastfeed your baby - or at least try. There is more research that proves the benefits of breast milk - even if you can only do it for a few months. Learn to let some things go so you can make the most out of every moment with your kids. The world is not going to end if you let the dinner dishes wait until the next morning. Keep a journal. I was good about taking tons of pictures, but I wish I had kept a little journal handy to write down cute little things that my baby had done. I can still recall a lot of them and I'm trying to write many of them down now, but it would've been much easier to jot them down at the time.Temperature during pregnancy? First time parenting tips?
Your basal body temp is usually a few fractions of a degree to a full degree higher when pregnant.
As for tips, hmmm, the list could get super long. #1 sleep as much as you can now, lol. Other than that, most of the stuff you need to know will come to you. Take pics and video! The first year is a blur! Best of luck.
My temperature has remained the same. But Its different with everyone. My sisters temperature was higher than normal.
This same question was asked a few days back.
Try http://www.geocities.com/rubymeera
It depends on the person. Like for me it was higher than normal. But then you could be like me now get cold really easily.... Parenting is hard at first then gets earlier as it goes on
i'm 32 weeks and my temp. has been lower.
not drastic .. just like 97.2.
good luck! God bless!
I need to take a parenting thing to see if i can raise a child..HELP?
So what i have to do is take care of a baby doll that is like a real baby. i am not doing this as a class but i want to have kids but people are telling me to wait till i'm 24 atleast. i want to see what it's like to have a baby around. what i need help on is where do i get these babies and how much do they cost. please help me out. thank you!I need to take a parenting thing to see if i can raise a child..HELP?
I think you should call the local high schools and ask them about it. They may be willing to rent you one, sell an old one, or tell you a good place to get a new one. You could also try your local planned parenthood.
Try googling a ';think it over'; baby doll. I found this page
http://www.realityworks.com/caniorder.ht鈥?/a>
Here's a used one on ebay .. over $300
http://cgi.ebay.com/Reborn-Baby-Think-It鈥?/a>I need to take a parenting thing to see if i can raise a child..HELP?
The babies are about $300 to $1000.
oh my god, to be honest with you, I am quite shocked. To begin with, why do you listen to these stupid people? Well, nobody is taught to be a mum. and how are you going to get these motherly affections and love that comes automatically as soon as you conceive and once you have that child, what on earth is going to stop you from being a mum?? listen, you will never know how much you will love and care for your child until you have him. So true and and experienced it. If you are thinking of getting these 'baby doll' as you call them, well you will never want to b a mum. bear in mind that the minute that child smiles at you and hugs you when he or she wakes up from her sleep, all your hard work and effort is paid off. It is so worth it. So in your case, who is going to do it for u. As far as babies are concerned, its not just the chore, tasks and more chores, its a lot of fun as well. The cuddle, the hugs, the kisses, the touchy feely, so are u expecting all these from a toy or doll??? ahhhaaa, I am not judging you or poking fun or you, but a baby is a human being for god sake and a man made object has never and will never be the same. Girl, I am 23. I was pregnant in my second year of university and I had all the reasons to abort the child had I given my career the main importance. Not trying to boast about it, but I am a very intelligent girl and has always been very good academically. But I decided to go on with the pregnancy. Luckily, I had the support of my parents and husband, I continued my education and went on doing my final year. I got a FIRST in Engineering. so, believe me, a baby brings a lot more than you expect in life. Now I am enjoying her at home until she is a little bit older to start a job. Hope it helps. My princess is 10 months old.dermatologist
I think you should call the local high schools and ask them about it. They may be willing to rent you one, sell an old one, or tell you a good place to get a new one. You could also try your local planned parenthood.
Try googling a ';think it over'; baby doll. I found this page
http://www.realityworks.com/caniorder.ht鈥?/a>
Here's a used one on ebay .. over $300
http://cgi.ebay.com/Reborn-Baby-Think-It鈥?/a>I need to take a parenting thing to see if i can raise a child..HELP?
The babies are about $300 to $1000.
oh my god, to be honest with you, I am quite shocked. To begin with, why do you listen to these stupid people? Well, nobody is taught to be a mum. and how are you going to get these motherly affections and love that comes automatically as soon as you conceive and once you have that child, what on earth is going to stop you from being a mum?? listen, you will never know how much you will love and care for your child until you have him. So true and and experienced it. If you are thinking of getting these 'baby doll' as you call them, well you will never want to b a mum. bear in mind that the minute that child smiles at you and hugs you when he or she wakes up from her sleep, all your hard work and effort is paid off. It is so worth it. So in your case, who is going to do it for u. As far as babies are concerned, its not just the chore, tasks and more chores, its a lot of fun as well. The cuddle, the hugs, the kisses, the touchy feely, so are u expecting all these from a toy or doll??? ahhhaaa, I am not judging you or poking fun or you, but a baby is a human being for god sake and a man made object has never and will never be the same. Girl, I am 23. I was pregnant in my second year of university and I had all the reasons to abort the child had I given my career the main importance. Not trying to boast about it, but I am a very intelligent girl and has always been very good academically. But I decided to go on with the pregnancy. Luckily, I had the support of my parents and husband, I continued my education and went on doing my final year. I got a FIRST in Engineering. so, believe me, a baby brings a lot more than you expect in life. Now I am enjoying her at home until she is a little bit older to start a job. Hope it helps. My princess is 10 months old.
How do I get members, parenting website ?
Whats the best way to get member ? I have a community forum www.ourlilmonsters.co.uk thats been running for just under a year and would like to encourage new members. whats the best way to go about it ?How do I get members, parenting website ?
Make sure all existing members have your website in their signature. Maybe set up a blog using keywords to get people to look at your sight too.How do I get members, parenting website ?
Well you just did it.....it is called advertising......
I'll tune in and see what you're about.....
Hey, I went to your website.....good job......I'll spread the word.
I have no clue
Im not sure how to go about getting new members maybe advertise, but your question should help cause it got me to look at your site and it looks very interesting. I think i might sign up. Good luck
Make sure all existing members have your website in their signature. Maybe set up a blog using keywords to get people to look at your sight too.How do I get members, parenting website ?
Well you just did it.....it is called advertising......
I'll tune in and see what you're about.....
Hey, I went to your website.....good job......I'll spread the word.
I have no clue
Im not sure how to go about getting new members maybe advertise, but your question should help cause it got me to look at your site and it looks very interesting. I think i might sign up. Good luck
Need a good title for parenting article!!??Ten points for best answer!!?
The article covers teenage pregnancy and contraception and what help there is out there for teenage parents.Need a good title for parenting article!!??Ten points for best answer!!?
Teen contraception advise (if too late pregnancy help and tips for new mums!)
Teen contraception advise (if too late pregnancy help and tips for new mums!)
In a parenting plan who gets the child when it is both the parents day?
its dads weekend but also the mothers days alsoIn a parenting plan who gets the child when it is both the parents day?
It should rotate with each parent. One parent gets the extra day one week and the next the next week.In a parenting plan who gets the child when it is both the parents day?
The question doesnt make sense. In a parenting plan one parent has the weekend. If it is the holiday Mothers day then mom gets the child on that day, even if it is Dad's weekend. Holidays, special occasions if in the decree take presedence.
The only time that would happen would be if it was mother's day for a holiday or school break.
Holidays %26amp; school break schedules replace the regular day to day, week to week schedules.
the dad would take precedent but hopefully he is not an a hole and will let a mother be with her child on mothes day
Normally a parenting plan will have written in it something to the effect that the holiday, special occasion, etc... take precedent over the regular weekend schedule.
Check your plan again, it should have something like that stated for both Mother's %26amp; Father's Day, each of your birthdays, as well as who the child will be with during each holiday.
Good luck!
It should rotate with each parent. One parent gets the extra day one week and the next the next week.In a parenting plan who gets the child when it is both the parents day?
The question doesnt make sense. In a parenting plan one parent has the weekend. If it is the holiday Mothers day then mom gets the child on that day, even if it is Dad's weekend. Holidays, special occasions if in the decree take presedence.
The only time that would happen would be if it was mother's day for a holiday or school break.
Holidays %26amp; school break schedules replace the regular day to day, week to week schedules.
the dad would take precedent but hopefully he is not an a hole and will let a mother be with her child on mothes day
Normally a parenting plan will have written in it something to the effect that the holiday, special occasion, etc... take precedent over the regular weekend schedule.
Check your plan again, it should have something like that stated for both Mother's %26amp; Father's Day, each of your birthdays, as well as who the child will be with during each holiday.
Good luck!
Can anyone tell me what parenting site this is?
I used to get emails from this one site that about kids, they had these journals on them one was called Tending Violet I forgot the password for the email account I had them sent to and if anyone know's of the site please tell me?Can anyone tell me what parenting site this is?
You're thinking of Baby Center. I've posted the link below.Can anyone tell me what parenting site this is?
http://www.babycenter.com/general/baby/1鈥?/a>
You can sign up to have them send you emails every month to give you updates on your child. :-)
You're thinking of Baby Center. I've posted the link below.Can anyone tell me what parenting site this is?
http://www.babycenter.com/general/baby/1鈥?/a>
You can sign up to have them send you emails every month to give you updates on your child. :-)
Where can i find a Parenting class in Athens, Ga?
http://www.neohumanist.net/parenting.htm鈥?/a>
take a look at this site, it's in Marousi. you could also ask your midwife, she may know of more.Where can i find a Parenting class in Athens, Ga?
uhykWhere can i find a Parenting class in Athens, Ga?
go to the Health Department. and ask them
Community college. Check at the library for a list of community classes.dermatologist
take a look at this site, it's in Marousi. you could also ask your midwife, she may know of more.Where can i find a Parenting class in Athens, Ga?
uhykWhere can i find a Parenting class in Athens, Ga?
go to the Health Department. and ask them
Community college. Check at the library for a list of community classes.
