Parenting and toddler's self esteem question?

I have an almost three year old who's a typical toddler. He has a trouble listening to his mom and dad. We are trying to fix this problem.


Is it wrong for his dad to say to him ';You have a listeing problem';, ';What's your problem';?


Will this hurt his self esteem?Parenting and toddler's self esteem question?
i dont know that it will hurt his self esteem, it will probably hurt his feelings a bit.... with my daughter (she's 2 1/2) if i tell her to do something and she doesnt or she ignores me... i just ask ';what did i tell you to do?'; until she tells me exactly what i told her to do... then she does it.





i think once they vocalize what is expected of them, they know they can no longer ignore you or pretend as if they didnt hear you... now they HAVE to listenParenting and toddler's self esteem question?
A child of almost 3 needs simple but direct statements. He certainly would NOT understand ';What's your problem?'; or ';You have a listening problem?'; Are you kidding me? Of course he's not going to understand those statements.





Be direct and to the point AND be patient, ';Sam, pick up your toys now';, ';Sam, it's time for your nap';.





Children his age may not understand more than a 2 step direction so don't say, ';Sam, it's time for you to clean up your toys, find your blanket and put away your puzzle.';





I totally agree with Hazelandgreg regarding the respect aspect. You should definitely say ';please'; to your son to ask him to do something and then say '; thank you'; to him after he's completed the task.
Yes it will hurt his self esteem.





When a toddler is behaving badly, you need to encourage the good behaviour and ignore the bad, unless it is harmful to his or herself or others.





I am not surprised he has trouble listening if you talk to him like that; I wouldn't listen to it either.





I agree with the first answer; be precise. ';Pick up your toys, please.'; Talk to him with respect.
It isn't the end of the world, but a much better approach would be to tell him that he needs to listen and take corrective action (whatever your philosophy on that might be) if he fails to listen. Telling a 3 year old he has a listening problem isn't going to cause him to try to be a better person.
yes diffidently yes ..


Barnes n nobles have great books on parenting and child /infant self esteem..


id think it great to start reading as there toddlers so u wont put them in another direction.. i wish i had read those books when my kids where younger but even now at 8 yrs they help tremendously
it will probably not TRAUMATIZE him but it might hurt his feelings a little. you could try to set a good example and have him be the ';daddy'; in a game and you listen to him (reasonably). just a thought
could say that he doesn't listen but not that he has a problem, cos your saying theirs something wrong with him. it will hurt his self esteem