You've got to follow through on what you said. Even if it is old and possibly not worth much to whoever he got it from, he still got it by engaging in the behavior you're trying to stop. If you let him keep it, you're sending the message that you're not very serious about stopping this behavior.
He's becoming a skilled manipulator! He may get away with it with his peers, but don't let him pull it on you, too. Taking the tackle box may be a bit heartbreaking, because it does represent an activity you like to do together. But in the long run, you're not doing him any favors if you let him get away with it.Parenting question, should I let him keep it?
How is making him send it back a bad message? Are you sure he's not stealing? Sounds to me like he may be. Do something about it now. At the very least his a manipulative kid. I'm wouldn't let him hang out with mine.
Your son is into sophisticated manipulation. I had a lot of trouble with my son who drove me to the brink of a nervous breakdown.
If I tell you that whatever ';things'; he brings home is, in a way, stealing, you must believe it. My advice to you is to be firm and have him return the items people have given him. This is stealing because he is getting objects through manipulation and deception. Please - if you don't do another thing, make him take these things back. It is not okay for him to keep items he lied to obtain.
I think that you should make him give it back to whomever he took it from. He should also have to write a letter of apology and give it to them when he returns it. keep doing this every time he comes home with something new. I hate to say it but he is very smart, to be able to con people out of their things.
He needs to be made to return all these items.
I'd take it away, follow up with what you said, otherwise he'll never take you seriously.
Also, I'd talk to a school counselor or someone about his behavior with ';acquiring'; things to make sure there are no other issues.
he should give it back and you need to teach that kid morals.
You should also ask the question as to how he is successfully getting children to give up their prized possessions. Most children aren't that generous but if they are scared they are more likely to give something. Is he genuinely being given them or is he bullying or steeling. Difficult to admit your child may be doing these things but needs asking!
He absolutely should not keep it. He can't go through life manipulating people into giving him things or bullying them.
He is 11 years old and way too old for this behavior.
Why do I get the feeling this is a joke? Don't you know better than to let him keep the stuff he manipulates other people into giving him? Come on! Make HIM be the one who has to give back the tackle box and tell them that he lied to get it.
are you kiddong me. Does it not embarrass you that your child is begging for things? You should never have let it begin. Make him gather EVERYTHING and give it back
You need to put a stop to this now. Go with him to these peoples homes and make him give the stuff back and apologize. He will not learn that you have to work for things if he expects everone to just give him what he wants.
wow, your son is a very young hustler. Make him give it back. If you want another tackle box, you two should go out and buy one. he needs a good *** beating and you need to explain to him that you work for what you want. If he does not learn this now, he will have trouble in a couple of years. He may even start stealing.STOP HIM NOW while he's a little young.
Parents are a child's first and most important teachers and look at what you've taught your son! What happened to this kid's parents teaching him MORALS? What happened to his parents teaching him the VALUE of EARNING things? YOU have taught your son to be this way, The first time he did this you should have MADE him return what he received. Instead you have allowed him to become a MOOCH. As his peers get older and start using common sense they are going to distance themselves from him and not want to have anything to do with him because he is a mooch and he will have YOU to thank.
the kid needs to know that you mean what you say. if you let him get away with it this time..... the next time that you say you are going to do something he might think that you are just all talk for not staying with your original plan. you need to stay consistant with kids. and what he is doing is wrong, it is just like stealing. teach him to be kind to others and to value other's property.
The best thing would be to return it to the rightful owner. In any event, you MUST be true to your word. It's too important that he form good values, respect for other people's property as well as other people themselves. AND, respect for himself. Maybe give him chores to do that you can reward him with the things he wants/needs. That's what allowance is about. Under no circumstances do you want to teach him to be a beggar.
You need to hurry up and put a stop to this. I see to many cases in court about children like yours. I am a lawyer and I have to defend for people and their children many of times. If you don't put your foot down and stop this you will be the one to have to pay for the consequences not him. If your child continue on doing this by the age of 18 he is going to have a criminal record. If he continue it is going to lead into something far more than that breaking and entering, Laurence and stolen property. If I was you I will send him to a juvenile delinquent center for at least three days and send him to some counseling to get talked to. And maybe you may need some to because the are going to look at you silly for allowing that child to do that and you are not saying a word.
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