Who's your favorite parenting expert and why?
the good news ... and the bad news ... is that we all *are* the experts, at least with respect to our own kids. it's that frightening realization that there aren't set, definite answers to parenting any more than there are to morals or other aspects of our lives. we just have to figure it out as we go along.
that said, of course i look to the wisdom of people who have also been through it or who have seen large numbers of kids and so can speak to general trends and what works for the majority of kids. most (but not all) of the parents i know have some wisdom to offer that i've found helpful. some (but not all) of the parents on this board, do, too. so do some (but not all) of the authors of parenting books i've read. you take a bit from here and a bit from there.
and then you end up mostly going with your mom or your spouse, lol.Who's your favorite parenting expert and why?
My mom. She is intelligent, knowledgeable, full of common sense, and caring.
All the best.Who's your favorite parenting expert and why?
I don't have one. I think I do a good job though.
Dr spock because as the first poster said there's no one right answer and he agrees with that. He gives advice and suggestions but his main theory is to go wit the flow, do what you feel comfortable with and you know what's best for your baby. x
I love the Sears family. The stories that they tell of their older children interacting with the younger ones, and going out into the world, are beautiful - exactly what I'd love to see in my own family.
My mom. There is not another. :-)
I don't follow your definition of experts. It is about instinct and common sense in my opinion, and I don't need books to tell me how to raise my son.
My hero(ine) is my own mother. She died last month just before my 21st birthday, very suddenly and far too young. I never realised what a great mum she was until it was too late, and too late to tell her. She was never the most conventional of mothers, but now she is gone, I have a huge gaping hole in my life, and I am missing so much. Appreciate those closest to you, and make sure you tell them, I'd give anything to get my true parenting hero back to let her know how fabulous she was.
There is no parenting expert. If parenting experts really existed, then there would be an end all, be all solution to raising children and to disciplining children that would work 100% of the time for all children and there is just no such thing.
As far as role models maybe? I really look up to my parents, my husband's parents and some close friends. As a Christian also, I believe in the teachings of Christ so I also look to Him for guidance in my journey known as parenthood :) I know not everyone believes in Him, but I do and He is an awesome God.
i'll take my own hands on loving, correcting, praising, punishing, Parents
i take pride in the job they did, and count my blessing that i was truly
brought up and not dragged up like so many in today's society.
There is no hand book of do's and don'ts its all on the job training
that said, of course i look to the wisdom of people who have also been through it or who have seen large numbers of kids and so can speak to general trends and what works for the majority of kids. most (but not all) of the parents i know have some wisdom to offer that i've found helpful. some (but not all) of the parents on this board, do, too. so do some (but not all) of the authors of parenting books i've read. you take a bit from here and a bit from there.
and then you end up mostly going with your mom or your spouse, lol.Who's your favorite parenting expert and why?
My mom. She is intelligent, knowledgeable, full of common sense, and caring.
All the best.Who's your favorite parenting expert and why?
I don't have one. I think I do a good job though.
Dr spock because as the first poster said there's no one right answer and he agrees with that. He gives advice and suggestions but his main theory is to go wit the flow, do what you feel comfortable with and you know what's best for your baby. x
I love the Sears family. The stories that they tell of their older children interacting with the younger ones, and going out into the world, are beautiful - exactly what I'd love to see in my own family.
My mom. There is not another. :-)
I don't follow your definition of experts. It is about instinct and common sense in my opinion, and I don't need books to tell me how to raise my son.
My hero(ine) is my own mother. She died last month just before my 21st birthday, very suddenly and far too young. I never realised what a great mum she was until it was too late, and too late to tell her. She was never the most conventional of mothers, but now she is gone, I have a huge gaping hole in my life, and I am missing so much. Appreciate those closest to you, and make sure you tell them, I'd give anything to get my true parenting hero back to let her know how fabulous she was.
There is no parenting expert. If parenting experts really existed, then there would be an end all, be all solution to raising children and to disciplining children that would work 100% of the time for all children and there is just no such thing.
As far as role models maybe? I really look up to my parents, my husband's parents and some close friends. As a Christian also, I believe in the teachings of Christ so I also look to Him for guidance in my journey known as parenthood :) I know not everyone believes in Him, but I do and He is an awesome God.
i'll take my own hands on loving, correcting, praising, punishing, Parents
i take pride in the job they did, and count my blessing that i was truly
brought up and not dragged up like so many in today's society.
There is no hand book of do's and don'ts its all on the job training
Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
because I just got told to take my happy azz back to the babysitting section, or wherever I came from. That's an insult, right?
PQ: Is babysitting and parenting the same thing? (News to me, lol)Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
News to me, too.
I am more interested in the fact that you have a happy azz !!!!
How is this accomplished?because I want a happy azz!
ETA:
did you notice that I changed my name ?
If I speak it, it makes it so !
yeay, a club !!!!
Mom to Boy + 1 ! ~~~we should follow her and thumb her up over in football !!!Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
babysitting and parenting are cousins..lol
but seriously how does one get a happy azz? do you eat fairys and rainbows and drink tons of giggle juice or something.. because I want one..lol
Dont listen to the haters Nina... theres always gonna be someone somewhere whos not happy unless attempting to make everyone else miserable
I am gone for a week and still have this dam TC Badge =(
Anyways yes that is a insult LOL Sounds like a school yard insult though LOL.
And babysitting and parenting are no where near the same thing. At least i do not think so.
ETA
LMAO Judo And Nina LOL
LOL Why not judo lets go LOL
Yes, parenting is just glorified babysitting. Lol, but those lucky babysitters get to go home!
lol... last time I checked it was called 'Parenting' and I would be insulted by that.
PQ: I don't think so.
Yay, that's when you know you're doing a good job over there in the Football section!
Where you talking about Bret again? I do have to say you have some knowledge of the game.
im just sitting back admiring yours and judos happy azzes. they are mighty sweet from my view
There isn't even a babysitting section on here... shows what they know.
PQ: NO... not the same thing!
lol...you crack me up. They apparently didn't like what you told them. :D
Parenting, cant you read or are you just a dumb babysitter
PQ: Is babysitting and parenting the same thing? (News to me, lol)Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
News to me, too.
I am more interested in the fact that you have a happy azz !!!!
How is this accomplished?because I want a happy azz!
ETA:
did you notice that I changed my name ?
If I speak it, it makes it so !
yeay, a club !!!!
Mom to Boy + 1 ! ~~~we should follow her and thumb her up over in football !!!Is this the babysitting section or the parenting section?
babysitting and parenting are cousins..lol
but seriously how does one get a happy azz? do you eat fairys and rainbows and drink tons of giggle juice or something.. because I want one..lol
Dont listen to the haters Nina... theres always gonna be someone somewhere whos not happy unless attempting to make everyone else miserable
I am gone for a week and still have this dam TC Badge =(
Anyways yes that is a insult LOL Sounds like a school yard insult though LOL.
And babysitting and parenting are no where near the same thing. At least i do not think so.
ETA
LMAO Judo And Nina LOL
LOL Why not judo lets go LOL
Yes, parenting is just glorified babysitting. Lol, but those lucky babysitters get to go home!
lol... last time I checked it was called 'Parenting' and I would be insulted by that.
PQ: I don't think so.
Yay, that's when you know you're doing a good job over there in the Football section!
Where you talking about Bret again? I do have to say you have some knowledge of the game.
im just sitting back admiring yours and judos happy azzes. they are mighty sweet from my view
There isn't even a babysitting section on here... shows what they know.
PQ: NO... not the same thing!
lol...you crack me up. They apparently didn't like what you told them. :D
Parenting, cant you read or are you just a dumb babysitter
Parenting Help! I need some advice! 10 points for a good answer?
My 16 year old kid has behaved horribly ever since i got divorsed. He got expelled for running into the girls bathroom and then punching a girl. He and his Girlfriend were caught skinny dipping. What should i do?Parenting Help! I need some advice! 10 points for a good answer?
Talk to him. Spend time with him. You need to help him deal with his anger.Parenting Help! I need some advice! 10 points for a good answer?
he very angry child. Separation or divorce or any major changes in a child life can set off an imbalance. Maybe seek counseling for him so that he can talk it out. The dirty mag, is not an aggressive action, and you should focus on the safety issues first. Add to the separation of his parents and and teen hormone changes.
You have your hands full.
But counseling would be best do to the safety issues you are faced with him.
The fact that he punched someone, especially since it was a female, he needs to be in counseling and be thankful that he didn't get in legal trouble. Sometimes 16 is old enough to be considered an adult in matters like this. He needs counseling for sure because he's acting out.
If he punched a girl i would defiantly get him in to some counseling. he is lucky he is not in juvenile or jail. You need to get him help or he will be another statistic in prison for being a woman beater!
See my video on listening: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGnsxRtdK鈥?/a>
Listening is the #1 parenting skill; humour is the #1 coping skill
Good luck.
P.S. Good for you for not mentioning the Playboy.
Buy him a stained up ';wife-beater';, a 12 pack, and a pack of rolling papers. It might not fix his behavior, but at least he'd be more comfortable.
Take out a belt . Take away everything and spend time with him . Like going to a diner an talking about the situitions
Give him chocolate and tell him he is a good kid.
Talk to him. Spend time with him. You need to help him deal with his anger.Parenting Help! I need some advice! 10 points for a good answer?
he very angry child. Separation or divorce or any major changes in a child life can set off an imbalance. Maybe seek counseling for him so that he can talk it out. The dirty mag, is not an aggressive action, and you should focus on the safety issues first. Add to the separation of his parents and and teen hormone changes.
You have your hands full.
But counseling would be best do to the safety issues you are faced with him.
The fact that he punched someone, especially since it was a female, he needs to be in counseling and be thankful that he didn't get in legal trouble. Sometimes 16 is old enough to be considered an adult in matters like this. He needs counseling for sure because he's acting out.
If he punched a girl i would defiantly get him in to some counseling. he is lucky he is not in juvenile or jail. You need to get him help or he will be another statistic in prison for being a woman beater!
See my video on listening: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGnsxRtdK鈥?/a>
Listening is the #1 parenting skill; humour is the #1 coping skill
Good luck.
P.S. Good for you for not mentioning the Playboy.
Buy him a stained up ';wife-beater';, a 12 pack, and a pack of rolling papers. It might not fix his behavior, but at least he'd be more comfortable.
Take out a belt . Take away everything and spend time with him . Like going to a diner an talking about the situitions
Give him chocolate and tell him he is a good kid.
When reading some Q&A in the Parenting forum, do you ever think that somehow?
some of the parents on here don't live in the 'real world'? They just live in some sort of pretend fairy tale land where everything is just all peachy keen?
Parenting question: How should I get my son to drink water instead of milk/juice all the time?When reading some Q%26amp;A in the Parenting forum, do you ever think that somehow?
I'm answering this late, because i didn't see your question earlier.
I think a LOT of parents on here are depressed, unhappy, fake, and twisted. I think, in an effort to make themselves feel better, they pretend they are in a fairy tale world and that is the only thing that gets them through life. Sad.
C, let's just be glad we're real. Honestly! Don't let losers get you down. They are complete strangers that are at home crying in their beer right now, wishing they were better parents/lovers/friends!!!!!!!!!
OK, so the water thing. Eli LOVES loves milk, but i think it might all be in the cup. Grandma gave him a REALLY cool spiderman cup that has a straw and has glitter and water and spiderman in the bottom (like a snowglobe).....it doesn't matter WHAT is in this thing, he will drink it and play with it alllllllll night. Maybe see if you can find a really cool cup and start it out with that. If you want, I can find out where she got it. It's all about distraction. It's all about distraction. It's all about distraction..........OH! Was i just talking? Sorry....just dealing with a REALLY hyper kiddo alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll… night!When reading some Q%26amp;A in the Parenting forum, do you ever think that somehow?
My kids like water but seem to want to drink more when I put the Gerber spout on it and let them have the whole bottle. They think they are ';big boys.'; It is sad that the ';La La land mentality'; is so prominent in the parenting section.
Chris.... Lala Fairey Land is so much fun....they don't have to open their eyes and Actually Parent (verb)!
Give him limited amounts of juice and offer him water instead of milk or juice with his meals, when he becomes thirsty he will drink the water if there is no alternative. ;-)
Oh yes. And if you ask a question about the real world, you're sure to get bashed b/c your children and parenting skills aren't perfect.
Tell him over and over it's mama's favorite drink, he will catch on and want to be like mama.
i wish i did live in the fantasy world. my real world sucks
. when i get water, bray brings me his sippy cup cause he thinks i have something good. i just poor some of my water in his cup. and he drinks the water. and i guess water down the juice.
I do think that. Some parents I just think are off their rocker.
As for drinking water, have you tried flavoring water a little? For some reason my daughter loves ice water (yes, ice and water in a sippy cup). She loves really cold drinks.
I think many of us are living in different realities...
Start by watering the juice down, week by week until it's all water. Milk 's good for them to drink all the time....isn't it? Can you OD on milk?
I let my kids watch Family Guy and South Park. I also give my kids soda and energy drinks in their lunch boxes. I'm a great mom. No la la land parenting here!!
yes i think that sometimes but when i started i mixed half and half and keep doing that until eventually its just water it worked for my soon who turnedd 1 on feb. 28
Um can you point me out to this place, Mama. I loves me a good fantasy!
Water the juice down, and or give him no other alternative...
Add alcohol.
Parenting question: How should I get my son to drink water instead of milk/juice all the time?When reading some Q%26amp;A in the Parenting forum, do you ever think that somehow?
I'm answering this late, because i didn't see your question earlier.
I think a LOT of parents on here are depressed, unhappy, fake, and twisted. I think, in an effort to make themselves feel better, they pretend they are in a fairy tale world and that is the only thing that gets them through life. Sad.
C, let's just be glad we're real. Honestly! Don't let losers get you down. They are complete strangers that are at home crying in their beer right now, wishing they were better parents/lovers/friends!!!!!!!!!
OK, so the water thing. Eli LOVES loves milk, but i think it might all be in the cup. Grandma gave him a REALLY cool spiderman cup that has a straw and has glitter and water and spiderman in the bottom (like a snowglobe).....it doesn't matter WHAT is in this thing, he will drink it and play with it alllllllll night. Maybe see if you can find a really cool cup and start it out with that. If you want, I can find out where she got it. It's all about distraction. It's all about distraction. It's all about distraction..........OH! Was i just talking? Sorry....just dealing with a REALLY hyper kiddo alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll… night!When reading some Q%26amp;A in the Parenting forum, do you ever think that somehow?
My kids like water but seem to want to drink more when I put the Gerber spout on it and let them have the whole bottle. They think they are ';big boys.'; It is sad that the ';La La land mentality'; is so prominent in the parenting section.
Chris.... Lala Fairey Land is so much fun....they don't have to open their eyes and Actually Parent (verb)!
Give him limited amounts of juice and offer him water instead of milk or juice with his meals, when he becomes thirsty he will drink the water if there is no alternative. ;-)
Oh yes. And if you ask a question about the real world, you're sure to get bashed b/c your children and parenting skills aren't perfect.
Tell him over and over it's mama's favorite drink, he will catch on and want to be like mama.
i wish i did live in the fantasy world. my real world sucks
. when i get water, bray brings me his sippy cup cause he thinks i have something good. i just poor some of my water in his cup. and he drinks the water. and i guess water down the juice.
I do think that. Some parents I just think are off their rocker.
As for drinking water, have you tried flavoring water a little? For some reason my daughter loves ice water (yes, ice and water in a sippy cup). She loves really cold drinks.
I think many of us are living in different realities...
Start by watering the juice down, week by week until it's all water. Milk 's good for them to drink all the time....isn't it? Can you OD on milk?
I let my kids watch Family Guy and South Park. I also give my kids soda and energy drinks in their lunch boxes. I'm a great mom. No la la land parenting here!!
yes i think that sometimes but when i started i mixed half and half and keep doing that until eventually its just water it worked for my soon who turnedd 1 on feb. 28
Um can you point me out to this place, Mama. I loves me a good fantasy!
Water the juice down, and or give him no other alternative...
Add alcohol.
If two divorced parents have different views on parenting, who decides how the child should be raised?
Parent ';A'; believes in organic/vegatarian diet and herbal treatment for illness. Parent ';B'; feeds the child a ';typical'; diet including meat and follows the advice of the pediatrician regarding medications... who believes that FDA approved meds should be used rather than herbal alternatives. The child resides with parent ';B.';If two divorced parents have different views on parenting, who decides how the child should be raised?
The parents need to work that out together. They should still be a team when it comes to parenting even if they are no longer married. That is part of being grown ups and parents.If two divorced parents have different views on parenting, who decides how the child should be raised?
The Courts decides, what is in the best interests of the Child in Question.
A ';typical'; diet is healthier and not controversial, also since the child is with the parent ';a'; some of the time, maybe the child can be vegan some of the time. Never force a child into beliefs, let them samole and make the right choice for them.
Whoever has custody (i.e. parent ';B';). If they have joint custody, parent ';A'; could take the case to family court. But no court is going to tell a parent that they aren't allowed to feed their kid meet (unless there's a valid medical reason) or take them to a doctor.
The one who has him that weekend.
Roll The Dice...
When the child is with parent ';A'; then that parent can feed the child organic/vegetarian meals and use herbal treatments (unless of course it could harm the child or cause death - then I'd say you better use the prescribed medications, i.e., diabetics, cancer, etc) - if parent ';A'; decides not to use medications that are helping the child battle a serious disease, parent ';A'; could be held liable in a court of law should anything happen to the child.
Parent ';B'; can feed the child a regular diet and provide prescription medications and visits to the pediatrician etc. This is a more traditional approach and more widely accepted in this country.
If the child resides with parent ';B'; then parent ';B'; could go to court to have legal custody turned over to them so that you would have to abide by the rules concerning medications etc. if the child is sick or has some type of disease (however, you did not disclose the details of what type of medications the child is being given).
do a coin toss
The parents need to work that out together. They should still be a team when it comes to parenting even if they are no longer married. That is part of being grown ups and parents.If two divorced parents have different views on parenting, who decides how the child should be raised?
The Courts decides, what is in the best interests of the Child in Question.
A ';typical'; diet is healthier and not controversial, also since the child is with the parent ';a'; some of the time, maybe the child can be vegan some of the time. Never force a child into beliefs, let them samole and make the right choice for them.
Whoever has custody (i.e. parent ';B';). If they have joint custody, parent ';A'; could take the case to family court. But no court is going to tell a parent that they aren't allowed to feed their kid meet (unless there's a valid medical reason) or take them to a doctor.
The one who has him that weekend.
Roll The Dice...
When the child is with parent ';A'; then that parent can feed the child organic/vegetarian meals and use herbal treatments (unless of course it could harm the child or cause death - then I'd say you better use the prescribed medications, i.e., diabetics, cancer, etc) - if parent ';A'; decides not to use medications that are helping the child battle a serious disease, parent ';A'; could be held liable in a court of law should anything happen to the child.
Parent ';B'; can feed the child a regular diet and provide prescription medications and visits to the pediatrician etc. This is a more traditional approach and more widely accepted in this country.
If the child resides with parent ';B'; then parent ';B'; could go to court to have legal custody turned over to them so that you would have to abide by the rules concerning medications etc. if the child is sick or has some type of disease (however, you did not disclose the details of what type of medications the child is being given).
do a coin toss
Is ADHD an excuse for failed parenting?
I dont think its either. I think its an over diagnosed disorder. If anything its an excuse for a failed American medical system.Is ADHD an excuse for failed parenting?
When improperly diagnosed and applied to children who really don't have the disorder, of course. I mean, lots of kids do actually have an attention disorder, and no parenting could ';fix'; that and make it not exist. But, for parents who feed their kids junky refined, high sugar and low fat foods (yeah, low fat), and who over schedule their kids, force their kids to grow up too fast, and have ridiculously high expectations and behaviorist standards, ADHD is an excuse for parenting choices.Is ADHD an excuse for failed parenting?
wow your rude! i struggled with ADD though school and my mom tried everything she could before trying the pills. i started taking the medication and suddenly i could concentrate and i was so much more organized... i stopped and everything fell apart again. i really do hate people like you... yes some parents use it as an excuse. but why drag people down who accutally DO have it? speaking as someone who has it. when im not on meds (and im not because im pregnant) i am a scatter brain i can't concentrate. i can't remember the simplest thing. when i was a little kid i was a b student oraly (if they read the test and i explained by speaking) but its the getting it from my head to the paper that was the problem and that is a BIG problem for add adhd children.
Only somebody who has not had experience with an ADHD child would wonder that.
ADHD and ADD affect a lot more than behavior, they affect thought and in that way affect behavior. In my extended family I have known an ADHD child and know an ADD child, but I never got to know the ADHD child well. Talking with the ADD child without medication is an experience. He is very bright and was able to read well at the age of six. He is 12 now and has been on medication during the school year for two years. Without medication he has no concept of the difference between ';ask'; and ';tell'; and freely interchanges the two in his own speech - both are invitations to talk. When asked a question, even about his favorite subjects, he would produce totally non-sequitur replies that would cycle through subjects rapidly with no segues. Ritalin didn't help at all, but Straterra was like magic. He went from being a spaceman to being a normal, if slightly rambunctious, boy. His grades improved rapidly and he is on track in school. He doesn't like the side effects so he is allowed to forgo his meds (he is on something different now) during the summer.
I think many times it is. Due to the fact there really is not medical test to support the diagnosis it is often (all to often in my opinion) utilized as an excuse for many parents. It is all to easy to hop online to find the symptoms, read them off to your kids doc as though your child was really acting this way, get the script to get your unruly child so stoned they can barely wipe their own bottom let alone act up, and call it ADHD, ODD, ADD,OCD, and any other alphabet disorder you want to have your child diagnosed so you don't have to own up the fact you fudged up.
What really sucks is the fact that these disorders do exist (just not every kid on the block has them like they are being diagnosed) and for those rare few who do have them, they are paying the price the fakers pay because it is so over-diagnosed.
depends on what you mean by your question. there is both a yes and a no answer.if the parent just has the kid medicated for adhd because they can't deal with the child then yes it is failed parenting.but if this is a child that can't concentrate and is constantly fidgeting then no they have a real problem that will affect them even into adulthood that could cost them jobs education and a normal stable life
Troll much??? I'm betting you never had your parents ';take you out to the old wood shed'; and give you a beating even Mike Tyson would be like..';Damn'; Because you sound really young, but I could be wrong, maybe just no common sense....in either case, maybe you need to realize that back when I was in school, there were still kids with ADHD, they just didn't know what to call it, so they put those kids in special ed classes. But I guess you could try beating the ADHD out of your kids, if and when you have them.....then tell us how that worked out for ya.
No. It is a medical disorder. What a rude question!
ETA~ Yes, it is a medical condition that is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is also genetic. I am sorry but I do not beat children. Here's some articles to read up on:
http://www.aap.org/healthtopics/ADHD.cfm
I see what you are trying to say, and I agree.
You are not saying that there is no such thing as ADHD but that it is way too over misdiagnosed and more often than not parents use it as an excuse to justify why their children are monsters.
ADHD is real, although sometimes over-diagnosed.
Do some parents use it as an excuse? I would hope not. But it's possible.
Walk a day in my shoes with what our doctor described as one of the most SEVERE cases of ADHD he has seen in his practice, and then make your judgements.
Not all the time, but Honestly some BAD parents do use that disorder as an Excuse.
';the olden days when parents took out a belt and whooped the kids ***, then the kid got all A's'; - PLEASE provide some evidence to support that claim.
yeah, just like autism is a punishment from god...... get real
yep!
i think it is
im being honestdermatologist
When improperly diagnosed and applied to children who really don't have the disorder, of course. I mean, lots of kids do actually have an attention disorder, and no parenting could ';fix'; that and make it not exist. But, for parents who feed their kids junky refined, high sugar and low fat foods (yeah, low fat), and who over schedule their kids, force their kids to grow up too fast, and have ridiculously high expectations and behaviorist standards, ADHD is an excuse for parenting choices.Is ADHD an excuse for failed parenting?
wow your rude! i struggled with ADD though school and my mom tried everything she could before trying the pills. i started taking the medication and suddenly i could concentrate and i was so much more organized... i stopped and everything fell apart again. i really do hate people like you... yes some parents use it as an excuse. but why drag people down who accutally DO have it? speaking as someone who has it. when im not on meds (and im not because im pregnant) i am a scatter brain i can't concentrate. i can't remember the simplest thing. when i was a little kid i was a b student oraly (if they read the test and i explained by speaking) but its the getting it from my head to the paper that was the problem and that is a BIG problem for add adhd children.
Only somebody who has not had experience with an ADHD child would wonder that.
ADHD and ADD affect a lot more than behavior, they affect thought and in that way affect behavior. In my extended family I have known an ADHD child and know an ADD child, but I never got to know the ADHD child well. Talking with the ADD child without medication is an experience. He is very bright and was able to read well at the age of six. He is 12 now and has been on medication during the school year for two years. Without medication he has no concept of the difference between ';ask'; and ';tell'; and freely interchanges the two in his own speech - both are invitations to talk. When asked a question, even about his favorite subjects, he would produce totally non-sequitur replies that would cycle through subjects rapidly with no segues. Ritalin didn't help at all, but Straterra was like magic. He went from being a spaceman to being a normal, if slightly rambunctious, boy. His grades improved rapidly and he is on track in school. He doesn't like the side effects so he is allowed to forgo his meds (he is on something different now) during the summer.
I think many times it is. Due to the fact there really is not medical test to support the diagnosis it is often (all to often in my opinion) utilized as an excuse for many parents. It is all to easy to hop online to find the symptoms, read them off to your kids doc as though your child was really acting this way, get the script to get your unruly child so stoned they can barely wipe their own bottom let alone act up, and call it ADHD, ODD, ADD,OCD, and any other alphabet disorder you want to have your child diagnosed so you don't have to own up the fact you fudged up.
What really sucks is the fact that these disorders do exist (just not every kid on the block has them like they are being diagnosed) and for those rare few who do have them, they are paying the price the fakers pay because it is so over-diagnosed.
depends on what you mean by your question. there is both a yes and a no answer.if the parent just has the kid medicated for adhd because they can't deal with the child then yes it is failed parenting.but if this is a child that can't concentrate and is constantly fidgeting then no they have a real problem that will affect them even into adulthood that could cost them jobs education and a normal stable life
Troll much??? I'm betting you never had your parents ';take you out to the old wood shed'; and give you a beating even Mike Tyson would be like..';Damn'; Because you sound really young, but I could be wrong, maybe just no common sense....in either case, maybe you need to realize that back when I was in school, there were still kids with ADHD, they just didn't know what to call it, so they put those kids in special ed classes. But I guess you could try beating the ADHD out of your kids, if and when you have them.....then tell us how that worked out for ya.
No. It is a medical disorder. What a rude question!
ETA~ Yes, it is a medical condition that is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is also genetic. I am sorry but I do not beat children. Here's some articles to read up on:
http://www.aap.org/healthtopics/ADHD.cfm
I see what you are trying to say, and I agree.
You are not saying that there is no such thing as ADHD but that it is way too over misdiagnosed and more often than not parents use it as an excuse to justify why their children are monsters.
ADHD is real, although sometimes over-diagnosed.
Do some parents use it as an excuse? I would hope not. But it's possible.
Walk a day in my shoes with what our doctor described as one of the most SEVERE cases of ADHD he has seen in his practice, and then make your judgements.
Not all the time, but Honestly some BAD parents do use that disorder as an Excuse.
';the olden days when parents took out a belt and whooped the kids ***, then the kid got all A's'; - PLEASE provide some evidence to support that claim.
yeah, just like autism is a punishment from god...... get real
yep!
i think it is
im being honest
What is your view on teenage parenting/pregnancy?
Just curious oh yes and can you please say your religion? And no I'm not a teen parent. One of my friends became one and we hardly ever see her now.What is your view on teenage parenting/pregnancy?
Rather depends on the teenager.What is your view on teenage parenting/pregnancy?
I am Atheist I do not have a god/goddess/idol etc.
I was a teenage parent I had my oldest daughter when I was 17 years old.. I didn't get to see my friends a whole lot or go out much after she was born as I was far too busy being her mom and finishing high school then college..
Your friend likely has a lot on her plate right now getting used to the new demands on her time, sanity, energy etc. You will likely not see her much especially if she is stepping up and doing all that she should as a parent.. Cut her some slack.. She is likely feeling overwhelmed and somewhat alienated as she watches others around her who are able to go out and do things she is no longer able to do..
I have 2 friends from my teen years that I still speak to regularly they made an effort to accept me along with the new restrictions on my time they came over every once in a while to talk, watch a movie or do other activities at my home with me so I could remain at home and care for my daughter as I should.. They made an effort to include me in nights out when I was able to go (Once a month my mom took my daughter to give me some me time for an evening so I was able to not miss out entirely on teenage stuff..)...
When you are in need you learn who your real true friends are, surprisingly real true friends are often not the friends you would have suspected of being the real true ones before the need arose..
I think you should avoid becoming a parent until you are mentally and financially able to care for a kid. Most teenagers aren't.
I'm an Agnostic
I was 16 years old when I got pregnant and 17 years old when I had my daughter. It makes me mad that alot of people look down on teenage parents. I don't live off of anyones tax dollars. I am still with my daughters father. We're not married (but that's an entirely different discussion altogether). My daughter is almost 3 years old now. She's very healthy, happy, and polite. There are some teenagers that shouldn't be having children. In the same respect, there are women who are 30 years old who shouldn't be having children either. I think it just depends on the person.
Atheist/ Satanist...non spiritual Satanist that is.
I was a mother at sixteen, and I don't regret that....however....I could have been a much better parent if I had waited longer.
Children raising children is always a bad idea, both suffer in the long run.
Some can be good and some can be not so good.
Same as with adults, I guess.
You mean, kids having kids? More than 99% of them end up living off of my/your tax dollars for years and years. Most never finish highschool. Therefore their children -- NOT all of them, end up living in poverty -- generational poverty which first began as situational poverty.
I am Roman Catholic. Jesus loves all of life....I'm just not sure he would agree with the methodology. He would look on teen parents with compassion -- without condoning it. True, Mary was a young woman when she bore Jesus, but women matured emotionally faster back then -- and the life expectance was not much more than 40.
I am steadfastly opposed to parenting teens,...
...and I KNOW I'm opposed to getting one pregnant...:-))
... first of all, implying that my God and Goddess are ';idols'; wins you no brownie points. Could you try to be a little less offensive next time?
EDITED TO ADD: I think you'll find that if you call anyone's Deity an ';idol';, they'll take it as an insult. ;-) And the way your question was phrased, it strongly implies (at least to me) that anything NOT the Christian God is, by your definition, an idol.
Feh. Whatever.
I am 19, happily married, and a very strong Christian, and I cannot wait to have children. My husband and I are not trying quite yet, as we just bought our home in November of 2006, but we are both very excited and deeply commited to raising a family. I think the answer to this question has more to do with which ';teenager'; you are talking about. I promise you that I have some friends I would slap for considering childbearing at any age.
Then what were you implying by God/Idol? You didn't say Gods or God/dess? You said Idol, as in Idolatry. We don't idol worship! That's more in the Catholic church.
)o( Blessed Be!
1)Christian.
2) Sucks. Ties down many young kids and they are not in a good position to take care of themselves or a kid.
3) What does God think about it??? Well I don't know. I didn't ever see a decree ';thou shall not have sex until you are 28 and graduated from college and have your own house';. It just seems to me that it would be wiser to wait. It really has nothing to do with God.
I think that kids make mistakes. Therefore the parents of those kids should be way more involved in the lives of teenagers. Even more so then when they were toddlers. It's hard enough to be a parent when you are mature/married and financially stable.
Having taught at the alternative school, specifically in the teen parenting program, I've seen my share of pregnant teens. I worry about them, truly, some of them, because they don't seem to even have the maturity to manage their own hygiene - what will happen with that baby?
There were two sisters - not particularly bright, but they were passing school. I knew them from when I'd first started teaching in that district, and by the time I started at the teen parenting program, one was there - a mom at the age of 14. Several months later, her sister was there, prgnant at 13 - on purpose. Her reasoning? her sister's baby was so fun to play with, she wanted one of her own. AND - there's the kicker - their parents were proud of them for getting pregnant and giving them grandbabies.
ACK! These girls were still near babies themselves! They never even made it out of junior high.
I married and became a parent while in college - and that in and of itself was hard enough and I was 23 - an adult for all intensive purposes. It took my 5 year span and made it 10 years before I got a degree. My youngest was 3 weeks old when I started my last semester of college. That was very hard. At least he could go to classes with me (and his father) and it was a small college.
I think you miss out on a great number of things having a child that young. I believe teenagers should have time to explore their oncoming adulthood and still be the children they are without the burden of a child that likely isn't too welcomed by anyone.
I'm not suprised you hardly ever see your friend - she's got a lot to do now with her time.
I'd rather people did their best to not have children until after age nineteen. I'm not going to say be married, but it sure does help to have another person about when the baby's been crying for no reason for hours and you're at your wit's end. And if you're planning to go to college, don't have your babies until after you decide you are done with college.
Don't get me wrong - I love my kids dearly and wouldn't change when I had them or how, but I do recognize my life may well have been easier if I had waited.
I think we as a society have become entirely too accepting of it. Not that I hate or judge people that it happens to, but I think we make it awfully easy. I think we don't educate our kids about sex in a healthy way. My mom always told me ';I can't tell you when to do it or who you do it with. But if I find out you aren't taking care of yourself, I'll kill you. Out of respect for me, don't ever do it under my roof. And never think it won't happen to you.';
It was the best advice I ever got. I was 22 and married when I had my first baby. She was very planned. :)
Pagan
Blessed Be
i think that teenage pregnancy or parenting is wrong. i am a pentecostal and my father is a preacher. i know a lot abut the bible and in a passage of scripture it says, 'Flee Fornication.' in case you dont know, fornication is sex out of marriage. another passage says, ';Flee youthful lusts.'; all of these things are apoken against in the bible. if you want to know more just email me. i am ready to give you answers. By the way i am 15 years old and live in the Bahamas. i serve the one true God which is Jesus Christ in heaven who died on the Cross for our sins
Rather depends on the teenager.What is your view on teenage parenting/pregnancy?
I am Atheist I do not have a god/goddess/idol etc.
I was a teenage parent I had my oldest daughter when I was 17 years old.. I didn't get to see my friends a whole lot or go out much after she was born as I was far too busy being her mom and finishing high school then college..
Your friend likely has a lot on her plate right now getting used to the new demands on her time, sanity, energy etc. You will likely not see her much especially if she is stepping up and doing all that she should as a parent.. Cut her some slack.. She is likely feeling overwhelmed and somewhat alienated as she watches others around her who are able to go out and do things she is no longer able to do..
I have 2 friends from my teen years that I still speak to regularly they made an effort to accept me along with the new restrictions on my time they came over every once in a while to talk, watch a movie or do other activities at my home with me so I could remain at home and care for my daughter as I should.. They made an effort to include me in nights out when I was able to go (Once a month my mom took my daughter to give me some me time for an evening so I was able to not miss out entirely on teenage stuff..)...
When you are in need you learn who your real true friends are, surprisingly real true friends are often not the friends you would have suspected of being the real true ones before the need arose..
I think you should avoid becoming a parent until you are mentally and financially able to care for a kid. Most teenagers aren't.
I'm an Agnostic
I was 16 years old when I got pregnant and 17 years old when I had my daughter. It makes me mad that alot of people look down on teenage parents. I don't live off of anyones tax dollars. I am still with my daughters father. We're not married (but that's an entirely different discussion altogether). My daughter is almost 3 years old now. She's very healthy, happy, and polite. There are some teenagers that shouldn't be having children. In the same respect, there are women who are 30 years old who shouldn't be having children either. I think it just depends on the person.
Atheist/ Satanist...non spiritual Satanist that is.
I was a mother at sixteen, and I don't regret that....however....I could have been a much better parent if I had waited longer.
Children raising children is always a bad idea, both suffer in the long run.
Some can be good and some can be not so good.
Same as with adults, I guess.
You mean, kids having kids? More than 99% of them end up living off of my/your tax dollars for years and years. Most never finish highschool. Therefore their children -- NOT all of them, end up living in poverty -- generational poverty which first began as situational poverty.
I am Roman Catholic. Jesus loves all of life....I'm just not sure he would agree with the methodology. He would look on teen parents with compassion -- without condoning it. True, Mary was a young woman when she bore Jesus, but women matured emotionally faster back then -- and the life expectance was not much more than 40.
I am steadfastly opposed to parenting teens,...
...and I KNOW I'm opposed to getting one pregnant...:-))
... first of all, implying that my God and Goddess are ';idols'; wins you no brownie points. Could you try to be a little less offensive next time?
EDITED TO ADD: I think you'll find that if you call anyone's Deity an ';idol';, they'll take it as an insult. ;-) And the way your question was phrased, it strongly implies (at least to me) that anything NOT the Christian God is, by your definition, an idol.
Feh. Whatever.
I am 19, happily married, and a very strong Christian, and I cannot wait to have children. My husband and I are not trying quite yet, as we just bought our home in November of 2006, but we are both very excited and deeply commited to raising a family. I think the answer to this question has more to do with which ';teenager'; you are talking about. I promise you that I have some friends I would slap for considering childbearing at any age.
Then what were you implying by God/Idol? You didn't say Gods or God/dess? You said Idol, as in Idolatry. We don't idol worship! That's more in the Catholic church.
)o( Blessed Be!
1)Christian.
2) Sucks. Ties down many young kids and they are not in a good position to take care of themselves or a kid.
3) What does God think about it??? Well I don't know. I didn't ever see a decree ';thou shall not have sex until you are 28 and graduated from college and have your own house';. It just seems to me that it would be wiser to wait. It really has nothing to do with God.
I think that kids make mistakes. Therefore the parents of those kids should be way more involved in the lives of teenagers. Even more so then when they were toddlers. It's hard enough to be a parent when you are mature/married and financially stable.
Having taught at the alternative school, specifically in the teen parenting program, I've seen my share of pregnant teens. I worry about them, truly, some of them, because they don't seem to even have the maturity to manage their own hygiene - what will happen with that baby?
There were two sisters - not particularly bright, but they were passing school. I knew them from when I'd first started teaching in that district, and by the time I started at the teen parenting program, one was there - a mom at the age of 14. Several months later, her sister was there, prgnant at 13 - on purpose. Her reasoning? her sister's baby was so fun to play with, she wanted one of her own. AND - there's the kicker - their parents were proud of them for getting pregnant and giving them grandbabies.
ACK! These girls were still near babies themselves! They never even made it out of junior high.
I married and became a parent while in college - and that in and of itself was hard enough and I was 23 - an adult for all intensive purposes. It took my 5 year span and made it 10 years before I got a degree. My youngest was 3 weeks old when I started my last semester of college. That was very hard. At least he could go to classes with me (and his father) and it was a small college.
I think you miss out on a great number of things having a child that young. I believe teenagers should have time to explore their oncoming adulthood and still be the children they are without the burden of a child that likely isn't too welcomed by anyone.
I'm not suprised you hardly ever see your friend - she's got a lot to do now with her time.
I'd rather people did their best to not have children until after age nineteen. I'm not going to say be married, but it sure does help to have another person about when the baby's been crying for no reason for hours and you're at your wit's end. And if you're planning to go to college, don't have your babies until after you decide you are done with college.
Don't get me wrong - I love my kids dearly and wouldn't change when I had them or how, but I do recognize my life may well have been easier if I had waited.
I think we as a society have become entirely too accepting of it. Not that I hate or judge people that it happens to, but I think we make it awfully easy. I think we don't educate our kids about sex in a healthy way. My mom always told me ';I can't tell you when to do it or who you do it with. But if I find out you aren't taking care of yourself, I'll kill you. Out of respect for me, don't ever do it under my roof. And never think it won't happen to you.';
It was the best advice I ever got. I was 22 and married when I had my first baby. She was very planned. :)
Pagan
Blessed Be
i think that teenage pregnancy or parenting is wrong. i am a pentecostal and my father is a preacher. i know a lot abut the bible and in a passage of scripture it says, 'Flee Fornication.' in case you dont know, fornication is sex out of marriage. another passage says, ';Flee youthful lusts.'; all of these things are apoken against in the bible. if you want to know more just email me. i am ready to give you answers. By the way i am 15 years old and live in the Bahamas. i serve the one true God which is Jesus Christ in heaven who died on the Cross for our sins
Saturday, August 21, 2010
Is this bad or good parenting?
I saw a young father in the store this morning; his two year old kid was pulling stuff off the shelves and tossing them. He stopped him and said ';No! You can not do that.'; Then the child started to cry and throw a temper tamtrum, and the father picked-up the child, held him and told him how ';sweet, nice, well behaved'; etc.
I figured he should have told the child was a naughty little punk he is.Is this bad or good parenting?
Why would he reward the child for having a tantrum after being told not to do something that was wrong. That is bad parenting to me. Explains a lot about the stuff thats going on in society now a days with people raising their kids like that.
Cry and get rewarded for doing something wrong... yeah thats a good message.Is this bad or good parenting?
Being a mother of four children, I went through a lot of temper tantrums, or as they call it today, ';melt downs';. They usually were in the grocery stores, so I would stop what I was doing, leave the basket of groceries, take the child, drive home, put him in his room and let him yell or whatever he did with the door closed. When he was finished, I would sit down and explain how his behavior was unacceptable, why, and take something that mattered away. When my kids were two and three, explaining and lecturing did absolutely no good, so I would drive home with them crying in their car seat, take them, put them in their bed and tell them to stay there until they were finished. Half the time I had to hold them in their room until they settled down; this is when they were two and under. It is tough being a parent and trying to do six things at once while trying to discipline them.
well i guess 2 is very young my 19 month olds the same way hes still my little baby they dont really understand they think they can have everything at that age now if he wasa older be a different question but tamtrums at 2 are very normal
i say that was bad parenting. That kid is going to grow up to be a little brat. I woulda spanked him. When i was a kid we just didn't do stuff like that or your a$$ was grass.
this is very bad parenting he will regret these actions later trust me.
It's not good parenting, that's for sure. But neither is your alternative. If you were asking for parenting tips I would give them, but that's not your question.
Try not to be so nosy, and let people raise their kids. What would you have done if you knew you were 100% right, and he was 100% wrong? The same thing you did - nothing. The polite thing to do would be to give them a look of understanding and/or go to another part of the store and give them their space, not think of what names they should be calling their children.
He should have told the child that throwing things off the shelves is bad behavior and is not allowed. He should have had the child help him pick up the mess.
Telling him that he is a ';naughty little punk'; is just as bad as reassuring him in that situation. For one, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy and for another it's counter-productive. You don't teach him how to accept responsibility that way, and that is the point that needs to come across.
If he had told the kid he was a ';naughty little punk'; or spanked him, you'd be one here saying what a horrible father he is for abusing his kid. You probably don't even have kids so how about holding judgment until you are in his shoes.
Its a very different outlook on parenting...I know when my 3 year old would do something like that I would not tell them they were good girls...I wouldnt beat them either, but talking like that is giving in to their activity.
bad. it is inconsistent. it tells the kid if he throws a fit he gets reassured. i don't think you should call kids names but thy also need to know pulling things off shelves and temper tantrums are not OK behaviour.
In my opinion, that's bad parenting. You don't reward a child for negative behavior. He was very correct in telling the boy ';No';. Once the kid started throwing his temper tantrum though, I would have sat his butt in the shopping cart and went on shopping. I know other people think that you should ';shut that kid up';, but I believe in ignoring the bad behavior. He just wanted attention and the father was giving him EXACTLY what he wanted. In the boys mind, temper tantrums work, so he's going to keep doing it. When my son does things like that he's either put into the shopping cart and ignored, taken to the bathroom to be given a stern talking to, or (if its somewhere recreational) we just simply leave and he doesn't get to play anymore. Temper tantrums don't last long in my house. lol
Since you're not the parent of the child it doesn't matter what you figured he should have told the child.
Well, its not BAD parenting. Sounds like you dont have kids. If you are mean to the child, it only makes the tantrum worse. I, personally, wouldn't do that myself. Seems kind of silly, but hey, if thats the way he wants to raise his son, oh well. It's not your child.
thats weird ummmm i have neva seen a guy like dat
I would have punished the child, but not in public. I would have waited till we got home and would have taken a privelidge of some kind from him for awhile. Children need to be made accountable for their actions in some way. That is why we have more problem kids than ever before today. Would I hit the child? No.
well kudos to the guy for having patience but i wouldnt go so far as to tell the kid he was well behaved lol
haha sounds to me like he was just trying to hold in his anger, while in public, that child may have heard something different when they got to the car
I think the father should stick with his original opinion. He should NOT go and pretty much tell the child to do it again.
I feel sorry for the father. He was put in a tough situation. That guy was probably really embarrassed. He just tried to keep the kid calm. You can't put kids in time-outs at the store. I wonder what happened when they got HOME.
I figured he should have told the child was a naughty little punk he is.Is this bad or good parenting?
Why would he reward the child for having a tantrum after being told not to do something that was wrong. That is bad parenting to me. Explains a lot about the stuff thats going on in society now a days with people raising their kids like that.
Cry and get rewarded for doing something wrong... yeah thats a good message.Is this bad or good parenting?
Being a mother of four children, I went through a lot of temper tantrums, or as they call it today, ';melt downs';. They usually were in the grocery stores, so I would stop what I was doing, leave the basket of groceries, take the child, drive home, put him in his room and let him yell or whatever he did with the door closed. When he was finished, I would sit down and explain how his behavior was unacceptable, why, and take something that mattered away. When my kids were two and three, explaining and lecturing did absolutely no good, so I would drive home with them crying in their car seat, take them, put them in their bed and tell them to stay there until they were finished. Half the time I had to hold them in their room until they settled down; this is when they were two and under. It is tough being a parent and trying to do six things at once while trying to discipline them.
well i guess 2 is very young my 19 month olds the same way hes still my little baby they dont really understand they think they can have everything at that age now if he wasa older be a different question but tamtrums at 2 are very normal
i say that was bad parenting. That kid is going to grow up to be a little brat. I woulda spanked him. When i was a kid we just didn't do stuff like that or your a$$ was grass.
this is very bad parenting he will regret these actions later trust me.
It's not good parenting, that's for sure. But neither is your alternative. If you were asking for parenting tips I would give them, but that's not your question.
Try not to be so nosy, and let people raise their kids. What would you have done if you knew you were 100% right, and he was 100% wrong? The same thing you did - nothing. The polite thing to do would be to give them a look of understanding and/or go to another part of the store and give them their space, not think of what names they should be calling their children.
He should have told the child that throwing things off the shelves is bad behavior and is not allowed. He should have had the child help him pick up the mess.
Telling him that he is a ';naughty little punk'; is just as bad as reassuring him in that situation. For one, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy and for another it's counter-productive. You don't teach him how to accept responsibility that way, and that is the point that needs to come across.
If he had told the kid he was a ';naughty little punk'; or spanked him, you'd be one here saying what a horrible father he is for abusing his kid. You probably don't even have kids so how about holding judgment until you are in his shoes.
Its a very different outlook on parenting...I know when my 3 year old would do something like that I would not tell them they were good girls...I wouldnt beat them either, but talking like that is giving in to their activity.
bad. it is inconsistent. it tells the kid if he throws a fit he gets reassured. i don't think you should call kids names but thy also need to know pulling things off shelves and temper tantrums are not OK behaviour.
In my opinion, that's bad parenting. You don't reward a child for negative behavior. He was very correct in telling the boy ';No';. Once the kid started throwing his temper tantrum though, I would have sat his butt in the shopping cart and went on shopping. I know other people think that you should ';shut that kid up';, but I believe in ignoring the bad behavior. He just wanted attention and the father was giving him EXACTLY what he wanted. In the boys mind, temper tantrums work, so he's going to keep doing it. When my son does things like that he's either put into the shopping cart and ignored, taken to the bathroom to be given a stern talking to, or (if its somewhere recreational) we just simply leave and he doesn't get to play anymore. Temper tantrums don't last long in my house. lol
Since you're not the parent of the child it doesn't matter what you figured he should have told the child.
Well, its not BAD parenting. Sounds like you dont have kids. If you are mean to the child, it only makes the tantrum worse. I, personally, wouldn't do that myself. Seems kind of silly, but hey, if thats the way he wants to raise his son, oh well. It's not your child.
thats weird ummmm i have neva seen a guy like dat
I would have punished the child, but not in public. I would have waited till we got home and would have taken a privelidge of some kind from him for awhile. Children need to be made accountable for their actions in some way. That is why we have more problem kids than ever before today. Would I hit the child? No.
well kudos to the guy for having patience but i wouldnt go so far as to tell the kid he was well behaved lol
haha sounds to me like he was just trying to hold in his anger, while in public, that child may have heard something different when they got to the car
I think the father should stick with his original opinion. He should NOT go and pretty much tell the child to do it again.
I feel sorry for the father. He was put in a tough situation. That guy was probably really embarrassed. He just tried to keep the kid calm. You can't put kids in time-outs at the store. I wonder what happened when they got HOME.
What went wrong with the parenting?
Of the Kaulitz twins (Tokio Hotel) the other one thinks he's a black hip hopper and the other one thinks he's a woman.What went wrong with the parenting?
lolz I'm German and they were originally exclusive to Germany and some guy made a parody of the lead singer painting his nails and doing his hair. i wish i could show you. chix over here go crazy for him.What went wrong with the parenting?
well maybe you should just sit down and have a heart to heart talk with them and let them know that are better than that and they can make more out of there lives than that tell the one that thinks he is a women to be happy with the way god made him don't try to change it or imagine it as something else tell him god made him a man for a reason and he may not know what that reason may be and you may not eather but god will reveal it im sure
Hope this helps you out!!
What's wrong with a little androgyny? I think he's hot.
Tom... well... they might have dropped Tom on his head, I'll give you that one.
But Bill's hot.
Well, I believe that they were adopted.... Or it seems like it
They were raised in Germany.
(It's a joke.)
um
sounds a bit nuts to me
lolz I'm German and they were originally exclusive to Germany and some guy made a parody of the lead singer painting his nails and doing his hair. i wish i could show you. chix over here go crazy for him.What went wrong with the parenting?
well maybe you should just sit down and have a heart to heart talk with them and let them know that are better than that and they can make more out of there lives than that tell the one that thinks he is a women to be happy with the way god made him don't try to change it or imagine it as something else tell him god made him a man for a reason and he may not know what that reason may be and you may not eather but god will reveal it im sure
Hope this helps you out!!
What's wrong with a little androgyny? I think he's hot.
Tom... well... they might have dropped Tom on his head, I'll give you that one.
But Bill's hot.
Well, I believe that they were adopted.... Or it seems like it
They were raised in Germany.
(It's a joke.)
um
sounds a bit nuts to me
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http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_chi鈥?/a>
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_e鈥?/a>
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm
SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybri鈥?/a>
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-鈥?/a>
http://family.findlaw.com/
FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Te鈥?/a>
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.ph鈥?/a>
CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/
COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.鈥?/a>
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.鈥?/a>
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbe鈥?/a>
TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.h鈥?/a>
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/ind鈥?/a>
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_chi鈥?/a>
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar0鈥?/a>
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes鈥?/a>
REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.h鈥?/a>
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcemen鈥?/a>
SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
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Who else is scared for their child's future after reading Pregnancy/Parenting Questions?
I am seriously considering finding a secluded cabin 100 miles from anywhere to shelter my daughter from discovering the rampant stupidity that exists on the Answers site.
I am going to answer over 50% of the questions you ';women'; pose with this single post. If you ever have a question that is remotely similar to these, please refer back to this question as it likely has been answered below.
Question 1. Am I pregnant? My boobs are sore and I am eating more and I had a headache. I had unprotected sex with my b/f plz halp???
Answer 1. Maybe. ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH SPERM AND EGGS! Do you think the people that visit this site REALLY know by your everyday symptoms? GO GET A PREGNANCY TEST!!! Most are 2 for 1 anyways.
Question 2. I am 34 weeks pregnant and have been vomiting for the last week, have explosive diarrhea, and blood is running down my leg. What should I do???
Answer 2. CALL YOUR DOCTOR!!! IF YOU DON';T HAVE A PHONE E-MAIL ME AND I WILL CALL THEM FOR YOU!Who else is scared for their child's future after reading Pregnancy/Parenting Questions?
LOL!!! I know how you feel....Who else is scared for their child's future after reading Pregnancy/Parenting Questions?
Move, then. I take it you're American? It seems 99% of the bozos you're talking about are.
Not being in the States myself, I feel -- I hope, anyway -- that I have a lot less to worry about.
(You screwed up question 1 there; you spelled 'pregnant' right.)
HAHAHAHA too funny
Oh yeah, there are some exteme idiots on this site! And the questions you listed, above are two great examples of that idiocy.
However, I think that many women need to just get feedback on things and just communicate with others even over simple or personal things. I do wish that some of them would just stop giving us a bad name. Of course there are plenty of ignorant guys piping up on Yahoo Answers too.
Good luck with keeping your daughter away from stupidity. Idiots are everywhere, they'll find you if you run away!
wow, did you forget your happy pill today?
And yet you respond to the dumb questions LOGAN (from the looks of your profile) so I guess that makes you....... perhaps a person with to much time on your hands or maybe just as dumb.
The first question is kind of normal. But the 2nd one, I'm with you on that one who the heck would walk around bleeding on themselves tell her to go to the HOSPITAL.
I know how you feel. These people think we can look into there uterus and see if theres a baby in there. When I get to a question Do You Think I may be pregnant. I had sex 2 days ago and Im eating alot. I want to laugh. God!!
I agree! There are some really gormless pratts out there! But I suppose it's just like real life. Some are just concerned about things, some are thick, some nasty and some are just mucking about. I sometimes wonder if the person is really that dozy or if they're just being daft to wind people up!
I am going to answer over 50% of the questions you ';women'; pose with this single post. If you ever have a question that is remotely similar to these, please refer back to this question as it likely has been answered below.
Question 1. Am I pregnant? My boobs are sore and I am eating more and I had a headache. I had unprotected sex with my b/f plz halp???
Answer 1. Maybe. ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH SPERM AND EGGS! Do you think the people that visit this site REALLY know by your everyday symptoms? GO GET A PREGNANCY TEST!!! Most are 2 for 1 anyways.
Question 2. I am 34 weeks pregnant and have been vomiting for the last week, have explosive diarrhea, and blood is running down my leg. What should I do???
Answer 2. CALL YOUR DOCTOR!!! IF YOU DON';T HAVE A PHONE E-MAIL ME AND I WILL CALL THEM FOR YOU!Who else is scared for their child's future after reading Pregnancy/Parenting Questions?
LOL!!! I know how you feel....Who else is scared for their child's future after reading Pregnancy/Parenting Questions?
Move, then. I take it you're American? It seems 99% of the bozos you're talking about are.
Not being in the States myself, I feel -- I hope, anyway -- that I have a lot less to worry about.
(You screwed up question 1 there; you spelled 'pregnant' right.)
HAHAHAHA too funny
Oh yeah, there are some exteme idiots on this site! And the questions you listed, above are two great examples of that idiocy.
However, I think that many women need to just get feedback on things and just communicate with others even over simple or personal things. I do wish that some of them would just stop giving us a bad name. Of course there are plenty of ignorant guys piping up on Yahoo Answers too.
Good luck with keeping your daughter away from stupidity. Idiots are everywhere, they'll find you if you run away!
wow, did you forget your happy pill today?
And yet you respond to the dumb questions LOGAN (from the looks of your profile) so I guess that makes you....... perhaps a person with to much time on your hands or maybe just as dumb.
The first question is kind of normal. But the 2nd one, I'm with you on that one who the heck would walk around bleeding on themselves tell her to go to the HOSPITAL.
I know how you feel. These people think we can look into there uterus and see if theres a baby in there. When I get to a question Do You Think I may be pregnant. I had sex 2 days ago and Im eating alot. I want to laugh. God!!
I agree! There are some really gormless pratts out there! But I suppose it's just like real life. Some are just concerned about things, some are thick, some nasty and some are just mucking about. I sometimes wonder if the person is really that dozy or if they're just being daft to wind people up!
Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Dr. Spock didn't actually raise any children himself. His wife did. He more or less admitted shortly before his death that his advice was based on assumptions and not actual knowledge or practice.
Compare that with Dr. Sears who garnered most of his knowledge from not only his patients about what worked for them, but also he and his wife raising 8 kids. And he admits that right in the first pages of his books!
In general, pediatricians are not qualified to give parenting advice. They are medical doctors trained in injury and disease. They don't even have much knowledge about nutrition, yet they dispense it like they actually know something. My friend's daughter, a pediatrician, herself is very cautious about giving out parenting advice. Her children have mostly been raised by their grandmother because she and her husband are both doctors in their early careers.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
The best parenting advice comes from the parents who own the child, as no other 'expert' knows the child's mannerisms better than those who live with the child every day.
I like to read parenting books, magazines, stuff on-line, and asking friends and family for every kind of advice under the sun, but when it comes down to it, I take what I've learned from my team of experts and apply it in bits and pieces to my own child...then go from there.
You need to know what works best for your family.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Some of his advice is timeless, and some is outdated. They have updated versions of his original publications which are somewhat useful. As with all advice, you have to weed through it and find what is helpful to you and disregard what you don't agree with.
Ya the person who convinced the ';stupid'; majority that spanking was bad. I don't think that would be considered ';good parenting advice';. Take a look around now for evidence of what I'm talking about.
I think his advice about daily care is pretty good - feeding, toys, sleeping, etc. But as far as discipline and childrearing practices, he's quite a bit out of date.
some good some outdateddermatologist
Compare that with Dr. Sears who garnered most of his knowledge from not only his patients about what worked for them, but also he and his wife raising 8 kids. And he admits that right in the first pages of his books!
In general, pediatricians are not qualified to give parenting advice. They are medical doctors trained in injury and disease. They don't even have much knowledge about nutrition, yet they dispense it like they actually know something. My friend's daughter, a pediatrician, herself is very cautious about giving out parenting advice. Her children have mostly been raised by their grandmother because she and her husband are both doctors in their early careers.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
The best parenting advice comes from the parents who own the child, as no other 'expert' knows the child's mannerisms better than those who live with the child every day.
I like to read parenting books, magazines, stuff on-line, and asking friends and family for every kind of advice under the sun, but when it comes down to it, I take what I've learned from my team of experts and apply it in bits and pieces to my own child...then go from there.
You need to know what works best for your family.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Some of his advice is timeless, and some is outdated. They have updated versions of his original publications which are somewhat useful. As with all advice, you have to weed through it and find what is helpful to you and disregard what you don't agree with.
Ya the person who convinced the ';stupid'; majority that spanking was bad. I don't think that would be considered ';good parenting advice';. Take a look around now for evidence of what I'm talking about.
I think his advice about daily care is pretty good - feeding, toys, sleeping, etc. But as far as discipline and childrearing practices, he's quite a bit out of date.
some good some outdated
Parenting questions please help?
I am having a hard time with my children. Mainly the 2 oldest who are 4 and 2. They don't listen and I need some ideas to get them to be good. If I spank them for being bad, its abuse. If I yell at them to keep them safe, its verbal abuse. If I let them do what ever they wanted, its neglect. I am in a bind. I have tried talking, and putting them in corners. I have also taken away tv time and the eldest tv. Any ideas?Parenting questions please help?
Children need structured time. Play time with them, dining time and instruction on how to act at table and then there's rest time with possibly a story. Maintain the schedule and only reward good behavior with hugs and kisses. Children get overtired then act out so naps are a must. Hope that helps.Parenting questions please help?
Spanking and yelling are not necessarily ';abuse';.
We don't spank for discipline in our family, but I know families who give their girls a little swat on the behind if they're being naughty. Notice, ';swat';. It's not hurting them until they're black and blue (that IS abuse). It's giving them a little ';ouch'; on their posterior.
Yelling at your kids is not always verbal abuse, either. If you swear at them and belittle them and call them names, then yes, it is abuse.
You need to calm down yourself first of all. What gets you the most aggravated about their behavior? Do you need to separate the 4 year old and the 2 year old if they get into mischief together? That's what I do when my two children misbehave together. One goes upstairs and the other stays downstairs.
You need to pick your battles. Otherwise, they're going to tune you out, if you yell at them for every little thing.
Have a three strikes and you're out plan.
Try time-outs. Find a quiet corner somewhere and put a chair there, or use a ';naughty step';. Somewhere where the children can go, when they have misbehaved.
Maybe you can have a family meeting and together write down good behaviors and bad behaviors and consequences for bad behaviors.
Also, remind them of safety issues, so you don't have to yell at them to remind them. Remember, sometimes if you yell, they will tune you out.
And I definitely agree with Stevie N regarding structured time.
Time outs work well with my 3 and 4 year old. They have to sit in time out for 1 minute for each year of their age. If they get up take them and sit them back down. Keep doing this until they stay there. Eventually, they will give up and stay in time out if you are consistent. Use a timer so they will know that they can get up when it goes off. With the 4 year old you could also try taking a favorite toy or video game. Let her know that she will not get it back until she listens to you and does as she is told. Always make sure you tell them what they are doing wrong. Discuss other options with them that they could have done that would be better.
Being a parent comes with Authority. you must discipline .who's in charge. kids need rules to follow. try a chart with prizes. don't give them anything let them earn rewards. get down to their level look them in their eyes tell them what they are doing wrong.don't yell at them. I don't recommend you spank them. time-out works. taking their favorite things away. It work for me. my son is 8 now I can give him a look and he knows what it mean. Patience, It will happen.
they always listen, so try talking less. say the things that are most important and really start listening to them. use the word NO less often and tuck your anger away cuz it doesn't benefit anyone in the family. turn the TV off and go outside more often.
Check out the Priceless Parenting online class - it provides wonderful ideas for setting firm yet loving limits with children without spanking or yelling.
Spanking isn't abuse and neither is yelling.
As long as you aren't hitting and making bruises its fine, and yelling all the time is too much.
put them in the corner and then put a gate up so they cant get out. or lock them in their room. you could give them no food until they say sorry
Children need structured time. Play time with them, dining time and instruction on how to act at table and then there's rest time with possibly a story. Maintain the schedule and only reward good behavior with hugs and kisses. Children get overtired then act out so naps are a must. Hope that helps.Parenting questions please help?
Spanking and yelling are not necessarily ';abuse';.
We don't spank for discipline in our family, but I know families who give their girls a little swat on the behind if they're being naughty. Notice, ';swat';. It's not hurting them until they're black and blue (that IS abuse). It's giving them a little ';ouch'; on their posterior.
Yelling at your kids is not always verbal abuse, either. If you swear at them and belittle them and call them names, then yes, it is abuse.
You need to calm down yourself first of all. What gets you the most aggravated about their behavior? Do you need to separate the 4 year old and the 2 year old if they get into mischief together? That's what I do when my two children misbehave together. One goes upstairs and the other stays downstairs.
You need to pick your battles. Otherwise, they're going to tune you out, if you yell at them for every little thing.
Have a three strikes and you're out plan.
Try time-outs. Find a quiet corner somewhere and put a chair there, or use a ';naughty step';. Somewhere where the children can go, when they have misbehaved.
Maybe you can have a family meeting and together write down good behaviors and bad behaviors and consequences for bad behaviors.
Also, remind them of safety issues, so you don't have to yell at them to remind them. Remember, sometimes if you yell, they will tune you out.
And I definitely agree with Stevie N regarding structured time.
Time outs work well with my 3 and 4 year old. They have to sit in time out for 1 minute for each year of their age. If they get up take them and sit them back down. Keep doing this until they stay there. Eventually, they will give up and stay in time out if you are consistent. Use a timer so they will know that they can get up when it goes off. With the 4 year old you could also try taking a favorite toy or video game. Let her know that she will not get it back until she listens to you and does as she is told. Always make sure you tell them what they are doing wrong. Discuss other options with them that they could have done that would be better.
Being a parent comes with Authority. you must discipline .who's in charge. kids need rules to follow. try a chart with prizes. don't give them anything let them earn rewards. get down to their level look them in their eyes tell them what they are doing wrong.don't yell at them. I don't recommend you spank them. time-out works. taking their favorite things away. It work for me. my son is 8 now I can give him a look and he knows what it mean. Patience, It will happen.
they always listen, so try talking less. say the things that are most important and really start listening to them. use the word NO less often and tuck your anger away cuz it doesn't benefit anyone in the family. turn the TV off and go outside more often.
Check out the Priceless Parenting online class - it provides wonderful ideas for setting firm yet loving limits with children without spanking or yelling.
Spanking isn't abuse and neither is yelling.
As long as you aren't hitting and making bruises its fine, and yelling all the time is too much.
put them in the corner and then put a gate up so they cant get out. or lock them in their room. you could give them no food until they say sorry
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